i love standing out💖

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• 87Six@lemmy.zip ⁨7⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  “It’s violet isn’t it?”

  “Yup, of course”

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• Sidyctism2@discuss.tchncs.de ⁨11⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  No wonder the korean dads cant control themselves

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• zxqwas@lemmy.world ⁨13⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  In what way do you consider yourself shy?

  On a related note last summer I saw a girl walking out from the bar in one of those inflateable dinosaur costumes. That was the most standing out I’ve seen.

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  • did_you_find_violets@lemmy.world ⁨13⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    in no way, it’s just how this meme format goes😩

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• Dookieman12@piefed.social ⁨6⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  I don’t get it. We can all agree that fuccbois and PUAs are gross, but we’re all celebrating this person’s recent posts?

  If this were a white guy bragging about how easy it is to bang Korean MILFs, y’all would not be in here with the same type of comments.

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  • CultLeader4Hire@lemmy.world ⁨4⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    But you can’t actually reverse roles as a direct 1:1 because women’s sexuality, bodily autonomy, authority aren’t treated equal to men’s. It’s inherently different because there isn’t actually a direct inverse. I do think a post similar to this about a cute femboy wearing something similar in a similar situation would be upvoting and commenting.

    Your comment just reads like “you can be a man or be political” and think people only like this because it’s “political” aka woke but there shouldn’t be woke about a woman being sexually liberated, practicing choice and autonomy or refusing to conform, she has every right and I support that.

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    • okwhateverdude@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨hour⁩ ago

      Bro, she ain’t gonna fuck you

      ^/s^

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  • chuckleslord@lemmy.world ⁨5⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    The difference is power structures and cultural incentives. Fuckboys tend to not react pleasantly to being turned down. I get more “himbo” (keeping the male parallel theme going) vibes from Violet. She’s down to clown, isn’t afraid to let that be known, but nothing screams that anything nonconsensual is happening here.

    People fuck, who cares? She doesn’t appear to be hurting anyone. Her posts are funny, it doesn’t need to be deep.

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  • petrol_sniff_king@lemmy.blahaj.zone ⁨4⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    I can smell jealousy from a mile away, man. If you want to wear a skimpy outfit, by all means.

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  • OldChicoAle@lemmy.world ⁨6⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    Violet is super annoying but I guess guys like a thirsty, horny Lemmy user? For all we know, it’s a guy.

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    • yakko@feddit.uk ⁨3⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      Still more fun than a scold, no?

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  • SaltyIceteaMaker@lemmy.ml ⁨5⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    so like, it didnt even cross my mind that this fit was to get some dick, but rather about being different even though one is shy

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  • daellat@lemmy.world ⁨6⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    What’s a PUA?

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    • boonhet@sopuli.xyz ⁨4⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      Pick-up artist

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• Monument@piefed.world ⁨11⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  I sort of do this to my wife. She’s unbearably hot. Also sort of hates strangers.

  I’m kind of the attention seeker, but she will dress up for me sometimes. Last year we went to a Halloween party where she wore a black skin-tight snakeskin patterned catsuit.

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  • CapuccinoCoretto@lemmy.world ⁨6⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    This story is worthless without pics of your wife.

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    • Monument@piefed.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨hour⁩ ago

      Alas, like a dragon, there are some elements of my (and others) privacy that I hoard.

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    • OldChicoAle@lemmy.world ⁨6⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      I mean if we’re asking, I’ll take one of Mr Husband. He sounds hot.

      /j

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  • toomanypancakes@crazypeople.online ⁨9⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    If we ever get the neon soaked cyberpunk future I deserve I’m buying several of these, damn

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    • Monument@piefed.world ⁨8⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      You absolutely should.

      But as a word of advice: take really, really good measurements multiple times at different times of the day and rely on the largest measurement collected for a given area. Also, only buy one the first time you purchase.

      (The latter thing didn’t bite us, but could have. The elbows, of all places, are a touch too small and after about an hour start to become uncomfortable.)

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• SharkWeek@lemmy.blahaj.zone ⁨3⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  lol, in an outfit like that none of the guys you meet are going to last a worthwhile about of time

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• Kolanaki@pawb.social ⁨6⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  I bet I’d still stand out wearing the exact same thing in San Fransisco, CA.

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  • chuckleslord@lemmy.world ⁨5⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    Interesting city choice. It, uh, might be noticed but I don’t think “stand out” is the right vibe.

    New York, Chicago, Minneapolis, LA? Definitely. San Francisco? Soft maybe

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    • Kolanaki@pawb.social ⁨5⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      I’m a 6’6’’ dude who looks like a metalhead. I could probably stand out on Castro street.

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• Dookieman12@piefed.social ⁨7⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  Makes sense. Pretending to be something you’re not is helpful when seeking an asymmetrical relationship with an unbalanced power dynamic in your favor.

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• Ekybio@lemmy.world ⁨14⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  Is it really conformist monochrome? Never been there, but I can hardly resist asking you for sharing a story.

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  • did_you_find_violets@lemmy.world ⁨14⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    Yeah, if you look up Seoul walking tour videos on YouTube, you’ll see for yourself: Koreans are obsessed with black, white, and gray.

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    • SharkWeek@lemmy.blahaj.zone ⁨4⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      Meanwhile in any other Asian country …

      Image

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  • TheOakTree@lemmy.zip ⁨4⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    I’ve been there multiple times and can confirm. Among the younger population it’s like 90% black and white clothing. That number goes down as you look at older groups. However, almost all of the cars are also black or white.

    I stuck out like a sore thumb wearing pink, orange, green, etc. Last time I went, I was in Seoul for a whole week. I saw one young person wearing pink, and maybe 10 young people wearing colorful outfits.

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• FishFace@piefed.social ⁨13⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  You’re desperate for attention. Doesn’t mean you actually want to talk to any of the people who take the bait.

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  • Monument@piefed.world ⁨11⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    At peril of stating the obvious:
    You did. You commented.

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    • okwhateverdude@lemmy.world ⁨10⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      I interpreted this as not really a condemnation, but explanation. As in, a person dresses this way because they want to be looked at, but it isn’t an invitation to interact, but explained in second person.

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  • dreamkeeper@literature.cafe ⁨8⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    Or maybe she just likes looking good? I’m shy and I like to dress up because it makes me feel more confident about myself.

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    • FishFace@piefed.social ⁨7⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      Well two small things: first, there’s a lot of ways to look good, and I don’t buy “just likes looking good, doesn’t want attention” when there are ways to look good without drawing attention. There must be a reason to override that desire not to attract attention.

      Second… I mean, it’s violets, we don’t really need to speculate!

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  • Dookieman12@piefed.social ⁨7⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    The people hated him because he showed them the truth.

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