Anon experiences what it’s like to be reduced to their race for the first time.
Anon awakens something
Submitted 3 weeks ago by Early_To_Risa@sh.itjust.works to greentext@sh.itjust.works
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mech@feddit.org 3 weeks ago
AllNewTypeFace@leminal.space 2 weeks ago
Reset her prompt
Gullible@sh.itjust.works 3 weeks ago
I don’t get race play. I’ve been with people of other races and never even began to consider race play. I have to wonder how someone finds it sexy to consider race. Is it related to dom/sub, but expanded to all of society?
WeLoveCastingSpellz@lemmy.dbzer0.com 3 weeks ago
It has racist roots. Like sissy and bimbo kinks have misogynist roots and orientation play has homophobic roots. None of these kinks are problematic. You are into what they are into and any way two adult consenting partners get each other off should be celebrated.
A_Wild_Alt_Appears@fedinsfw.app 3 weeks ago
Much of kink is people playing with the things that feel heavy to them in ways that push their buttons.
Race and the dynamics around it are a heavy thing that we internalize as part of our social conditioning, and for some people they have a desire to play with it.
Personally I have no interest, and its important for people to remember that the heavy things they like to play with are difficult subjects and to treat them with care (often people do not adequately engage with why raceplay is so heavy, and then engage with others in a shitty way as a result. At which point it is not play, just racism). But as long as folks treat the subject with the appropriate respect and sensitivity until they’ve negotiated a dynamic and then stay within what’s negotiated I see it as being similar to all the other ways folks like to play with the things that are heavy to them. Like consentual nonconsent, where people roleplay nonconsentual sex, or forced feminization as a way of playing with the harmful way men are measured against a metric of masculinity and punished for failing by comparing them to women as degradation.
But then, I’m white, so folks actually impacted by the heaviness of the subject may feel differently, and its important to listen to people actually impacted by something. In the kink community in my area it crops up as a point of contention periodically.
Avicenna@programming.dev 3 weeks ago
I think you are reading too much into it, in many cases I think it is a “different looks interesting” kind of situation. In some cases, especially when it has become a fetish, yea might be a deeper psychological aspect.
cattywampus@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
Tell humans something is naughty or bad and some will find a thrill in it regardless of what it is. Also it’s a power exchange which is a very common dynamic humans enjoy in and outside the bedroom.
janus2@lemmy.zip 2 weeks ago
most taboo subject kinks revolve heavily around the fact that it just is taboo, and the actual taboo itself is more of a flavor (at least in healthy use cases)
I’m a part time professional dominatrix and have had two clients whose sessions involved race play. One where it was the main thing, and the other just part of it. For both of them I could tell they were deriving pleasure from the power exchange aspect, and the race thing was just the specific form it took for them
It makes sense that for a majority of people, it’s going to be completely unsexy and seem strange and incomprehensible. If it weren’t, it wouldn’t be a kink
captainlezbian@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
It’s also popular with racists which is part of why kink communities are often so against it
falcunculus@jlai.lu 3 weeks ago
Sexual relations are the continuation of normal relations, making sexuality a mirror reflecting society. Findom reflects class relations, D/S reflects gender relations, SM reflects christianity, race play reflects racism, etc.
CackNClap@infosec.pub 3 weeks ago
SM reflects Christianity? Maybe for some I guess but I’m sure people from all religious backgrounds and none enjoy S&M.
captainlezbian@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
In some ways yes, in other ways you’re way off.
D/s reflects general power dynamics. Straight couples with dominant men often use the existing gender relations for it. And dominant straight women often invert it. But plenty of other power dynamics are used here, such as elder/younger, noble/servant, boss/employee, military, teacher/student, owner/pet, etc. Hell a lot of power exchange organizations are still moving away from master/slave terminology.
And sadomasochism seems deeper in the human psyche than Christianity. Yeah Christianity really encourages it, but it seems to be more like runners high and the appreciation of horror movies than just some reflection of Christianity.
