andros_rex
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- Comment on Darn it 2 days ago:
I grew up in the kind of place where conservative fundamentalists still identified as Democrats into the 90s - Dixiecrats were alive and well. Heard rants from relatives about the monstrous government overreach into the ‘10s.
- Comment on Darn it 2 days ago:
They are still buttmad that Jimmy Carter asked them to not use up gasoline like toilet paper after a day of chipotle and Taco Bell. Its oppositional defiant disorder as politics. Remember how absolutely pissed people were about seat belt laws?
- Comment on downloaded rednote and this a frequent emote in the comments 3 days ago:
I can’t see any evidence of 小红书 being used to described the Quotations. The term for that book I see being used is 红宝书 - “treasured red book.”
- Comment on Anon goes on a first date 4 days ago:
Keep in mind this is a 4chan green text, so the faux pas may have been mentioning Boku No Pico or something less innocent than “anime”
It’s not necessarily about “changing who you are,” it can be about the way you express those hobbies. Some people are definitely unfairly biased against video games and anime, but some people have encountered people who explore those hobbies in an unhealthy way.
Eg, when I am dating, I do avoid people who list gaming as their primary interest, even as a gamer myself. I might message someone who has a particular game I like mentioned in their profile, but rarely. Having gaming and anime listed primarily/only just has not been a good indicator - especially when it is left as generic as “gaming” and “anime.” Balder’s Gate 3 is normie-af and I doubt was the problem.
They can be very isolating hobbies too in how they are pursued - sometimes as a form of escapism for deeper issues. I wasted most of my twenties being a bang maid and mommy for my husband as he rotated through FIFA and Ubisoft releases, and I don’t think my experience is necessarily unique. He had a pastor who almost went through a divorce because of a World of Warcraft addiction. That’s the kind of thing that’s going to flash through most heterosexual women’s minds. It is painful to come home after work to a grunt and a pile of dishes and the flash of the screen. This is not to say that all or most gamers are like this - if you do game and have a partner, you should sit and think to yourself about how it does relate to the time spent on other types of hobbies.
Another aspect is that receptive/passive hobbies can be less interesting to talk about? Listening to someone rehash a show is usually going to be less interesting then watching the show. Remember that a first date especially needs to have a lot of push and pull. If they haven’t watched the show, a brief this is what it is this is why I like it, what shows do you like? With games, try to find out what games they like first and match their power level. The Sims and farming games are safe and common - and if you make someone feel comfortable by listening to them talk about their Sims legacy challenge, you can talk about the benefits of your Smash main.
But also, the technical aspects of someone else’s hobby are just not something that most will want to listen to, without already having a connection. I’d love if I could make genitals flush by showing off my Hush runs or the fact that one time in Nethack I actually got a character through the mines and to the castle.
- Comment on JeSUS 1 week ago:
Unless I linked the wrong breakdown, he goes into examples in the Bible of when feet are euphemistically, and compares those to the descriptions of Jesus washing feet - that they had dissimilar language and don’t match. I don’t think you can gloss what he said as “people who study the Bible don’t agree on it” - he’s an academic, and academics couch their language. I thought it was clear that he was mildly entertaining the idea more out of amusement and to give some context as an educator.
Like, so ridiculous a suggestion that you would need substantial evidence for it be reasonable. The symbolism behind the act of service seems fairly clear - washing feet is placing yourself in submission to someone. Aligns with more explicit textual things: “turn the other cheek” etc.
- Comment on JeSUS 1 week ago:
Also a convenient place to dump non-inheriting sons.
- Comment on JeSUS 1 week ago:
- Comment on *cough cough* GOLLUM *cough cough* 1 week ago:
Mainly I’m going to slave these bitches […] I’m going to make them work even more hours and hours and hours… I work these bitches like slaves. […] SLAVE work. Minimum 10 or 12 hours a day."
“I don’t want to tell them that they have OnlyFans, I want that money to be used by me and you, screw them…”
“I don’t want them to have the passwords, I don’t want them to have anything.”
