Taken from my backyard using iPhone 3 second exposure. Can’t really see it to the naked eye but insane on camera.
Daily discussion thread: 🎆 Saturday, May 11, 2024
Submitted 1 month ago by Seagoon_@aussie.zone to melbourne@aussie.zone
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tone212_@aussie.zone 1 month ago
Pilk@aussie.zone 1 month ago
So stoked to see it for myself too. 🎊
MeanElevator@aussie.zone 1 month ago
Went out for dinner tonight, Korean BBQ. On our way out my kids helped out a server who was carrying too many things, when I was paying the tab.
The owner/manager told me I had a beautiful family and that my kids were super polite.
I nearly broke down crying.
StudChud@aussie.zone 1 month ago
So, I have a small guilty pleasure now: I downloaded tiktok and am loving all the videos with pets tbh.
TW: DV
But I watch one video by an Aussie lady about women’s rights and whatnot, and now tiktok thinks that’s all I want to watch. 😭 Like, 4b movement stuff, the rate of homicides, etc. It’s interesting but like, also triggering of course. I’m in the process of re-teaching the algorithm or whatever. But I also feel like I don’t have a right to talk about my experience, not because of what they’ve said or anything like that. But because my abusive ex was male and male presenting for the VAST majority of our relationship, until the last 6 months where they only came out to me about being a tran-woman. So, like, they’re part of this super marginalised group, having told their friends I was transphobic. I don’t feel like I can talk about it with anyone (besidesy dad and my partner), without, like, playing into that lie they told. I believe they are, of course, trans, but also that they use it as an excuse to not take accountability for their heinous actions. That if I did file a police report, that I’d be called transphobic and a false reporter. What a strange position to be in. Just needed to have a small ranty rant about it, because I haven’t seen anyone else anywhere have, or talk about, an experience like mine without also being transphobic. I always feel like if I talk about it, if I don’t use the right pronouns, or if I clarify “well they were male, but are now female” it’s about women-on-women DV. Which, it wasn’t, but is it?
Ugh, just gonna keep saving up for a psych appointment and hopefully I can start feeling better about being in this tiny bubble of one.
Thornburywitch@aussie.zone 1 month ago
A dickhead is a dickhead, no matter what gender they are/were/present as. Bad behaviour/manners should be called out. There’s far too much victim blaming happening. Not a situation I’ve ever faced, so please take that for what its worth, if anything.
Force_majeure123@aussie.zone 1 month ago
Yup
Alamutjones@aussie.zone 1 month ago
Them being trans doesn’t mean that what they did to hurt you wasn’t also abusive. Women - including trans women - are entirely capable of abuse.
I believe you. You deserved better.
wscholermann@aussie.zone 1 month ago
This is the problem with identity politics and only seeing a person through the lense of whatever group they are in.
Being a minority doesn’t let you off the hook and in most cases certainly doesn’t make you special.
I’m more interested in what someone does rather than what they say they are.
melbaboutown@aussie.zone 1 month ago
DV absolutely occurs in queer/same sex relationships, and women absolutely do abuse partners. Dickheads come in every stripe and nobody is automatically exempt from being abusive due to their identity.
Police are pretty shit with DV/SA reports in general and there’s no guarantee that a report would go anywhere. But if you felt you wanted to report there are LGBTIA+ liason officers now and if there were sexual offences you can talk to SOCIT.
It’s really hard when your abuser is marginalised but it absolutely does happen, marginalized people can and do punch down on other people, and you have every right to talk about what was done to you. You’re not going after her because she’s trans. You were harmed by what she did, and struggling to even talk about it for fear of feeding into existing transphobic narratives.
Alamutjones@aussie.zone 1 month ago
I’ve been vaguely sick for like, a week and a half. I almost wish I was sicker, because then I’d have an excuse to opt out of things rather than trying to brute-force through them all
underwatermagpies@aussie.zone 1 month ago
Rest up so you don’t end up properly sick! Pretty sure you need a day on the couch.
bacon@aussie.zone 1 month ago
SKY PRETTY
Gibsonisafluffybutt@aussie.zone 1 month ago
Crashing soon so I can be up at 6am. Interview Monday requires me to be in the city at 9am and I want to have some practice in advance.
Enjoy your evening everyone ❤️
ajsadauskas@lemmy.ml 1 month ago
Am I biased in saying crazy cat ladies (and gents) are the best people?
