Submitted 2 weeks ago by Return_of_Chippy@lemmy.world to [deleted]
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Kids are little disease vectors that drain your life-force and murder your dreams.
If you enjoy being broke, fat, tired, and boring, you should totally have kids. Come on, do it! Your friends and family just assume you’ll squeeze out one or two, you don’t want to disappoint them , do you?
Tbf, people who talk like this shouldn’t really have kids anyway so it’s an issue that resolves itself.
No it doesn’t. People fuck, kids happen. Recognizing people have human compulsions but don’t want to deal with the consequences requires forethought, whether that’s a condom, birth control, or sterilization. Fuck off with you “an issue that resolves itself” bullshit. Responsibility and self-awareness prevents it.
don’t blame being fat and boring on kids.
They might have a baby. Once they get older, it’s a lot easier to involve the kid in your favorite sports. (For me it’s cycling)
I’m personally in the boat of seeing kids as adding to one’s life rather than draining it and making dreams rather than taking them away. But having kids is something my partner and I want. My only other dream is to ever own the roof over my head, but that’s not totally likely.
I feel that having kids would not seem as daunting for more people if we had real safety nets to support people that would even consider being parents. Such as free daycare, a basic income, universal healthcare, and stipends specifically to pay for costs associated with kids like for diapers, bottles, books, ever changing clothes sizes, etc.
If I’m already all those things, but don’t enjoy it, kids can only make it better, right??!?
sound of dog licking its balls in the middle of the night
That does happen frequently. Or the sound of a cat fight.
Hey, I thought you were asleep, alright?
You had me until you said “it’s balls”. It’s always about them.
All those kid-negative comments are true. My 3 kids are noisy, tiring and expensive. But … now I’m very wary of the time when they’ll leave the house. They fill it with life and joy. Yes those laughters are magical.
Yeah. It’s like nobody wants to acknowledge positive side
That’s because these people don’t have kids and not a fucking clue about life. X)
Kids are seen as a luxury, reserved for the leisure class, or a trap leveraged by evil spouses to take your money.
Anti-natalism is just the end philosophy of a society that is fully alienated from itself. Any other people in your life is just parasites sucking happiness from your increasingly scarce free time. Your only goal should be Hustle And Grind, until you have enough money to totally self-isolate.
Both can be true. At the same time
I lived in an apartment building with a lot of families with kids. In summers, the courtyard was like the monkey enclosure at a zoo.
I don’t have any kids and no complaints, but something tells me we’re going to have to revisit this thought when we’re above 80 years of age.
I bet you’re right. Im dreading when my parents get Old and need assistance. I am in no way prepared for that.
And then I’ll be alone when I get old. No kids to help me then.
My father’s counterargument to my refusing to procreate is exactly this. “Who’s going to take care of you when you’re old?” What that told me is his main reason for having kids was to have someone do that for him. Funny, because despite having lived under the same roof, he wasn’t much in my life, or has made any positive inpact on me. Everything was on mom (and sometimes grandmother). And now listening to him talk like some day I will move back to the country and abandon my entire life to take care of him/them, while right at this moment he’s being extremely financially irresponsible? Cool cool cool. My partner’s mother expects the same, all the while she doesn’t work at all because it’s beneath her.
With that said, I find having children for the sole purpose of them taking care of me in my old age not only selfish (especially with the imminent climate colapse), it’s also risky (and I’m not even talking cases where the child has disabilities and can’t take care of their own needs). And that’s in the case I even live that long.
I’m sorry your dad’s an asshole and I’m sure you can get purpose and meaning without kids.
Would you mind if I asked you about the people/things you love? On a really rough day, what gets you out of bed?
Sometimes it’s a struggle for me.
Your dad is indeed quite selfish.
But I think we will start to go back to the multigenerational housing. Young folks can’t afford a house, so live with their folks, have kids, who help with the kinds …and then their folks need care as they age.
Could be a virtuous circle or a vicious one depending on your family/situation.
I got along with my parents really well in my 20’s and 30’s, and it’s kinda hard watching them age now, but we got 2 good decades, maybe 3, of both generations being functional adults who love each other and enrich each other’s lives.
I enjoyed being childless in my 20’s and early 30’s, and anticipate enjoying having 20+ year old children in my late 50’s onward.
Babies and toddlers are whatever. I love my children but still don’t really like other people’s children. But as they (and their peers and their cousins and their friends) grow older, I can definitely see personalities form and become future adults who I will really enjoy spending time with.
Shouldn’t get kids because you might need them when you’re old. Chances are, you’ll hear from them once every couple months because they have their own lives to deal with.
I dont expect to make it to 80 unless I somehow manage to survive my country losing world War 3 and stull having to go to work cause capitalists stole what little I had saved for retirement.
LOL I won’t make it to 80.
Yeah and all my tattoos will look dumb then too.
Idk. Maybe. If you keep your love for what they represented to you, who cares though?
I don’t want to hear my kids fucking.
I don’t have any kids but that doesn’t stop the neighbour kids from waking me up every morning.
I always wanted kids, it seems so sweet.
Unironically I probably will have kids in the next couple years. Just enjoying it while I can.
get your priorities knocked out before you start cuz you become a passenger in the metaphorical ride of life once you bring children onboard
you mean listening to my tinnitus?
Having a lil buzzer is fun and games until forever. Saying from a perspective of a guy who swore never to have kids but someday figured that you just have to do something in your life.
But it’s so fucking hard to get to that point in your life that you can actually afford having a kid
Too quite and lonely for my taste.
Reading this as my son’s cat screams at our old cat for sitting in his chair.
I do kinda miss my shot at having a family. Things just didn’t work out and this struggle bus isn’t child friendly. My cats fill that void nicely. Just wish I had my own place so I didn’t have to go my Ex’s all the time.They love him to bits too. He’s better off financially than me and I know they’re taken care of but damn I miss them (Ex included). Aging and ending up isolated sucks, but it can’t last forever. Stg, I’m gonna be fucking pissed if there’s after life
What if it’s reincarnation?
i_stole_ur_taco@lemmy.ca 2 weeks ago
I had a kid and suddenly all my money and free time evaporated.
How does something so small make me go from one load of laundry a week to 2 a day??
Where did the money go? I’m not buying much more.
How the fuck is the sink full of dirty dishes? I literally finished the dishes 12 seconds ago.
Why is everything sticky? What the fuck is on the ceiling?!?!
jubilationtcornpone@sh.itjust.works 2 weeks ago
“Get your feet out of you brothers mouth.”
One of many phrases that I never thought I would have to say.
Evotech@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
2 laundry a day with one kid? That’s impressive
explodicle@sh.itjust.works 2 weeks ago
I’d highly recommend cloth diapers but those do increase the load count. And if you’ve got a kid it’s harder to efficiently do more loads in a single day.
nickiwest@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
Elementary teacher here. I can corroborate that everything is somehow sticky at school, too.
UnderpantsWeevil@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
Daycare costs me more than my mortgage. Admittedly, I have a relatively cheap mortgage, but still…