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• IWW4@lemmy.zip ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

  I think the sexual stereotypes are is that men hit And women tend to abuse through mental anguish.

  Mental anguish is harder to portray on a screen than someone beating the fuck out of you.

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  • Rhynoplaz@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

    Mental anguish is harder to portray on a screen than someone beating the fuck out of you.

    And when it is portrayed, it’s not as easy to notice. If Everybody Loves Raymond’s Dad started punching his daughter in law everybody would call that abuse, but there are still some people who don’t realize how abusive Ray’s mom actually was.

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    • IWW4@lemmy.zip ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

      Absolutely!

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• skeezix@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

  It is represented in media, see the film Mommy Dearest. Even in the Wizard of Oz the woman is the abuser. The series The Terror streaming now, woman the abuser. Fatal Attraction, Cruella, Misery, Carrie, etc.

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  • moakley@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

    Tangled

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    • lolrightythen@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

      Big Fish

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  • Lost_My_Mind@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

    Ok. You named a handful of examples. I’m sure there’s a handfull more.

    But I could literally reach the character limit if I attempted to show all the examples of men in media being the abuser.

    So you aren’t wrong per se. But you are still missing the point.

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    • Okokimup@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

      OP said “always” and “never.” So I’m not really sure what the purpose of this discussion is beyond refuting those superlatives. Is the idea that there needs to be more physically abusive women in fiction? Or fewer men? What is the ideal?

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• MyBrainHurts@lemmy.ca ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

  Not really answering the question but if you’re looking for movies with an abusive mom, there are more than a few! (especially horror.) Off the top of my head:

  Carrie is the classic, hereditary is a new classic. Braindead (dead alive) is a classic splatter horror.

  Non horror: I Tonya, black swan, Mommie Dearest, Precious, Beau is afraid, Wild at Heart and maybe 8 mile?

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  • Rhynoplaz@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

    Carrie reminded me of Misery. She’s not his mom, but she’s definitely abusive.

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  • memfree@piefed.social ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

    You hit some of the first that came to mind. I'd also include Terms of Endearment, I'll Cry Tomorrow, Postcards From the Edge... do Snow White and Cinderella count?

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    • MyBrainHurts@lemmy.ca ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

      Yeah, I think the underlying message in a lot of disney is you’re better off with a dead mom than a live one.

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  • Suck_on_my_Presence@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

    We Need to Talk About Kevin comes to mind.

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• Apepollo11@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

  FWIW, in fairy tales the mother is the bad parent more often than not.

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  • Bronzebeard@lemmy.zip ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

    The stepmother, as the mother is usually dead.

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• njm1314@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

  Never heard of Mommy Dearest?

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  • DeathByBigSad@sh.itjust.works ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

    Not till now

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• teslasaur@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

  I’ve seen plenty of abusive mothers on tv. But they aren’t physical in their abuse.

  But have a look at “Precious” if you want to be triggered.

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  • AngryCommieKender@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

    And then have a look at the making of “Precious,” if you want to be furious at Oprah and Tyler Perry.

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• owenfromcanada@lemmy.ca ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

  Watch Carrie

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  • Frozengyro@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

    If you really want to see fucked up, watch Sybil

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• daniskarma@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

  I just watched a episode of Buffy Vampire slayer with the abusive witch mother.

  Plenty abusive mothers portrayed on all media.

  Have you read Carrie?

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• TheRealKuni@piefed.social ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

  Along with all the other examples listed here:

  The Bear

  Also wtf is the "Abused child forgive abusive parent and reunite happily ever after" trope, fuck that shit. Abusers do not deserve forgiveness.

  No, but depending on circumstances and the work the abuser is willing to put into changing themself and making things as right as they can, forgiveness can be earned.

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• yesman@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

  Boy, you’ve obviously never seen Precious (2009)

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• Steve@startrek.website ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

  Malcom in the middle did it

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• rottenmummy@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

  Sopranos, she literally tries to kill him.

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  • Rubisco@slrpnk.net ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

    Image

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• SnotFlickerman@lemmy.blahaj.zone ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

  Both of my parents were abusive in their own special way.

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• ivanafterall@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

  A few examples that came to mind that others didn’t list:

  Psycho and its reboot or whatever. Possibly THE example.

  Mindhunter definitely touches on abusive mothers.

  And I don’t want to spoil it, but dear God watch The Bear and prepare to be fucking broken.

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• sharkfucker420@lemmy.ml ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

  Idk disney kinda does this sometimes but usally with adootive/step mothers

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• sunzu2@thebrainbin.org ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

  I wouldn't say never and when they are people have harder time noticing because it requires pretty high emotional intelligence to understand that shit ain't right.

  Woman's abuse just looks different. It is verbal and behavioral generally speaking. Woman can say something to the child and nobody in the room will notice. The kid sure knew what's up tho.

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• TheLeadenSea@sh.itjust.works ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

  Have you ever heard of Marisa Coulter from His Dark Materials? Just to add to all the other examples people have given

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• bleistift2@sopuli.xyz ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

  Alpha from The Walking Dead.

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• Taleya@aussie.zone ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

  Carrie, precious, tangled, mommie dearest, black swan, ghosts (US), Strange New Worlds, Sopranos, Bojack Horseman, plenty of movies and shows with abusive mothers

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• LadyButterfly@reddthat.com ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

  I totally agree the forgiveness and happy ever after is bullshit. It’s also dangerous, giving people false hope and putting them at risk. Statistically, the murder rate alone shows women are more at risk from abusive men than vice versa. Although women are more likely to be primary caregivers, increasing access to the child

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• Rhynoplaz@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

  Animal Kingdom has an abusive mother. Pretty good criminal series. Reminded me of Sons of Anarchy.

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• Jerb322@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

  Yeah, there’s a reason my 28 years old son still talks to me and not his mother.

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• jewbies@lemmynsfw.com ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

  Because women are wonderful. Look it up.

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  • DeathByBigSad@sh.itjust.works ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

    Like Marine Le Pen? Park Geun-hye? Marjorie Taylor Greene? Lauren Bobert?

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    • jewbies@lemmynsfw.com ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

      lol don’t Anna Paulina Luna

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• NegentropicBoy@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

  Betty Davis in The Little Foxes

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• zqps@sh.itjust.works ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

  So reality is only your lived experience, not that of others?

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• tisktisk@piefed.social ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

  Strange to make a gender distinction here. I know people love their categories, but I'm curious to know how your outlook focused on gender rather than other characteristics like race or nationality

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