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Id find it a bit creepy, last thing i would want in a potential partner, before we’ve even met, is absolutely anything to do with my parents.
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Submitted 4 days ago by just1earthling@lemmy.world to [deleted]
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Zorsith@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 days ago
Aggravationstation@feddit.uk 3 days ago
If you mean should you be embarrassed about being set up on a date by your parent then no, as others have pointed out in these comments it’s been happening since the dawn of time. I’m 38 and I’d love to be set up on a date by my parents or frankly anyone. But I think I’d find not being consulted about it a bit annoying.
Fedizen@lemmy.world 4 days ago
Bring some pocket sand in case you have to run but otherwise you’re just meeting a new person.
fartographer@lemmy.world 4 days ago
Your dad found you a date and is willing to pay for it. Like some sort of reverse-pimp. Pimpzarro.
I say go for it. I’m more of the “I hope they cancel so that I can wallow and spiral alone at home” kind of people, but I loved dating at your age. Primarily because it was an opportunity to possibly gain a friend and you might make someone’s night better by just being yourself.
And if they wholly reject you as a person, you can brush it off as “dates are awkward to begin with, I’m sure I started with a disadvantage.” And then learn from that. If y’all decide to be friends instead, you can ask her what parts of the date she liked and how you could improve your next date.Everyone’s talking about how the worst she can do is say no. I disagree. The worst she can do is want a second date because then you have to charge up your social battery for that. Sometimes, though, you find someone who’s worth tapping into your social battery, and sometimes, it just comes naturally and you find someone who makes you feel like you can be you.
Dholi@lemmy.ca 3 days ago
That’s a dad right there. I wish I had a dad like that.
pineapplelover@lemmy.dbzer0.com 3 days ago
That’s funny. Sounds like you guys have a good relationship. My dad and I don’t have this dynamic at all
Gelik@feddit.dk 4 days ago
A little bit something like that happened to me a few years ago, when I was in my early twenties…
However it was my mom took an initiative and chatted up another mom, which ended up with them passing my number to a woman my age.
That was at a yearly community festival and the cute woman my age was volunteering there at a booth.
She ended up texting me, however was kinda dry. Well I never talked to her before so I contiued the chat to get at least a common interest or a vibe going before asking her out. In the I took her short replies as a lack of interest. Weeks later, I learned that she was looking for an old school date invite via call. no regrets tho :)
daggermoon@lemmy.world 4 days ago
Embarassed, no. Pissed off? That’s up to you. For me, I’d be both happy that someone gives a fuck about me and highly scepticle that my dad would be able to set me up with a woman that I wouldn’t hate. Most people piss me off. Then again I don’t get out much and I tend to interact with the worst of humanity.
Psythik@lemmy.world 3 days ago
What the hell is wrong with this person? Dad did the hardest part, now all they gotta do is show up.
They should be thankful, not upset.
Sir_Kevin@lemmy.dbzer0.com 3 days ago
1 That’s a significant age gap at that age. 2 The idea is fine but the execution is shitty.
kameecoding@lemmy.world 3 days ago
27 to 22 is not significant, get a grip
onslaught545@lemmy.zip 3 days ago
A 5 year gap in your 20s isn’t significant. My wife and I met when we were each one year older than they are.
Fredthefishlord@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 days ago
It’s absolutely significant. Not to the point of being a deal breaker, but it is significant.
captainlezbian@lemmy.world 3 days ago
Yes, but still go
Comrade_Squid@lemmy.ml 3 days ago
My dad tried setting me up, I wasn’t even single but I think he was projecting.
dogs0n@sh.itjust.works 3 days ago
“Evolve” is so funny. Sounds like you have a good pop pop.
Also no.
NastyNative@mander.xyz 3 days ago
A free meal and possibly good company. I would take a shot ay it for sure!
lime@feddit.nu 4 days ago
ew wtf
TheV2@programming.dev 3 days ago
Now that you have posted this on the internet, it’s probably too late to feel embarassed.
Cocopanda@lemmy.world 3 days ago
I would be worried about a 277 year old just accepting dates from old men for a younger man. This is toxic behavior and she is enabling it.
Diddlydee@feddit.uk 3 days ago
I’d be worried about a 277 year old.
Mac@mander.xyz 4 days ago
Don’t worry, i just bailed on my mom trying to set me up with a lawyer. hahaha
The one picture she sent just didn’t give off the right vibe 🤷♂️
UnderpantsWeevil@lemmy.world 3 days ago
Dad: “I’m introducing you to a cute girl and handing you a wade of money to spend the day having fun.”
Me: “This is the worst thing that has ever happened to anyone.”
Sil3nt@thelemmy.club 3 days ago
😂 yes
Epzillon@lemmy.world 3 days ago
Honestly, a bit fucked up your dad takes control over who you date and spend time with. But as the others said, you can atleast go there for a free meal and hopefully make a new friend. I do understand the weird pressure this would put on you though. I hope all goes well, and dont feel pressure to pursue a relationship if youre not feeling it. Your dad cant be the deciding factor in that
Cevilia@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 days ago
If my dad had tried to do this to me I’d probably go along with it. Knowing what he was like, he would’ve set me up with a gay man, and we’d both have a laugh.
friend_of_satan@lemmy.world 4 days ago
[deleted]Peppycito@sh.itjust.works 4 days ago
Love. The language of love.
VinnyDaCat@lemmy.world 3 days ago
It’s not as uncommon as you’d think. People are relying on their parents more than ever, and parents who are willing to help are using this as an opportunity to provide help with strings attached.
I_Has_A_Hat@lemmy.world 3 days ago
Fake shit.
WraithGear@lemmy.world 3 days ago
i would be a hypocrite if i said yes.
aoidenpa@lemmy.world 4 days ago
It is humiliating but in the long run it might be ok.
gravitas_deficiency@sh.itjust.works 4 days ago
Based largely on your self-stated lack of experience, I’d say it’s a good idea to just give it a whirl and see where things go, and see how you feel about it.