The heater’s on,
The cat is warm,
Wrapped up in the things that
Smell like me;
The greatest compliment a cat
Could ever give a monkey.
Daily Discussion Thread: ❄️ Friday, July 05, 2024
Submitted 4 months ago by Seagoon_@aussie.zone to melbourne@aussie.zone
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StudChud@aussie.zone 4 months ago
melbaboutown@aussie.zone 4 months ago
Look at those happy eyes. Mickey is ‘mirin
Gibsonisafluffybutt@aussie.zone 4 months ago
Was contacted by another place to move forward into the interview the process.
Just emailed the other recruiter to get a feel for what’s going on with this offer.
Let’s see what happens.
StudChud@aussie.zone 4 months ago
Ahhhh yessss! Fantastic! You’re awesome!
Gibsonisafluffybutt@aussie.zone 4 months ago
Thank you!! Now it’s 2 more interviews next week. Maybe things are looking up. I dare hope…
TinyBreak@aussie.zone 4 months ago
We had a quick chat. We both apologized, she thought she was doing the right thing (in her own way) but now understand how it may have seemed like she was kind of just ignoring me. We’ve promised to try listen to each other more.
Gibsonisafluffybutt@aussie.zone 4 months ago
Communication can be so easy to mess up, especially when you’re new parents.
Here’s my 2 cents:
People make mistakes. They always will. It can be frustrating, especially when the stakes can be quite high.
But, the most important thing we can do when someone close to us makes a mistake, is to forgive them. Without strings attached.
Without recriminations. Without “I told you so’s”. If there are harmful consequences from our loved ones to error, we begin to keep things to ourselves. To stop communicating for fear of causing strain.
That doesn’t mean there aren’t consequences for mistakes. But they must be wrapped on patience and forgiveness.
We can only hope to do the best we can in this crazy world.
danwritesbooks@aussie.zone 4 months ago
I switched private health people and then the old ones want me back and now I am all confused because they seem the same but then I think ‘I don’t heart and vascular now…or do I?’
Being an adult sucks.
On the other hand, a school reached out to me and want me to be part of their celebrity reader thing they’re doing. Me, a celebrity. Absolutely wild, lol.
Gibsonisafluffybutt@aussie.zone 4 months ago
That’s amazing! Well done mate 🍻
danwritesbooks@aussie.zone 4 months ago
Thanks!
Nath@aussie.zone 4 months ago
I’m not sure how, but I’m still down on Medibank under a corporate plan from a company I worked for 20 years ago. It’s something amazing, because despite costing a fortune, nobody has ever come close to matching it. I’ve had multiple Medibank employees tell me over the years not to mess with it because I won’t get that good a deal again.
This amazing deal is just under $250/Mo for the four of us. 😞
Duenan@aussie.zone 4 months ago
I don’t know if you have extra built into that but if I was sign up to a moderate leve of cover plus extras that’s about 240 for me alone.
250 for a family of 4 sounds like a dream.
bull@aussie.zone 4 months ago
There’s a very real chance that I’ll need to confront probably my most important life decision ever soon. I’m trying to mentally prepare myself for the possibility of having to even consider it. If I do need to, I need to find a way to be at peace with that decision.
It’s a doozy too.
adding spoiler tag as the subject could be sensitive for somebody struggling with fertility
“Would I be ok never having a biological child of my own if it meant finding great love and joining an established family?” As someone who already feels like an outsider, would I ever feel like I belong? Am I willing to accept that my life never has a chapter of having and raising my own child if there is potentially an option/scenario where I could? Would I resent my decision? Heavy stuff. Like I said though, it’s not something I need to confront right now but there’s a possibility that it might come up, so I should probably get my head straight about the concept so I know where I stand.
Anyway… almost weekend time woo. I think I might have a drink or two this afternoon.
Seagoon_@aussie.zone 4 months ago
Where there is great love there is family.
Blood ties is not the same as love, I have seen it. 😔
dumblederp@aussie.zone 4 months ago
I’d say if you like the woman and get along with the kids go for it. As far as resentment and/or feeling like an outsider, you can walk away if its not working out, maybe feeling like an outsider is the price of that freedom.
TinyBreak@aussie.zone 4 months ago
got a mate struggling with fertility and I gave him some advice recently about this. Course I’m giving it from a VERY privileged position, so feel free to disregard. Once you hold your kid in your arms, you wont give a fuck how you got there, cause it simply doesn’t matter. Biological or not wont matter for shit.
the newborn stage fucking sucks too ey. no one actually talks about that part, cause if we were honest no one would ever have kids.
