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• j4k3@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

  Can we just normalize ‘come lay down somewhere and relax?’ That would be great. Thanks.

  No chairs. No standing. Nothing weird. Just lay there and chill together. That is a social life I can participate in.

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  • HasturInYellow@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

    This is the thing that is destroying our country. I’m not even joking. We don’t have the things you’re talking about or places to do them for free. We have nowhere for kids to hang out, for people to exist for free, public access entertainment/bath houses/whatever the fuck.

    We have nothing. Only what you can pay for and only extremely regimented.

    We have lost even the idea of community because it has been made impossible in this country.

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    • rumba@lemmy.zip ⁨2⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      I miss the malls, man. Like, some of them still exist, but they’re dying. You used to be able to just go and window shop and chill and grab a bite. Maybe go hit the arcade. Go watch a movie. You didn’t really have to have plans. You would just meet up and then fart around doing something.

      Now it’s almost all strip mall. What are we going to meet at the target? Then walk a mile in the weather to go to the Best Buy.

      Of course, I also miss my friends being as bored as I was. I think social media and local devices replaced a lot of that.

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    • prole@lemmy.blahaj.zone ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

      No more “third place”

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    • perishthethought@piefed.social ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

      Uhhh, don't we have city / county / state / national parks?

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    • ordnance_qf_17_pounder@reddthat.com ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

      What about glory holes?

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    • MangoPenguin@piefed.social ⁨23⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      Parks? Walking/hiking trails? Just wander off into national forest?

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    • chonglibloodsport@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

      The US has turned into Ferenginar so gradually I didn’t even notice!

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    • doingthestuff@lemy.lol ⁨14⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      I have a local nature park that has poles with hooks for hammocks dispersed around the many miles of hiking trails, and they even let you use their hammocks for free. But the park is privately owned and charges a small annual fee for use.

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    • Fizz@lemmy.nz ⁨15⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      When I was over in the states there were plenty of parks and free activities. Plenty of people using them as well.

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  • fartographer@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

    I miss having friends/family to cuddle with. My wife is fine, more than. But why can’t buddies just cuddle? Also, my oldest friend and I will platonically kiss. Our wives find it adorable, but I’ve been kissing this guy since preschool; why does it have to be seen as special?

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    • moriquende@lemmy.world ⁨23⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      Uh, that’s nice for you but I personally have 0 interest in cuddling or kissing buddies and never have. Hanging out is just fine. I wouldn’t be surprised if you’re rather in the minority here.

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  • ExistingConsumingSpace@midwest.social ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

    I have a friend that I do that with, it’s pretty nice. Just get cozy like a childhood sleepover and put on some music or nonsense on the tv while we chill and chat.

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  • Tyrq@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

    Man, I remember every weekend I’d have two or three friends all weekend, we’d all sleep on my bed. I miss those days. My bones hurt.

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  • PrimeMinisterKeyes@leminal.space ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

    Calm down there, Richard Stallman.

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  • Genius@lemmy.zip ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

    Third place

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• MIDItheKID@lemmy.world ⁨13⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  Somewhere inbetween. I had a friend who was a cook and I didn’t know shit about cooking. He would come over, then we would go to the supermarket and smell the different produce, and look at the meats and come up with something to cook. We would buy it, go back and chef it up. Learned a whole lot about cooking and flavor profiles etc. Some of the best times I’ve ever had.

  I’m a groomsman in his wedding in November. For the bachelor party we are renting a cabin with some people. We are going to dream up a menu, go shopping, and chef it up again. I can’t wait.

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• coriza@lemmy.world ⁨21⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  I love this type of bonding with friends and used to do it a lot. The problem is you have to live or be kinda close by, but I guess that is true for any less formal meetup. I guess the furthest away you are the more “a thing” the meetup must be and the duration longer.

  In any case I love do errands with friends and even go help out with something. Even though I don’t have time and energy for my stuff I feel like energy for hanging out with friends doing errands como from a different bucket.

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  • lengau@midwest.social ⁨15⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    It’s also far easier to do if you live in a walkable, bikeable city. I used to live somewhere where even the nearest grocery store was a 10 minute drive away, and I barely ever saw anyone. Now I’m a 5-10 minute bike ride from pretty much everything I need and I spend so much more time with friends.

