Cracks_InTheWalls
@Cracks_InTheWalls@sh.itjust.works
Enthusiastic sh.it.head
- Comment on Anon gets high 6 days ago:
The day it got legalized in Canada, all of a sudden 95% of the paranoia I could get from weed magically disappeared.
The remaining 5% was the “I’m relatively sure that, in spite of this never happening, I am going to die of a heart attack today because I smoked a strong sativa**”)
*Maybe it actually has happened, idk. *inb4 “Actually pretty much all weed these days is hybridized to the point that sativa and indica aren’t really useful categories that you can map onto acute effects”. I know, I really just mean the racier stuff that is commonly, if problematically, called sativa.
- Comment on What are some good examples of "Where the fuck do you go" kind of games? 1 week ago:
I really to try it again with a guide, I want to see the wild shit after that first damn level.
- Comment on Generational differences 1 week ago:
Pro soda/beer can pipe tip for those reading a local backup of Lemmy during the apocalypse: if your knife is stuck in a dead raider and you need a toke, you can snap part of the can’s pull tab off to make a puncture tool.
Don’t forget to get that knife back though, fr. Actually maybe go do that first, but still do this rather than use a bloody knife. Hygiene, man.
- Comment on What's the point in getting married? 2 weeks ago:
Two reasons: Practical considerations (shared assets, certain legal protections, I’ve seen people get married for an easier go re: immigration in some cases, etc. Basically check your local laws); and ritualistic.
I find people often discount the importance of certain ritual practices in Western secular society, and for a lot of people ritual in general is a whole lot of fluff and nonsense. But having a ceremony to recognize a formal joining of two people, and by extension their families (to varying degrees), with the at least ostensible intent that you will live and die in partnership with that person, is a powerful thing. It’s a common ritual among multiple societies, with lots of variation and differences in exactly what it signifies, but the ubiquity speaks to that power IMO.
Don’t get me wrong - I think divorce is a good thing for when the partnership truly does not and cannot work, and people can live happily in lifelong unions without marriage - but for some folks, taking that vow in the eyes of your friends and family (and whatever deity concept you may have, if that’s your kink) is a very important and serious thing. Something changes, to some degree, when you take that oath.
It doesn’t have to be expensive - that it often is, IMO, is a function of capitalism infecting a beautiful thing more than anything else. You can have a wedding in someone’s backyard officiated by someone who paid $25 online for a certificate, with a small number of close friends and a potluck BBQ afterwards, and it would be just as valid and meaningful as someone who spent 100k. It’s the intent, ritual, and meaning participating parties place on it that’s important.
- Comment on Anon is a senior citizen 2 weeks ago:
look at my age
look at my lifeWell fuck.
- Comment on Steam Deck / Gaming News #11 2 weeks ago:
Not much of a gamer these days, but I love this format and what you are doing here. Keep it up!
- Comment on Thank you Gary ❤️ 5 weeks ago:
Well, the aroma is most pleasing. Who wouldn’t be curious to taste it?
- Comment on unleash your humanities 1 month ago:
Just gonna chime in to say this was a pleasant exchange to read.
- Comment on Do most people still use computers, or do people only use a smartphone as their main/only device? 2 months ago:
Lol, was waiting for this comment. DeX gang rise up.
(It is OKish)
- Comment on I feel my life is empty. Is there any way to stop this? 2 months ago:
You, my friend, need an adventure. Any adventure, even if it sounds small and dumb.
I creeped your post history (sorry) - did you end up taking that bus trip you talked about a few months back? If so, what was that like? If not, any reason why you feel you shouldn’t do it now (or soon)?
I’ve felt like you before, at least the way you’re describing it. My solution was mundane adventure - walk a stupid amount to a place you could easily get to by car. Strike up conversations with strangers by leaving your phone alone re: directions/things of interest/etc. unless absolutely necessary. Set yourself some boon to obtain - a beer at Pub X, a meal at place Y, whatever - and make the journey a little less convenient/a little more scenic than you might do by default.
The above isn’t for everyone, obvs, but take the idea of an adventure or ‘quest’ and see if anything strikes you. It can be as grand or mundane as you want it to be.
Just one option among others.
- Comment on Kevin Smith's Dogma getting a new release of some kind? 2 months ago:
Bro, I still want Hit Somebody even though I know, in my heart of hearts, it’s never coming…
- Comment on Romance scammers are now in the fediverse 3 months ago:
She’s the girlfriend from Canada your friend who came out of the closet in college told you about in high school.
- Comment on Mmm kale 3 months ago:
The downvotes seem a bit much for that opinion, but I am imaging you eating a plain chicken breast and am deeply sad about that image.
- Comment on Mmm kale 3 months ago:
Garlic, motherfucker, do you use it!?
(Love kale and the weird little mutants called kalettes. If you don’t use any aromatics or seasoning though, you’re gonna have a bad time)
- Comment on [deleted] 3 months ago:
I want to stress this - you are not a coward. You have to do what is necessary to survive.
There’s good advice in this thread - do what you can to set up an exit strategy, and exit ASAP once you have arranged safeguards to support your survival. The earlier the better, but if it takes time to do successfully, take that time.
