It’s hard to reach orgasm if the phone is ringing constantly. He can’t keep you from cheating, but he can keep you from enjoying it.
question for the culture
Submitted 4 weeks ago by violet08_@lemmy.world to [deleted]
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erotador@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 weeks ago
it’s not cheating if I’m poly and my gfs are into it
IAmNorRealTakeYourMeds@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
this, honestly, monogamy is creepy. Only I’m allowed access to your body!!! My concent overrides my partners concent when it comes to her body.
Tf is that?
db2@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
Quality shitpost reply, I think people forget what community they’re in here.
IAMgROOT@lemmy.wtf 2 weeks ago
Huh? Monogamy is remaining loyal to one person. Cheaters are scum
halfeatenpotato@sh.itjust.works 3 weeks ago
Pls dont forget Jesus
flying_sheep@lemmy.ml 3 weeks ago
That’s tautological. Of course “doing X in relationship model where X isn’t considered cheating” is not considered cheating
violet08_@lemmy.world 4 weeks ago
never cheated but it got me thinking
IAmNorRealTakeYourMeds@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
you telling me you never used cheat codes in age of empires II?
Haquer@lemmy.today 3 weeks ago
how do you turn this on
basxto@discuss.tchncs.de 3 weeks ago
BIGDADDY
Oh, wrong version
Diddlydee@feddit.uk 3 weeks ago
Remind you 48 times that you’re a dirty whore?
fraksken@infosec.pub 3 weeks ago
And keep the line occuppied 😈
ductTapedWindow@lemmy.zip 3 weeks ago
Reminds me of my drug dealer back in the early 2000s. He wanted to get some Adderall but I was in a movie theater. Checked my phone to over 200 missed calls.
Honytawk@discuss.tchncs.de 3 weeks ago
Hopefully play your heartstrings while you contemplate why you have the morals of a cactus.
halfeatenpotato@sh.itjust.works 3 weeks ago
I was hanging out with a lady friend after work the other night (I am also a lady), and her husband straight up called her 8 times. My husband called me 0 times. Cause I told him where I’d be and with who, and he trusted me… she was completely floored that my husband didn’t even call me once. I was floored that her husband called her at all.
Without trust, there is no love -Moulin Rouge (and probably a quote from something else)
mech@feddit.org 3 weeks ago
I’m trying to keep the line busy to reduce the number of booty calls you can do.
shweddy@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
She’s back!!!
Billy_fuccboi@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
To tell you that you’re moving out?
33550336@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
If I would be her cuck, I would calmly and humbly wait for a pleasure to talk to her.
Honytawk@discuss.tchncs.de 3 weeks ago
Dude, you can do better
IAmNorRealTakeYourMeds@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
yhea, rather than just wait, he can do chores.
33550336@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
Thanks for care, but no need – I am just into femdom.
Earthman_Jim@lemmy.zip 3 weeks ago
Like being single, for example.
Obnomus@lemmy.ml 3 weeks ago
Women I have respect for you don’t do it.
IAmNorRealTakeYourMeds@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
you mean calling 48 times? agree, a text message is enough.
IAmNorRealTakeYourMeds@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
am I the only one who doesn’t give a fuck about cheating? just be careful with std, test regularly, and have fun.
OldSageRick@lemmy.zip 3 weeks ago
What you are describing is an open relationship, so both parties are in a relationship but may seek sexual pleasure elsewhere.
Cheating on the other side has a core component which is the problem, lying.
IAmNorRealTakeYourMeds@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
that’s what I practice and am open about it. I hate those who say they are poly as an excuse after being caught cheating. Not because of the cheating itself, but because they lied to get with someone they knew won’t want that. Therefore the cheated partner had no informed consent. And I’m not sure this is a mainstream view. but I consider informed consent as consent, and therefore no informed consent is rape.
Someone who lies about who they are to have sex is a rapist, just using conman tricks instead of drugs or force. And should be seen by society as such.
Cracks_InTheWalls@sh.itjust.works 3 weeks ago
Imagine you have a relationship where one of the rules each person is expected to follow is “Do not have sex with other people.” You both agreed to it. Then you find out the other person broke it. Trust is gone.
This would be different than someone saying “Hey, I know we agreed to this rule, but can we revisit that?” and having a grownup discussion about ENM alternatives, where someone has the opportunity to say that is a dealbreaker for them or declare boundaries that make this OK with them.
Nonmonogamy is cool is everyone is aware and onboard. Fuck cheaters.
IAmNorRealTakeYourMeds@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
i find such rule to be inherently controlling and coercive. and used to punish abused and neglected partners who find affection elsewhere but can’t leave their relationship due to coersion or fear of homelessness.
Cheating like that should be like “we agreed were both in a diet, but I had a donut that someone brought to the office”, not “you are inherently a horrible human being who deserves to be shamed and hated for seeking human connection”.
IAmNorRealTakeYourMeds@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
Damn, had no idea how unpopular that opinion was. I expect it to be unpopular, just not universally so. still, I will die in this hill. Suggest people to check out “relationship anarchy”. And I will be open about it, so absolutely no one who wants monogamous relationship ends up with me, I wouldn’t want to hurt anyone.
Quetzalcutlass@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
Relationships are built on trust and establishing boundaries. Cheating (as the name indicates) breaks both of these. It’s completely different from an open relationship due to one missing and very important component: consent. If your partner is okay with it, have all the (safe) sex you want. But going behind a loyal partner’s back and breaking their trust is of course going to hurt them.
Even if they would have been okay with an open relationship, you not asking beforehand will have them wondering why you hid it from them, if they did something wrong, if they’re not good enough for you, if you ever loved them at all, and what else you might be doing behind their back. Your betrayal will have destroyed their trust in you, and rebuilding the relationship will be an uphill battle if it’s possible at all.
basxto@discuss.tchncs.de 3 weeks ago
If it is really good cooking and I get lunch packs. (And am still allowed to cook for myself)
GreenShimada@lemmy.world 4 weeks ago
Send the message “oh, so I guess he wasn’t cheating on me at the same time.”
GreenKnight23@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
I’m not calling to get you to answer.
I’m calling to find you. every ring, gets me that much closer to finding your location.
ring ring…
zxqwas@lemmy.world 4 weeks ago
Whatever you’re doing, what is calling 48 times going to do?
LouNeko@lemmy.world 4 weeks ago
Ordering 48 separate pizzas.
halfeatenpotato@sh.itjust.works 3 weeks ago
worth the gains