Anyway, little Spunky got a surprise today when his mum got an Amazon delivery today. A big new box for a little kitty 🐈📦
Eagle@aussie.zone 1 month ago
Spunky is indeed, spunky!
ajsadauskas@aus.social 1 month ago
@Eagle @ajsadauskas@lemmy.ml He's a very spunky 'lil fella 😸
Catfish@aussie.zone 1 month ago
Box 😻
ajsadauskas@lemmy.ml 1 month ago
Spunky has been evicted from the box.
Mr Snowy decided the box looks like fun, and decided to have a turn.
Bottom_racer@aussie.zone 1 month ago
Heading to a big (and free!) outdoor park bass party tonight and easy to get to. Always good vibes.
Hopefully the fun police won’t shut it down.
Really good to see a crew start thowing these again.
Which calls for a rave choon.
CEOofmyhouse56@aussie.zone 1 month ago
Enjoy your night!
Bottom_racer@aussie.zone 1 month ago
It’s been a while! It’s right next the zoo so I wonder what the animals will be thinking.
Gibsonisafluffybutt@aussie.zone 1 month ago
Salada was designed perfectly for Vegemite and cheese lol
Seagoon_@aussie.zone 1 month ago
Butter or no butter?
Gibsonisafluffybutt@aussie.zone 1 month ago
Butter definitely. Otherwise way too hard to spread the Vegemite.
melbaboutown@aussie.zone 1 month ago
Health is still absolutely caning me. Constant pain and not able to keep on top of things. I hate using disposable products… Landfill and paying for stuff that gets literally thrown in the bin… but at the moment it’s kind of necessary.
I’m cutting down on that wherever I can but it’d be nice if I had a little countertop dish drawer to run every time I had a full load. It would save water too. Wonder if I could get it funded. I’ve been budgeting well lately so could perhaps save to get one but vet bills always take priority and it also seems I’ve got stuck in tightarse mode.
Seagoon_@aussie.zone 1 month ago
hugs, we do what we can do.
have you been able to go outside and look at the aurora? 😊🌌
melbaboutown@aussie.zone 1 month ago
Yeah, it just sucks you know.
The pics are pretty but I haven’t gone outside. It’s a bit fresh tonight, feral neighbours have been screaming and the fuzzball would try to follow me out
Baku@aussie.zone 1 month ago
I got some details about the next people who are moving in. On the lead tenant front, we’re getting a new one “sometime soon”. I’ve been told his name, and that’s he’s a Resi worker, but not much else. On the kids/YP front, we’re getting a newbie from my old org, probably around the same time. I don’t want to stereotype, but he’s coming from, uhh, quite the rough house. He’s also AOD affected from what I’ve been told, and has issues with nicking stuff.
I feel cautiously optimistic about the new LT, but I haven’t met him yet. He’s also quite religious from what I’ve been told, while I’m quite staunchly atheist. I don’t really care, as long as he’s not the preachy type, which it doesn’t sound like he is. I’m quite nervous for the new YP though. I’m mainly nervous because the current LT is moving out a week or two after they move in. Can’t blame him, he’s been here for many years, and if I was in his shoes, I’d bail too. But we get along really well, and because he lives here and has experience with the system too, he argues with them on a lot of out of place policies. The new bloke is a Resi worker, and it’s basically part of their training to not question orders and just do what they’re told.
:/
Gibsonisafluffybutt@aussie.zone 1 month ago
It sounds like a really tumultuous time. I hope everything works out for you. Sometimes people from super troubled backgrounds can be a bit better when they have a change of scenery.
Hopefully.
melbaboutown@aussie.zone 1 month ago
As someone who was regularly stolen from by flatmates - get yourself a small safe, keep it out of view under your bed, and bike chain it to your bedframe so it can’t be carried off. Journals, wallet, money or cards, ID, small electronics, sentimental items, prescription medication etc go in here when not in use. If cost is a barrier you could also just get a lockbox of some kind, like a lockable toolbox.
Also get yourself a subtle lanyard to keep your key on you and lock your bedroom door when you go shower. Like, don’t be obvious about it and cause tension, you don’t want him to see you do these things. But don’t be casual about access to your room or belongings until you know you can trust him. If he notices just say it’s out of habit.
