I saw Silverchair and Powderfinger at the Across The Great Divide tour in Bendigo. As I was pushing my way towards the stage for a closer look at the Silverchair set, someone pinched my bum really hard. Like really hard. I just kept going thoughâŠ
Discussion Thread đ Saturday 26 July 2025
Submitted âšâš2â© âšmonthsâ© agoâ© by âšYarraByte@aussie.zoneâ© to âšmelbourne@aussie.zoneâ©
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useless_modern_god@aussie.zone âš2â© âšmonthsâ© ago
Seagoon_@aussie.zone âš2â© âšmonthsâ© ago
same thing happened to me at the opera
yucky men are the same everywhere
Bottom_racer@aussie.zone âš2â© âšmonthsâ© ago
Buns of steel.
bacon@aussie.zone âš2â© âšmonthsâ© ago
Sneak in tonight and gorilla glue theirs
Gibsonhasafluffybutt@aussie.zone âš2â© âšmonthsâ© ago
Iâve joined the iPhone people.
Yay?
Bottom_racer@aussie.zone âš2â© âšmonthsâ© ago
Neigh.
Gibsonhasafluffybutt@aussie.zone âš2â© âšmonthsâ© ago
Sad face :(
Itâs actually a decent handset tbh. My old Samsung was barely functional except for the camera.
Taleya@aussie.zone âš2â© âšmonthsâ© ago
they do the job and have some champion sandboxing that stops a lot of spyware spyinâ
Force_majeure123@aussie.zone âš2â© âšmonthsâ© ago
Sorry đ
Gibsonhasafluffybutt@aussie.zone âš2â© âšmonthsâ© ago
Oh no!
bacon@aussie.zone âš2â© âšmonthsâ© ago
Welcome!
Gibsonhasafluffybutt@aussie.zone âš2â© âšmonthsâ© ago
Yay!!!
Duenan@aussie.zone âš2â© âšmonthsâ© ago
Not a bad purchase, sometimes the simplicity of it can be good and they have gotten slightly better with some customisation.
I havenât had an android phone in ages though.
tone212_@aussie.zone âš2â© âšmonthsâ© ago
Definite yay, welcome to that expensive dark side
mertn22@aussie.zone âš2â© âšmonthsâ© ago
I. I.
Gibsonhasafluffybutt@aussie.zone âš2â© âšmonthsâ© ago
Gibsonhasafluffybutt@aussie.zone âš2â© âšmonthsâ© ago
RustyRaven@aussie.zone âš2â© âšmonthsâ© ago
Looks like a queen with her crown.
imoldgreeeg@aussie.zone âš2â© âšmonthsâ© ago
Thatâs the way itâs gonna beee little darlinâ
Gibsonhasafluffybutt@aussie.zone âš2â© âšmonthsâ© ago
đŽđ
Taleya@aussie.zone âš2â© âšmonthsâ© ago
yeah ok if Great Southern Land is this far up, 1927 and Noiseworks arenât getting a look in.
Seagoon_@aussie.zone âš2â© âšmonthsâ© ago
any bets on Two Little Boys ?
TheWitchofThornbury@aussie.zone âš2â© âšmonthsâ© ago
I think that will be quietly ignored, in the light of all the circumstances. Along with Six White Boomers.
Duenan@aussie.zone âš2â© âšmonthsâ© ago
Finally after a good few hours I can rest and put my foot up.
Pain is a bit less but made the mistake of putting weight and taking a full step a few times and felt the pain.
Sleep wasnât too bad but had to readjust a few times to get comfy.
Food has been made, washing packed and new cycle put up.
Took a surprisingly long time for everything and a wash with bag done.
Seagoon_@aussie.zone âš2â© âšmonthsâ© ago
owww, so many hugs.
