As a former raging alcoholic, this is a legitimate concern I have.
Anon gets a call from his past
Submitted 16 hours ago by Early_To_Risa@sh.itjust.works to greentext@sh.itjust.works
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Delphia@lemmy.world 9 hours ago
theangryseal@lemmy.world 6 hours ago
Oh boy oh boy. Story time.
So around 2015 I got a call at work from an ex-girlfriend. I was 100% certain that the first time I had had sex with her had occurred in 2008.
She informed me that it was actually in 2007 when we got drunk and ended up crashing at a friends place.
The whole point of her call was to tell me that she had a daughter, and that daughter was mine. I watched that baby for her when she was about 6 months old. It never even crossed my mind.
She had me totally convinced. I called my old friend who informed me that we did in fact have sex night and that he heard us and was annoyed by it. The timing was perfect. Uh oh.
Anyway, I always liked her. I didn’t think I had any reason to distrust her. So, like the fool I am, I just went with it.
She said that she didn’t tell me because of my heavy drinking, drug use, and promiscuity. She didn’t think I was cut out to be a dad, but then she seen through social media how good I was with my kids and decided she was wrong, all these years later. Things started seeming off pretty quick. She told me that a friend of hers passed away in a car accident, and she always told the daughter that he was her father.
Deeper than that, though, she told his family he was the father.
She told me that the little girl was that family’s link to him and that she didn’t want to break their heart. But she wanted to know, and she wanted me to have a relationship with my daughter. I thought it was fucked up that she had done that, but I certainly didn’t want to crush some mother’s heart who lost her young son in an accident and miraculously found that he had left a child for her to love.
She said that I could come around and that we would let the kid know when she was older.
We first agreed to meet at a park, I went and sat there for two hours and she never showed up. Then she apologized and said something came up, she wanted to meet at the petting zoo that was in town. I went to the petting zoo, sat there for a while, and she never showed up. She told me that she would be in touch with me, that she was sorry things kept coming up.
At that point, I had still refused to get a cell phone because I am so antisocial. I didn’t want to have to talk to people or answer people when I was outside of my home or my job. I didn’t get a cell phone until 2019, I always used an iPod touch with a VOIP app. So whenever I was left hanging, I just had to wait.
I ended up talking with the kid on the phone a few times, she was a very sweet kid, but very trouble. That trouble I knew, had to come from somewhere.
The last time we scheduled to meet, I got a call the day before. It was her sister.
“angryseal, I have always liked you. When I found out my sister was talking to you again, I couldn’t just sit by and let you get scammed. You are not the first long lost father, you’re probably about the 5th. To give you a clue how awful my sister is, she met a lonely older man who has spent his entire life taking care of his sick mother. He never had time to date, and after his mom passed he went out and had the misfortune of meeting my sister. She was at his house one night and noticed a bank statement with a large number. She hatched a plan and called him up a few weeks later. She told him she had cancer at that she couldn’t afford the surgery and was going to die if she didn’t get it. It was early enough that all she needed was a surgery, and that surgery was 40k. This man gave her 40,000 dollars, she called him one more time to say the surgery was successful and then she ghosted him. She blew all of that money vacationing with another man in Florida. They probably spent half of it on cocaine. You tell my sister that you want a DNA test and you will never hear from her again.”
What!? Ok.
So the next time we spoke, I told her that it wasn’t anything personal, I just didn’t want heartbreak on down the line and I told her I’d like to get a DNA test. “How dare you? What, you don’t trust me? I have never been anything but good to you! You know what?! I’ve done just fine raising her without you up to now and I’ll keep doing fine, you asshole!”
I have never heard from her again.
I still think about that pretty often haha. What a world we live in.
lka1988@sh.itjust.works 6 hours ago
I feel terrible for the kid, she never asked for her mom to be a piece of shit.
arin@lemmy.world 8 hours ago
Don’t worry p soft when drunk
pineapplelover@lemm.ee 4 hours ago
Fake
Gay? Maybe
lessthanluigi@lemmy.sdf.org 3 hours ago
Nah, just say it’s straight. Let the Heteros have this one.