If this turns out not to be needed, great! But having some self protective strategies might help you cope better until you’ve sussed out this new guy.
Baku@aussie.zone 1 month ago
Thanks Melba, this was really useful.
Some of these were things I habitually did at the last place, so it won’t take too much to start them up again. Surprisingly, theft is something I’ve never had to worry about anywhere I’ve been. Violence, sure, and I used to lock my room when I went to shower because I was worried one of them would around the corner in my room and assault me, but I didn’t have to worry about keys because only workers had keys. These days I obviously do have keys to my room, and luckily I can’t actually be locked out of my room (the lock only locks if I use a key or am on the other side). I also always had my phone with me in case shit hit the fan and I had to shelter in the bathroom or something, which is a habit I still have.
And the computer one I got in the habit of doing too after one of the kids at my last place messaged everyone I had in my contacts asking them if they were gay 😭 (actually kind of funny now, but it definitely wasn’t at the time)
I have actually been considering getting a safe for a while to keep my important docs in, more so I know where they are and to give them some protection from fires or similar, but this is probably the push I need to actually get one. I hadn’t considered tying it to anything, but I will take your advice and chain it up to my bed posts.
I don’t really wear many nice things. My nicest/most expensive belonging is probably my PC. But I do have a good pair of nose cancelling headphones that I’m a bit too lax about leaving around. I wear them almost 24/7 (I’m really sensitive to noise) but usually take them off if I’m having a convo, just out of politeness and usually forget to put them back on
I’m not 100% sure on what I’ll do with the key situation though. I have 3 keys on my keyring along with a couple of knickknacks. I could take just my bedroom key off and put it on its own thing chain, maybe tie it to my beltloops or something, but I’m not a fan of then having 2 sets of keys to carry and worry about. My keys are all solid brass (I think) and make a shit ton of noise. I would go to Bunnings and get one of those cheap key clone things they have that they do in that plastic like material, but our keys are all security keys and they are very vehemently against making copies
Force_majeure123@aussie.zone 1 month ago
StudChud@aussie.zone 1 month ago
A mighty fine scar! You have done battle with the GODS and have come out with an epic scar to show! Slay, King!
Force_majeure123@aussie.zone 1 month ago
I couldn’t have done it without the love and support of everyone here ❤️
Taleya@aussie.zone 1 month ago
Draw eyeballs on it
PeelerSheila@aussie.zone 1 month ago
Force_majeure123@aussie.zone 1 month ago
Just saw this lol 🤣
dumblederp@aussie.zone 1 month ago
My reddit accounts got caught up in r/australia’s ban evasion AI nonsense and I got mega banned, no more helpful comments for people bad at google I guess. I liked being helpful there. It’ll give me more time to be helpful elsewhere I guess.
CEOofmyhouse56@aussie.zone 1 month ago
I’m sorry but why were you mega banned? Explain like I’m stewpid.
dumblederp@aussie.zone 1 month ago
What I think happened:
- First account banned by AI for inciting violence on r/australia for technical discussion of BJJ. I appealed the ban.
- Second account, I messaged the r/australia mods to ban the account so I didn’t get busted for ban evasion. Ban given.
- First account has AI ban revoked. I eventually make a comment on r/australia, ban evasion bots see the IP or email address attached to the account, bots go into ban evasion mode, accounts get permanently suspended.
TinyBreak@aussie.zone 1 month ago
You’ve described my relationship with carsaustralia perfectly. Just with a bit of added snark towards Mazda diesels.
eatham@aussie.zone 1 month ago
SituationCake@aussie.zone 1 month ago
So jealous of these aurora photos. Tried from my place just now with phone and getting nothing. I think there’s too much light pollution and no view of the horizon because it’s a built up area. Boooo.
melbaboutown@aussie.zone 1 month ago
Same here, also reluctant to go outside. It’d be cool to live somewhere else and learn a bit of astronomy
wscholermann@aussie.zone 1 month ago
Yup and that’s why I didn’t bother from where I am.
bacon@aussie.zone 1 month ago
omg aurora
Seagoon_@aussie.zone 1 month ago
I’m too close into the city but I can see the clouds are tinged with pink
PeelerSheila@aussie.zone 1 month ago
Me too. In my area it’s too many Mcmansions, boxy townhouses and people who don’t care about power bills/the environment with every outside light on. Neighbours on my western side, lookin’ at you. Is your gourmet dog afraid to pee in the dark‽
Mittens_meow@aussie.zone 1 month ago
So I have to decide if a 4 hour a day commute a few days a week is ok or to look for another job. They changed the rules on me and went all return to office. It’s a damn tech job - no office presence even required.
