Gratitude thread!
Iâm grateful for giving myself grace for royally fucking up at work that will cause a headache tomorrow (fuck the shape of 50 cent pieces for jamming the cash machine). Itâs not the end of the world.
Submitted âšâš4â© âšmonthsâ© agoâ© by âšSeagoon_@aussie.zoneâ© to âšmelbourne@aussie.zoneâ©
Gratitude thread!
Iâm grateful for giving myself grace for royally fucking up at work that will cause a headache tomorrow (fuck the shape of 50 cent pieces for jamming the cash machine). Itâs not the end of the world.
Iâm grateful for the roof over my familyâs heads and for generally being a calm person. Elder said the other day that he misses me being around during the day âbecause youâve got this aura of calm around you.â đ„čThis is one of the nicest things heâs ever said to me, to anyone.
Iâm grateful for finding an unused Brother colour laser printer for $100 on Gumtree, and lunch in the sun with a friend at friends of the earth on Smith st.
Woah, that is a very good find indeed.
I am grateful for savlon antisceptic cream.
Over the last few weeks have been so uncoordinated in the gardn, kitchen, moving stuff and sharpening knifes that 100yrs ago would probably need some sort of amputation.
I love savlon so much. I use it to calm my rosacea, I use it on my hands when they are getting a bit worn from house work. On every cut.
Iâm grateful for gyoza!!! And for tram drivers that dgaf if you fare evade for a couple of stops. And for the tax return I did yesterday⊠and this little pack of Victorian grown hojicha that a colleague gave me.
Iâm grateful for being able to catch up with a friend yesterday to celebrate my birthday.
Was nice to get out and be social but it was still deathly cold.
Those orchids are beautiful! Iâm grateful for the abundance of movies, tv and books available so easily without leaving home. Itâs nice to chill out at home on a Sunday afternoon and pick entertainment on a whim.
Since it just happened so is fresh in my memory, I guess Iâm grateful that my building is on fire and the firies cleared it in about 10 minutes. But that feels like cheating, so Iâm grateful for the views up on the rooftop, and having a Barbie and a chat with the old LT up there
I too am grateful for firemen, but perhaps not for the same reasons as you đ
I am grateful for off the rack premade clothes. Sure beats processing hides, spinning wool and making clothes myself.
Iâm grateful to have got some decluttering done and cleared quite a few boxes from storage. I have a hard time parting with stuff for a number of reasons, so this was a big deal for me. Still heaps to go but itâs good progress.
I bought some jonquils yesterday and theyâre like little patches of sunshine throughout the house, brightening my mood. Iâm also grateful for lazy Sundays, crosswords, tea, and blankets.
Grateful that my headache is gone for the moment
For fluffybutt
And for the 4 interviews I have this week. With any luck, on Tuesday Iâll be grateful to have a job
I am definitely getting tired and ready to call it a day. I just thanked someone because I opened the door for them.
Waiter: âEnjoy your meal!â
Me: âYou too!â
Heâs better enjoy your meal
I do this all the time
All lemons I brought gone :)
ErâŠ. Lemon Party!
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I see a lot of partnered people making some big compromises for various reasonsâŠfor the kids, for finances, because they are scared to be âaloneâ.
At this point in my life with control over my own space and what I do, it would really have to take someone extraordinary to feel as though they were adding to my life rather than me making big sacrifices.
And honestly the thought of trying to date in the hope of that elusive someone feels like a very big gamble with poor odds. If you enjoyed dating and meeting new people, the process even though you donât win might be bearable, but I donât really care for it tbh.
If this stage in life is not conducive to a relationship, or is pleasant enough without one, then youâre under no obligation to have one, regardless of the opinions of family and friends. I have a lot of regrets over how little time of my younger life Iâve really lived for me.
Otherwise, I think the important thing is to find someone who wants the same as you, no matter what that is. If youâre a âmeet in the middle,â compromising person then itâs important that the person youâre with also has those qualities, or youâll find youâre always the one having to be flexible, and may end up feeling taken advantage of. If youâre an individualist who wants to have a lot of independence and âroom to moveâ within a relationship, and canât bear the thought of âliving in someone elseâs pocketsâ then itâs vital to live true to that while thatâs how your life is. A couple of friends of mine are very career forward people, spend a lot of time separate from each other due to the demands of their careers, but undeniably love and respect each other and arenât clingy. How do you know how itâs going to be with someone? You donât always, or you think you know people but then they change, or you find out things you didnât know. The arrival of children can complicate things that before seemed much simpler and more straightforward.
I sacrificed a lot for someone who hurt me for over 8 years, in varying ways. I grew up abused and it set me up for abuse later on because I had no idea what was normal. I almost had a kid with the cunt (thank fuck I made my own money and bought a plan b pill).
But I would never let myself do that again. I know so much more now, about people, the world, and right and wrong. I got extremely lucky my one-night-stand turned out to be my person. Weâre better together than we are separately. But if I hadnât of met my current partner, I think Iâd still be single after leaving my ex. Dating seems so dangerous now for vagina-owners (what with the tater-tots and âalphaâ male shite).
