Daily Discussion Thread: 🐬🦭🦈 Friday, 10 January, 2025

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• StudChud@aussie.zone ⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

  Hello, I am here. Never left just stopped posting. I was quitting smoking, since new years. I’ve been withdrawing, and all the lovely symptoms that go along with it have been wrecking me.

  I made it to today and relapsed.
  I don’t want to die of cancer.
  I WILL try again after this pouch. 💪🏼

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  • MeanElevator@aussie.zone ⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

    Ditch the pouch and pretend it didn’t happen.

    Quitting cigs is ridiculously hard. Can’t remember how many tries it took me. Finally kicked it, but the first relapse isn’t the end.

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    • StudChud@aussie.zone ⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

      I’ll try to.

      This is the second time I tried. First time I made it 9 months. Just 9 days this time. But I can do it. It’s only going to be healthier for me and my household.

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  • Baku@aussie.zone ⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

    Glad you’re still around. I must admit, I was getting worried about you as well

    I’ve never been in your position, so I don’t want to offer useless advice. But I’m glad you’re working on it as best you can. It’s a hard habit to kick

    Also, if I might insert my 2c: you made it 10 days. You’ve just proved to yourself you can do it. Sometimes it just takes a few goes. When my mum was trying to quit, the first time she made it 16 hours. The 2nd time she made it 2 days. Then 4. She “failed” every time, but AFAIK she’s managed to break out now, and no longer smokes

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    • StudChud@aussie.zone ⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

      Thank you Baku. It’s one of the hardest things I’ve ever done. I thought losing weight would be hard, but that only took cutting out soft drinks and OMAD. This shit is insidious.

      I’m really happy to hear your mum quit! That’s fantastic! Besides, we only fail to quit when we stop trying to quit. She never failed, she succeeded!! Your advice is not useless and neither are you 💜💜💜💜

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  • Bottom_racer@aussie.zone ⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

    ooh it’s hard to kick.

    I tried with vapes but realistically just replaced one addiction with another heh.

    You got this but don’t beat yourself up if there’s a cheeky accident along the way.

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  • Eagle@aussie.zone ⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

    Sending strength to Spud! A step forward, no matter how small, is still a step. The patches worked for me, just enough to take the edge off so smoking wasn’t my only thought. It changed it to an every 5 second thought instead. 12 years free in April this year, and if I can do it, you can too.

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  • PeelerSheila@aussie.zone ⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

    Hey good to hear from you! hugs quitting smoking is the hardest thing I ever did (I smoked for 20+ years). Mr P finds it too hard, refuses to quit and keeps smoking (he’s been smoking for 50+ years). Good on you for getting this far, it’s often a case where you quit in sort of fits and starts before you quit for good. One thing I found really helpful was cutting down with a view to quitting. Over time I went from a pack a day to half a pack, to 6 cigs a day. Then I started to view it in terms of time. It took me 10 minutes to smoke a cigarette, so 6 smokes = 1 hour of the day spent smoking. I told myself, “stop complaining about not having enough hours in the day when you’re wasting an hour every day!” Whatever works, the most important thing is to keep trying. Every time you try and don’t succeed, you learn more about what your triggers were and what made you start again, so the next time you try I find you’re more mindful and prepared and more likely to succeed. It took me about 15 goes before I was successful, so please don’t beat yourself up too much about it. You’ll get there!

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    • StudChud@aussie.zone ⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

      This is so comprehensive thank you! I really appreciate your understanding.

      The first time I made it 9 months, but this time only 9 days. I relapsed the first time when I went to get some drinks with mates and I had one of their ciggies 🤦🏼‍♀️

      This time it’s just my mental health, but if I can quit I can put that money towards actual therapy instead of this bullshit lol. But I will try until it fucking sticks. I want to be here for my cat and my partner.

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  • TinyBreak@aussie.zone ⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

    Pouch? Bruh I say this with love: You fell off the horse and thats totally fine! but throw the rest out. Start now. every extra one you have after the relapse makes it so much harder to quit.

    I STILL want a smoke 8 years later and I only ever smoked when drunk.

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    • StudChud@aussie.zone ⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

      This is a great idea, I’ll try! I’ve only had one so far and just had a cry in the bathroom 😭 lol

      I really appreciate your support and understanding.

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  • Taleya@aussie.zone ⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

    nope. don’t’ do the full pouch. Cut that shit, smoke your day, then JUNK IT. give it to a neighbor, toss it on bin night, get rid of it.

    You will slip up. it happens. Dont’ keep it around when you do. it makes it easier to keep slipping

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  • RustyRaven@aussie.zone ⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

    Quitting is hard. Every attempt teaches us something we can use for the next attempt, eventually you hit on the right thing that works for you.