Def fake tho
Gullible@sh.itjust.works 15 hours ago
Weird way to tell someone you roofied them.
fox2263@lemmy.world 13 hours ago
Maybe got drunk and forgot. Imagine not being a virgin but believing you are
Wildfire0Straggler3@lemm.ee 12 hours ago
Virgin Mary
somethingsnappy@lemmy.world 11 hours ago
Virgin Gary.
fox2263@lemmy.world 10 hours ago
👀
Dogiedog64@lemmy.world 15 hours ago
Fake - anon fucks a woman and gets her pregnant Gay - it’s 4chan
terraborra@lemmy.nz 15 hours ago
Even faker - anon claims to have spoken to a women
Dogiedog64@lemmy.world 15 hours ago
SMH everyone knows women aren’t real. Anyone who claims to be one is just a federal agent in disguise.
zaphod@sopuli.xyz 11 hours ago
Even more faker - anon claims women exist.
Flax_vert@feddit.uk 14 hours ago
Gay- anon is a woman
S_H_K@lemmy.dbzer0.com 14 hours ago
She dildoed his cum sock or fucking what? How the heck did that happen?
sit@lemmy.dbzer0.com 13 hours ago
When its gatcha, Iiiiiiiiiiits gatcha.
ryedaft@sh.itjust.works 14 hours ago
Identical twin brother
j4k3@lemmy.world 12 hours ago
Can you remember all? I remember the place and circumstance for all 6 of mine, at least the first time. That is one of the few memories I can enter at will and know quite a bit about myself and the surroundings like I am there.
funkless_eck@sh.itjust.works 8 hours ago
My first, yes; a few amazing or terrible partners, yes, but I was a slutty bisexual guy in a big city who toured music and comedy internationally for over a decade, who was also depressive and self destructive: so, all — no.
doubledoubt@lemmynsfw.com 10 hours ago
A few are crystal clear, the first time with someone special
Most are just a blur, I’ve run into people who insist we did it, and I believe them, but I don’t remember.
shalafi@lemmy.world 10 hours ago
I can’t remember every woman, let alone ever circumstance. After 30 it all becomes a blur. I can account, shit, never mind. Was going to say for the last 6 years, but I’d have to think on it.
wesker@lemmy.sdf.org 15 hours ago
Anon is victim of immaculate deception
echodot@feddit.uk 12 hours ago
Yeah I think there’s a book about this. Unfortunately it has a rather toxic fan base. That’s YA stuff for you.
Manticore@lemmy.nz 6 hours ago
Tbh I’d be concerned if he was raped while drunk or unconscious. It is, unfortunately, not so rare. If so, then as far as she’s concerned that’s ‘sex together’. A lot of women perpetrators do no consider themselves rapists because it’s’non-violent’ or they believe theyre doing the man a favour.
xor@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 hours ago
i personally know two men who were raped this way. One was into the girl and okay with it (they had been messing around before he passed out too)… the other was not and was traumatized by it.
if i know a couple myself, im betting it’s a lot more common than people think.
and there’s a notion that an erection = consent, when it absolutely doesn’t.
if it wasn’t for the much more common violent rape and/or murder that men did to women, this would be addressed a lot more.
sexual dimorphism is weird… especially when litigating. like, pregnancy is one reason raping a woman is “worse” (sorry, i just mean quantitatively… not emotionally)… and a man’s general physical size and strength advantage… risk and fear of harm….
so you can’t really sentence a woman the same as a man in this case and be fair… or maybe it should be exactly equal? i couldn’t say so simply….
this post kinda feels like incel/“men’s rights” bait.
what sucks about them is they take a few good points, mixed with delusions, to crazy conclusions and ruin any chance of reasonable discussion about it.
vaultdweller013@sh.itjust.works 1 hour ago
Yeah one of my great uncles had it happen to him when he was backpacking across Europe back in the day. Girl managed to track him down and try to get him to “take responsibility” problem, if you are curious as to the end result the only reason she wasn’t killed and her kid sent back without a mother is because my great grandmother stopped my great grandfather.
Though as I understand it the kid and cunt both ended up dying during death of Francos Spain so I guess the universe has a sense of humor. My great grandfather used some of his connections to keep tabs on her since he didn’t want her being a nuisance.
poloqualle@feddit.org 4 hours ago
Tbh my money is on “anon made shit up”
Fuck_u_spez_@sh.itjust.works 3 hours ago
Probably wasn’t even a girl involved. Fake and gay as usual.
Tattorack@lemmy.world 5 hours ago
This. This fucks over statistics so much.