frostedtrailblazer
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- Comment on Anon is forever alone 4 days ago:
MeetMe was one I used; Interpals was a website I used for penpals. Some other ones that seem alright are Hoop, Meetup, and Peeps.
- Comment on Why are people using the "þ" character? 1 week ago:
[+3]! I must have come across a few of your before.
- Comment on Why are people using the "þ" character? 1 week ago:
It took me awhile to even realize how it worked, but it tracks the total number of comments or posts that I’ve liked from another person. You’re number for me shows as [+1]!
At first I thought it was an instance based like system, incidentally I believe that would have been a cool serparate thing to track for how popular posts are based on others from your shared instance:
- Comment on Why are people using the "þ" character? 1 week ago:
[+2] next to you!
- Comment on Why are people using the "þ" character? 1 week ago:
[+3]! Thank you for the laugh
- Comment on Why are people using the "þ" character? 1 week ago:
It’d be kinda fun if the Fediverse made its own hybrid English dialect. At the very least it would create a unique niche that’s only on the Fediverse. That alone would draw in some users to participate.
- Comment on Why are people using the "þ" character? 1 week ago:
You really notice how tight knit Lemmy is if you have user specific scores enabled or if you leave yourself tags for specific users. [+1] was already next to your comment for instance. Whenever I see double digits profiles I know those are usually regular posters.
- Comment on necessary read 2 weeks ago:
I wouldn’t say they’re necessarily tiny but they are a minority by far. 94/213 of the Democrats in the House are part progressive caucus for instance, which is 94/435 total seats in the House. Having 1/100 of the seats in the Senate by comparison.
Imo they just do what they can get away with. Which will continue for the foreseeable next three years at minimum.
For progressive change, it really needs to happen at the state level within Blue states. We need those programs passed at the state level and then we can sell how successful they are to the other states.
- Comment on necessary read 2 weeks ago:
I agree, that’s why I feel that having more countries willing to stand together on certain points matters as well. The more people coming together to say something and stand by that, the more that message gets through, even to those that have selfish goals.
- Comment on necessary read 2 weeks ago:
I wouldn’t say Americans are tricked, but a vote for positive change tends to be met with a vote for change nothing by someone on the other side of the aisle.
People’s best bets is really to focus on making their own states more progressive and pass those progressive programs at the state level. Banking on having the federal government pass the progressive programs people want is not going to work
People living in Purple and Red states are going to need to see Blue states thriving from progressive policies if they’re going to be convinced to change their voting habits. People living in Blue states should no longer be banking on doing the more caring option of passing progressive programs federally, instead Blue States should be willing to go into debt to fund these progressive programs.
- Comment on necessary read 2 weeks ago:
I believe that’s an overstatement, not all politicians are corrupt. There are many members of Congress that are working to make things better and pass progressive legislation. AOC and Bernie for instance haven’t been silenced and replaced by big corporations.
I agree with you that the US’ federal Congress is more pro-billionaire, but there are still people that want to make things better. The issue is that those people do not have the votes to pass progressive legislation. Lots of people are seemingly happy with the status quo given that half of the states predominantly vote Republican each election cycle.
- Comment on necessary read 2 weeks ago:
Even authoritarian governments can be swayed when money is on the line, imo. If countries enforce standards via an international trade deal, anyone that doesn’t play ball by the rules could be incentivized to change if they want a cut of the pie.
Take non-ethical working conditions for example. If every country said they will not do business with a country that doesn’t implement ethical working standards then that country could be incentivized to change. If there was a requirement for third party auditors to be able to regularly verify that those standards are being upheld then that could help ensure that those basic standards are being met even in authoritarian countries.
- Comment on Anon is forever alone 2 weeks ago:
That’s good that you are trying different things out, you really want to be casting a wide net to find your perfect matches. I’m of the belief that there’s probably only about ~5%-10% of the population that’s we are a perfect match for and vice versa, but that’s still a ton of real people and many of them may not be on dating apps.
I’ve been coaching a friend of mine that has had similar answers as you. He tried a different app and his match rate was still close to zero, if not zero. Oddly when he turned one year older his match rate went up a lot, so maybe there was a decent amount of women he was attracted to wanted someone a bit older and more mature.
That’s good that you have had a friend look over your profile. I feel that dating profiles specifically are a bit clickbait-ish. Having some good quality photos couldn’t hurt your chances to having a conversation, do you have any pictures that show you socializing with peers and other women? I would encourage you to ask any women that are friends SOs or family to help give another look over your pictures and even your bio.
What I liked about some of the friend finding apps I mentioned is you could reach out without having to match with anyone. I was shocked at how many more conversations I was having with even people less than 5-10 minutes away from me.
That’s totally understandable to be limiting the amount of events for your own health. Being able to have fun while going out is an important part of it.
It’s okay to focus on yourself a bit more as well. I feel that dating comes second to your mental health. It’s important to show yourself some love to be able to share that same love with others. Growth and change don’t have to be linear, each step you take is worth the effort even if you feel like it’s been up and down. Self-optimizing feels like it should be helpful, until those shortcuts start hurting, as I’ve been sorely learning lol.
