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• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨How do I get myself to actually do thing?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  ADHD came to my mind because OP’s description of their problem resonated with the problems I faced when I eventually realized I had ADHD. The context and severity were quite different, but the general concept of what OP is describing is essentially the same. I don’t necessarily think and definitely don’t know that OP has ADHD, but they’re looking for advice, so I gave them a potential avenue to explore toward that end. I believe my original response was sufficiently clear and responsibly phrased on that point.

  And I get that you’re going for a technical definition of the word ‘condition’ (which I believe is itself a word not technically defined by the DSM, but you seem to have considered my use of the term as equivalent to the DSM’s use of the term ‘mental disorder’, which I agree is fair) there, and I kind of brought that on myself by referencing the DSM in my own reply, but to be clear: I was absolutely using it in a casual, non-technical sense. I am not a psychiatrist in any sense, I have not read the DSM. Toward that end, you’re probably correct that many of the hypothetical people I referred to in my previous reply, who have a condition that is not so severe that it significantly impacts their ability to function adequately, do not have that “condition” in the strict technical DSM-5 sense of the word. Based on your reply I think you’d agree with me that something like ADHD is a spectrum, even if it’s not described as such by the DSM - and that many people are on that spectrum without reaching the threshold required to justify a diagnosis or constitute a disability. The DSM’s own definition of a mental disorder that you quoted supports this interpretation too: its use of the extremely subjective criteria that a symptom is “clinically significant” essentially acknowledges that a huge number of people may show the symptoms of certain disorders, but that a diagnosis should only be made if a clinician thinks the impacts are significant.

  But, I would still disagree with the notion that you don’t have the condition unless you’ve been diagnosed with the condition. I can agree with your general point that per the DSM, the presence of symptoms itself isn’t enough for diagnosis - that those symptoms need to actively have a significant negative impact on your ability to function. I’d also agree that something like ADHD is itself a spectrum, and that most people at the lower end of that spectrum, which may or may not include most people in general, do not have actual ADHD, both as it is generally meant and technically defined. But someone can absolutely have something like ADHD, with symptoms that actively and severely affect their ability to function, without having been diagnosed with it. Not in a legal sense, obviously - but law doesn’t dictate neurology.

  I was only recently diagnosed with ADHD myself, but it’s definitely been something I’ve had without realizing it for essentially my entire life. ADHD is paradoxically both over- and under-diagnosed. The type of ADHD that presents with symptoms similar to what OP described is precisely the type that usually goes under-diagnosed.

  With regard to your last paragraph, I get and to an extent agree with the general point you’re making, that there’s a huge range of extremely common and socially accepted behaviors that are seen as normal and not considered mental disorders, even though they’re actively harmful to both the individual and to society as a whole, just because they’re so common as to be near-universal - and also that society is actively set up, at least at present, to encourage many of these behaviors. I don’t think we have enough information about OP from just this post to say whether or not their stated desire to engage in hobbies is an indication of them being ahead of the curve in this regard, but it’s kind to assume they are. I do think there’s something to be said here, for sure - but I feel like it’s also tangential to the main topic and I don’t want to lose my focus here, plus it doesn’t seem to be something we disagree on anyways. I think you could make a very compelling argument that societies themselves, the actual systems rather than the individuals, can have illnesses of a sort.

  I would also agree that in a hypothetical world where the majority of people had a neurology that matched what constitutes a diagnosis of ADHD in our world today, that the concept of ADHD itself would not likely exist at all. But I also feel like that’s not too interesting of a point - it’s called “neurodivergence” because it’s a divergence from the typical neurology. The difficulty comes from the fact that you’re different, not necessarily from the differences themselves. If everyone had a neurology typical of ADHD, or of autism, then society would be organized in a vastly different way, such that the traits associated with these divergent neurologies would be what’s already expected and supported. In an autistic-majority world someone considered neurotypical here may be considered to have severe social disabilities. In an ADHD-majority world someone considered neurotypical here would probably just seem like an unusually motivated person.

  Sorry about the length. I appreciate that you seem to be engaging in complete good faith.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨How do I get myself to actually do thing?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Biting back: I didn’t diagnose someone over the internet, I offered it as a potential explanation to look into for the issue they described based on my own personal experiences.