Duenan@aussie.zone âš2â© âšmonthsâ© ago
Made myself a coffee, watching the footy and playing video games now
underwatermagpies@aussie.zone âš2â© âšmonthsâ© ago
Did some good adulting and got my eyes tested, because they sent me a reminder. I managed to forget that having bright lights shone into my eyes is about the surest way to induce a migraine. Ahhh. Now at home with drugs, stupid eyes can stay untested in future. If I remember. They were fine anyway.
mertn22@aussie.zone âš2â© âšmonthsâ© ago
Look out, the eyes creep up on you! My best friend was totally blind in one eye and could hardly see out of the other before I managed to convince her to see an optometrist. She ended up having cataract surgery in both eyes. New plastic lenses to replace the ones she was born with.
The result was great. She can now read and see at a distance without glasses. So test yearly.
Alamutjones@aussie.zone âš2â© âšmonthsâ© ago
I return. The market is flooded with B+I Lions fans here for the rugby
useless_modern_god@aussie.zone âš2â© âšmonthsâ© ago
Dangerous Animals (2025) is an Australian survival horror film. Directed by Sean Byrne, It had a world premiere at Cannes Film Festival (the first Australian film in the program in over a decade)
A serial killer (Jai Courtney) kidnaps and films his victims being eaten alive by sharks. Itâs revealed he has made dozens of videos. Apparently heâs somehow trying to deal with his own childhood trauma of being mauled by a shark.
Eventually, the killer chooses the wrong girl, our protagonist, a van life surfer chick, Zephyr (Hassie Harrison). She possesses both physical and mental strength, as well as being drop dead gorgeous and very clever.
You can imagine how the plot unfolds. Itâs comparable to big game deep sea fishing in which the Marlin resists and tries escape for hours on end and the fishermen slowly reels it in. So too, does the killer thwart escape attempts time and time again.
In this regard, I feel a bit let down by the filmâs only real strength. Itâs a tight story but predictable. The viewer is ultimately just waiting for the final victorious escape and revenge (the scene is a glorious and fitting demise for the killer though).
Most of the film is shot on a smallish fishing boat with some very nice underwater shark scenes, the soundtrack is pretty cool with old school songs by Billy Idol, Creedence, The Regrettes, Crowded House, Fleetwood Mac, and Stevie Wright.
A solid horror film, maybe like a Wolf Creek on the water. Itâs worth one viewing but, I probably wonât ever watch it again.
6.8/10 gaffer hooks
Seagoon_@aussie.zone âš2â© âšmonthsâ© ago
this sounds good and will go on the watch list đ
so much to watch, so little time
Force_majeure123@aussie.zone âš2â© âšmonthsâ© ago
Your reviews are top tier, thank you đ
useless_modern_god@aussie.zone âš2â© âšmonthsâ© ago
Thank you. That means a lot to me.
just_kitten@aussie.zone âš2â© âšmonthsâ© ago
Oh hey, I think it was you who recommended Red Rooms a while back. It took me a while to get into it but it was solid and my kind of horror. Thanks for the rec.
useless_modern_god@aussie.zone âš2â© âšmonthsâ© ago
Youâre very welcome đ
CEOofmyhouse56@aussie.zone âš2â© âšmonthsâ© ago
I donât know if this is clever or tightarsy but a maccaâs cheese burger costs $4 or $5 each but a hamburger which has everything a cheese burger has except the cheese is $2. Iâm gonna get 2 hamburgers and add my own burger cheese to them. Lunch sorted.
Duenan@aussie.zone âš2â© âšmonthsâ© ago
Youâve found a hack!
How much does it cost to add cheese to a burger at maccas?
CEOofmyhouse56@aussie.zone âš2â© âšmonthsâ© ago
No idea
mertn22@aussie.zone âš2â© âšmonthsâ© ago
2 or 3 $ apparently.
RustyRaven@aussie.zone âš2â© âšmonthsâ© ago
PeelerSheila@aussie.zone âš2â© âšmonthsâ© ago
Sleeping cats are a thing of beauty đ
Gibsonhasafluffybutt@aussie.zone âš2â© âšmonthsâ© ago
tone212_@aussie.zone âš2â© âšmonthsâ© ago
Set up and connected my new vinyl player, the records sound sooo much better. Got this player half price during EOFY sales, it was a steal. Having fun re-listening to my records sounding the way they should have all along.