Nath@aussie.zone 1 month ago
24 hours:
7 hours sleep.
1 hour preparing for work.
8 hours working.
4 hours commuting.
2 hours preparing and eating food.That leaves 2 hours for everything else. I could not do this.
Catfish@aussie.zone 1 month ago
I did almost that for about 6 months when I got my first ‘real’ job before finding a place to move. Almost killed me, especially since Sat got lost to house hunting. Zero life. Do not recommend.
RustyRaven@aussie.zone 1 month ago
I did a few months of 9 hour days with a 3 hour commute. It paid the bills, but I can’t say it was much fun. It did have a major bonus that I could get time off to go to job interviews though. When I strarted my new job with 8 hours work 15 minutes from home it felt like I’d gone part time!
RustyRaven@aussie.zone 1 month ago
Ouch. It might be ok for a couple of days a week but it is not ideal. You basically have to write off those days completely and you also can’t do any of the little chores you would have otherwise done around or after work either (things like doing your washing) so you lose a little bit of other days too.
Gibsonisafluffybutt@aussie.zone 1 month ago
That’s a fuck load of travel. I’d look for something else quietly.
melbaboutown@aussie.zone 1 month ago
Yikes. It sounds like it would massively cut into the rest of your life for no good reason.
Is it possible to start hunting for a new job on the down low now - and then either use a job offer as leverage to keep work from home, or jump to another role?
Alamutjones@aussie.zone 1 month ago
Market run achieved. I have baklava to eat with my tea
imoldgreeeg@aussie.zone 1 month ago
Organised myself a car for the day. Organised my shopping lists…got to the goget bay…forgot the little swipe card thing.
An hour later back home and starting over again. Don’t try to do things before your morning coffee kiddoes
Pilk@aussie.zone 1 month ago
I wonder if this geomagnetic storm is setting off fire evacuation alarms in the city, or if people are just extra unlucky burning their toast this morning.
melbaboutown@aussie.zone 1 month ago
At this point Aussie Frugal Living consists entirely of me. Did I establish dominance and win Best Tightarse? Because I am pretty good at it.
Also if you’ve got frugal food tips/recipes do they go in there or do they go in Food Australia? (ie telling you how to make toasted sandwiches without a jafflemaker, only a pan you’ve already got, or how to turn leftovers into fillings)
Alamutjones@aussie.zone 1 month ago
Nigh nighs
CEOofmyhouse56@aussie.zone 1 month ago
Calm down people the Sun is just having a little tanty.
Seagoon_@aussie.zone 1 month ago
I’m getting the hang of using watercolours. It’s exciting. 😃😃😃srsly, it’s cool . I’ll post some pics when I do full page.
ajsadauskas@aus.social 1 month ago
Bottom_racer@aussie.zone 1 month ago
Just a reminder to everyone if people are asking you for free tech support you’re good until monday just blame the solar storm.
Taleya@aussie.zone 1 month ago
I know it’s literally light rail but watching how far the other states will contort a sentence to avoid saying ‘tram’ is fucking hilarious to me
StudChud@aussie.zone 1 month ago
Mittens_meow@aussie.zone 1 month ago
Very hot chicken and veg soup for dinner. Made a huge pot of it today. Also need to make the Xmas trifle that I bought ingredients for and never made, thinking maybe breakfast trifle ?
StudChud@aussie.zone 1 month ago
So just at a park in Brunny, and it’s faint with the eyes, but my phones picking it up :D
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Eagle@aussie.zone 1 month ago
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Eagle@aussie.zone 1 month ago
Took the dog out for a wee, still going strong out there.
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StudChud@aussie.zone 1 month ago
Oooo this is such a good pic!!! 😍
Bottom_racer@aussie.zone 1 month ago
oh wow.
nice!
calhoon2005@aussie.zone 1 month ago
Silly question maybe, but you’re looking South?
StudChud@aussie.zone 1 month ago
Yup, looking south. The city light pollution is blue, but the red is the aurora