Catfish@aussie.zone 4 months ago
🙋🏻♀️
StudChud@aussie.zone 4 months ago
Hm, that is a doozy. Only you can answer that one, I think. Be true to yourself.
I know for some, having their own biological children is important to them, and for other’s, less so. It’s also important to consider what these Hypothetical Step-Children (HSP (lol)) think as well.
But finding love is hard, and like with all choices, there’ll be pros and cons with whatever is picked.
You don’t have to decide right now, so take your time and see what happens 🤷♀️
Nath@aussie.zone 4 months ago
This one is tough. I don’t believe I’d have had the strength to do it before I had kids. I really wanted to be a dad and I wanted my “own” kids. The idea of forming a relationship with a single mother was also mega daunting to younger me.
But now that I’ve gone the traditional route, I could absolutely imagine the “other path” to happiness. I can recognise that I’d have loved it had I met my wife and kids as a package and joined the family. I don’t love them because they have my DNA. I love them because they’re my kids.
It’ll depend on the age(s) of the kid(s), but to a kid is under 5, they won’t remember a time before you were in their life. You won’t be an outsider, you’ll just be “dad”.
LowExperience2368@aussie.zone 4 months ago
Gratitude thread.
I’m grateful that there is so much love in my life. So much more than that one person could’ve given me. Love is everywhere. The food we eat, the beautiful skies, people, sounds. Even though at times I still feel pangs of shitty feelings from the hostility he probably feels towards me, I am able to remind myself that my life is so much better without that person in it.
anotherspringchicken@aussie.zone 4 months ago
I’m grateful for you lot. Although I don’t comment a lot, I love checking in here each day. Love the camaraderie and chit-chat, and the support that is offered when people need it.
Baku@aussie.zone 4 months ago
I’m grateful I get to return home soon (Tuesday, hopefully)
danwritesbooks@aussie.zone 4 months ago
I’m alive. I’m not struggling. My daughter is happy and healthy. I can do the things I love.
Catfish@aussie.zone 4 months ago
I am very grateful FaceBastard didn’t exist when I was a kid.
And for fluffy socks.
danwritesbooks@aussie.zone 4 months ago
The amount of dumb stuff I would have posted if social media was a thing when I was a kid…
StudChud@aussie.zone 4 months ago
I’m just happy to be here
PeelerSheila@aussie.zone 4 months ago
That was nicely said. I’m grateful for the roof over my family’s heads, a split system that’s in good working order and for it being Friday! Sooo tired!
Duenan@aussie.zone 4 months ago
Unexpected last minute arrangement.
Friend has invited me out for lunch for my birthday. Going to be having Japanese, I usually go for a noodle dish but maybe I might try a Japanese curry if they have one.
It’s going to be nice and fun to catch up as well.
It’ll it all lines up I’ll be back home in time to also catch my team playing afl tomorrow.
oztrin@aussie.zone 4 months ago
The cats are playing with toys they never touched at the old place. Maybe it’s more fun on the polished boards.
Talking of polished boards, I got a couple of sheepskin rugs for the bedroom as cold boards before slippers is 🥶. I would have thought the cats would be disporting themselves on them with minutes. Nope. Zooks only walked across one to love up to my sneakers, and Sammi so far has carefully walked around one. Cats…Bottom_racer@aussie.zone 4 months ago
I have a lot of panko, squid, oil, flour but no eggs :(
So the squid will be frozen until the panic bakers come to their senses and settle down. I just need 1. Seriously the egg section feels like the beginning of the rona.
Catfish@aussie.zone 4 months ago
I have 9 eggs bwahaha!
Shall we start the bidding at $15 each?
SituationCake@aussie.zone 4 months ago
I have a whole dozen, and they’re free range! I guess I’m rich now! But I’m gonna eat my riches at breakfast so it won’t last long.
underwatermagpies@aussie.zone 4 months ago
Lots of eggs at my greengrocer. Try outside Colesworth?
oztrin@aussie.zone 4 months ago
I actually got some at Coles, though Aldi were out Tuesday.
Seagoon_@aussie.zone 4 months ago
mayo is a brilliant idea and sounds delicious
just_kitten@aussie.zone 4 months ago
Next time you’re in Kew try Toscanos, haven’t seen egg shortages there so far.
SituationCake@aussie.zone 4 months ago
I think you can use mayo instead of eggs to stick breadcrumbs, I’ve never tried it for calamari though. I reckon it would be fine.
Bottom_racer@aussie.zone 4 months ago
ooh that is a trick I haven’t heard of!
Baku@aussie.zone 4 months ago
I’ve used plain milk for breading chicken breast before. The crumbs didn’t stick quite as well, and it came out a lighter consistency, but it was fine. I think I’ve heard of people using a mix of vegetable oil, milk, and water as well which supposedly works ok.