Taleya@aussie.zone âš2â© âšmonthsâ© ago
LMAOOOO His Lordship literally just said âIâm gonna be so fucking mad if fucking spiderbaitâs cover of Black Betty makes it. Itâs a shit coverâ
useless_modern_god@aussie.zone âš2â© âšmonthsâ© ago
No Chats, King Gizzard or Frenzal on the list. What the hell.?
Catfish@aussie.zone âš2â© âšmonthsâ© ago
So, who is doing the dishes?
Alamutjones@aussie.zone âš2â© âšmonthsâ© ago
Gonâ get this lasagna in the oven soon
Seagoon_@aussie.zone âš2â© âšmonthsâ© ago
Movie review. First in a long time. Iâd been really looking forward to seeing this. đ
Better Man with Robbie Williams. đ”
Iâm tired, in pain, emotional, so of course I cried the whole way through.
As good as 8 Mile but an English movie which is great because Robbie is English.
4 hobbits
Sherlock Holmes Faces Death with Basil Rathbone and Nigel Bruce. 68 minutes
I watched this to see how they could make such a short movie, sans titles and credits story would be 64 min
in that time they introduced so many characters, made a story, made a mystery, made danger, and resolved it all.
It was like watching a whole series of short stories, stories where all we get is the âmiddle bitâ, no start, no end. Through skillful writing we are led to figure all the starts and ends ourselves.
4 hobbits
useless_modern_god@aussie.zone âš2â© âšmonthsâ© ago
Reckless at number 39 đ. Should have been top 10 on the TripJ list.
Taleya@aussie.zone âš2â© âšmonthsâ© ago
shockers we have yet to hear
James Reyne / Australian Crawl
1927
Living End
Skyhooks
Little River Band
Dragon
Hoodoo Gurus
TISM
Mental as Anything
SeekersNot surprised to have not heard yet (because they will be VERY highly ranked):
AC/DC Kylie Paul Kelly Pseudo Echo (YOU KNOW WHY)
Personally if The Real Thing doesnât pop up ima gonna shank a bitch.
Alamutjones@aussie.zone âš2â© âšmonthsâ© ago
Iâm off to the market before returning to hibernate for the afternoon. Can I get anyone anything?
bacon@aussie.zone âš2â© âšmonthsâ© ago
Beep Beep đ
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Woke up đ„± Back to the tech bullshit.
spoiler
Iâve already switched to Duck Duck Go on my phone which is a bit hard to get used to. Oh well. Gotta do it on the computer now. Iâm making non-Gmail versions of my emails and replacing them on the appropriate platforms to ensure I retain access to those connected services if I lose access to the gmail (even if itâs only to have the option to overwrite or delete them). Reddit is demanding government id now so Iâm wondering whether I should use that addon to mass redact my posts and delete my account. It breaks my heart to do it. Itâs a lot of history with some fantastic people, so many posts with Melbcat including adopting her, and it all probably documents stuff I might want to refer to. And itâs the last nail in the coffin of me potentially returning there. </3 At the same time I donât trust Spez with his intent to emulate Musk and the way he handled changes to the site, am annoyed I didnât do it before ai scraped my content, and itâs possibly better not to leave so much personal info sitting on there. I wonder if thereâs a way to download it for myself and then wipe it off Reddit. I donât know. Iâll have to see how long I have to decide. Probably not long :( Next on the agenda is getting my photos and files back off the cloud. Need to see how long I have to do that.
The privacy and physical media buffs were so right. I didnât have the time or savvy to be preventative but I can try my best now.
