dingus
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- Comment on I know I shouldn't... 1 day ago:
Yeah, drama can be pretty fantastic if you’re not the one involved. It’s when you’re involved by the drama that it sucks major ass.
- Comment on how did you and your partner change after having a baby? 1 week ago:
Lmaoo my coworker always talks about the baby smell too. I find it funny because I have never sniffed a baby hahaha
- Comment on how did you and your partner change after having a baby? 1 week ago:
Sleep deprivation is literally a torture technique. I am thankful that people do choose to try to raise children with this in mind, but it just sounds like literal torture to me. Even with people who tell me how much they supposedly love raising kids, I see the immense pain and suffering that they go through literally all the time.
My guess is that some powerful hormones must be released or something after having a child to make people think that they are enjoying their life even though an outside observer can view their immense suffering.
- Comment on Feel this 2 weeks ago:
I get that having problems is not unique and everyone has their own. Some people have worse or more numerous ones. Some people have fewer or less severe ones. Some people may share some of the same problems as you. Some people may not.
But one thing that is sometimes frustrating for me is that my particular set of problems makes it more difficult to connect with others and can be a bit more isolating than other kinds of problems. When your problems are social and/or sexual in nature, they affect your ability to have relationships (both platonic and romantic), which can be more isolating than other types of problems can be.
- Comment on [deleted] 2 weeks ago:
Plus like…does this person never get sick in 8 years? I think if I ran while I had COVID or a stomach bug I would literally just die.
Huge disclaimer: I’m at work so I can’t actually watch the video and know the answer to this.
- Comment on memes from my biology class #6 3 weeks ago:
I live in the southern US and I see them daily. They seem to be more common than squirrels. They run away from you though so they don’t bother anyone. At my old apartment, there was a period of time somehow lizards kept getting inside my place. I kept trying to free them but I would accidentally kill them when trying to handle them. They are super fragile.
- Comment on Prices are out of control 4 weeks ago:
I hear this but I don’t understand. All diet soft drinks taste absolutely disgusting to me. I’ve had both Coke Zero and Diet Coke and both have that disgusting fake sugar aftertaste.
I either get non-Diet soft drinks or I go sparkling water. I can’t do that fake sugar shit. It’s nasty.
But the one exception for me is that I put fake sugar in my coffee. The bitter aftertaste of the coffee helps mask the aftertaste of the fake sugar.
- Comment on Got kicked out of Hell for harshing the vibe 4 weeks ago:
2meirl4meirl content
- Comment on The hills are alive with the sound of music! 🎶🎵 4 weeks ago:
Thank you very much
- Comment on The hills are alive with the sound of music! 🎶🎵 4 weeks ago:
That’s where I’ve always been confused. Every living being wants to propogate their species through innate biological urges and behaviors, whether they realize it or not. Obviously humans recognize these behaviors and are able to choose whether or not to actually have children or to simply act on these urges without procreating (condoms, birth control, etc.). But the innate biological inclinations are still there.
It’s odd for me because I’ve never had these urges or inclinations for sex. Sometimes it makes me feel like I’m not human or something. Because every living being seems to experience this. Even when I discovered the concept of asexuality, I found that a very significant number of these individuals either oddly still had a sex drive or they were sexually traumatized in some way which blocked it. I have never had a sex drive and was never sexually traumatized. I was not a “late bloomer”, as I’m in my 30s with the same lack of normal human feelings.
- Comment on Peepee poopoo 4 weeks ago:
It could be that the first message was automated, but the second message was not.
It seems nowadays, when I get appointment reminder texts from various places, the initial text is automated. But then you can reply whatever you want and a human looks at the message and can respond to you.
- Comment on Beans 4 weeks ago:
I’m reminded of this classic from MadTV:
- Comment on Unfortunately happens too often I think 5 weeks ago:
If you lived alone I’d say it would be a terrible idea to get a dog. But if your wife is home a lot then it sounds like a much more doable situation imo.
- Comment on Unfortunately happens too often I think 5 weeks ago:
Yeah I love alone and have a career where I cannot work at home. Sometimes I think about getting a pet, but I just can’t see it as being ethical in my situation. Sometimes I do ponder getting a cat though as they seem more independent, but I don’t have much experience with them.