- Comment on There was a time when everyone had common sense 1 week ago:
Also helps them get away with hiding shoddy/cheap parts.
~2018-2020 Hondas have defective air condensers. They aren’t rated for the refrigerant. They are basically guaranteed to fail. You also have to go to a dealership to get your AC serviced. There’s a warranty for the AC, but it’s that dealer that checks whether your AC meets the warranty or not (amazing how easy it is to find bits of debris and deny the warranty when no third party can double check.
You could crack open an original Xbox and do a lot of modifications with it. The Xbox 360 was designed to be as annoying to take apart as possible, possibly to hide the cheap components that lead to the red ring of death…
- Comment on Birds with red eyes are coming 2 weeks ago:
Reminds me of the Dustmen from Planescape: Torment. Maybe in our future, even death won’t be a retirement.
- Comment on Capricorn Two 2 weeks ago:
It’s Route 66 memorabilia - shit like “oh shit this is an oddly round barn” is considered notable. There’s also a whale that looks like a fifth graders paper mache project.
- Comment on Maybe, just maybe, a company that refuses to give you time off if you have a bullet inside of you is a really really shitty company 2 weeks ago:
Yes, all people in southern states vote with their state. There are no queer people in the south!
- Comment on FRAG OUT! 2 weeks ago:
Here’s Mike Pence’s reaction to Mulan, when it came out I could dig up some similar Limbaugh guff. Peterson is not that original or smart.
Just spent a memorable Fathers Day, like so many other all American Hoosier dads, with my kids at the new Disney film entitled, “Mulan”. For those who have not yet been victimized by the McDonald’s induced hysteria over this film, Mulan is a fictional account of a delicate girl of the same name who surreptitiously takes her fathers place in the Chinese army in one of their ancient wars against the Huns. Despite her delicate features and voice, Disney expects us to believe that Mulan’s ingenuity and courage were enough to carry her to military success on an equal basis with her cloddish cohorts. Obviously, this is Walt Disney’s attempt to add childhood expectation to the cultural debate over the role of women in the military. I suspect that some mischievous liberal at Disney assumes that Mulan’s story will cause a quiet change in the next generation’s attitude about women in combat and they just might be right. (Just think about how often we think of Bambi every time the subject of deer hunting comes into the mainstream media debate.)
The only problem with this liberal hope is the reality which intrudes on the Disney ideal from the mornings headlines. From the original “Tailhook” scandal involving scores of high ranking navy fighter pilots who molested subordinate women to the latest travesty at Aberdeen Proving Grounds, the hard truth of our experiment with gender integration is that is has been an almost complete disaster for the military and for many of the individual women involved. When Indiana Congressman Steve Buyer was appointed to investigate the Aberdeen mess, he shocked the public with the revelation that young, nubile, 18 year old men and women were actually being HOUSED together during basic training. Whatever bone head came up with this idea should be run out of this man’s Army before sundown. Housing, in close quarters, young men and women (in some cases married to non-military personnel) at the height of their physical and sexual potential is the height of stupidity. It is instructive that even in the Disney film, young Ms. Mulan falls in love with her superior officer! Me thinks the politically correct Disney types completely missed the irony of this part of the story. They likely added it because it added realism with which the viewer could identify with the characters. You see, now stay with me on this, many young men find many young women to be attractive sexually. Many young women find many young men to be attractive sexually. Put them together, in close quarters, for long periods of time, and things will get interesting. Just like they eventually did for young Mulan. Moral of story: women in military, bad idea.
- Comment on FRAG OUT! 2 weeks ago:
There’s also the original 1940 version of Fantasia.
That Dumbo has a crow named “Jim” in a group of three behaving remarkably like minstrel show characters is also… unpleasant.
- Comment on FRAG OUT! 2 weeks ago:
The term woke is at least around 100 years old.
It was specifically a reminder to stay “woke” (awake) of the threat of lunching.
- Comment on FRAG OUT! 2 weeks ago:
Disney made Pixar remove a trans character from an upcoming TV series.
