Never tell them what you want. Only be passive aggressively pissed off when they don’t do it.
How to love
Submitted 11 months ago by Yuyarl@sh.itjust.works to [deleted]
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raod_guitar@feddit.org 11 months ago
Xanthrax@lemmy.world 11 months ago
I have ADD, and my partner has GAD. I always feel bad about the pacing. 90% of the time, I’ve lost my train of thought/ something. I noticed if I say, "I’m fine; I’m just looking for something."It helps a lot.
buddascrayon@lemmy.world 11 months ago
I could be wrong but I think the pacing referred to in this post is a physical manifestation of impatience.
SatansMaggotyCumFart@lemmy.world 11 months ago
Have you ever tried gaslighting someone?
That shit isn’t as easy as they make it sound.
King3d@lemmy.world 11 months ago
There’s no such thing as gaslighting. Your making it up because your paranoid that everyone’s out to get you.
lugal@lemmy.dbzer0.com 11 months ago
Are you gaslighting me into thinking no one is ever gone gaslight me so it’s easier for your co conspirator to gaslight me in the future? I’m not making things up! People are up against me and your comment is proof!
Carrot@lemmy.today 11 months ago
Gaslighting? I’m pretty sure the term you’re looking for is gaslamping. Don’t worry, it’s a pretty common mistake for people to make.
Siegfried@lemmy.world 11 months ago
Oh my god! I can’t believe OP mistook gaslighting for gaslamping… I thought that that was one of those mistakes nobody does anymore.
KillingTimeItself@lemmy.dbzer0.com 11 months ago
are you sure it’s gaslamping? last i heard gaslamping is a term for when you start making random shit into gas lamps for no particular reason, seems to be a weird anomalous quality of certain post industrialized human societies.
Track_Shovel@slrpnk.net 11 months ago
AFaithfulNihilist@lemmy.world 11 months ago
that shit isn’t as easy as they make it sound.
Yeah it is. You must be remembering it wrong.
OmegaLemmy@discuss.online 11 months ago
Nearly everyone gets gaslit if you try, what do you mean?
peregrin5@lemm.ee 11 months ago
That’s because the real term is gas-lamping, not gas-lighting. The term was invented around the Victorian period where the primary source of lighting were gas-lamps.
raoulduke85@lemm.ee 11 months ago
I get annoyed when my wife uses that term every time I disagree with her.
Tai@lemm.ee 11 months ago
What are you talking about? It’s super easy you idiot.
^/s^
CidVicious@sh.itjust.works 11 months ago
The secret is persistence.
andros_rex@lemmy.world 11 months ago
Hey, it’s a list of my ex husbands favorite tips and tricks!
Did you know that “square breathing” exercises are not helpful when someone’s yelling at you to do them?
daggermoon@lemmy.world 11 months ago
I’m sorry to hear about your bastard ex husband. The only thing that’s really helped my anxiety is drugs. I’m guessing you’ve tried that though. Square breathing never really worked for me. Hope things are better now.
Zorsith@lemmy.blahaj.zone 11 months ago
Anything you say, do, or express interest in, can and will be used against you.
100_kg_90_de_belin@feddit.it 11 months ago
My father must have written this post from the pinewood box he’s in.
AFC1886VCC@reddthat.com 11 months ago
“Pace around for no fucking reason” this sounds hilarious, it would even irritate people without anxiety.
Zizzy@lemmy.blahaj.zone 11 months ago
For me, its not that it would be irritating, but rather spike my anxiety and makee very uncomfortable, a feeling of being unsafe moreso than irratation
papalonian@lemmy.world 11 months ago
Sending this to my girlfriend, Nicole
Doom@ttrpg.network 11 months ago
Wow my ex must’ve taken this post to heart
ininewcrow@lemmy.ca 11 months ago
Honey? … is … is that you? … I’m sorry
Rachelhazideas@lemmy.world 11 months ago
*How to love someone with anxiety after going insane from carrying the entire mental load while they refuse to get help.
buddascrayon@lemmy.world 11 months ago
This brings to mind the highly underrated movie Stuart Saves His Family. Surviving toxic people is hard, but it’s even harder for anyone with anxiety disorders.
Maggoty@lemmy.world 11 months ago
I had to check the sub. I was loading the proverbial shotgun. You got me OP. :)
KillingTimeItself@lemmy.dbzer0.com 11 months ago
Repeat yourself? Why?
I’m confused.
blind3rdeye@lemm.ee 11 months ago
Repeat yourself? Why?
I’m confused.
hexabs@lemmy.world 11 months ago
Pete repeat!
KillingTimeItself@lemmy.dbzer0.com 11 months ago
That’s what im trying to figure out!
Coldgoron@lemm.ee 11 months ago
My Nicole checklist.
devilish666@lemmy.world 11 months ago
peteypete420@sh.itjust.works 11 months ago
These tips actually work for most loved ones.
Deathray5@lemmynsfw.com 11 months ago
I don’t mind pacing. Partly as I do it
Melvin_Ferd@lemmy.world 11 months ago
Beautiful, society is healing
AgentOrangesicle@lemmy.world 11 months ago
Ow.
rockerface@lemm.ee 11 months ago
So this is the guide my parents used
Yuyarl@sh.itjust.works 11 months ago
I know many people who handled it just fine, it must be a you problem. You probably misunderstood them most of the time. I’m sure they just wanted the best for you. A friend of mine handled it just fine and turned out a better person than most. Really, you must be overreacting to something that was probably just discipline. Surely, they wished the best for you and tried to build your character.
tap for spoileueueuer
/s
FauxLiving@lemmy.world 11 months ago
It’s like being a kid again 🤩
some_guy@lemmy.sdf.org 11 months ago
You’re just ungrateful.
flambonkscious@sh.itjust.works 11 months ago
Wow, that’s some exceptional train of thought stuff.
Ouch. AF.
Zorsith@lemmy.blahaj.zone 11 months ago
Yeah… i started tensing up halfway through reading this.
Kyrgizion@lemmy.world 11 months ago
Been out of the house for 20 years, things have never changed.