- Comment on Rev up those 3D printers! 5 weeks ago:
I know people with kids and they always seem like they are perpetually exhausted and barely hanging on. They talk about not sleeping and conflicts and issues and it just honestly makes it sound horrendous and really looks like they are all suffering from an outsider’s perspective. But then they tell me that it’s worth it because it’s “fulfilling” like you said. I don’t know. From an outsider’s perspective, parents’ words don’t seem to correlate with what I see and hear.
I have a feeling that when people talk about things being “fulfilling” or “worth it” despite seeming to objectively be suffering must be some combination of strange hormones with coping mechanisms.
Idk. That’s just my thoughts as a confused outsider. I’m happy that people are able to raise children. Someone has to. But I don’t think I could make myself suffer to that extreme for a being that will never truly understand what you’re doing for them until decades later.
- Comment on Minecraft confuses me 1 month ago:
Thanks for helping to validate my comment haha. I do appreciate it.
Is there anything specific you’ve done and would recommend to help swing in the other direction like you’ve stated?
Was curious as to what you might have found helpful. I had tried the beginnings of CBT in the past, but it just makes me feel bad and frustrated. I have always been taught that my thoughts and feelings are wrong, and that’s effectively the core of CBT. I don’t like it because it just propagates how everything I think and feel is invalid. Yet it’s the “trendy” thing to do nowadays so every therapist and their mother uses it as their modality.
Interestingly though I don’t think that this issue necessarily stems from deliberately toxic parents. My mom did the best she could and is very loving and nurturing but I was just too much for her to know how to deal with in this way.
- Comment on Minecraft confuses me 1 month ago:
When I was a kid, I would always get in trouble for getting upset. No one ever wanted to know why I was upset. They just wanted me to shut the fuck up. I really wish things would have been handled the way you describe. My siblings didn’t have the same problems as me in this way so it has always made me feel alone in feeling what I feel. Now as an adult, I never know if what I’m feeling is real and valid… usually I think it isn’t.
Anyway sorry that was only tangentially related.
- Comment on I'm a 6'1" man with size 3 feet which means every they measure my feet at a shoe store, the Brannock device gatekeeps my gender 1 month ago:
I thought the normal way was to crawl up on all fours like an animal
- Comment on The therapy I can afford 1 month ago:
I’m not sure who out here is randomly posting that information to ChatGPT. But even if they were, your address and personal details are unfortunately readily publicly available on the web. It’s 2025.
- Comment on The therapy I can afford 1 month ago:
Lmao. I’m curious on what about my post history makes me sound like a Russian bot.
- Comment on The therapy I can afford 1 month ago:
Goddamn you guys are the most paranoid people I’ve ever witnessed. What in the world do you think mega corps are going to do to me for babbling incoherent nonsense to ChatGPT?
No, it’s not a substitute for a real therapist. But therapy is goddamn expensive and sometimes you just need to vent about something and you don’t necessarily have someone to vent to. It doesn’t yield anything useful, but it can help a bit mentally do to do.
- Comment on In the not too distant past this was a thing 1 month ago:
Wow I love this!
- Comment on In the not too distant past this was a thing 1 month ago:
Right?? One of the first things I do when getting a new phone is disabling all the useless notifications and keeping the ones I care about. My phone doesn’t spam with notifications all day.
- Comment on The real questions 1 month ago:
Should…should mine not???
- Comment on The poop psa absolutely no one asked for 1 month ago:
Wow! I love red bell peppers but I’ve never ate enough of them to do this! I’m impressed!
- Comment on The poop psa absolutely no one asked for 1 month ago:
Yes and no. It just depends where along your GI tract the cancer is.
If the cancer is further up in your colon, the bleeding can turn your poo a dark color. BUT if you have cancer near to the “exit hole” (in your rectum or anus), it absolutely can involve bright red bleeding.
- Comment on Anyone remember Courage? 1 month ago:
What the fuck even is this? I’m not familiar with whatever horrifying episode this is lol.
- Comment on Anyone remember Courage? 1 month ago:
Return the slab
- Comment on flamin 1 month ago:
Ouch
- Comment on Do this and enjoy life and stop being a victim 1 month ago:
People tell me this but it just doesn’t feel good when people say/do mean things, even if they are someone that isn’t worth my time.