Iâd never change myself ever again for another person. Iâd compromise (like quitting smoking), but not on the big things (buying a house, having kids, etc).
what with the tater-tots and âalphaâ male shite)
I donât know, but it scares and confuses me too
The difficulty level of dating increases with the gay overlay as well, but for different reasons.
Love makes you compromise. Love makes you sacrifice. If you have love for one another those things are easier.
A person who loves you would never ask for compromises on important things like belief, children, vocation. etc
Hereâs an example. One person I know has a husband that smokes and has no intention of quitting, and now their children also smoke.
I wouldnât even get into a relationship with a smoker to begin with because for me thatâs a deal breaker. Same with any other substance abuse problem.
100% agree. Life is full of compromise.
@wscholermann @Seagoon_ Fatherhood means - after a while you prefer the crust. All relationships involve some form of compromise. It takes a lifetime to find a good one and maintain it. My marriage and family life is worth it. I see more material on throuples and other arrangements, but that stuff is for my kids gen to work out - looks like a lot more work
Iâm on the other side of the fence.
Heartbreak and wasted time is a small price to pay for finding someone to share your life and love with.
Our society values individualism to such a degree, that the idea of sacrificing something for someone you love seems unfair or that youâre âlosingâ something.
Sounds very transactional. And to me that doesnât sit well.
Admittedly my culture is different, so thatâs probably why I donât mind compromise. Iâm a way, itâs an expected part of life. And so we work with that instead of fighting it.
/mild rant
Mr P has finished remaking his bed out of bits of the broken/destroyed bed plus other timbers, and there was much swearing and insults while trying to get it into the house. Hey, donât get shitty at me, Iâm not the one who constructed a thing too big to fit through the damn door! We ended up putting it through the living room window and it just fit through. He hasnât done too bad a job, but Iâm not praising it on principle because he shouldnât have smashed it up to start with.
bloody hell. Good days work there, considering how hard I went yesterday.
Concrete pile moved, future food garden area cleared to the point where I can take out the last of those bloody stupid brick and concrete dividers, both green bins filled and a spillover barrel. 10K steps well and truly in, so Iâmma gonna eat a giant bag of chips and watch a shitload of WWDITS w00t w00t
Fuck me. I heard evacuation alarms coming that I thought were from the shops so I went out to film the response and then alarms started going off in my building. Fucking RIP the people on the 22nd floor. I got confused going down the fire escape from the 2nd
Anti-gratitude thread.
My headlight died. I just changed the bulb a couple of weeks ago.
The day of darkness begins much earlier than wanted. Power goes out shortly. Boo! Overusing heater in the hope warm will hold for a bit, then decamping for mini golf and boiling a ham hock.
Butt frozen
Sky full of ice crystals - sunset should be fabulous tonight.
I didnât make it to Fairfield, but I did go to Hawthorn and probably spent a bit more than I expected to - picked up frozen tempeh from Grand Laguna because few places have the proper stuff, splurged on some mapo tofu flavour packets (I donât use doubanjiang enough to have it in my fridge), got some tofu to use and some to freeze (I hear it has a good texture when frozen and defrosted), bought a bougie Flinders lime, and⊠most excitingly of allâŠ
âŠdropped $13.50 on a 30-pack of frozen Osaka Ohsho veggie gyoza from Japan. I cooked up 10 just now, but I have leftover oil in the pan and dipping sauce, so the only right thing to do here is make some more. What a travesty đ©
The worst part of a migraine, is when it subsides, youâre in a state of hypervigilance in case it returns.
Bed, cat, iPad games and feeling sorry myself for today I think lol
cold
Google made another one if their little annoying and breaking changes (as they do). Theyâve basically killed maps timelines, at least as they used to be. They tricked me into signing up for it. I know a lot of people donât like timeline, but I really do. Firstly itâs the only tool I have to make sense of some of the moves Iâve made over time and is the only real record I keep of the places I visit, secondly I export the timeline data onto a heatmap that shows me where I still havenât been yet.
They have this âencrypted backupâ thing now, but even submitting a takeout request doesnât give me the actual timeline. And of course this âlocalâ timeline is hidden amongst all the system files I canât even access, and is probably in some proprietary garbage encrypted format.
Iâm guessing they probably did this to comply with some legal requirement, but that doesnât make me feel any better. I just want to generate my place heatmaps FFS. Theyâre still using my timeline history for advertising and âpersonalisationâ, the only thing thatâs changed is instead of it being stored somewhere else I can access conveniently, itâs stored locally but fucking impossible to reach
Whoopsy fingers slipped and I bought some more art, this time two canvas prints of the following:
etsy.com/âŠ/sage-green-bauhaus-exhibition-poster
Iâll calm down after this and stop buying art for a while.
I wish I could sing like La Roux. But I just sound like a hippo in heat when I sing.
Still gonna do it though lol
Been forcing some daffodil bulbs in water to hopefully get some indoor winter blooms. They seem to be growing well, looking forward to flowers in a couple weeks. Itâs way easier than I thought and would recommend it as a project if youâve got a sunny spot for them. Might try tulips next.