    Just don’t use my Dad’s method. He tried to quit once. It didn’t work, so instead of trying again he just pretended he didn’t smoke and spent years furtively sneaking off to smoke and buy cigarettes like a teenager. He somehow seemed to fool himself into thinking no one knew, even though it was incredibly obvious. It was bizarre, and meant that when he was finally forced to quit (when he was physically incapable of accessing cigarettes on his own) he had to go through the withdrawal alone and unsupported because he still couldn’t admit he had been smoking the whole time.

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  • Duenan@aussie.zone ⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

    I can’t speak as if I’ve had any experience with smoking but all the best and good luck!

    Keep at it and never give up!

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    • Bottom_racer@aussie.zone ⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

      never give up

      Hol’ up.

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  • dumblederp@aussie.zone ⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

    Took me a hundred goes to quit, keep at it.

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  • melbaboutown@aussie.zone ⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

    It’s ok, you can try again.

    Potentially unwanted 2 cents/how I managed it

    I had a terrible time quitting and what worked to get me off the cigs and then completely smoke free was a cheap reusable vape. I mixed my own liquid or used 0% liquid and very slowly diluted the strength down until I was completely off nicotine. Vaping is not without risks. And the long term effects haven’t been studied. But with a view to quitting if you do try this - get a prescription for the nicotine - buy reputable supplies, including pure glycerin (or premade 0% liquid) - use a dedicated online calculator for the dilutions and measure accurately - keep everything clean - avoid butter flavours (diacetyl) or use unflavoured - don’t use your device with too little liquid in the tank or dry - drip the liquid into new disposable coils/filters to soak them fully before use (so the cotton doesn’t burn) - replace coils the second they get burned or dirty you shouldn’t have too many issues in the time it takes you to quit. Stay away from the black market vapes. You don’t know the strength or what’s in them. And the breathing issues that were reported on in the news were very likely lipid pneumonia, which happens when there’s oil in the liquid. Probably some dodgy black market operator used glycerin intended for the beauty industry containing vitamin e oil.

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  • Seagoon_@aussie.zone ⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

    so many hugs

    You can do this. 💪🏻

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  • LowExperience2368@aussie.zone ⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

    Good to hear from you, Spud.

    The first step to change is realising that it would be good to change something. You can do it. 💜

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• Catfish@aussie.zone ⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

  Have been talking to the bank. I threw up.

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  • TinyBreak@aussie.zone ⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

    yeahhhh you know those home loan adds where the 20 something guy carries his laughing girlfriend through the door? Its NOTHING like that. Least it wasnt for us. We got in the door, basically collapsed on the ground and went “Right, that was fucked and this is a dump so lets at least get rid of these god awful curtains!”

    Bank dicks you at every turn as well.

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    • Taleya@aussie.zone ⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

      but then you pull up some shitty carpet, or get solar installed, or drill a hole for mounting shelves and it’s fucking wild

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    • Duenan@aussie.zone ⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

      I’ve got a distain for bank ads. There was one a little awhile ago with some guy singing totally mangling up a song by wedging in more words than a melody could provide but how tonedeaf to be singing about money when we’re struggling so badly.

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    • Catfish@aussie.zone ⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

      Sounds about right 😺

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  • CEOofmyhouse56@aussie.zone ⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

    Don’t give up. We bought a shit house in a shit house suburb while working shit house jobs with shit house pay driving shit house cars but it’s our shit house and we will grow old together giving each other shit. Hopefully soon you will have that and not have to put up with shit house landlords. Best wishes.

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  • melbaboutown@aussie.zone ⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

    It’s ok. You got this! Fingers crossed for you. When all of it is over you’ll be able to settle in and make the place your own.

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  • Seagoon_@aussie.zone ⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

    it will be ok

    keep your goals in mind

    resist sales pressure, do not agree to anything extra on the spot, say you will discuss it at home

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• dumblederp@aussie.zone ⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

  Just got back from smelling the corpse flower. It smelt a little rotten, looked like I expected it to.

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• Catfish@aussie.zone ⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

  Yesterday I helped get a lost Teddy back home. I would like to spend this micro amount of karma on No Bank Fuckups.

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  • Seagoon_@aussie.zone ⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

    Bless you.

    One of my earliest memories is of a kind lady who found my lost koala ( made with real kangaroo fur ) and returned it to me.

    I must have been known in the neighbourhood as the little girl who carried her koali everywhere.

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  • Alamutjones@aussie.zone ⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

    That is some high octane good karma

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    • Catfish@aussie.zone ⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

      I had a roo skin koala too. Loved it into complete baldness.

