I wanna do really many things (as hobbies). But mostly I just think of them and nothing more. I have plenty of time and I still do some things, but that’s not enough. So how do I make my wannabe hobbies become my habits?
LMK if you figure it out.
How do I get myself to actually do thing?
Submitted 3 hours ago by pixeldaemon@sh.itjust.works to [deleted]
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Nemo@slrpnk.net 1 hour ago
FreshParsnip@lemmy.ca 42 minutes ago
Set goals and give yourself deadlines. Don’t give up if you don’t meet the deadline, but try your best to meet it. Also, give yourself rewards for completing tasks
DarrinBrunner@lemmy.world 1 hour ago
For me, it’s committing to the first step, and then following through one step at a time. I also commit to making progress, and take some pride in making progress each time. That way, I don’t get overwhelmed.
I’m currently building a bed, the first step was planning the bed, then gathering the materials, and the new tools I needed, and so forth. One step at a time without worrying about how long it’s taking, or if I didn’t make any progress on some days. It’s been a couple of weeks, and I’m about 85% done. I’ll probably complete it sometime next week, but there’s no deadline, or hurry.
One final tip I’ve read is that you should not tell anyone in detail what you are planning, until you’ve started and have committed. Because, simply talking with someone else about doing a thing can scratch the itch to do it, and you will feel less motivated to follow through.
TootSweet@lemmy.world 3 hours ago
- Step 1: Figure out why you’re not doing thing.
- Step 2: Take steps to address the reason why you’re not doing thing.
Seems simple, and in a way it is, but in other ways it can be very difficult.
On step 1, I recommend first researching the term “maladaptive daydreaming”. Seems relevant to what you’re describing.
earlgrey0@sh.itjust.works 2 hours ago
For me it was lack of structure, so what got me going was actually scheduling a class. Then the obligation would kick in because I made the commitment. Even better if it’s a regularly occurring class because then people will start to recognize you and take note if you missed. Which re-enforces the cycle!
zkfcfbzr@lemmy.world 1 hour ago
Any chance you have undiagnosed ADHD? Do you have similar difficulties motivating yourself to start other things in your life, even when you actively want to? Even if you can do those things - but starting is always the biggest hurdle? Or just with this hobby example?
pixeldaemon@sh.itjust.works 1 hour ago
It is possible, but never thought this to be a potential ADHD symptome
tyler@programming.dev 48 minutes ago
This is exactly how ADHD works for me at least.
velma@sh.itjust.works 1 hour ago
Decision paralysis is definitely a symptom of ADHD. Part of the whole executive dysfunction thing.
Not saying you have ADHD, but it might be worthwhile to poke around common symptoms and do some introspection as well.
FinjaminPoach@lemmy.world 54 minutes ago
We only really do things within what we are used to by habit. You can pick up a new hobby by revisiting the same time every day or every few days to do something related to that task or to judt do something random, then you have time where you feel like doing random thing st that time. I have to cook for everyone i live with most days at the middle of the day so i always take a break from working then, i literally always feel like stopping work come 12:00 or sometimes even 11:00. Can’t fight this unless i’m in flow state and literally know someone else will make food today.
I think i’ve already shared with someome recently, but this video is a great guide on habit formation and making time for things. AA: Truth about effortless yet insane productivity
Something that took me a long time to make a habit is running, because i actually don’t like doing exercise habitually, and i wanted it to be connected more to whether i feel like doing it. The key is to do build up activities - for running this included walks, to build up stamina, and to pick out different routes i could use. Also, tedting out different stretches and leg workouts.
Spoiler alert: exercise really should be a scheduled thing, that’s what makes it Exercise™︎, like “Your body gets fitter” and not just exercise the biology term for “some calories are burned, i guess. Whatever.”
Another hobby: pickling. First few times i was focusing on testing different jars i had, and practicing sanitisation of them, so i only made 1-2 jars of stuff at once.
The first step is to gauge what time of the day you feel like doing that thing and can feasibly do it, and it might mean killing one activity you do at that time. And scheduling it - i just mark it out on google calendar and then get a notification reminding me. This takes advantage of the sunk cost fallacy, you’ve already sunk a small little effort+planning cost into it and now want to see the task through. It’s also like an appointment - a date/meeting with yourself.
You can also juat use that time tk sit down and read about the hobby and then if ideas come to you whike you’re reading inspiration/guides, you can immediateoy get up and do them.
CapuccinoCoretto@lemmy.world 3 hours ago
Make daydreaming your hobby. Way cheaper.
Semi_Hemi_Demigod@lemmy.world 2 hours ago
I find telling someone it’s already done and that you’ll show them tomorrow focuses the mind quite efficiently.
Kolanaki@pawb.social 2 hours ago
Knowing that I have a lack of executive function, what would really help me is someone to act like my mom and force me to do shit.
bitofarambler@crazypeople.online 1 hour ago
try lists. i schedule tasks on my phone.
none of my tasks are big, 20 pushups a day means about 600 a month.
or one step in a larger task, going to a store to see if they have the right fabric for a mosquito net. whether they have it or not, if i go, that’s a task complete. I cross it off the list and now I’m in the process of completing the larger task of making my bug net.
“hey, Google. Remind me every day at 9 am to do 20 push-ups”
or for single tasks “hey Google, remind me in 5 seconds to check daiso for a hammock ridgeline.” I might not do it for four days, but the task is there reminding me that I have something I want to do.
And yesterday daiso hsd a perfect elastic cord, so I got to mark the task complete yesterday and now my hammock has a ridgeline.
Proprietary_Blend@lemmy.world 2 hours ago
Pick one. Do thing.
Godort@lemmy.ca 2 hours ago
Honestly, just starting any activity is the hardest part. Find something you want to try, and just force yourself to do it. If you like it, then keep going. If not, maybe the hobby isn’t what you imagined.
cheese_greater@lemmy.world 2 hours ago
Watch Nathan For You
P00ptart@lemmy.world 8 minutes ago
Start by researching it. Start with the ones that have low barriers of entry. Like off-roading lol /s