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    • coriza@lemmy.world ⁨11⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      That is true. I also was luck enough to have a friend that didn’t mind at all to pick me up out of his way even if just as a companion to do errands and stuff. Otherwise the distance would be a problem.

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  • Noodle07@lemmy.world ⁨20⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    It’s because it feels great doing something while also procrastinating your own stuff to do

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    • coriza@lemmy.world ⁨18⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      That is so true. It is like a silver lining. I may be procrastinating but I am helping and spending some quality time with a friend.

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• AbsolutelyNotAVelociraptor@sh.itjust.works ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

  Ng those are the catch-ups I enjoy more. l

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• xia@lemmy.sdf.org ⁨15⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  A great idea, killed by coordination overhead.

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  • BanMe@lemmy.world ⁨15⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    It works if you’re like 22 and have few responsibilities and much free time.

    If you’re 44, fuck that noise, I got a routine to keep or everything will fall apart.

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    • SupremeDonut@lemmy.ml ⁨11⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      Oh cool so that’s normal…

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• BootLoop@sh.itjust.works ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

  Only one of those is an errand though.

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  • prole@lemmy.blahaj.zone ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

    Yeah, tacos will never be considered an errand.

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    • dingus@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

      Says you

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  • tamal3@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

    When you can no longer afford to buy things, including furniture, at stores, thrifting as a habit become an errand. Not one that takes long enough to meet up with a friend, I agree, but it is a slightly different headspace than going shopping.

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    • chonglibloodsport@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

      I support thrifting 100% though. Buy stuff from real people, stuff that’s good quality that somebody no longer needs, and avoid buying newly manufactured disposable junk.

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    • doingthestuff@lemy.lol ⁨14⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      The only worthwhile thrifting is online at this point. Shops are crazily overpriced.

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• SeductiveTortoise@piefed.social ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

  Let's create a community for that. An app like Tinder, but instead of Netflix and chill, there's just socializing and having a good time.

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• Jake_Farm@sopuli.xyz ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

  Those are true friends.

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• general_kitten@sopuli.xyz ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

  running errands with a friend truly is the best way.

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• pan0wski@infosec.pub ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

  I feel like doing stuff like that would make our bond stronger instead of only sitting in a coffee bar or a restaurant.

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  • Korhaka@sopuli.xyz ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

    I have suggested a firepit by the beach but it doesn’t seem to get people interested. Despite costing almost nothing beyond maybe a few marshmallows.

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    • Lawelen@fedia.io ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

      Some of us don't have beaches. And if you place a fire in a park...

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• MagnyusG@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

  oh yeah spend 250 dollars instead of 85

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  • elucubra@sopuli.xyz ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

    Costco, is that you?

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  • coriza@lemmy.world ⁨21⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    I think the person is not implying that by going with the person doing an errand you also have to spend money. You are going as a companion.

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  • Death_Equity@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

    Yeah, but that $250 is a bunch of food, some books, and tacos instead of one ok meal and some mimosas.

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• Semi_Hemi_Demigod@lemmy.world ⁨22⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  Dine on the free samples at Costco and you can skip the tacos

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  • rumba@lemmy.zip ⁨2⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    Never skip Taco Day.

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• Rentlar@lemmy.ca ⁨17⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  I do feel bad for making people paying hundreds to come visit, not to eat at least some local restaurants.

  But for more frequent hangouts it would be nice to hangout informally.

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• Evil_Shrubbery@thelemmy.club ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

  With something clear-ish to focus on I will not only more easily plan my day & be there, but also be able to enjoy the time together, even retain more memories.

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• 9point6@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

  I wish I had the time to get all my own errands done, let alone helping a friend with theirs.

  Maybe it’s just me, but I need shit in my calendar at least a couple of weeks prior if I’m gonna be able to make it, and the only kinds of chores people really plan that far ahead is going to be moving stuff (which I funnily do actually end up doing a lot with friends)

  100% let’s just put a meal in the calendar, doesn’t have to be expensive and I’ll actually be able to focus on the conversation rather than some task.

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• daggermoon@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

  My dream woman

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