MyBrainHurts
@MyBrainHurts@lemmy.ca
- Comment on Why do i tip my bartender $2 per drink and per bar food order but 20% when I order food from a waitress? Am I tipping wrong? 1 hour ago:
Really depends.
Typically, $1 is for a standup bar etc with high volume.
If I’m sitting at the bar top, getting fed, I’ll tip like I would were I sitting at a table. If I’m just sucking down beers, probably a buck or two a drink and if I’ve been a while, a 5 on top at the end.
But, I’ve known a lot of people in the industry etc… Also I’ve found that being a good person who tips helps out in the long run, it’s nice getting the occasional free drink, having the server on your side when flirting with folks at the bar etc. Best one was the bartender gave me really high end ski gloves that had been left behind a couple nights prior, the cash equivalent would’ve been huge.
As they say, it’s nice to be nice.
- Comment on Why do i tip my bartender $2 per drink and per bar food order but 20% when I order food from a waitress? Am I tipping wrong? 1 hour ago:
You not tipping doesn’t teach the business owner, it just hurts those who aren’t in a position to change things and depending on the place, really need help. I’ve known too single moms who were servers to agree with this.
Lobby your local politicians, seek out places that don’t accept tips but don’t be a cheapskate and act like it’s a noble cause.
- Comment on Why is the abusive parent always portrayed as being the father, why is the mother never portrayed as abusive? 3 days ago:
Yeah, I think the underlying message in a lot of disney is you’re better off with a dead mom than a live one.
- Comment on Why is the abusive parent always portrayed as being the father, why is the mother never portrayed as abusive? 4 days ago:
Not really answering the question but if you’re looking for movies with an abusive mom, there are more than a few! (especially horror.) Off the top of my head:
Carrie is the classic, hereditary is a new classic. Braindead (dead alive) is a classic splatter horror.
Non horror: I Tonya, black swan, Mommie Dearest, Precious, Beau is afraid, Wild at Heart and maybe 8 mile?
- Comment on [deleted] 6 days ago:
It’s a uhhh, metaphor. Not actually about housing but about being forced to learn a new skill (in this case, dating.) The more common expression/metaphor would be “thrown into the deep end.”
- Comment on [deleted] 6 days ago:
Honestly, I found dating in my late 20s early 30s to be the best. Everyone’s been in a few relationships, people are starting to get their shit figured out, folks generally have some disposable income etc. Yeah, some folks have baggage but others had baggage from family, high school or whatever else and some have worked through it.
Late 30s onwards, there’s a lot of “I’ve been to 4 weddings this summer, when is it myyyyyyyyy turn!” Or on the 2nd date, “let’s make a baby!”
- Comment on Cyberstalking has surged by 70% in the UK since 2012, study finds 2 weeks ago:
That’s actually probably impressive.
In 2013, instagram hit 100 million monthly users (and now has 20x that, unsure about geographic distribution but…). I personally assume cyber stalking and mass online social media adoption are reasonably correlated.
Rough thesis? Back in the day, higher proportion of people were cyber stalked. Many more people went publicly online, more people stalked but as a percentage of those online, probably less than the apparently brave trail blazers.
- Comment on Spare a moment for all the children who were never born because their would-be fathers sterilized themselves imitating this show 2 weeks ago:
I think one of the most impressive pieces of comedy was in a random Jackass sketch.
Mall boxing, Knoxville squares off against a one time super heavyweight champion, Butterbean. Butterbean laughs, lets Knoxville take a free shot then proceeds to one punch Knoxville unconscious. Paramedics come and as they’re attending to Knoxville he comes to, looks around and immediately asks “Is Butterbean okay?”
I die every time. The wherewithal to come out from an almost certain concussion with such a ludicrous assertion/question, just goddamnit, it’s perfect.
- Comment on What do you call the first person with a new genetic mutation 5 weeks ago:
- Comment on What's the solution to QR code phishing? 5 weeks ago:
Which of those groups do you routinely lie to?