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• just_kitten@aussie.zone ⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

  the exhaustion from field work after not doing it regularly has hit me like a ton of bricks, but it is lovely having a few more days of fresh air and slow, quiet life with company, off my phone most of the time. I definitely need an extended break from the city once I’m done with things.

  Having a tense moment with sibling who wants to split the annual health insurance for mum by 3 and saying how he’s just dropped 17k on his kids overseas uni fees…

  rant

  My two other sibs outearn me by 3-5x and are also significantly older. This insurance costs a bomb (11k AUD/ year and growing - in a country with universal healthcare), and was richest sib’s idea back when he earned a lot more. Eldest sib has always financially supported mum the most (he has always been a high earner). But he is also the most emotionally distant and meanest to my mum and doesn’t recognise the health impact that has on her (or that his contempt is obvious). His own kids have been spoiled most of their lives and he had a very cruel divorce and now needs to fork out a lot to keep his kids going. I feel an unspoken expectation to be catching up to their high earning jobs and shouldering the financial burden equally. I steadfastly refuse however to accept this. It has made me rather upset 1. I chose not to have kids partly because they’re so expensive. I hate being guilt tripped into now having to pay up more than I can afford because i chose not to reproduce. The insinuation that my choices are less noble is low-class and narrow -minded. 2. I refuse to be dragged into the unhappy trap of flogging myself to earn more, at the cost of energy to attend to the more fundamental and important things in life like being present for others. It has taken over a decade for me to be ok with not reaching the heights of others and wanting to craft a simpler life that focuses my energies better. I am not about to be conned out of this by those whose lives I never ever want to lead. 3. My mum is no saint and she has had trouble with emotional relationships much of her life due to her own brain quirks and traumas, I don’t hold it against my sibs for being cold to her if they feel no love. but it is utterly despicable to me that the eldest then claims the upper ground for financially supporting her as compensation. 4. Mum is happiest being frugal and taking care of her own health, she herself questions the need for this insurance. My sibling comes up with horror stories of how she would end up in a shitty hospital ward without it and how miserable she would be. Meanwhile she is feels lonely and low NOW partly because he’s the only one in the same country as her and is totally contemptuous of her, and that’s no concern to him. I refuse to relate to my mother the way he does, and reject the expectation that I should cough up otherwise I’m heartless and selfish… I worked hard to move here and escape the narrative from our home country that life is a miserable slog and money matters above all else in the real world. I won’t be pulled down by crabs in the bucket.

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  • Seagoon_@aussie.zone ⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

    hugs

    you are family too and there is no reason why the guilt trippers should set the tone and not you

    from the sound of it you have made the right decision in moving and starting your own life

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  • Bottom_racer@aussie.zone ⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

    I hate being guilt tripped into now having to pay up more than I can afford because i chose not to reproduce.

    Yea I feel you on this. So rubbish.

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• Duenan@aussie.zone ⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

  Just got my new license with the new photo.

  God I look horrible in that photo.

  I don’t even recognise myself in it.

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  • just_kitten@aussie.zone ⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

    Mine looks worse than my old one but not horrific which is ok given that I went for a ten year renewal.

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    • Duenan@aussie.zone ⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

      My hair was also sticking up in my new photo and they also told me to take off my glasses.

      The person taking my photo could have at least told me my hair was sticking up!

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  • Llabyrinthine@aussie.zone ⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

    Mine gets progressively worse with each one.

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• Bottom_racer@aussie.zone ⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

  Flexing chaotic kitchen draws…

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  • Thornburywitch@aussie.zone ⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

    I see your perforated ladle (far left of bottom drawer) and raise you a pair of herb scissors (surprisingly useful and a bit of a fave). Now if I can only find them under everything else …

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  • CEOofmyhouse56@aussie.zone ⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

    Ok. I hate this. Knives. Forks. Spoons.Where are the soup spoons you animal?

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    Also very envious of the space you have.

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    • Baku@aussie.zone ⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

      I’m jealous too. I would kill for drawers wide enough to have multiple different knives all in their own compartments alongside various little utensils without anything being on top of or obstruction (or obstructed by) anything else. I’ve got a bit of space at the back of my drawers not ordinarily used, but the drawers don’t pull out very far, hence the unused

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• Bottom_racer@aussie.zone ⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

  Tonight’s beach piccy:

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  • anotherspringchicken@aussie.zone ⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

    I love your wave pics. Just want to go for a swim

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• Catfish@aussie.zone ⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

  Why the heck not

  cutlery Image

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  • Seagoon_@aussie.zone ⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

    two sets of 1970s-80s cutlery , rolling pin that looks older me

    impressive

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    • Catfish@aussie.zone ⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

      There’s a ‘good’ set of cutlery in its box too. The multi coloured bee stuff. The rolling pin isn’t very old at all, it just got food dye on last usage.