You are not weak. You are not worthless. You are not beholden to this man for your long-term survival, even if it’s necessary for the short-term. If you so choose, when you leave he will never see you again and die alone and forgotten. The only purpose his memory should serve in that case is as an example of what not to do, or how to live your life. Survive and seek out as much joy as this world makes available, so you can dance on his grave and empty your bladder on it before leaving it to decay.
I’m so, so sorry you’re going through this - but it is not permanent. Please remember this.
- Comment on [deleted] 3 months ago:
I’ll take “Things that get your sperm donor’s favourite food items tainted” for $500, Alex.
Fuck this asshole. Bide your time until you can GTFO, then GTFO and don’t look back. Sorry to hear the guy who contributed to your embryonic stage is a pencil dicked twat. “Sir” - fuck you.
Sorry, people like this really rub me the wrong way, all the more so when the target of this crap isn’t someone strong enough to make them lose some teeth (no fault of your own, and it’s a hard thing to punch your biocontributor in the mouth anyway).
- Comment on Anon has casual sex 3 months ago:
For heterosexuals, ranked PnV
- Comment on Anon goes on a first date 3 months ago:
There’s anime (“Hellsing is pretty good, Gundam’s pretty cool too”), and anime(“KONICHIWA SENPAII~~❤️UwU NANI!?!?”)
Lots, if not most, people who like anime are in the first camp (sub in anime that people watch these days - I am deeply out of touch and know it shows). Lots, if not most, people think of the second camp when they hear someone say “I like anime”.
Wouldn’t necessarily lead with it as a hobby in a dating scenario unless you’re talking TV and movies in general already. But that’s just me, and I haven’t had to think about dating strategy for a loooong time.
- Comment on Anon gets corrected 3 months ago:
I also follow the Less than Jake linguistic model.
- Comment on Checking in 3 months ago:
What makes this hilarious to me for horny check purposes is the context it was used in.
- Comment on What's the deal with male loneliness? 4 months ago:
A challenge for you (or anyone interested in taking it up): Once a day, while waiting for public transit, pay attention to the people around you. Does anyone have something interesting about them (hair, clothes, jewelery, weird keychain thing on their phone, etc.)? Ask one identified person about it. See someone who looks like their on the verge of tears? Ask them “Hey, is everything ok?”
9/10 times you’ll have a brief Q-A-back off interaction, but sometimes it’ll turn into a longer conversation. Yes, it feels awkward. Yes, in some places you’ll come across as rude (keep your dominant culture in mind - you probably wouldn’t try this in some place like Finland or something). But I’ve had some very interesting experiences doing this in the past (usually with the ones who look upset - if you’re willing to be a sympathetic ear you might just make that person’s day).
- Comment on Anon discovers Japanese jazz 4 months ago:
I mean, when your major genres are built on a foundation of music made by folks who often didn’t have access to formal musical education, I kinda get it.
As an Elecki enjoyer I do see your point, though.
- Comment on Anon trying understanding women 4 months ago:
I disagree - it’s the difference between a “lol, women only become interested when you’re not available anymore” trope v. “You were a single dude in a sea of single dudes, now you’re attached and in a smaller pool of nonmonogomous dudes. Pool is smaller, so more bites”.
Or this was entirely clear in the other post if reading between the lines, and I’m just very tired.
- Comment on Anon trying understanding women 4 months ago:
It recontextualizes things a bit - this is not purely a function of vetting, but places him in a different (smaller) category than he was in previously on the app.
- Comment on Shit Post 4 months ago:
I’m embarassed about how often I think about this chart.
- Comment on Behold currently! 4 months ago:
Fakeness aside, I like this part and feel like I need it on a poster or something:
Behold now! You are currently a star child!
Begin your power! Go! Laugh! - Comment on american culture 4 months ago:
I feel like there’s a way to do it in a way that doesn’t suck - an examination of the book WRT the hero’s journey, picking out elements borrowed from English literary tradition to see how they’re deployed v. original texts, etc.
Real talk though, I feel it comes from a place of not knowing how to appeal to young people. I ran into the very same thing once when asked about course ideas for first year students coming directly from high school. I had no idea (still don’t) what would appeal to kids, so I thought a course that used Harry Potter as a keystone text (everybody being familiar, using it as a bridge to more traditional lit) could work. But as I said the words I knew 18 year old me would’ve hated that, sooo…
- Comment on So is it "It just works" or "Shit just works"? 4 months ago:
Shit just works - forever and always.
(shh, it just works and shit just works are both valid - the intent was the former IIRC - but the latter is obviously the superior choice. I’m also partial to sh.it.heads to refer to users [cheeky, but thought about in the same way as Deadheads for Grateful Dead fans])
- Comment on Literally c/THE_PACK 4 months ago:
AROOOOOO! WELCOME TO THE MF’IN PACK!
- Comment on Literally c/THE_PACK 4 months ago:
I SEE YOU BROTHER AND I CRANKED THIS OUT FOR ALL OUR GIRL BROTHERS, ARROOOOOO!!
I SUCK AT PHOTO EDITING BUT IT’S ABOUT THAT 💯 EFFORT!
