Id find it a bit creepy, last thing i would want in a potential partner, before we’ve even met, is absolutely anything to do with my parents.
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Submitted 1 month ago by just1earthling@lemmy.world to [deleted]
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Zorsith@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 month ago
Aggravationstation@feddit.uk 1 month ago
If you mean should you be embarrassed about being set up on a date by your parent then no, as others have pointed out in these comments it’s been happening since the dawn of time. I’m 38 and I’d love to be set up on a date by my parents or frankly anyone. But I think I’d find not being consulted about it a bit annoying.
Fedizen@lemmy.world 1 month ago
Bring some pocket sand in case you have to run but otherwise you’re just meeting a new person.
fartographer@lemmy.world 1 month ago
Your dad found you a date and is willing to pay for it. Like some sort of reverse-pimp. Pimpzarro.
I say go for it. I’m more of the “I hope they cancel so that I can wallow and spiral alone at home” kind of people, but I loved dating at your age. Primarily because it was an opportunity to possibly gain a friend and you might make someone’s night better by just being yourself.
And if they wholly reject you as a person, you can brush it off as “dates are awkward to begin with, I’m sure I started with a disadvantage.” And then learn from that. If y’all decide to be friends instead, you can ask her what parts of the date she liked and how you could improve your next date.Everyone’s talking about how the worst she can do is say no. I disagree. The worst she can do is want a second date because then you have to charge up your social battery for that. Sometimes, though, you find someone who’s worth tapping into your social battery, and sometimes, it just comes naturally and you find someone who makes you feel like you can be you.
Dholi@lemmy.ca 1 month ago
That’s a dad right there. I wish I had a dad like that.
pineapplelover@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 month ago
That’s funny. Sounds like you guys have a good relationship. My dad and I don’t have this dynamic at all
daggermoon@lemmy.world 1 month ago
Embarassed, no. Pissed off? That’s up to you. For me, I’d be both happy that someone gives a fuck about me and highly scepticle that my dad would be able to set me up with a woman that I wouldn’t hate. Most people piss me off. Then again I don’t get out much and I tend to interact with the worst of humanity.
Psythik@lemmy.world 1 month ago
What the hell is wrong with this person? Dad did the hardest part, now all they gotta do is show up.
They should be thankful, not upset.
Sir_Kevin@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 month ago
1 That’s a significant age gap at that age. 2 The idea is fine but the execution is shitty.
kameecoding@lemmy.world 1 month ago
27 to 22 is not significant, get a grip
onslaught545@lemmy.zip 1 month ago
A 5 year gap in your 20s isn’t significant. My wife and I met when we were each one year older than they are.
Fredthefishlord@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 month ago
It’s absolutely significant. Not to the point of being a deal breaker, but it is significant.
captainlezbian@lemmy.world 1 month ago
Yes, but still go
Comrade_Squid@lemmy.ml 1 month ago
My dad tried setting me up, I wasn’t even single but I think he was projecting.
dogs0n@sh.itjust.works 1 month ago
“Evolve” is so funny. Sounds like you have a good pop pop.
Also no.
NastyNative@mander.xyz 1 month ago
A free meal and possibly good company. I would take a shot ay it for sure!
lime@feddit.nu 1 month ago
ew wtf
TheV2@programming.dev 1 month ago
Now that you have posted this on the internet, it’s probably too late to feel embarassed.
Cocopanda@lemmy.world 1 month ago
I would be worried about a 277 year old just accepting dates from old men for a younger man. This is toxic behavior and she is enabling it.
Diddlydee@feddit.uk 1 month ago
I’d be worried about a 277 year old.
Mac@mander.xyz 1 month ago
Don’t worry, i just bailed on my mom trying to set me up with a lawyer. hahaha
The one picture she sent just didn’t give off the right vibe 🤷♂️
UnderpantsWeevil@lemmy.world 1 month ago
Dad: “I’m introducing you to a cute girl and handing you a wade of money to spend the day having fun.”
Me: “This is the worst thing that has ever happened to anyone.”
Sil3nt@thelemmy.club 1 month ago
😂 yes
Epzillon@lemmy.world 1 month ago
Honestly, a bit fucked up your dad takes control over who you date and spend time with. But as the others said, you can atleast go there for a free meal and hopefully make a new friend. I do understand the weird pressure this would put on you though. I hope all goes well, and dont feel pressure to pursue a relationship if youre not feeling it. Your dad cant be the deciding factor in that
Cevilia@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 month ago
If my dad had tried to do this to me I’d probably go along with it. Knowing what he was like, he would’ve set me up with a gay man, and we’d both have a laugh.
friend_of_satan@lemmy.world 1 month ago
[deleted]Peppycito@sh.itjust.works 1 month ago
Love. The language of love.
VinnyDaCat@lemmy.world 1 month ago
It’s not as uncommon as you’d think. People are relying on their parents more than ever, and parents who are willing to help are using this as an opportunity to provide help with strings attached.
I_Has_A_Hat@lemmy.world 1 month ago
Fake shit.
WraithGear@lemmy.world 1 month ago
i would be a hypocrite if i said yes.
aoidenpa@lemmy.world 1 month ago
It is humiliating but in the long run it might be ok.
gravitas_deficiency@sh.itjust.works 1 month ago
Based largely on your self-stated lack of experience, I’d say it’s a good idea to just give it a whirl and see where things go, and see how you feel about it.