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  • Bottom_racer@aussie.zone ⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

    These are good drawers do not let people tell you otherwise.

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  • CEOofmyhouse56@aussie.zone ⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

    This screams “I have more important things to do”. Nothing wrong with that but fuck I’d love to get in there.

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    • Catfish@aussie.zone ⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

      It’s a battle I gave up on. Clutter outside of drawers is more annoying.

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  • melbaboutown@aussie.zone ⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

    Mine would look like this except the other drawers hold tea towels, garbags and batteries, and appliance manuals.

    Graters and bigger appliances/utensils got put in the cupboards

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• Llabyrinthine@aussie.zone ⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

  Bought a nice birthday card, spoiled it with my crap writing. Ugh.

  Don’t know if anyone else has that problem, but if I don’t write regularly my hand writing goes downhill and I can’t seem to write half decently unless I’m seated.

  People who have effortlessly beautiful handwriting give me so much envy.

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• Alamutjones@aussie.zone ⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

  How has this thread become Kitchen Drawer World Tour 2025?

  I feel as though I missed something

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• Alamutjones@aussie.zone ⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

  Half an hour’s airing on the balcony with a cup of mint tea.

  I’m going back to bed

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• TinyBreak@aussie.zone ⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

  dogs back from the vet. Shes scratched herself and got infected. shes such a good girl at the vet though! Does so well, unlike the other one.

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• CEOofmyhouse56@aussie.zone ⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

  Show me your drawers people. I’ll rate them.

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• Taleya@aussie.zone ⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

  growls at VLC I have 5.1 speakers, my system is configured for 5.1, I’ve configured you to run in 5.1, why are you dropping entire channels you gurning hemorrhoid

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• anotherspringchicken@aussie.zone ⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

  Hey CEO, here are mine. This was after a serious declutter some time back, and they have miraculously stayed tidy Image Image

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• melbaboutown@aussie.zone ⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

  The rest of the kitchen is a mess despite how much I’ve been trying to get a handle on it.

  And this is a bit empty because some stuff is in the wash. But I did recently clean and wipe out the cutlery drawer.

  spoiler

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• tombruzzo@aussie.zone ⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

  Last day in the current role. It’s a bit sad because I enjoy working here and we’ve had nothing on the past two weeks, so I’ve been enjoying that extended chill time at home.

  I hope the new job is bearable. I think I need a job where I can lock in for a bit and make some progress. Either I can get some results and work my way up or have some impressive enough work to display on a resume.

  I feel like I’m hitting a ceiling for the types of jobs advertised on the open market. Real advances from here will either be from promotions or networking

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• just_kitten@aussie.zone ⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

  My aunt and uncle (mostly my cantankerous uncle) have spent the whole morning trying to get Foxtel support on the phone to help with their blurry signal. The whole thing is just pure distilled boomer

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• RustyRaven@aussie.zone ⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

  I see all your kitchen drawers and I’ll raise you a cutlery shelf

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• Alamutjones@aussie.zone ⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

  I have had a few more hours of sleep

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• CEOofmyhouse56@aussie.zone ⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

  I’m cleaning out my kitchen drawer and I found 8 vegetable peelers and 6 bottle openers. Time to be ruthless.

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• underwatermagpies@aussie.zone ⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

  Apparently new meds mean Lifeblood can no longer take my blood. Oh well. Still got a honeycomb Nippys.

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• bacon@aussie.zone ⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

  I HUNGER

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• Taleya@aussie.zone ⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

  In our defense: hubs has adhd

  Tap for spoiler

  Image Image Image Actual cooking stuff? Image Image

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• CEOofmyhouse56@aussie.zone ⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

  For a little guess what, what do you think this is for and what’s it called? No googling!

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• Taleya@aussie.zone ⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

  boss OMG THIS DOWNLOAD WAS SO SLOW FROM THIS COMPUTER. BUT IT WENT A LITTLE FASTER FRoM THIS COMPUTER. FIX IT FIX IT FIX IT

  me: hey you know how I said I was updating the firmware on 150 odd servers because Qnap decided to yoink container station2 over christmas with zero warning? think that might have something to do with it there buddy?

  He’s complaining about 4mb/s speeds.

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• Baku@aussie.zone ⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

  Passport photos acquired. Surprisingly painless. I love the people at the new LPO, they’re so lovely and efficient!

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• LowExperience2368@aussie.zone ⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

  my mum is a neat freak and I am a mess but not as messy as I would be if I didn't have a mother who very much likes neat and tidy

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• Bottom_racer@aussie.zone ⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

  A few birds actually used the fkn bird bath. Probably pooed in it as a thank you for cleaning it out.

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