Seagoon_@aussie.zone âš2â© âšmonthsâ© ago
tomorrow dye hair. Monday go to vicroads to get my learners. Tuesday book lessons. đ
PeelerSheila@aussie.zone âš2â© âšmonthsâ© ago
Battling the CBF factor today. Have dragged myself out of bed, done some laundry and loaded and started the dishwasher. Now going to attempt grocery shopping.
CEOofmyhouse56@aussie.zone âš2â© âšmonthsâ© ago
Wild night.
melbaboutown@aussie.zone âš2â© âšmonthsâ© ago
I ate the vegan cream cheese without dramatic effects. However it was way too expensive to buy regularly and didnât have much in the way of nutrition.
Iâm going to have to work out if I can eat tofu. If I can thatâs a lot cheaper, higher protein, and can be used to make both âcream cheeseâ and âice creamâ. (I know cashews are an option but way too expensive.) Silken tofu is higher FOD MAPs but firm tofu might be ok?
Seagoon_@aussie.zone âš2â© âšmonthsâ© ago
Kamahl? He has sold over 20 million albums.
SituationCake@aussie.zone âš2â© âšmonthsâ© ago
Been listening to the triple J hottest 100 Aus Since about no. 20. Its bangin. So many great songs.
PeelerSheila@aussie.zone âš2â© âšmonthsâ© ago
Ok so Iâm having a bit of a rough time ATM. Itâs in relation to this comment I made yesterday.
Miniest and I have had a few chats, Iâve tried to be tolerant and accepting but Iâm ashamed to say that the tolerance and understanding is not happening as easily on my end of things as it probably should be. I feel that just because the âgirliestâ girls in the class donât want to play their girly games with you for example, and just because you are not into wearing girly clothes etc., that doesnât make you any less of a girl. It certainly doesnât make you a boy. There is a lot of middle ground between the ultra glam feminine stereotypical examples of womanliness and the more masculine âtom boyâ (to use an expression from my childhood) stereotypes of women. Most of us seem to be kind of in the middle somewhere. Some of us have girly nails or drive a girly car or have beautiful girly hair and clothes but also know how to put up a bookshelf or change a washer on a tap or are a mean kick of the footy. Thatâs the beauty of having the freedom to pick and choose and be flexible with your identity and self perception. As you grow up you find your spot and get comfortable with yourself and learn who you are. Iâm trying to explain this to Miniest but itâs impossible for her to understand because she lacks the life experience to do so, but is pretty steadfast and stubborn about being called a boy. Iâve had to be honest; Iâm sometimes tactful but unfortunately also can be pretty blunt. If it walks like a duck and quacks like a duck and has feathers like a duck and looks like a duck then you can pretty well guess itâs a bloody duck. My child looks like a girl, sounds like a girl and to me is a girl, just not a conventionaly girly one, and itâs actually this aspect of her that I love the most. She is strongly individual, rebellious, outspoken and creative, hilarious and unique and beautiful. Iâm glad and proud of her being my daughter with attributes like these, and Iâm not adjusting well to this new thinking, itâs making me feel old and tired and a bit lost. Thankyou for reading my rant, I had to put it out there to just⊠get it out.
StudChud@aussie.zone âš2â© âšmonthsâ© ago
Iâm AFAB non-binary (biologically female and raised as a girl, but I donât identify as either male or female in my head), but Iâm not a parent so please take this with a big grain of salt.
I knew from Miniestâs age, and even before, that I wasnât like the other kids. I was too much of a âgirlâ for the boys to include me, and too much of a âboyâ for the girls to include me. I thought there was something terribly wrong with me, because I wanted to wear dresses but also wanted to play footy and play with âboyâ toys (I so badly wanted hot wheels. I got a Barbie doll đ€Šââïž). I had no words to describe myself, I would cry because I felt like I didnât fit in or belong anywhere. Didnât help that mum refused to dress me in feminine clothes because of her own trauma (fear of men staring at me đ) but her family would ask me why I dress like a boy. It was very confusing and traumatising on top of everything else I was dealing with.