I also ate a brownie that had the egg substituted for banana. Apparently that’s a thing. The banana was a little overwhelming, but it did work
Bottom_racer@aussie.zone 4 months ago
Day 7 of the lemon tree thorn accident. That tree should be weaponised, finger is still blistering.
It’d be completely demoralising.
There you are standing in the field, bombs going off left right. Tinnitus drowning out the aural horror… Then some fuck comes at you brandishing a lemon tree branch. You need to think quickly, this is life or death. First thought is what type of lemon… Meyer? With those sweet floral undertones… Lisbon? How thick is the pith? Would it make good limoncello? Are they really worth $1.19ea at woolies?
Before you can appraise the lemon and with various recipes flashing before your eyes it’s too late. You’ve been struck!
You return to base, seemingly with a minor injury. Your comrades laughing at you… but over the next few days their laughter subsides into deep pity watching you try and delicately put your right shoe on without using your normal finger.
Gibsonisafluffybutt@aussie.zone 4 months ago
For the first time in probably 3 years, I saw a group of high school kids smoking cigarettes.
Guess that vape ban is working a treat…
TinyBreak@aussie.zone 4 months ago
So I sat my wife down and expressed VERY clearly that we are NOT getting involved in that thing earlier this week. So whats she doing this weekend? You have GOT to be fucking kidding me.
Thornburywitch@aussie.zone 4 months ago
Let her. Just don’t get involved yourself. This gives you “I told you so” rights when she comes home exhaustipated and emotionally vulnerable. However, you may not wish to exercise those rights in the interests of family harmony.
Best if she discovers for herself that you can only help those who want to be helped. Let this one slide past without getting yourself involved I think. Just have some comfort for her ready when she gets back. Maybe cook dinner and do all the kid things while she’s busy elsewhere.
TinyBreak@aussie.zone 4 months ago
This is the latest in a long line of “I say this is a bad idea, Mrs Break says “yes” then does EXACTLY the bad idea thing”. Think we’re gonna have a sit down conversation about this. She’s absolutely entitled to do whatever the hell she wants, but each time makes it a little bit tougher to trust her judgement.
StudChud@aussie.zone 4 months ago
Fuuuuuuuuuck that
TinyBreak@aussie.zone 4 months ago
Yeah I’m staying RIGHT out of it, and the second it affects the kid shes in a world of trouble.
Force_majeure123@aussie.zone 4 months ago
I’m very disappointed my preferred job hasn’t got back to me. I am so ready to quit my current job, im already working as though my time is limited here. I was soooo clocked out this afternoon I did almost nothing. I feel like submitting my 30 days with nothing lined up but that’s a horrible idea
Gibsonisafluffybutt@aussie.zone 4 months ago
I came back to work on the 2nd of January only to be told my contract was being terminated.
You’ve probably seen me post here often about the trials and tribulations I’ve been through looking for work.
Of course, our circumstances are quite different, but let me be an example of what happens when you don’t have a job to jump to.
just_kitten@aussie.zone 4 months ago
I really hope something comes through soon that’s at least marginally better than your current place. Staying somewhere well past your personal use-by date is very taxing on the soul and the resentment/disconnect can spill over onto others and exacerbate matters.
I don’t know what your industry or financial situation is like, but do you think it might ever get to a point where it’s better to just cut ties and stop the rot from setting in any further, even without another job in hand?.. I was getting a bit antsy with job hunting after 2.5 months but I don’t regret for a second leaving my old job when I did and taking the hit to my savings, being able to hold out for a good position really made all the difference
Baku@aussie.zone 4 months ago
Bit of shameless self promo: there’s an outdated tram map in the info book at the hotel I’m staying at. I blanked out the date, but if anybody wants to try and guess it, I posted a redacted version in c/MelbourneTrains. First person to correctly guess the year without any googling (or Bing-bonging, or duckgoducking) based on memory alone wins bragging rights and a digital barnstar
(I’m not actually sure it’s possible to determine the year based off of the route and stop changes, but it should narrow down the range to a couple of years if you remember when a couple of route changes happened. Guessing may be required)
Alamutjones@aussie.zone 4 months ago
I have footy tickets tonight, but I’m not going to use them. I’m tired, have a headache and my face has slowly filled with snot throughout the day.
I swear I was moderately healthy this morning!
Seagoon_@aussie.zone 4 months ago
hugs
maybe you can sell the ticks?
