naught101
@naught101@lemmy.world
- Comment on [deleted] 2 days ago:
Relationships are complex. What’s “cheating” for some people is fine for others. And there’s usually a million factors complicating everything. Maybe you’re mum’s a bit naive, maybe she’s bang on. Both can be true in different ways.
- Comment on what books about personal boundaries do you know that don't mention god? 5 days ago:
Grammar that doesn’t cause headspins is a personal boundary, right?
- Comment on Lemmy be like 5 days ago:
That’s my point
- Comment on what are the grievances with the "male loneliness epidemic"? 1 week ago:
True that.
Just getting in to TTRPGs properly. It seems like a way to really solidify friendships, rather than to find new ones. But that’s still very valuable!
- Comment on what are the grievances with the "male loneliness epidemic"? 1 week ago:
Social hobbies are where it’s at. I’ve never met anyone meaningful at a concert. Hobbies (and activism) though, all the people all the time.
“Don’t have much time”… I guess it it’s important to you, you should figure out how to make time for it
- Comment on Evolution: 🖕 1 week ago:
So, uh, you reckon you could fit eight of those on one person?
- Comment on what books about personal boundaries do you know that don't mention god? 1 week ago:
This could do with a comma somewhere, I think…
- Comment on Australia Post halts transit shipping to US as global carriers face 'chaos' 1 week ago:
I wonder how many Americans are aware of this kind of thing?
- Comment on What's good options for groups of mods to communicate 2 weeks ago:
Not gonna happen - Lemmy devs aren’t interested in making a deeper messaging functionality: github.com/LemmyNet/lemmy-ui/issues/3074#issuecom…
- Comment on What's good options for groups of mods to communicate 2 weeks ago:
Signal or XMPP.
Why not Matrix?
- Comment on If suffering is good because it gives life meaning, wouldn't it follow that hurting people is good? 2 weeks ago:
Makes sense, thanks!
- Comment on If suffering is good because it gives life meaning, wouldn't it follow that hurting people is good? 2 weeks ago:
Goodness in one aspect doesn’t cancel badness in another…
It can be always bad AND sometimes good.
- Comment on If suffering is good because it gives life meaning, wouldn't it follow that hurting people is good? 2 weeks ago:
Got some examples?
- Comment on If suffering is good because it gives life meaning, wouldn't it follow that hurting people is good? 2 weeks ago:
No, it’s not. It’s saying that any amount of suffering is bad, but a tolerable amount of suffering can have good secondary effects (but this is not guaranteed, it’s circumstantial). The secondary good doesn’t mean that the bad part didn’t happen.
- Comment on Lemmy be like 2 weeks ago:
Agree it’s on a different scale (everything is relative to 200 years ago).
One of the main “benefits” of mechanised factory machinery in the early 1800s was that shifted the demand side of labour, such that capitalists had far more control over it. I reckon that counts as a kind of large scale manipulation (but yeah, probably not as pervasive of other domains of life).
- Comment on Lemmy be like 2 weeks ago:
More or less
- Comment on Lemmy be like 3 weeks ago:
AI is exactly as bad as mechanised weaving looms.
- Comment on I have a question on how and when coal actually formed. 3 weeks ago:
- Comment on [Inverse Thinking] How do I make sure my place gets messy again after I thoroughly cleaned and organized it? 3 weeks ago:
Wait until the you run out of dishes before you start to wash any.
- Comment on Is it safe to assume the guy i went out on a date with, just wants to sleep with me? 4 weeks ago:
I would say someone getting offended by you communicating is not “nothing”. At least it would be a problem for me.
- Comment on Is it safe to assume the guy i went out on a date with, just wants to sleep with me? 4 weeks ago:
Seems possible.
But the answer might be highly culturally dependent, and also contingent on a tonne of extra context, so you’re probably not going to get a reliable answer from the internet.
You could try asking him his intentions directly. Or telling him that you’re not interested.
- Comment on Itch.io Re-indexes free NSFW content, are in ongoing discussions with payment processors to re-introduce paid content 4 weeks ago:
That REALLY isn’t how things work
It definitely can be. I haven’t dealt with payment processors in this way, but I’ve had (spurious) DCMA takedowns that required my service providers to act immediately, or else they’d get sued. They did notify me, but gave me about 2h to figure something else out.
A payment processor is in full control of payments across your entire site (unless you have multiple, I guess). They can pull the rug with no notice if they want. Doesn’t seem nice, but nice isn’t part of the business model.
- Comment on How did you decide what you generally wanted to do with your life? 4 weeks ago:
Interestingly, this is basically the approach of some of the best management/leadership thinkers these days (e.g. Cynefin). I think the basic premise is “the world is changing so fast that any plans you make now might be meaningless in a decade, so focus on what’s knowable in the here and now, and your next step”. Dave Snowden from Cynefin points to Ana’s “The Next Right Thing” from Frozen 2 as excellent advice 😅
- Comment on How did you decide what you generally wanted to do with your life? 4 weeks ago:
Pretty good approach. Most of the most interesting people I know started adult life doing one thing, and eventually switched to another thing. Maybe after one or two years of an undergrad, maybe after 15 years of a career.
I’ve got one friend in his late 30s who has been a highschool teacher for over a decade, and is still thinking of switching careers to be a train driver. He does public transport activism a bit too. I reckon you could head into the train network with IT skills anyway - maybe as some kind of network operator. Not quite the same thing, but aligned…
I would say that you should absolutely take maximum advantage of any electives offered to get as broad a taste of what’s available as possible. That’s what will give you ideas about where to head next.
- Comment on How did you decide what you generally wanted to do with your life? 4 weeks ago:
Great answer, flexibility and adaptability is underrated.
You’re almost never gonna get a perfect opportunity. But you’ll get good ones that kind of match your skills now and then. And if your skill base is broad, then you’ll find good ones way more often. And if you’re happy to deal with the temporary discomfort of learning some specific skills quickly, then you can make use of many of them.
I think being capable of being deeply interested in many diverse things is a critical part of this.
- Comment on How did you decide what you generally wanted to do with your life? 4 weeks ago:
Good answer. Ironically, pretty much all the answers here are good, and worth looking at (because they are mostly broad, general advice)
- Comment on How did you decide what you generally wanted to do with your life? 4 weeks ago:
By doing the next obvious thing until I’d tried enough things to be sure where I wanted to be. Took until my late 30s, but the stuff before that was fun and/or interesting too.
- Comment on How do you reconcile staying sane while keeping yourself up-to-date with the news? 5 weeks ago:
Activism, contributing to your community, making the world a better place. The crazy-making part is that you know it’s crap, and that you feel like you have no agency to make it better, right? Well, doing something to make the world better makes it feel more tolerable, even if the bit that you’re working on isn’t related to the specific badness that you’re paying attention to on the news right now.
And yeah, there’s always the possibility that what you’re doing backfires, or has no effect, but if you don’t do anything at all, then there’s no possibility of having a good effect. Also, obviously no one normal person can fix everything, you just pick a bit that seems suited for you and work on that.
- Comment on Where are all the successful "red cities"? 5 weeks ago:
*the Vatican, crying in the corner*
- Comment on I dont want to enter a contract when consuming your product.. 1 month ago:
Thus is the kind of legalistic bullshit interpretation I can get right behind