It took me a long time, not until I was 28 to realise I was NB, and to also allow myself to dress both femininely and masculinely without feeling awful and gross. And that was because I was reading posts from other NBs and I felt so seen and understood. I donât do anything different now, I still look and sound like a woman. I dress femininely and masculinely equally, Iâm confident telling people my pronouns are they/them but also accept that I will be referred to as she/her because Iâm not overly androgynous. The difference is, is that I donât think Iâm inherently âwrongâ for being this way, and I accept myself with kindness. It doesnât change who I am, but I am much more confident and happy with myself.
Miniest also is about to hit puberty, and itâs just going to involve a lot of labels and discovery on her part. They might not feel âfemaleâ now, but that can change, and might change a lot or not at all. They might try on different labels and styles, as itâs a journey of discovering oneself and accepting oneself fully and wholly.
The best thing you can do is just, try to accept it? Accept that right now, Miniest doesnât feel particularly âfemaleâ in their head, accept that that might change as they grow and discover who they are. Personally, Iâd avoid asking too many questions, especially as it can (but not always!) feel like an interrogation, but just reinforce that you love and and accept Miniest no matter what. That their journey and who they are, who they will become, will not ever change how much you love Miniest. Thatâs the most important part - that Miniest knows that no matter what, you will always have their back and be in their corner.
I canât speak for the parent side of it, Iâm sorry. But I do know that Miniest will always need you on their side.
Eagle@aussie.zone âš2â© âšmonthsâ© ago
Spud, that is so beautifully put. đ
PeelerSheila@aussie.zone âš2â© âšmonthsâ© ago
Thankyou for sharing your story⊠Wow I could relate to much of this, the whole too much a girl to be included with the boys and vice versa, and even the Hot Wheels (mum stubbornly kept buying me dolls and Iâd put them in the cupboard and refuse to play with them). I can see Miniest as NB, if anyone in the family is going to challenge binary thinking itâll be her! I try to tell my kids I love them no matter what quite often; my own motherâs love was strictly conditional and transactional and I suffered greatly because of it. I think youâre right too about her trying on a few different labels and identities as she grows, I can really see her doing that.
imoldgreeeg@aussie.zone âš2â© âšmonthsâ© ago
CEO and Seagoon have such wise advice. I donât have kids but itâs something I have thought about myself as an adult. I have never fit in with girls and my experience of my female biology has been pretty negative (endo, infertile etc). For a while I wondered if I were not a woman but itâs really hard to unpack (for me) whether you fundamentally are not your assigned gender or if you donât really like the idea of your assigned gender.
I eventually came to some peace through some study I did related to yoga. The idea of feminine I was learning about was the fierce, fighting, transforming one. I understood that the gender stuff we have thrown at us is so empty and silly. I donât wear dresses and I donât like some aspects of my body. Iâm just me. A she mostly.
I would hate to be a kid going through this and just wanting to belong. And itâs bloody hard to be the parent holding space but also trying to protect and guide.
No answers just throwing some thoughts out in case it helps.
LowExperience2368@aussie.zone âš2â© âšmonthsâ© ago
I agree, the whole concept of girls toys and boys toys is silly to me. I grew up given dolls and âgirlyâ stuff, so the way Iâve been socialised has made me feel like Hot Wheels, Star Wars, and dinosaurs arenât supposed to be for me.
PeelerSheila@aussie.zone âš2â© âšmonthsâ© ago
I appreciate your thoughts. The gender stuffis really silly and arbitrary.
TheWitchofThornbury@aussie.zone âš2â© âšmonthsâ© ago
Went through something like this myself.
personal experience
Being bullied and called a tomboy or a lesbian or worse because I didnât wear make up or paint my nails with glitter etc. And wasnât submissive and starstruck around anything with a y chromosome. I did find during high school that the girly-girls were afraid of me, and some of their name calling and other idiocies was because I didnât conform to a gender stereotype that they were fully invested in. They couldnât take it that I wasnât falling into line with their very bi-polar gendered view of the universe. Didnât help that they were from much wealthier backgrounds and âhigherâ social status (at least in their own opinion), so they felt they had a right to dictate everyone elseâs behaviour. Being a fair bit smarter than them didnât help either - but did eventually allow them to label me a âbrainâ and therefore outside their gender norms.
