I am a very progressive parent. I was harassed by my parents for spending too much time on the computer and I make 6 figures working in tech now and spend 8 hours a day minimum on the computer. When I say I’m progressive I’m not exaggerating. Robotics are the future of humanity. Understanding tech is the future 6 figure job my kid will have. First and foremost I pay for YT premium to avoid the constant barrage of unreviewed ads. Secondly I take a night every week to go through her watch history and remove some videos that are questionable for the algorithm. I also block channels in the suggested area and block watched makers if they are slop or … bad…
I also tell her she is allowed to watch shorts but ONLY if she is able to watch longer form content above all. I do not believe in tik tok and that started way before trumps cronies owned it. I believe tik tok type consumption is one of those things that will come in a fad and ease out of fad.
I also watch sometimes with her to identify Ai slop and I show her videos if I ever fall for Ai. I got really excited about a fox video the other day that turned out to be ai and I showed her and she recognized the Ai tells before I did.
This allows a kid to explore technology without pressure or fear but avoids the Ai stuff. I also have her lookup facts if I know them to be wrong. We watch a lot of dar man because its child friendly but boy fact checking those videos are a riot.
She is very smart so I rarely have to do anything now but she started yt back when those creepy vilent Elsa videos were popular. So I have been using this method for 6 years. She is a tech wiz, she is smart, made high honor roll, her focus is still intact and she does well at school.
This was also important to me. I also noticed some channels which were satire of middle schoolers would influence her behavior, so we talk about it. Then if the behavior continues ues I block the channel. Later she can watch again if she feels she is strong minded enough. Some weird pov YouTube rs were cut off for a year but have been allowed back as she is not pliable in those ways anymore.
Anyways thats the most serious and in depth answer. I hate to pay for YouTube but its the best way to keep her on a single platform with the most visibility and I can adjust the algorithm through her history
protist@mander.xyz 18 hours ago
My son is still young, almost 8, so I’m speaking for near that age level. He doesn’t get unrestricted access to YouTube. If he’s watching YouTube, it’s with one of us present and helping him navigate it. He always wants to watch the video that’s the lowest quality shit just based on the thumbnail, because they have thumbnails that stick out. I’ve taught him about “low quality” content and we’ve watched a couple so he could understand what I meant. Now when he wants to watch something I say “no, that’s going to be low quality,” he seems to understand and we move on to find something else.
Eventually, I’m going to let him navigate YouTube alone sometimes, and then go back and look at his watch history to see how things are going. He doesn’t know watch history is a thing, not will I ever tell him. If things go off the rails, we will guide them back to the rails slowly and nonjudgmentally
That said, we were at a restaurant the other day and a woman was there with her baby and a friend. She set that infant in a high chair with AI slop on her phone right in its face. The kid definitely didn’t disturb her conversation with her friend, because it looked like a zombie. Godspeed, child
stoy@lemmy.zip 18 hours ago
Remember that watch history has the largest impact on what recommended videos will appear in his feed.
Curating the watch history is insanely effective, I have done it for a decade and it has helped me keep my feed 92% politics free, and 98% toxic masculinity free, I never knew about Tate until I started seeing reddit posts about what a terrible person he is.
I would actually show him this when he is old enough.
My strategy about this was to remove any content I don’t specifically want recommendations from, but has shifted to a more permissive stance where I will focus on removing videos that specifically harms my recommendations.
protist@mander.xyz 18 hours ago
Definitely the case! I’m not always on top of this myself, but I do go in and remove anything that may poison my recommendations. At this point, I just get plants, history, and a splash of comedy. Thank you for bringing this to the fore!
sefra1@lemmy.zip 15 hours ago
There’s an add-on by the same guy who makes sponsorbock that replaces thumbnails (and video tittles) for more more accurate ones, maybe you want to try that.
(Disclaimer: The add-on itself is free software (as in freedom) but the developer added the restriction that after one hour trial you can either pay or wait 24h and then you can use it without restriction. It’s an interesting model.)
mustlane@lemmy.zip 11 hours ago
Just use DeArrow. Free add-on for browsers that replaces thumbnails and titles with the user-defined ones. Every user can create their own and share it with others.
Rhaedas@fedia.io 18 hours ago
This is good parenting. You can't always be there to guide them or restrict them, nor should you want to be. You instead help them understand how to navigate the world themselves smartly. This is true for anything, not just what they see on the internet.
Lost_My_Mind@lemmy.world 17 hours ago
Found the part most parents struggle with!
jenesaisquoi@feddit.org 14 hours ago
This should be illegal, because it is harming the child. It should be viewed the same as giving it alcohol to keep it quiet.
Ach@lemmy.world 13 hours ago
I’m going for the hail mary pass and taking the stance that we need to send our youth back down into the mines.
Nurse_Robot@lemmy.world 18 hours ago
Damn good answer. Proud of you
Meron35@lemmy.world 16 hours ago
Look into DeArrow (by same creators of SponsorBlock), which offers crowdsourced “de-clickbaited” video titles and thumbnails.
copygirl@lemmy.blahaj.zone 14 hours ago
While it’s nice to just avoid the clickbait while enjoying potentially genuinely good videos, I ended up uninstalling the extension. I want to explicitly avoid clickbait, and focus on encouraging and supporting creators that don’t use it. Also, if I end up unknowingly interacting with too many clickbait-y videos, I worry the algorithm will push me more of that.
fizzle@quokk.au 17 hours ago
I’m yet to encounter this really, my kids (twins) are only 2. However, this is the answer as I understand it - limit access in terms of time and content, and relax those limitations as appropriate.
That said, I’m going to struggle. Everyone needs to find the right balance for their own home, but I suspect I will lean more towards allowing less access to more curated content than most parents. I just can’t abide the kind of brain rotting content that’s available. I can’t stand advertising of any kind. I know this will make me unpopular - or less “cool” than other parents, but I’m hoping that I can make up for it in other ways.
protist@mander.xyz 17 hours ago
PBS Kids is a great option for littles! Free, no commercials, and supportive of social/emotional development (Reminder to set up a monthly donation to your local PBS station!). With the PBS Kids app, we’d often download a few episodes of something like Daniel Tiger or Wild Kratts for road trips
We rarely watch YouTube together, most of the time he’s watching a series of some kind through Netflix or Paramount. Trollhunters, Gravity Falls, Henry Danger, stuff like that. His only exposure to commercials is during football games, whereas I can still sing over 100 jingles from my childhood
gedaliyah@lemmy.world 17 hours ago
Unpopular opinion: I have a second phone logged into my kid’s YT account. I train the algorithm while he’s sleeping.
It takes a significant time, and YouTube doesn’t have good options for blocking content, but it helps keep out the worst of the brainrot.
birdwing@lemmy.blahaj.zone 13 hours ago
I’m not sure whether to be scared or impressed by that. Both, I guess.
Lost_My_Mind@lemmy.world 17 hours ago
So, basically a future “people of walmart” 20 years before it happens. So like an orgin story for idiocy.