I recommend taking breaks from looking whenever you’re feeling burnt out, for your own sake. Sometimes it can be where you are that is impacting your outlooks. For instance if you’re trying to meet up with nerdy women in an area that isn’t very nerd friendly then there can be less nerdy women around your local area, at least on some of the apps.
I feel like so much of it really is about time and place being the main factors for finding your match. The owners of the dating apps want you to be on their dating apps as long as possible because they profit from it. Men and women get sick of these platform and pay for the pro-features that put their profile at the top of the stack for others to view. Many issues with modern dating is caused by these for-profit dating apps.
- Comment on Anon is forever alone 2 weeks ago:
Are you liking lots of people on these apps or are you very selective about how you give out likes? If you’re not very selective you’re probably being flagged as a bot and it’s putting your profile at the bottom of the stack of profiles.
Are you using friend finding apps as well? I found that on those, the expectations are way more normal. If the goal is just to meet someone cool and then there could be a relationship after then that already lowers those guardrails that the dating apps cause, from my experience.
I highly recommend changing your approach if what you are currently doing is not working. I recommend joining a running or biking group local to meet people, or even looking for speed dating events in your city.
I guarantee there are people out there that match your tempo looking for a partner as well. The caveat is putting yourself in spaces to meet these potential matches. Do you read, have any pets, or have any fun hobbies a potential partner would find attractive? If you do have any of these things, then mentioning it in your profiles and such can matter.
Someone I know that I was convinced was going to marry a body pillow, because he had multiple and every corner of his room has anime women, is currently married. I firmly believe that there is hope for anyone to find a perfect partner for them. The crux is that you might have to change what you are doing to encounter some of these people.
- Comment on Anon is forever alone 2 weeks ago:
I highly recommend using friend meeting apps, going to social events like running/biking clubs, or even going to a speed dating event in a city near you. There are countless perfect matches for you out there, but putting yourself in spaces to meet these people is what matters.
Those dating apps flag your account as likely a bot if you’re swiping “like” very often. These apps put you at the bottom of the ‘stack’ on these ‘like lists’ for women, so your account is literally never coming up for them to see you. If what you’re currently doing isn’t working it’s important to try something else, just you might do when out fishing.
- Comment on You mean there's a better way‽ 3 weeks ago:
FFS, why have you been gatekeeping this from me for so long :(
- Comment on PSA: Stop using Imgur for now 4 weeks ago:
Australia probably has the best system in place for any country, but if you want an even better version of what they have, might I suggest STAR voting or Ranked Robin voting? Alternatively there is also Score voting which is similar, but based on scoring each individual candidate.
All of these three avoid some of the pitfalls that are still in most Ranked Choice voting.
- Comment on Funniest Exhibit at the Smithsonian 1 month ago:
This sounds like a humorous activity to try.
- Comment on Political discourse 1 month ago:
You’re not wrong. Many of them are exposed to propaganda on TikTok and it is a growing issue. Espionage is being done to divide the left and consolidate the right. Just because it’s not as noticeable as the propaganda from the right doesn’t mean that it’s not having subtle effects. If it gets people to disengage or not look out for their best interests then it is effective. All this to say, there is a way to bring about positive change that has to do with being involved locally.
- Comment on Anon tries to meet girls at college 2 months ago:
I feel I get that way when I’m out of practice for too long. These days, I just need a bit of coffee and I’m usually good to go with some light small talk lol.
- Comment on Off topic 3 months ago:
No, no, no I think you’re confusing something. Subtitling trans people is actually turning the ants gay.
- Comment on Off topic 3 months ago:
- Comment on What is piefed? 3 months ago:
They really got to make this more well known. The top search results didn’t list those apps either for being PieFed integrated.
- Comment on What is piefed? 3 months ago:
What???
Wow, I’m surprised that’s not the top Google result or App Store result for PieFed.
I wrote my comment on the Voyager app too lmao.
- Comment on What is piefed? 3 months ago:
I’d be more inclined to check it out, but it looks like they don’t have a mobile app I can use. Lemmy at least has a few different feature robust apps you can use to access Lemmy. I might check it out when I’m on desktop, but that would be a fraction of the amount of time I spend online.
- Comment on its painful each time (┬┬﹏┬┬) 3 months ago:
I think it’s a little hard on the other side of that as well. I have a lot of friends and it’s hard to not let someone down because things get busy and I get booked out so quick. Planning things a month out is the most realistic way I even get to see people these days.
I haven’t even seen my best friend in person for like two years now because we’ve both been slammed :/ I don’t know how reassuring that is, but I hope you don’t see it as people being against seeing you but some people feeling a bit overwhelmed by other stuff going on. Your best bet at knowing if things between y’all are good is asking to do an activity together a few weeks from now and catching up then. I hope this helps! :D
- Comment on You can drive 74 hours and still be in Germany. The American mind can't comprehend this. 3 months ago:
Imo it only works if everyone does it at the same time and if it’s implemented by legislation enforcing it. If one company does it, their competitors can take advantage of the perceived differences.