And they were majorly pissed off with me because most of my friends were boys. Who talked with me like I was one of them and we liked each others company but didnât flirt. When I got married I got a fair few letters from the girly-girls (this was before texts) expressing surprise that Iâd managed to be ânormalâ enough to marry.
One of the positives of this was that I learned early to store my identity inside me, rather than in the clothes I wore or the things I owned. Not being a girly-girl didnât make me a boy or a lesbian or anything really, but it did take a bit longer to find my niche, as back then there was a hellava lot more gender stereotyping pushed onto girls. Not so much of that nowadays for which we can all be thankful.
Miniest may have a harder road to travel, and may never find instant unthinking broad community approval cos thereâs still a fair bit of stereotyping out there. But Iâm also sure that Miniest will find a way to be herself, and to do that in style!
Hugs to both of you.
PeelerSheila@aussie.zone âš2â© âšmonthsâ© ago
Thankyou for sharing your experiences, Iâve experienced just a little bit of that wealthier class judgy normy girl expectations stuff and my god can they be bitchy! Iâm loving how in this thread weâve all been through painful experiences but all come through it with our own strength of opinion about ourselves and our identities and what works for us.
bacon@aussie.zone âš2â© âšmonthsâ© ago
For quite a few years I wanted to be a boy, I guess partly because I was told by many adults that I was not girly enough, and I have few âgirlyâ interests. My personality does not fit the stereotypical girl one either. Itâs only after accepting I do not have to care about stereotypes that I am happy to be female. Definitely agree with Seagoon to ask her what she thinks it means to be a girl or a boy, whether she just wants to do what boys do, or whether she (he?) identifies as one.
PeelerSheila@aussie.zone âš2â© âšmonthsâ© ago
I can relate to what you said about being comfortable as a woman only after you dropped the stereotypes of what it means. I remember spending time looking in the mirror as a teen, wondering if I was meant to have been born male and I was somehow a mistake.
CEOofmyhouse56@aussie.zone âš2â© âšmonthsâ© ago
I always told the young people my daughter hangs with not to worry about labels. Enjoy being young. Get experiences in life. Those things will slot into space when the time is right. The important thing is being you.
Hugs to you đ«
PeelerSheila@aussie.zone âš2â© âšmonthsâ© ago
Thankyou đđŒ
Pilk@aussie.zone âš2â© âšmonthsâ© ago
I think this post is evidence of top-notch parenting. Youâve figure out youâre in a tricky moment, and have started putting in the work to navigate it, and youâll be prepared whatever eventuality.
Did the pronouns revelation seem like a big deal to Miniest? Thereâs a good chance it felt like a bit of a âcoming outâ â and safety in your (conscious and subconscious) reaction will be closely being searched for. As long as Miniest knows nothing else changes, thereâs still beds to be made and dinner to help prepare, youâll be good.
PeelerSheila@aussie.zone âš2â© âšmonthsâ© ago
I did get the impression it was a bit of a coming out of sorts, but possibly the first time sheâs been asked the âwhat/how do you like to identify yourself in terms of genderâ question. She has a very small group of friends, and from what sheâs said theyâre the kids who would identify differently from âthe normâ and wouldnât be as surprised as me to hear her say it. Weâve talked in the past about how sheâs most likely described as gender fluid. I hadnât heard her call herself a boy before. Youâre right about nothing else changing though, Iâm right by her side through this journey and yes, the dinner must still be made!
Eagle@aussie.zone âš2â© âšmonthsâ© ago
Its a tough spot for both of you to be in. I tend to agree with CEO and Seagoon about not worrying about the label too much. Minipeeler is still the creative, strong individual you know and love, and they will continue to grow and develop in a world that supports them as an individual regardless of the box they tick around gender.