  I would also push back on that something is only considered a condition if it affects a them socially - on both fronts, actually. Some conditions can heavily affect a person socially, while simultaneously being something they find completely fine, and don’t want to change or alter about themselves at all (eg, autism), while other conditions can affect a person in ways that are essentially entirely nonsocial, but which still cause them so much distress that they still feel deeply compelled to address it (eg, ADHD effectively rendering them incapable of working, or of performing even basic life maintenance tasks, even when they have high motivation to do so). What makes the difference is how it affects that person specifically - whether the effects they experience on their life, social or otherwise, are distressing enough to them that they feel the need to seek some sort of help. I would make a wild guess that ADHD in particular is a condition a lot of people have to some extent, but simply choose not to address, because they don’t find its symptoms distressing enough to care.

  Regarding the other point, about the paradox of integrating our neat and domestic human lives, which increasingly demand unmessy robotic perfection while imposing artificial goals and structures on us, with our animal side, which often includes messy and irrational bits that can react poorly to such structured or cookie-cutter environments, or at least mesh poorly with them, in ways that can then get labeled as DSM-5-recognized “conditions”? I think to an extent this also comes down to a personal decision on the part of the person in question, too.

  For some, the clash between their messy animalistic side and the reality of their life as a human living in a structured society with rules, may be so complete that they have little choice other than to treat it as a condition to be addressed. It’s one thing to say that someone with ADHD is fine as they are, and don’t need to medicate away something about themselves that’s only really an issue because of the demands society puts on them. It’s another thing entirely when it turns out that condition renders them incapable of working, and it turns out things like food cost money.

  But for others, that clash may be a lot less severe, and entirely manageable. Maybe OP really does have ADHD, and maybe it really does just affect their ability to start new unstructured hobbies, and they manage to integrate and survive reasonably well in society otherwise? In a case like that they could very reasonably simply choose to consider it a non-issue, and never seek to address it. Or they could. It would be their call either way. OP’s issue may not be impacting their life enough that it constitutes a fundamental incompatibility with modern society-based human lives in general, but it’s at the very least impacting their life enough to be personally distressing to them, or they wouldn’t have posted about it. If it does turn out those issues are caused by a treatable condition like ADHD, I think they’d be entirely within their rights to seek treatment on that basis alone, even if they’re already well-integrated without treatment.

  Lastly, I would also argue back against your very first point - that the issue OP described is essentially something everyone has, and so isn’t a real problem that needs to be addressed. While everyone does have things they’d like to do but simply don’t do, due to lack of time, resources, motivation, or ability, we don’t really have enough information here to say if this describes OP or not. ADHD isn’t just something we call it when someone’s desires for themselves outpace their situational ability to implement those desires. It’s not really a vague or ambiguous diagnosis at all. It represents an actual difference in brain function and brain chemistry that can make things like just starting a new hobby you’re excited about, or cooking a meal, or starting work, feel impossible. In limited circumstances, it may be possible to know all of this and “transcend” it, as you said, some of the time - but in people who actually have ADHD, that’s never going to be a viable long-term solution. Going back to the previous parts of what we discussed, the conflict is in their nature itself - and in a battle of pure will vs. intrinsic nature, intrinsic nature is going to win 99% of the time, no matter how transcendental you think you are. You can’t out-will your way out of a condition that handicaps your will. But you can treat it.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨How do I get myself to actually do thing?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Any chance you have undiagnosed ADHD? Do you have similar difficulties motivating yourself to start other things in your life, even when you actively want to? Even if you can do those things - but starting is always the biggest hurdle? Or just with this hobby example?

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Anon tries watching nu-Trek⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Captain Picard was bald

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Haha that's really cool, funny number man⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  My take on their comment was that they know this but consider it their ‘religion’ anyways because they don’t understand the process and so, in the absence of true understanding, take it on faith alone that the process actually works out

  But the evidence is all around us even if you don’t understand the processes themselves: Science built us a moon landing, religion built us the dark ages

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨How come hypothetically if I make meth in my home. Knowing full well it could explode and take out my neighbors houses, why am I not charged with attempted murder?⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Would you be nervous if your neighbor installed a gas fireplace?

  Well now I would be…

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Why isn’t "Democrats would never get away with this" seen as a problem for the left?”⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  When people say that, they aren’t implying the left are are morally superior. They’re implying the right has double standards. That the right is only interested in holding politicians on the left accountable, while giving politicians on the right free pass to do whatever.

