Growing up being called “gifted” only to grow up and discover the bar is simply really low.
It's depressing, man
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Kolanaki@pawb.social 1 day ago
Serinus@lemmy.world 1 day ago
It’s also kind of surprising how my education mattered. When you’re going through it a lot of it doesn’t feel useful.
But then you meet people who really can’t read or write effectively or understand simple concepts.
Even people here on Lemmy are more likely to take the feeling of each word than to understand the sentences as a whole.
LainTrain@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 day ago
Yeah, I was always shocked by the popsci factoid stats about communication happening primarily via tone and such, it seemed crazy to me that some people use that as primary meaning and not in addition to fully understanding the semantics of being said, or that they could even be influenced by the actual choice of words even if the meaning is unchanged, but I guess I was just lucky.
What’s really shocking above all for me lately is how few people care about intellectual honesty, and will blatantly go for the most self-serving falsehood no matter how blatant.
I wouldn’t claim something I couldn’t back up in some way not because I’m just inherently a saint - on a purely selfish animalistic superego esque way - I wouldn’t do it because it would hurt my self-esteem to blatantly lie in a self-serving manner because it’s just kinda pathetic to have to resort to that.
LavaPlanet@sh.itjust.works 1 day ago
Yeah, emotional intelligence is hugely overlooked, when interpreting what others say, and to also not be swept up by every little thing, and that low eq breeds for resentment, which is rife for the brainwashing that propaganda is. We all need to be focusing on teaching the next Gen how to step outside their emotions, as an observer, and reflect on the message they are for oneself, not a cue for how to treat others, and to look inside and heal, or self care, if those emotional messages are extreme. It’s not iq, it’s eq and the world would be a different place. It’s easy not to care, when you feel like you have been thrown out with the trash, and knee jerk to all your emotions, rather than be an entity that observes your emotions.
axEl7fB5@lemmy.cafe 2 hours ago
I used to wonder that as a kid as well. Was I smart or were others just stupid?
lightnsfw@reddthat.com 1 hour ago
For me it was mostly just that I have really good reading comprehension and read ahead in the textbooks when I was bored in class. Basically I ADDed myself into studying.
BlameTheAntifa@lemmy.world 1 day ago
DeathByBigSad@sh.itjust.works 22 hours ago
I know someone that saying Steam Deck sucks because its running linux, but also complain about Windows updates and disabled all updates. Like dude gets a new device and the first thing he does is turn off updates, and then stays on the stock rom. Well good luck running the 5 year old OS while you do online banking, dumbass, surely the cybercriminals would be nice to you.
Exusia@lemmy.world 1 day ago
Una@europe.pub 1 day ago
I am stupid :3 I will always find a way to outstupid the stupid :3
mushroommunk@lemmy.today 1 day ago
“There is considerable overlap between the intelligence of the smartest bears and the dumbest tourists.” - Park Rangers talking about me
thesohoriots@lemmy.world 1 day ago
Related: “I would never want to be part of a club that would have me as a member.”
gAlienLifeform@lemmy.world 1 day ago
A lot of “stupidity” you see in the world is a result of anxiety and exhaustion proximately caused by individual poverty and bad infrastructure*, imo
*Infrastructure includes hard systems like transit and housing and soft systems like community organizations and government agencies imo
TubularTittyFrog@lemmy.world 2 hours ago
speak for yourself.
I live in Cambridge MA. one of the smartest/richest places on the planet. Lots of people are stupid here and anxious and exhausted even making 300-400K a year and living lives of luxury and privilege.
the crux of it is they are just selfish jerks who don’t care about anyone else and are supremely overconfident about how genius they are…
mfed1122@discuss.tchncs.de 3 hours ago
Probably true, but I don’t think that warrants the stupidity being put in scare quotes like that. Regardless of whether it is intrinsic or extrinsic stupidity, stupidity by nature or by nurture, the result is genuine stupidity all the same
sqgl@sh.itjust.works 1 day ago
When I had intense legal problems I found myself being stupid and regretted judging all the kids at school who may have had horrific home lives.
LainTrain@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 day ago
I hope so. I really don’t know anymore though, at a certain point it’s a choice. Maybe it’s what they’d like me to think to betray my fellow workers to the man, but it’s harder and harder to justify people falling over and over for obvious corporate traps when alternatives are extremely available and it would take just the tiniest bit of agency on their behalf to go for that and information is more available than ever.
blaue_Fledermaus@mstdn.io 1 day ago
A problem is that people are both very stupid and very smart, just not about the same things.
LainTrain@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 day ago
Yeah maybe, but that’s more to do with knowledge rather than intelligence.
IMO, for successful reasoning you need two things:
- Correct assumptions - what you think
- Correct reasoning - how you think
The former is tough, even scientific consensus changes often due to new better studies, sometimes due to externalities and the human element etc etc. It’s understandably impossible to know everything about everything.
But the latter is about how you think, whether you’re able to reason properly, your conclusions and steps actually logically flow from your premises which are based on your assumptions.
I think a lot of perceived stupidity isn’t misinformation, but the lack of this second ability to reason properly, and even an unwillingness to do so because the conclusions are unpleasant. It’s like people became (or always were) too comfortable with lying to themselves to avoid discomfort.
SnotFlickerman@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 day ago
God damn this is too real
sqgl@sh.itjust.works 1 day ago
Yes because almost everyone agreed with the sentiment, even the people we consider stupid (who use a different metric).
SnotFlickerman@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 day ago
Not true, because a fuckton of those stupid people erroneously believe they’re smarter than everyone. The number of times I have heard “if I were in charge, everything would be straightened out” from these troglodytes is too damn high. I’m actually smart enough to know how insanely demanding “being in charge” and “doing things right” actually fucking is so I god damned know I am not up for the challenge so, yeah, actually they’re still actually fucking stupid. Sorry, not sorry.
brown567@sh.itjust.works 23 hours ago
You only need to be of average intelligence to have 4 billion people dumber than you
the_q@lemmy.zip 1 day ago
I get the idea and have said similar things in the past, but defining intelligence is where I get hung up. Socially speaking it makes a lot of sense though.
mfed1122@discuss.tchncs.de 3 hours ago
My very rough very compressed minimal definition is something like:
“Ability to determine truths from falsehoods within the confines of available information”
waldo_was_here@piefed.social 1 day ago
Thank you for this wisdom
TubularTittyFrog@lemmy.world 3 hours ago
it’s not about smart vs stupid. it’s about skeptical vs gullible.
plenty of very smart people are gullible. and most people are gullible because it’s ‘nice’.
most of us who are skeptical are see as cold, mean, and anti-social. hence to be pro-social you have to be ‘stupid’ and believe in the nonsense everyone else is going on about.
Hossenfeffer@feddit.uk 18 minutes ago
Is it, though?
meliaesc@lemmy.world 2 hours ago
I haven’t seen this perspective before. What makes you think healthy skepticism needs to be demeaning or rude?
bitjunkie@lemmy.world 2 hours ago
They’re saying skeptics are perceived that way, not that they necessarily are acting that way. Just that other people clock you as “not nice” when you don’t always take what they say at face value.
AeonFelis@lemmy.world 2 hours ago
The conmen whom you question will make the effort to color your skepticism as demeaning and rude.
TubularTittyFrog@lemmy.world 2 hours ago
it isn’t.
but people interpret it that way. because it’s not ‘friendly’ to ask questions or be skeptical.