naught101
@naught101@lemmy.world
- Comment on [deleted] 1 week ago:
Yes, absolutely. Both are possible. Different peoplwith different experiences and tendencies operate differently.
Also, there are lots of different types of love. www.ftd.com/blog/types-of-love
- Comment on The bullet engravings as per WSJ 1 week ago:
Big thread on this here:
- Comment on do you apologize, even if it's not your fault just to make the other person feel validated? 2 weeks ago:
Then I’ll do it. If it doesn’t cost me too much. I can’t see someone else’s perspective really, but I can at least be empathetic…
- Comment on do you apologize, even if it's not your fault just to make the other person feel validated? 2 weeks ago:
Yeah, that’s always gotta be true to some extent… If not, then the apology is gonna be insincere anyway. But it doesn’t mean that the regret has to be massive for you for the apology to be valid or useful.
- Comment on do you apologize, even if it's not your fault just to make the other person feel validated? 2 weeks ago:
I get that this is a joke, but there’s a good point there too: I don’t give apologies because they were demanded, if give them because I can see that they’d help improve the situation.
- Comment on do you apologize, even if it's not your fault just to make the other person feel validated? 2 weeks ago:
Yeah, I’m definitely assuming good faith above. I’m lucky that I’m mostly surrounded by people for whom that assumption makes sense.
- Comment on do you apologize, even if it's not your fault just to make the other person feel validated? 2 weeks ago:
Yes… Apologies aren’t about fault for me. They are about recognising other’s suffering, and possibly about acknowledging my contribution to that situation.
The apology isn’t about you, it’s about the other person, and showing you care about them.
- Comment on Why are a lot of statues vandalised with traffic cones in Scotland? 2 weeks ago:
Something to fill time while waiting for the kebab you ordered?
- Comment on [deleted] 3 weeks ago:
Relationships are complex. What’s “cheating” for some people is fine for others. And there’s usually a million factors complicating everything. Maybe you’re mum’s a bit naive, maybe she’s bang on. Both can be true in different ways.
- Comment on what books about personal boundaries do you know that don't mention god? 3 weeks ago:
Grammar that doesn’t cause headspins is a personal boundary, right?
- Comment on Lemmy be like 3 weeks ago:
That’s my point
- Comment on what are the grievances with the "male loneliness epidemic"? 4 weeks ago:
True that.
Just getting in to TTRPGs properly. It seems like a way to really solidify friendships, rather than to find new ones. But that’s still very valuable!
- Comment on what are the grievances with the "male loneliness epidemic"? 4 weeks ago:
Social hobbies are where it’s at. I’ve never met anyone meaningful at a concert. Hobbies (and activism) though, all the people all the time.
“Don’t have much time”… I guess it it’s important to you, you should figure out how to make time for it
- Comment on Evolution: 🖕 4 weeks ago:
So, uh, you reckon you could fit eight of those on one person?
- Comment on what books about personal boundaries do you know that don't mention god? 4 weeks ago:
This could do with a comma somewhere, I think…
- Comment on Australia Post halts transit shipping to US as global carriers face 'chaos' 4 weeks ago:
I wonder how many Americans are aware of this kind of thing?
- Comment on What's good options for groups of mods to communicate 5 weeks ago:
Not gonna happen - Lemmy devs aren’t interested in making a deeper messaging functionality: github.com/LemmyNet/lemmy-ui/issues/3074#issuecom…
- Comment on What's good options for groups of mods to communicate 5 weeks ago:
Signal or XMPP.
Why not Matrix?
- Comment on If suffering is good because it gives life meaning, wouldn't it follow that hurting people is good? 5 weeks ago:
Makes sense, thanks!
- Comment on If suffering is good because it gives life meaning, wouldn't it follow that hurting people is good? 5 weeks ago:
Goodness in one aspect doesn’t cancel badness in another…
It can be always bad AND sometimes good.
- Comment on If suffering is good because it gives life meaning, wouldn't it follow that hurting people is good? 5 weeks ago:
Got some examples?
- Comment on If suffering is good because it gives life meaning, wouldn't it follow that hurting people is good? 5 weeks ago:
No, it’s not. It’s saying that any amount of suffering is bad, but a tolerable amount of suffering can have good secondary effects (but this is not guaranteed, it’s circumstantial). The secondary good doesn’t mean that the bad part didn’t happen.
- Comment on Lemmy be like 5 weeks ago:
Agree it’s on a different scale (everything is relative to 200 years ago).
One of the main “benefits” of mechanised factory machinery in the early 1800s was that shifted the demand side of labour, such that capitalists had far more control over it. I reckon that counts as a kind of large scale manipulation (but yeah, probably not as pervasive of other domains of life).
- Comment on Lemmy be like 5 weeks ago:
More or less
- Comment on Lemmy be like 5 weeks ago:
AI is exactly as bad as mechanised weaving looms.
- Comment on I have a question on how and when coal actually formed. 1 month ago:
- Comment on [Inverse Thinking] How do I make sure my place gets messy again after I thoroughly cleaned and organized it? 1 month ago:
Wait until the you run out of dishes before you start to wash any.
- Comment on Is it safe to assume the guy i went out on a date with, just wants to sleep with me? 1 month ago:
I would say someone getting offended by you communicating is not “nothing”. At least it would be a problem for me.
- Comment on Is it safe to assume the guy i went out on a date with, just wants to sleep with me? 1 month ago:
Seems possible.
But the answer might be highly culturally dependent, and also contingent on a tonne of extra context, so you’re probably not going to get a reliable answer from the internet.
You could try asking him his intentions directly. Or telling him that you’re not interested.
- Comment on Itch.io Re-indexes free NSFW content, are in ongoing discussions with payment processors to re-introduce paid content 1 month ago:
That REALLY isn’t how things work
It definitely can be. I haven’t dealt with payment processors in this way, but I’ve had (spurious) DCMA takedowns that required my service providers to act immediately, or else they’d get sued. They did notify me, but gave me about 2h to figure something else out.
A payment processor is in full control of payments across your entire site (unless you have multiple, I guess). They can pull the rug with no notice if they want. Doesn’t seem nice, but nice isn’t part of the business model.