Seagoon_@aussie.zone âš2â© âšmonthsâ© ago
Ask her what she thinks are the attributes of a girl and the attributes of a boy
Iâm 100% sure that I would be labelled something by people who have an agenda just because I played sports, liked animals and not dolls, had and still have an interest in technology, studied the sciences, joined the military and have an interest in geopolitics
I was never labeled by others in this and I never doubted who I was ( I had and still have other problems with labels but nothing to do with gender)
Seagoon_@aussie.zone âš2â© âšmonthsâ© ago
Interestingly one of my role models was Major Houlihan in MASH. She was a strong, intelligent, capable and caring woman. Her womanhood and femininity was never in question.
PeelerSheila@aussie.zone âš2â© âšmonthsâ© ago
Thankyou that sounds like a worthwhile conversation to have with her and I will.
SituationCake@aussie.zone âš2â© âšmonthsâ© ago
So much good advice in the comments already given. Thereâs a difference between feeling like youâre in the wrong body, or just feeling like you donât align with the current version of gender norms. Eg traditionally the wife would cook all the meals at home, but professional cooks were men. So does cooking make you feminine or masculine? Obviously neither, itâs just a task that has had historical divisions applied to it based on status. The point being; hobbies, interests, clothing preferences (men used to wear frills and lace, dresses, bright colours at various times in history), career interests, liking sports etc etc do not make someone male or female. Miniest is gonna have a lot of things to figure out, and as they grow older it might be they figure out they just donât like the 2025 version of âgirlyâ, or it might be something deeper.
Youâre doing an awesome job already thinking through possibilities and having conversations, and being ready with assurances of love. You got this, whatever path it goes down.
PeelerSheila@aussie.zone âš2â© âšmonthsâ© ago
I like your historical perspective (wigs, gents?) and the difference between feeling like youâre either in the wrong body or not aligned with societyâs version of gender. I feel like that part is really important and something everyone has to explore for themselves, as Miniest will.
anotherspringchicken@aussie.zone âš2â© âšmonthsâ© ago
Being a non-girly girl, I relate to a lot of a the comments below. I was a tomboy and not into girly things. I didnât fit in with most other girls (but reckon a touch of the tism didnât help with that). Puberty sucked and there was a lot of body shaming in my family, so that didnât help, either.
When my kid was in year 5/6 a big topic of conversation with him & his classmates was sexual identity, and they spent heaps of time discussing and analysing what their identities and preferences were. I was a bit surprised that it all came up so early (would have thought it was more teenage stuff, but clearly idk).
These things are out in the open and talked about a lot more now, so I reckon kids have more leeway to explore different aspects of their identities, which is so much healthier than denying or suppressing them like in the past. Iâve found as a parent, it can be challenging when things come up that I didnât expect or hadnât considered - itâs definitely taken me some time to get my head around some things.
I just want to say youâre an amazing parent, Peeler, and youâre doing a wonderful job with your kids.
PeelerSheila@aussie.zone âš2â© âšmonthsâ© ago
It is a lot better that they can discuss things more openly now, and they know so much more than I did and at a younger age too (Elder had a friend in primary school, at around grade 5 iirc, who knew they were pansexual and I had to ask him what it meant⊠even Miniest in grade 3 knew lol). They talk about it a lot more than I thought they would too, and certainly with more accurate knowledge than I and my peers did thatâs for sure!
melbaboutown@aussie.zone âš2â© âšmonthsâ© ago
Might you just humour Miniest for a little bit? It could be that theyâre still working things out or it could be something that sticks. If it does they will manage so much better with your support.
Theyâll still be your kid and everything you love.
PeelerSheila@aussie.zone âš2â© âšmonthsâ© ago
I think thatâll be my overall plan. Let her grow how she will, and just be there for her. Ultimately, as long as she has loving and mutually respectful relationships with people, thatâs what I care about the most.