  It’s obviously true, and it’s a problem for the left, but it’s a problem of the right.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Do all American stores have greeters?⁩ ⁨⁨8⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Welcome to Moe’s!

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨How do you reconcile staying sane while keeping yourself up-to-date with the news?⁩ ⁨⁨10⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  I made filters with uBlock Origin that block out from Lemmy (and some other sites) any post containing one of the words “Trump”, “Elon”, “Musk”, “RFK Jr”, “maga”, or “nazi”.

  You still stay mostly up-to-date because that shit has a way of filtering through anyways, but you cut out 90% of the redundant fluff. I originally set the filters up in November when I was feeling very similar to how I imagine you felt when you made this post.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨What should I get my online friend for their birthday?⁩ ⁨⁨11⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  I think the screenshot is from their friend’s account, to show us what kinds of games they’ve already played? Wasn’t super clear to me either though

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨I dont want to enter a contract when consuming your product..⁩ ⁨⁨11⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  It says you’re bound by “opening and using” the product, rather than “opening or using”. Have someone else open it for you. Then neither of you have done both.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨i liek turdles⁩ ⁨⁨11⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  This is one of the better ones I’ve seen. It looks actually pretty 3D.

  Make the image as large as you can on your screen while still having it all visible. I don’t recommend a phone - try it on a monitor. Don’t try to see the whole image at once - look at one small part. Play with the focus of your eyes until you start to see an edge forming - and when you do, lock onto the edge until you can see it without struggling. Just try to make the edge clearer without bothering with the larger shape yet. Once you do, it should be easier to hold the focus as you look around the image and actually pick out what shapes everything is making.

  I recommend focusing on this part of the image as you start - there’s a pretty cool sea turtle there.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Nintendo faces legal action over ability to brick Switch 2s whenever they want⁩ ⁨⁨11⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Do people really use the term “brick” to refer to consoles with permanent online bans? To me they’re very different and a brick is much worse.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Do you know the answer?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago⁩:

  It is 33% if the answer itself is randomly chosen from 25%, 50%, and 60%. Then you have:

  If the answer is 25%: A 1/2 chance of guessing right If the answer is 50%: A 1/4 chance of guessing right If the answer is 60%: A 1/4 chance of guessing right And 1/31/2 + 1/31/4 + 1/3*1/4 = 1/3, or 33.333… chance

  If the answer is randomly chosen from A, B, C, and D (With A or D being picked meaning D or A are also good, so 25% has a 50% chance of being the answer) then your probability of being right changes to 37.5%

• From a purely political perspective, if you oppose the US tariffs as a US resident, should you buy or avoid buying products subject to tariffs?
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• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨What happens when I ignore the cookie preference dialogue on websites?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago⁩:

  Good to know that’s the default. I do definitely see prompts that have “Reject all”, plus some banners that only have “Accept all” and “Cookie settings”, with “Reject all” or “Necessary cookies only” only visible in the cookie settings. Thanks.

• What happens when I ignore the cookie preference dialogue on websites?
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• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨What can I actually do with 64 GB or RAM?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago⁩:

  I tried out the 8B deepseek and found it pretty underwhelming - the responses were borderline unrelated to the prompts at times. The smallest I had any respectable output with was the 12B model - which I was able to run, at a somewhat usable speed even.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨What can I actually do with 64 GB or RAM?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago⁩:

  Fair, I didn’t realize that. My GPU is a 1060 6 GB so I won’t be running any significant LLMs on it. This PC is pretty old at this point.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨What can I actually do with 64 GB or RAM?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago⁩:

  I have 16 GB of RAM and recently tried running local LLM models. Turns out my RAM is a bigger limiting factor than my GPU.

  And, yeah, docker’s always taking up 3-4 GB.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Select a tip⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago⁩:

  15 is the percent of the tip, not the percent increase in tip income over the last decade. If the tip percentage stays constant, then the tip amount rises in direct proportion to the food cost. The fair comparison is rent increase vs. restaurant food price increase. The data I found indicates rent’s gone up at an average of 4% per year in the last decade, and that restaurant food prices have risen by a similar amount - anywhere from 3-7% depending on the industry.

  Everyone is struggling. It is not unique to servers. And I do tip - just a reasonable 15%. If a server is struggling to get by on 15% tips, they should harass their boss and their senator, not their customers who are likely struggling as well.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Select a tip⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago⁩:

  I’m punishing them by giving them what was until 10 years ago considered an excellent and standard tip?