Alamutjones@aussie.zone 4 months ago
It’s alright. I’m an AFL member, so they didn’t cost me much. Just a bit put out to lose my plans
CEOofmyhouse56@aussie.zone 4 months ago
Cheers everyone 🍺
useless_modern_god@aussie.zone 4 months ago
CEOofmyhouse56@aussie.zone 4 months ago
Cheers Captain 🍺
Force_majeure123@aussie.zone 4 months ago
May the spirit of death make a clerical error and forget you exist 🍻
Seagoon_@aussie.zone 4 months ago
Not many chores left to do tonight, then it’s some tv and sleep 😸
underwatermagpies@aussie.zone 4 months ago
The Kapiti triple choc ice cream from Aldi is delicious. And so rich you don’t need very much to hit the spot.
Alamutjones@aussie.zone 4 months ago
Ubereats is calling. Comfort food.
What counts as comfort food?
anotherspringchicken@aussie.zone 4 months ago
Catfish@aussie.zone 4 months ago
Ugh! Unwanted delivery of old photographs. Have cut up and binned all the naked kid ones. 70s parents and boundaries, what?
Force_majeure123@aussie.zone 4 months ago
Trams delayed heading up Swanston st to melb central. Two police units called to … speak to someone
Catfish@aussie.zone 4 months ago
Some sort of major kerfuffle down at the shops. At least 4 cop cars and the helicopter was out earlier.
Seagoon_@aussie.zone 4 months ago
TV Review. Indian Police Force. Amazon. A Hindi-English series about a counter terrorism unit in Delhi.
This is a pretty good show, it fairly accurately depicts terrorism and counter terrorism in a modern country. It does have some Indian tradition story telling regarding the personal lives of the main characters, there was a dance/singing scene! but it wasn’t out place.
Melburnian here so when the power goes out in the Delhi apartment of the terror cell I’m all like" Youse guys are fucked, Special Ops is outside your door " But no, it’s just a power outage in a capital city for no reason, no storms. It’s India.
The military theme music is a little cringy but it’s ok. The graphics and special effects are good. So many pairs of Rayban Aviators. Only 10% of the men have a moustache.
And approx 10% of special forces is women, which is sorta in keeping with the rest of the world.
I give this 4 hobbits.
( I do miss Irrfan, when he smiled he would light up the room. )
bacon@aussie.zone 4 months ago
Breakfast 🍏🍎🍐🍊🍋🍈🫐🍓🍇🍉🍌🍒🍑🥭🍍🥥🥦🥑🫛🍆🍅🥝🥬🥒🌽🥕🥐🍠🫚🥔🧅🥯🍞🥖🥨🧀🧇🥞🧈🍳🥚🥓🥩🍗🍖🫓🍕🍟🍔🌭🥙🧆🌮🌯🥗🍲🍜🍝🥘🍛🍣🍱🥟🦪🍥🍘🍚🍙🐠🍤🪼🦀🐙 🍗🥮🍢🍡🍧🍰🧁🥧🍦🍨🎂🍮🍭🍬🍫🥜🌰🍪🍿🍯🥛☕️🍵🍺🍶🥤🧋🧃🥂🍷🥃🍸🍹🧉🔋
CEOofmyhouse56@aussie.zone 4 months ago
Unpopular opinion: Prosecco is overrated. Tastes like hairy balls. There’s so much better out there.
Cendana@aussie.zone 4 months ago
I am having this strange phenomenon, where:
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If I think I need my laptop and bring it with me, but then not end up using it.
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If I think I don’t need my laptop and left it home, then I end up needing it.
Yep, a few of you might remember that a few months ago, I had to fill out an insurance form on my phone 3 hours before a flight lol. Might be time I get a Bluetooth keyboard of some sort.
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fullkitwanker@aussie.zone 4 months ago
Help me choose.
Budget: about $500
I need one wool coat + one puffer (do I though?)
With puffers, its between Uniqlo (cheap), Patagonia (because brand quality and their customer service), and The North Face Nuptse (unsure between this and the 'Gonia).
With Woolen overcoats, I have no idea! If I get an expensive overcoat then I’ll have to go with a Uniqlo puffer, but again, I’m not sure if I really need a puffer?
Help please 😔
Seagoon_@aussie.zone 4 months ago
hot milo before bed
Gibsonisafluffybutt@aussie.zone 4 months ago
The offer has arrived.
Hoping to speak to the general manager asap next week to discuss the police check.
I also have 4 more interviews next week for different companies.
All in good time.
just_kitten@aussie.zone 4 months ago
When it rains it pours?! Let’s hope one of these pans out! This is great news. Also great that you’ve got a way of getting your record cleared so it isn’t gonna keep being a problem
StudChud@aussie.zone 4 months ago
Fantastic! YOU did this! I’m so proud of you!
Seagoon_@aussie.zone 4 months ago
It’s all looking good.😸