They also pulled an episode of Moon Girl and Devil Dinosaur which had a trans character.
How many gay characters have there been across mainline Disney films? They shoved some token representation into terrible films that weren’t going to be successful anyway (live action Beauty and the Beast and I guess there’s lesbians in Lightyear? As a gay trans man, I can shut Mulan off halfway through and pretend) Make some shitty movies (because why let a queer sully a good movie?), get some notoriety with the backlash, and then say “movies with queers in them don’t sell! Nothing for it!”
These are the same people were throwing fits about teenage girls talking about periods and boys in Turning Red. Maybe it’s time to stop listening to them.
- Comment on Mental health 3 weeks ago:
I’ve only ever had a bad trip from THC - like 1000 mg+ of good quality indica, which I don’t react well to in general. Experienced what was specifically the Christian hell.
The worst I’ve gotten from mushrooms was tummy troubles and some hot flashes. LSA and mescaline were about the same. As long as one has good music, movies (Koyaanisqatsi is amazing if you like Samsara), art… the mind wonders so much that if you just let it the bad trip will fade. Bad trips come from resisting the experience.
- Comment on Mental health 3 weeks ago:
I’ve only done solo trips. It depends on how you react. I think movies present psychedelics as more “effective” than they are. In my experience, even at relatively heroic doses, I don’t really lose my connection to reality. I get nice visuals, I get some profound feeling thoughts, and spend most of the time just curled up on the couch watching TV.
The pink elephants/elaborate real looking hallucinations aren’t really a thing I think. It’s more pattern based - things turn into swirls and moving color. You don’t see things that aren’t “there” necessarily, more that things are more dynamic.
- Comment on Mental health 3 weeks ago:
You’ll see it in trust fund kids back from festivals. They learn that other humans have feelings, which is really mind blowing, but as far as changing behavior in any way…
- Comment on These dames wanting inclusivity 3 weeks ago:
Pointing out how fucked up it was wasn’t very popular at the time - it was all about the “free speech”. This was the era of professional quote makers and dictionary definitions of ephebophilia. Reddit refused to take any action on jailbait until the Anderson Cooper special. Violentacrez was doxxed by Gawker, if you just look at the list of subreddit names it’s enough.
Factor in the plausible idea that Ghislaine Maxwell may have been a Reddit power user…
- Comment on These dames wanting inclusivity 3 weeks ago:
It’s important to note that jailbait featured girls who were intentionally posed/looked much younger than bordering 17. I think people might try to justify it/imagine it as older looking teenagers, it was not.
The mods/power users also traded CSAM, and comment sections were used for trading the real thing. There may have been official rules against it, but these communities had codes.
There was also violentacrez little empire. I don’t understand what purpose a community like “picsofdeadkids” has. I think even if you are a free speech absolutist you can question what obligation Reddit had to host such content.
- Comment on I'm pretty sure all of us have given up on any boomer giving us anything anyway 4 weeks ago:
I was sexually/otherwise abused by my mother for most of my life. When I brought it up to family, I was basically told to shut up about it/“go to therapy.” They spent thousands torturing me in troubled teen facilities, and provided me with nothing for college (which I paid for with multiple jobs and sex work.)
I will never own a house. I spent almost two years after my divorce to just be able to afford an apartment. My family has never valued me - I will not give them the comfort they denied when it is the end. My entire life has been a hell.
- Comment on Ewww 5 weeks ago:
- Comment on Do you want the murderer of the UnitHealthcare CEO prosecuted? 1 month ago:
Vigilante Justice in this case seems a lot better than police justice. How many people do cops murder in cold blood each year?
- Comment on what a moment to live 1 month ago:
Cuz nobody figures out who denied your claim when your dad had to die right?
This is part of the hell that we live in.
If you have a complaint about any corporation, you can’t do anything about it. They all run phone trees designed to waste your time and make it impossible to reach anyone who can actually do anything. They pay call center workers in India nothing to take the frustration which should be directed at the C-suites.