  Not to mention that servers are, as a general group, extremely opposed to dismantling the tip system as a whole. My complaint wasn’t about raised food prices, which the owner would be in control of - it was about raised tipping percentage expectations. I refuse to contribute to the steadily rising expectation of how much a tip should be, and regret my past contributions to that trend.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Select a tip⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago⁩:

  Back when 15% was considered standard I liked tipping closer to 30%, but as a direct result of the push to try to make 15% seem low I no longer tip more than 15%.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨[deleted]⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago⁩:

  Not really, if something is inspiring rage then it’s too hardcore for this community. The sidebar actually explicitly says “not enraging”!

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Two in one stupidish question- Debate about United Healthcare CEO and best place to have it⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago⁩:

  I’ll go a step further and say that, while I agree that vigilantism in general is bad for society, I don’t think that’s a universal truth. Targets and motives and effects matter. Sometimes vigilantism is both necessary and good. And that happens when the system itself becomes badly biased against true justice - where things are so bad that the people perpetrating the mass injustices aren’t even considered to be breaking the law, let alone just not being prosecuted for it. Not to Godwin things so quickly on purpose, but it would have been considered vigilantism to kill nazis as a German citizen in the 30’s and 40’s. I think most people today would agree that it would nonetheless have been completely justified. I’m not saying we’re that far gone just yet - but I’m saying when things get to the point where vigilante justice is the only justice, and when the system itself is structured to support injustice…

  I’m also not sure what Luigi did fits a strict definition of 'vigilantism", but that’s kind of irrelevant to the point. In a way he’s kind of an anti-vigilante? Using crime to handle horrible people who technically aren’t legally criminals?

  Either way, there are a lot of things deeply wrong with the US currently, on a systematic level, and it’s clear to almost everybody that the justice and healthcare systems are are major parts of that unwellness. The system as a whole has been getting worse and worse for decades. It’s frankly surprising that it took this long for something like this to happen - but I’m sure it won’t be the last time.

  It’s clear that a lot of people are feeling the same sort of way - it’s not often that a law-abiding citizen is publicly murdered and the nation, as a whole, celebrates and sends their well-wishes to the shooter. People wouldn’t react that way if they already felt the system was serving justice acceptably.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Hey is Sharing Luigi’s Manifesto on Social Media Actually "Glorifying Violence"? Because Reddit Said So 😭⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago⁩:

  They really couldn’t figure out that that first [indecipherable] is “fourth”?

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨How do Americans win their country back?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago⁩:

  That’s it, yes - each state gets as many electoral votes as it has congressmen, including senators. Most states award all of their electoral votes to whoever wins the state, with no proportionality to it at all - only two states (Nebraska and Maine, neither one large) do anything proportional with their votes.

  With a system like that it’s easier to see how things can end up with the less popular candidate winning - they can, for example, sneak by with 50.1% of the vote in just enough states to win, but bomb it out with 20% of the vote in all the other states. That’s an extreme example specifically for the purpose of illustration, but less extreme versions of that are usually what happens.

  The electoral votes also aren’t distributed entirely fairly - the number of electoral votes per person tends to be larger for less populated states. The less populated states also tend to be Republican states. So in a very real sense, each person’s vote counts for “more” in those states, and “less” in states with high populations. I don’t believe it’s really possible to fix this problem without vastly increasing the number of electoral votes, but congress currently has its size capped at 535 members for what I consider not very good reasons.

  Yes, the whole system is trash from the ground up. But much of its structure is defined in the constitution itself, which is very difficult to change.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨How do Americans win their country back?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago⁩:

  Faithless electors have never once affected the outcome of a US election.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨How do Americans win their country back?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago⁩:

  This is not correct. The electoral college is exactly as susceptible to giving the win to the person with fewer votes as it was in 2000 and 2016. It’s also not an issue that’s due to any state in particular and is not an issue that can be solved by individual state action. The NPVIC would fix it but requires the cooperation of many states and is not in effect, and has stalled pretty hard in recent years.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Is lemmy really any different from reddit?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago⁩:

  The main difference to me is the lack of a profit motive, which is the primary driver of enshittification. The federation helps harden it against things like abusive admins, since it’s dead simple to jump ship to another instance in that case, but honestly that’s pretty secondary to me.