Both D/s and sm are very broad categories whereas findom and race play are both categories of D/s
Viceversa@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
What is findom? Financial domination? Like being a sugar daddy?
hessenjunge@discuss.tchncs.de 2 weeks ago
It’s just a kink and there are weirder kinks, way way weirder kinks.
Gullible@sh.itjust.works 2 weeks ago
Most of which I understood on some level. But I’ve received enough answers to recognize the vague shape of it now.
yakko@feddit.uk 3 weeks ago
I’m literally married to someone of another ethnicity and we’ve never wanted to do race play.
BeUnique@lemmy.zip 2 weeks ago
It’s a kink just like anything else. Some people get off on being degraded I guess. I have done race play in the past, it’s not really my thing but it is in the moment because it’s their thing. Seeing them get off to it is the attractive part, not really the “how” if that makes sense?
Gullible@sh.itjust.works 2 weeks ago
I understand this perspective a bit better, yeah.
ICastFist@programming.dev 2 weeks ago
fake: anon had a girlfriend
gay: anon doesn’t want sex with asian woman
wesker@lemmy.sdf.org 3 weeks ago
Sometimes I feel like women only want me for my BWC.
saltesc@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
Well most water closets are tiled and can’t be.jumped on at all.
wyldrstallyns@lemmy.dbzer0.com 3 weeks ago
If it’s tiled, though, it’s at least duo-chromatic, right? I’m no expert on the spec for black water closets, but I’m pretty sure there some sort of vetting sequence. Maybe. Is there a commode doc around here?
daggermoon@piefed.world 3 weeks ago
Hi Albert!
WanderWisley@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
rumschlumpel@feddit.org 3 weeks ago
See also: Introducing people to music, tv shows etc. who get way more into it than you ever did.
Dzheyk@sh.itjust.works 3 weeks ago
Literally my brother with every game I introduce him to. Makes it where I can never play any with him cuz by the time I can get around to actually playing with him, bruh went and beat the game on his own so he’s trying to speed run it when we play.
0ops@piefed.zip 2 weeks ago
Same with my brother and music. I’ll introduce him to a band I like but only know the hits and next thing I know he’s binged the albums and knows the lyrics better than me. This has happened at least a dozen times lol
cattywampus@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
One man’s troubles are another man’s dreams and another man’s nightmare
Simulation6@sopuli.xyz 3 weeks ago
Hadriscus@jlai.lu 3 weeks ago
Asian girlfriend is obsessed about OP’s Biological Weapons Convention. It’s all she can think about. Probably a history nerd
Magnum@infosec.pub 2 weeks ago
Gullible@sh.itjust.works 3 weeks ago
Big white cock
meowcar42O@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 weeks ago
Probably referring to the Blue Whale Challenge
chloroken@lemmy.ml 2 weeks ago
Pure white supremacist, gooner, racist fantasy. Literally felt icky reading it.
bridgeburner@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
Imagine getting triggered by a greentext lol
spacegoat@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
Reddit is over there
spacegoat@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
How would you even bring this up with a partner
underscores@lemmy.zip 2 weeks ago
you encourage open communication
and eventually open up with “do you have any kinks”
“this link is kind of messed up but …”
by all means they have the right to say “no we aren’t doing that”
I know maybe you didn’t want a literal answer but like actually, you just talk about it.
kinks do come up because for instance I want my gf to be satisfied in bed also so asking is pretty normal I think
Soulg@ani.social 2 weeks ago
Talking about fun things to try in the bedroom, then you bring it up? It’s not that hard
BeUnique@lemmy.zip 2 weeks ago
Dude’s over here living the dream and complaining lmao. Poor fella.
janus2@lemmy.zip 3 weeks ago
“partner gets WAY more into the kink than the one who initially proposed it” is funny in pretty much every configuration lmao
Akasazh@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
Unless it’s vore.
Oh no, still is
Th3D3k0y@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
I don’t understand vore. No shame if you like it, I just don’t know how is supposed to play out
InternetCitizen2@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
Take her to communion