Never tell them what you want. Only be passive aggressively pissed off when they don’t do it.
How to love
Submitted 3 days ago by Yuyarl@sh.itjust.works to [deleted]
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raod_guitar@feddit.org 3 days ago
Xanthrax@lemmy.world 3 days ago
I have ADD, and my partner has GAD. I always feel bad about the pacing. 90% of the time, I’ve lost my train of thought/ something. I noticed if I say, "I’m fine; I’m just looking for something."It helps a lot.
buddascrayon@lemmy.world 2 days ago
I could be wrong but I think the pacing referred to in this post is a physical manifestation of impatience.
andros_rex@lemmy.world 2 days ago
Hey, it’s a list of my ex husbands favorite tips and tricks!
Did you know that “square breathing” exercises are not helpful when someone’s yelling at you to do them?
daggermoon@lemmy.world 2 days ago
I’m sorry to hear about your bastard ex husband. The only thing that’s really helped my anxiety is drugs. I’m guessing you’ve tried that though. Square breathing never really worked for me. Hope things are better now.
SatansMaggotyCumFart@lemmy.world 3 days ago
Have you ever tried gaslighting someone?
That shit isn’t as easy as they make it sound.
King3d@lemmy.world 3 days ago
There’s no such thing as gaslighting. Your making it up because your paranoid that everyone’s out to get you.
lugal@lemmy.dbzer0.com 3 days ago
Are you gaslighting me into thinking no one is ever gone gaslight me so it’s easier for your co conspirator to gaslight me in the future? I’m not making things up! People are up against me and your comment is proof!
Carrot@lemmy.today 3 days ago
Gaslighting? I’m pretty sure the term you’re looking for is gaslamping. Don’t worry, it’s a pretty common mistake for people to make.
Siegfried@lemmy.world 3 days ago
Oh my god! I can’t believe OP mistook gaslighting for gaslamping… I thought that that was one of those mistakes nobody does anymore.
KillingTimeItself@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 days ago
are you sure it’s gaslamping? last i heard gaslamping is a term for when you start making random shit into gas lamps for no particular reason, seems to be a weird anomalous quality of certain post industrialized human societies.
Track_Shovel@slrpnk.net 3 days ago
AFaithfulNihilist@lemmy.world 3 days ago
that shit isn’t as easy as they make it sound.
Yeah it is. You must be remembering it wrong.
OmegaLemmy@discuss.online 3 days ago
Nearly everyone gets gaslit if you try, what do you mean?
peregrin5@lemm.ee 3 days ago
That’s because the real term is gas-lamping, not gas-lighting. The term was invented around the Victorian period where the primary source of lighting were gas-lamps.
raoulduke85@lemm.ee 3 days ago
I get annoyed when my wife uses that term every time I disagree with her.
Tai@lemm.ee 3 days ago
What are you talking about? It’s super easy you idiot.
^/s^
CidVicious@sh.itjust.works 3 days ago
The secret is persistence.
Zorsith@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 days ago
Anything you say, do, or express interest in, can and will be used against you.
100_kg_90_de_belin@feddit.it 2 days ago
My father must have written this post from the pinewood box he’s in.
AFC1886VCC@reddthat.com 3 days ago
“Pace around for no fucking reason” this sounds hilarious, it would even irritate people without anxiety.
Zizzy@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 days ago
For me, its not that it would be irritating, but rather spike my anxiety and makee very uncomfortable, a feeling of being unsafe moreso than irratation
papalonian@lemmy.world 3 days ago
Sending this to my girlfriend, Nicole
Doom@ttrpg.network 2 days ago
Wow my ex must’ve taken this post to heart
Rachelhazideas@lemmy.world 2 days ago
*How to love someone with anxiety after going insane from carrying the entire mental load while they refuse to get help.
buddascrayon@lemmy.world 2 days ago
This brings to mind the highly underrated movie Stuart Saves His Family. Surviving toxic people is hard, but it’s even harder for anyone with anxiety disorders.
KillingTimeItself@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 days ago
Repeat yourself? Why?
I’m confused.
blind3rdeye@lemm.ee 2 days ago
Repeat yourself? Why?
I’m confused.
KillingTimeItself@lemmy.dbzer0.com 19 hours ago
That’s what im trying to figure out!
hexabs@lemmy.world 2 days ago
Pete repeat!
ininewcrow@lemmy.ca 3 days ago
Honey? … is … is that you? … I’m sorry
Maggoty@lemmy.world 3 days ago
I had to check the sub. I was loading the proverbial shotgun. You got me OP. :)
Coldgoron@lemm.ee 3 days ago
My Nicole checklist.
devilish666@lemmy.world 3 days ago
peteypete420@sh.itjust.works 2 days ago
These tips actually work for most loved ones.
Deathray5@lemmynsfw.com 3 days ago
I don’t mind pacing. Partly as I do it
Melvin_Ferd@lemmy.world 2 days ago
Beautiful, society is healing
AgentOrangesicle@lemmy.world 2 days ago
Ow.
rockerface@lemm.ee 3 days ago
So this is the guide my parents used
Yuyarl@sh.itjust.works 3 days ago
I know many people who handled it just fine, it must be a you problem. You probably misunderstood them most of the time. I’m sure they just wanted the best for you. A friend of mine handled it just fine and turned out a better person than most. Really, you must be overreacting to something that was probably just discipline. Surely, they wished the best for you and tried to build your character.
tap for spoileueueuer
/s
FauxLiving@lemmy.world 3 days ago
It’s like being a kid again 🤩
some_guy@lemmy.sdf.org 3 days ago
You’re just ungrateful.
flambonkscious@sh.itjust.works 2 days ago
Wow, that’s some exceptional train of thought stuff.
Ouch. AF.
Zorsith@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 days ago
Yeah… i started tensing up halfway through reading this.
Kyrgizion@lemmy.world 3 days ago
Been out of the house for 20 years, things have never changed.