Bit cold today but sunny so I think Iâll take the boys for a bit more of an off road ride and check out a picnic ground and such nearby
Everybodyâs doinâ a brand new dance now
Câmon baby do the loco-motivation
I know youâll get to like it if you get off the couch now
Câmon lazy bones do the loco-motivation đ¶
That was funny. Grabbed a takeaway breakfast from a local cafe and went down to the beach to eat it, and was promptly bailed up by the local gull population and an opportunistic cattle dog.
Owner was very apologetic, meanwhile I was laughing too hard to get out a complete sentence. đ
Goodnight everyone and be careful of rampant platypuses.
What are your favourite soups to make? I need a bit of variety.
Your reminder that Spicks and Specks is on tv tonight. The one show a week that justifies the tv antennas continued existence.
I told myself after yesteday that I wasnât going to lie around in bed all morning today, but what did I do - stay in bed until 12 on my phone despite how UTTERLY BEAUTIFUL it is outside.
Well alright. Canât change the past; getting a load of laundry in while having a late cuppa and cake; once itâs out to dry I am going to walk to Fairfield (3.8km away) and back to get bulk wool wash and the tortillas I had been planning to make jackfruit tacos with.
Then home to do a whole bunch of cooking and an online catchup with an overseas friend.
I wonder if my lazing around so much on weekend mornings is due to the sheer amount of caffeine I have during the week. Brain needs to recover from all the adenosine receptors being flooded.
Is anyone here into modern spirituality stuff? Was supposed to go to this cool thing in Brunswick today, like an expo, but I canât because of the migraine.
Been really trying to find that community and Iâm pretty heartbroken that I canât go to this expo đđđ
Sky pretty
I inadvertently listened to most of MSOâs performance Carmina Burrara yesterday live on ABC Classical while doing my taxes and was all âoh itâs THAT doomsday song!â And then all of yesterday arvo and today itâs been bugging me, where did I hear an English language parody of it, was it misheard lyrics, no it was simpler, was it an ad, what ad was it, what ad, was it the UK, was it hereâŠ
⊠and then it finally came to me out of nowhere this evening. I only knew it from Gruen as it aired before I moved to Australia, but the wave of nostalgia over LOTR and the excitement of videos on the internet came flooding back once I watched it and it sent me into a bit of a YouTube rabbit hole. Many of you probably know this one.
Duenan@aussie.zone âš4â© âšmonthsâ© ago
Itâs my birthday today.
My friend offered to get me a gift. Not sure what I want, maybe a Kmart milk frother?
Chilling on the couch with my radio show on then I guess some footy watching and playing Hogwarts.
Low key day today but a little concerned I havenât heard from my dad yet. He sends me a birthday message every year without fail but he has been sick lately.
Anyway I sent him a message just to let me know heâs ok because itâs so unusual for him to not contact me today.
Catfish@aussie.zone âš4â© âšmonthsâ© ago
Hippy birdies!
Thornburywitch@aussie.zone âš4â© âšmonthsâ© ago
Happy birthday! đ
Gibsonisafluffybutt@aussie.zone âš4â© âšmonthsâ© ago
Happy Birthday!!! :)
Eagle@aussie.zone âš4â© âšmonthsâ© ago
Happy Birthday! đđđ
Bottom_racer@aussie.zone âš4â© âšmonthsâ© ago
Happy Bâday!
SituationCake@aussie.zone âš4â© âšmonthsâ© ago
Happy Birthday!
CEOofmyhouse56@aussie.zone âš4â© âšmonthsâ© ago
Happy birthday Duenan. Hope all your wishes come true. đđ
PeelerSheila@aussie.zone âš4â© âšmonthsâ© ago
Happy birthday đđ hope your dadâs ok đ
anotherspringchicken@aussie.zone âš4â© âšmonthsâ© ago
Happy birthday! đ„łđ
underwatermagpies@aussie.zone âš4â© âšmonthsâ© ago
Happy birthday! Hope youâve heard from your dad by now.
Duenan@aussie.zone âš4â© âšmonthsâ© ago
Nothing yet :(
Seagoon_@aussie.zone âš4â© âšmonthsâ© ago
Happy Birfday. đ
Baku@aussie.zone âš4â© âšmonthsâ© ago
Happy birthday! Did you have cake? Woolies mud cake? If not then I suggest you have another birthday tomorrow, with woolies mud cake
Duenan@aussie.zone âš4â© âšmonthsâ© ago
Sadly no cake. Only a large packet of chips and a bottle of soft drink was all I had today for snacks.
just_kitten@aussie.zone âš4â© âšmonthsâ© ago
Happy birthday!! Iâm glad you get to treat yourself a bit today after all youâve been through. I hope you have a really relaxing day where even for a bit you can feel recharged and secure.
Duenan@aussie.zone âš4â© âšmonthsâ© ago
Thank you.
Hopefully in a few days time Iâll be able to test out milk frother, even if itâs the Kmart brand, just hope it works ok.
Iâm trying to relax as best I can and stay warm but I am worried about my dad and him not answering phone calls or texts but I just have to wait and be patient. He has been pretty unwell of late.