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My bad
Submitted 2 months ago by Gonzako@lemmy.world to [deleted]
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Comments
PeriodicallyPedantic@lemmy.ca 2 months ago
Lost_My_Mind@lemmy.world 2 months ago
I’d have used cookie monster.
pigup@lemmy.world 2 months ago
boobookittyfrick@lemmy.zip 2 months ago
For your health !
Agent641@lemmy.world 2 months ago
As someone who often comes on too strong in the whole friendship thing I recently met someone who is that x10 and I understand how jarring it can be to have a friend who is rather extra.
cRazi_man@europe.pub 2 months ago
Educate me please, is this a real thing? Do people delay responses to act cool? In my day, extended chat conversations were a thing and kinda required immediate responses. Does nobody do that anymore?
spicehoarder@lemmy.zip 2 months ago
Probably as long as Snapchat has existed. Especially since they were the first to show your little avatar peaking over the keyboard if you were in the chat at the same time.
restingOface@quokk.au 2 months ago
Especially since they were the first to show your little avatar peaking over the keyboard if you were in the chat at the same time.
Snapchat was absolutely not the first to add a “typing now” indicator
Imgonnatrythis@sh.itjust.works 2 months ago
I delay texts both reading and responding to not be a slave to my phone or to your whims. I don’t owe you immediate gratification. Texts are really disruptive. About 40% of the time that thing you asked me that I didn’t respond to you about took care of itself or you figured it out yourself and are maybe better for it.
end_stage_ligma@lemmy.world 2 months ago
If texts are disruptive then an unsolicited phone call is an affront to all creation
MonkderVierte@lemmy.zip 2 months ago
People actually use those “…” typing functions? Way too stressful.
Sc00ter@lemmy.zip 2 months ago
Youre old enough that chats didnt have a history, and if they waited long enough, you had to open a different message entirely to remember what you sent them!
Ah the times
awfulawful@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 months ago
It’s just the current iteration of phone callback culture from the landline era. People had strong opinions about if you should call back dates or friends immediately or wait until the next day. The expectation of immediate response is a newer phenomenon.
anugeshtu@lemmy.world 2 months ago
Exactly what I was thinking. It’s not that you don’t get “immediate” feedback when somebody texts you… either by a sound or otherwise. Why wouldn’t you respond to that if you have the time? Although I get it when somebody sends you a thousand messages (or voice ones) in a row. Then I also need a time out.
spicehoarder@lemmy.zip 2 months ago
OK, but don’t let it happen again
Metostopholes@midwest.social 2 months ago
Oh, so I should be anxious about responding too soon or too late.
Cool, cool cool cool. Great, thank you
TeddE@lemmy.world 2 months ago
Or posting on-time, yet being too short, or too detailed; Play it cool, but speak fire… keep it light, yet deep.
PotatoesFall@discuss.tchncs.de 2 months ago
I either respond within 3s, or two days later. There is no in between.
Pudutr0n@lemmy.world 2 months ago
apology not accepted. weirdo
snoons@lemmy.ca 2 months ago
Yeah i bet they’re on their phone allll the time just waiting for a reply.
whereitsat@lemmy.zip 2 months ago
i feel like a lot of culture nowadays is questionable. a person with the fullest social calendar will still feel special if someone texts them the next day. ‘i’m loved and wanted,’ they’ll think, even if they’re annoying and not interested in the person.
so, where is this energy coming from?
ivanafterall@lemmy.world 2 months ago
I didn’t mean to be a good friend.
YaDownWitCPP@lemmy.world 2 months ago
What kind of game is this?
helpImTrappedOnline@lemmy.world 2 months ago
One you can’t win.
You loose if you text back immediately, you loose if you don’t.
LodeMike@lemmy.today 2 months ago
Who is this
blunderworld@lemmy.ca 2 months ago
Imagine caring if someone texts you back immediately. Real maturity is recognizing that most adults have other things going on and can’t/won’t be glued to their phone all day long.
Donkter@lemmy.world 2 months ago
Also, I’m happy to text asap if we’re planning something. If you’re shooting me texts to small talk, I’m happy to chat, but you have to understand that I’ll probably only start chatting when I’m really free if it’s not important.
dogdeanafternoon@lemmy.ca 2 months ago
You’ve got it backwards. Read the post again.
blunderworld@lemmy.ca 2 months ago
My comment mostly has to do with the ‘mature’ part, implying that the mature thing to do is to text someone back immediately. And conversely, not texting back immediately is immature.
That said, reading comprehension is not always my strong suit, so fair play. Me brain no work so good.
yermaw@sh.itjust.works 2 months ago
Yeah but like instantly instantly is weird. You kind of expect there to be a period where they free their hands, then check the message, then weigh up whether it warrants a conversation right now, then think what to say, then type it. Could take 30 seconds, could take 3 hours if they’re fully busy and you get sidelined.
A reaponse in 2 seconds from cold open always sets me off balance.
Sanguine@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 months ago
You’re thinking too much. Instant responses are not weird. Am I supposed to just wait for a bit so that youre wheels don’t start turning in the most un charitable direction.
technohacker@programming.dev 2 months ago
I mean, personally it’s because I don’t get a lot of messages in the first place, and most of the time I’m just lost in my thoughts and not actively busy so it’s a nice change of pace. Now, even I’ll admit 2 seconds is a little short, but I’m often ready with a response within 10