We live in a world with zero accountability for anyone with a sizable bank account.
- Comment on Reactor goes brrr 1 month ago:
Chernobyl could have been so much worse.
Considering the unregulated capitalist hell scale we live in, I can’t trust that some mega corp wouldn’t cut corners.
- Comment on human anteaters 1 month ago:
The odorous black house ant is pretty common in the US. The smell is pretty pronounced if you crush them - grad student I was doing field work under randomly shouted “come smell my finger!” and yeah - it’s very much like blue cheese.
- Comment on Why does it seem most people, mainly conservatives, against Trans people? Unless I am wrong I never heard of one shooting up a school church or whatever. The ones I have met have been pretty cool. 1 month ago:
Remember how the police/Alex Jones kept making big talk about a “manifesto” which never manifested?
- Comment on Why does it seem most people, mainly conservatives, against Trans people? Unless I am wrong I never heard of one shooting up a school church or whatever. The ones I have met have been pretty cool. 1 month ago:
Uneducated people in rural areas struggle very much with understanding their experiences of others, and have very strange ideas about how the world works. I told my grandmother I wanted to move to Chicago - she’s convinced I’m going to get gang murdered. (She would be horrified if I told her about wandering around LA on foot)
The idea that there are options other than cisgender heterosexual people is threatening to their understanding of their world. Many have not thought about their gender or sexuality; it’s assumed that you’ll get married to the opposite sex, get gender appropriate jobs, have kids, and go to church on Sunday. That’s what life is in Anadarko or Siloam Springs. Many also struggle with unaddressed trauma from the opioid/fent crisis, or military service - so they think the appropriate response to anguish about your body should just be to just cope with it.
Many of these men are secretly bisexual. Many, many, many heterosexually married men seek out sexual encounters with gay men on the side. They would never want to be in a relationship with a man or someone they perceived as a strange, mentally defective man - for many of them that would also assault their understandings of a relationship as more of a property thing. They feel guilty about porn usage, especially the Christian ones, but externalize it as hatred.
The woman are miserable and are committed to making everyone else miserable as well. You gain power in those communities by policing others, especially young women. They are threatened by the idea that they weren’t locked into compulsive heterosexuality and performative femininity. There was a possibility that they could have graduated college, or not had children.
They get the program though. They’re proper Puritans. If life is suffering then the only joy to be had is in watching other people. And what better target than those who are defying our most basic sociological roles? These are the same people who host gender reveal parties - it matters to them. So it must matter to everyone else.
That’s my guess as a trans man at least, obviously I’m biased.
- Comment on Withdrawal is going to make people go mad 1 month ago:
It isn’t something I had ever heard until I attended a lecture by the National Security Decision Making Game folks - they are intense on history. (And I genuinely have a bachelors degree in history - with an American focus)
Essentially, the French and Indian war fucking sucked for the Crown and Kingdom. It was mega expensive and difficult and ya know, the Indians live there. Who knows how many of them there are, if we keep pissing them off it’s going to keep costing us money. Soldiers cost money. Sending soldiers across the ocean costs a lot of money.
The French had a lot more native allies. The Americans were constantly being mega dicks, the French weren’t awesome but they were relatively chill.
Anyway, they finally win this expensive ass war and get some land. Indians live on it. Americans want land now - the Crown wants to not start another war and would in fact like a nice buffer state. At the very least, it’s a good idea to take some time to lick some wounds and figure out what We want to do. (I suspect if George could have foreseen the French Revolution, maybe they would be more agrees - something to try if you play NSDM lol).
The Americans are not happy. And they keep pushing into native lands, making illegal and shady treaties, all the while having a fucking meltdown about having to pay taxes for all these fucking soldiers that are protecting them when people get mad about having their land stolen. The Crown is having to say things like “hey no you can’t buy Kentucky from like one guy.”
It’s one thing to be pissed off about paying taxes - it’s another to have the promise of land. In a way, we were built similarly to Rome.