- Comment on What's the solution to QR code phishing? 1 month ago:
“Sorry date/group of friends/family/work function, we can’t eat here. I don’t want to scan a QR code.”
- Comment on Do the needs of the many outweigh the needs of the few? 1 month ago:
Judging by how many people wear clothes made by children in sweatshops, I’d say the wants of the many seem to outweigh the needs of the few.
- Comment on My Take Home Pay 1 month ago:
Admittedly, a lot of taxes are misspent but a quarter of your income seems a bargain.
For example, I imagine getting to your jon would be really difficult without roads. Or a semi functional legal system that stops people from just robbing your business whenever they feel like it. Or a system that enforces contracts and property rights.
I’ve had a job where I didn’t pay taxes. It didn’t end well.
- Comment on Movies not starting when they are scheduled. 1 month ago:
Oh heck, I never thought of just asking! (Admittedly, I’m usually high as balls and socially awkward at a movie but still!)
- Comment on Ads when you’re pumping gas 2 months ago:
Straight down the centre.
- Comment on How do you gently tell someone you only want to keep seeing them if it's on a dating level? 2 months ago:
I’d like to be friends but only if we can have sex.
Doesn’t really sound like a rock solid friendship there.
- Comment on Stupid question: how does one watch old movies? 2 months ago:
Yarrrrrrrrrrrrrrr
- Comment on 10 Years Ago, A Legendary Sci-Fi Director Showed Hollywood The Secret To Reviving A Franchise 2 months ago:
It was, it.was just nowhere near as good so we all forgot about it.
I suppose that’s the corollary, if you try to follow up the best action movie of the 21st century, best not miss.
- Comment on 10 Years Ago, A Legendary Sci-Fi Director Showed Hollywood The Secret To Reviving A Franchise 2 months ago:
All you have to do is make the best action movie of the 21st century and boom, franchise revived!
- Comment on What movies have you watched this week? 3 months ago:
We are Still Here.
Under the radar horror that hit me just right. They have an absolute blast with it.
- Comment on What do office workers actually do? 3 months ago:
I can only give my experience and I think mine is a bit unusual but here goes.
Like the Office Space folks, I’m a dev in a large (admittedly, non profit and really good) organization. Since covid, I’ve worked remotely but my day to day hasn’t changed.
We have a help desk where people send questions/issues. Someone on our team generally splits those roughly based on workload, skills, knowledge etc. Our goal is about half our work should be those one off requests.
I also have client units within the organization. They usually come to me with wild, bold ideas that I help make a reality or explain (gently) why what they are asking for is insane. Some of thr projects are based on what folks have heard are best practices in our industry, others are about cutting down manual work/seeing what we can automate.
Any of those projects can take anywhere from a couple hours to a couple of months. Some require buy in from other units, so on those I end up on a lot of meetings and email threads answering questions, hearing suggestions etc. I then (usually) coordinate with my manager to make sure I’m not stepping on any toes or there aren’t considerations which I had yet to consider.
Today for example, I spent about half the day working on help desk tickets, about 1/3 of my time was clarifying “what the hell are you trying to say?” Or pointing out logical gaps etc (much easier to do this upfront than write a bunch of code and have someone realize they meant something else entirely… People are dumb.) The other 2/3 was coding.
On my major projects, I spent an annoying amount of time emailing around to get approvals so a project manager would accept that my clients were fine with something I built, even though it was a bit unorthodox. Then a couple hours actually working on another project.
Plus, y’know, Lemmy time, cat skritching time and a bit of cooking.
Admittedly, my experience is unusual. I’m hihhly skilled but slightly underpaid in a non profit, so folks compensate by giving a lot of leeway. So a nice work environment plus I think what I do makes the world a better place, I’m pretty happy. I understand most office jobs are not quite like that but I don’t think they’re far off.
- Comment on [deleted] 5 months ago:
It’s wild how many of trump’s decisions are exactly what Putin wants.
