am i the only one who had pretty good parents?
Yeah they’re not perfect but like the biggest mistake they made was not getting me diagnosed for autism as a kid, and that’s not really something i blame them for since it’s really a societal problem and you can’t feasibly handle something you’ve heard about in passing twice in your entire life…
Like it’s not rocket science, treat your kids like actual human beings and you’re a good way toward being a good parent.
PeleSpirit@lemmy.world 11 months ago
I think about this a lot actually. That whole new kind of fucked up shows us that our parents had good intentions, they thought they were doing better.
alvvayson@lemmy.world 11 months ago
I, too, thought a lot about this.
Having kids now and reflecting on my childhood, it’s extremely obvious that my parents truly had the best intentions and tried their best.
But they, too, are fallible and made mistakes.
Some of those mistakes were due to a lack of knowledge or bad advice they received. I think that nowadays, thanks to the internet, it’s quite feasible to get much better advice. On the other hand, there is also a lot of disinformation.
I am optimistic that each generation will get better, because knowledge tends to accumulate and humanity tends to improve over time.
But perfection is still far away in a distant future.
PeleSpirit@lemmy.world 11 months ago
I thought this too but then it didn’t in a lot of ways and did in some. If we do our best and try to spread that to our kids and our circles, that’s the only way. I never in a million years thought we would go so far backwards on so many issues like civil rights, abortion and worker’s rights. I know it would be a roller coaster but I didn’t think the dips would be that far down.
YellowBendyBoy@lemmy.world 11 months ago
I’m convinced that the intentions you have don’t mater that much. It’s how well you’ve managed to solve your own problems that determines how fucked up your kid is going to be.
ininewcrow@lemmy.ca 11 months ago
It doesn’t make sense when you’re young … but the older you get, the more you realize that everyone is just making shit up as they go along.
It’s made me realize after a long life that my parents were no smarter (or no dumber) than me.
It’s just that as children, we look up to our parents and think that they should be smarter than everyone else but in reality, they never were. It doesn’t mean that they were dumb either … it’s just that people are people, including your parents.
Shardikprime@lemmy.world 11 months ago
If people remembered their parents are people too, lots of shit would make sense pretty fast to everyone in the world
Katzastrophe@feddit.de 11 months ago
Absolutely, my mother thought she was doing great by parenting me to live the childhood she never could, problem was, I was my own person, and absolutely not interested in experiencing all the things she never could.
My dad on the other hand treated me akin to a roommate (his words), which is not ideal for a teenager trying to learn basic life skills.
PeleSpirit@lemmy.world 11 months ago
I don’t have kids but a lot of my friends do, I have hope for that generation of kids.
iheartneopets@lemm.ee 11 months ago
I wish I could adopt the mindset of the having good intentions and whatnot, but sometimes parents really shouldn’t have been parents and are just truly shitty people.
PeleSpirit@lemmy.world 11 months ago
I didn’t mean to discount that experience. My parents were shitty sometimes but they really did love us, I know that’s not always the case.
altima_neo@lemmy.zip 11 months ago
To me it seems late 90s/early 2000s parents went overboard with helicopter parenting and ignored kids online presence due to their lack of understanding of the Internet.
Then late 00s 10s parents doubled down on Internet and tech ignorance.