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- Comment on Don’t you lie to me 2 hours ago:
Well that’s easy to solve. Turn on phone camera as you walk up to it, look around and capture the surroundings, and then pick it up.
- Comment on How would Sam Altman have any idea what humans enjoy? 21 hours ago:
Hahaha stfu Scam Altman
- Comment on CMV 1 day ago:
- Comment on Company sues manager for leaving without serving full 6-month notice, wins S$36,000 1 day ago:
Must be nice. Here in the US you can just walk in one day and get told you’re fired and have to clean out your desk.
While I agree that that’s a shitty norm that we have here, it also goes both ways. The first job I had out of college, I had a coworker who was a pretty solid engineer, and kept getting handed random bullshit assignments. She tried for months to get management to stop fucking her over, to no avail. The next time she was in a meeting and they tried to foist another thing on her she was like “ok, nope. I’m done”, left the room, left the building, and never came back.
At the end of the day, there is a hard limit to how far you can push people, and you will definitely know it when you hit it.
- Comment on What’s a reasonable tip for a barber? (America) 1 day ago:
I give a solid 25%, but my cuts generally take the better part of an hour, because I have thick and relatively curly hair; also I’ve known my barber for over a decade and she does reliably excellent work.
- Comment on *landbastard intensifies at the right of replacing a 2 dollar light switch". 1 day ago:
Sounds like you shouldn’t be fucking landlording, then, because if I pay rent, I can do literally whatever the fuck I want that’s non-destructive and doesn’t disturb my neighbors.
What a consummate tool, holy fuck.
- Comment on 1 day ago:
This thread is so wholesome and it makes me happy 🥰
I hope you both are having a lovely day!
- Comment on such a cold answer i felt bad for him 1 day ago:
Aw, I’m glad you think so! Cheers, friend! 🤗
- Comment on such a cold answer i felt bad for him 2 days ago:
Ah, yep, that checks out. Korea (and to a similar but lesser extent, Japan) is kinda wild like that. I heard about some stuff like that from my (Korean) ex’s extended family.
- Comment on such a cold answer i felt bad for him 2 days ago:
Always nice to confirm the “E” in ENM :)
- Comment on such a cold answer i felt bad for him 2 days ago:
lol that is a… fascinating living situation. I’m more than a little bit curious how that came about. How old is the son…?
- Comment on who came up with this plot? 2 days ago:
What a day to have eyes 😨
- Comment on Seriously though what the fuck is wrong with this guy 2 days ago:
lol I was in there as a regex in case I have alts with the same username on other instances
- Comment on Once you reach a certain age 3 days ago:
- Comment on [deleted] 3 days ago:
Honestly, make it fucking plugable conf file. It’s so trivial.
- Comment on Big Bean is watching you 4 days ago:
Man those black market kidneys are just all over the place these days
- Comment on What happened to "Sanctuary Cities" where they bussed so called "immigrants" there? Was there a long term effect or anything? Or did cities may had a hiccup or two and that's about it? 1 week ago:
sanctuary cities
Cities that strongly oppose the draconian US immigration policies and punitive measures. Typically, “blue” cities in “blue” states. The municipalities in question have enacted (often with some level of state government support) measure to prohibit local law enforcement from collaborating or cooperating with federal immigration enforcement personnel from any agency.
immigrant bussing to sanctuary cities
This was 100% a political optics thing run by red states and red politicians. It consists of sweeping up unhoused people in a red city, or somewhere in a red state (most typically, FL and TX, as the governors there are extremely supportive of draconian immigration policies for political reasons - despite the fact that said hostile policies are actually actively harmful to their regional economies), sticking them onto Greyhound buses to major “blue” cities, waiting for the unhoused population of those recipient cities to explode, and then pointing at the completely synthetic situation as evidence of gross mismanagement by blue city/state politicians. It’s not being done as aggressively right now because it’s simply not the currently biggest political hot button in the US right now.
- Comment on Worm logic 1 week ago:
hmmm
- Comment on Mike Johnson Accidentally Creates The Best DSA 1 week ago:
Damn, Johnson, don’t threaten me with a good time
- Comment on Me this morning 1 week ago:
Joke’s on you - I’m medicated and still do all that
- Comment on Living the dream 2 weeks ago:
Get out of my head, Charles
- Comment on Mmm dessert time! 2 weeks ago:
Don’t forget your aftercare! 🥰
- Comment on We have Reese's peanut butter cups at home: 2 weeks ago:
Heh, you like Aldi’s nuts 😏
- Comment on We have Reese's peanut butter cups at home: 2 weeks ago:
Yes
- Comment on How often is normal to masturbate? 2 weeks ago:
It is societally expected in much of the world, however - and the degree to which it’s expected also varies with gender and culture.
- Comment on I took this today in San Francisco 2 weeks ago:
In some circles, thats a bug, not a feature 😬
- Comment on It is Wednesday my dudes🐸 2 weeks ago:
- Comment on Is it reasonable to tell a person you once loved about the fact years later? 2 weeks ago:
I’m not here to debate you. I am here to provide advice from my lived experience.
Take it or leave it - this isn’t my monkey, and it’s not my circus.
- Comment on Is it reasonable to tell a person you once loved about the fact years later? 2 weeks ago:
You’re… quoting an encyclopedia. On matters of romance and affection. You’re not coming across as “in love”; you’re coming across as infatuated. You’re in love with the idea of her, and the even more abstract idea of being in a relationship with her. I can just about guarantee you that reality is unlikely to fully match what you have in mind.
And… well, taken with your other replies and apparent reluctance to integrate and/or accept the rather consistent gist of the replies you’re getting, you’re starting to give off a wee bit of an incel vibe.
But anyways:
This isn’t a matter you can logically litigate. Human emotion is simply not a clean, cut-and-dried domain.
My further advice to you would be to focus on human connection first. Writ large, treat dating and romance as a side quest, not a primary quest. Focus on befriending people, and deepening interpersonal connection before anything else.
I don’t know what the nuance of the situation is, of course, but it sounds like you may have the opportunity to rekindle a friendship, and then see if it goes anywhere as things evolve. If you push really hard on the romance angle, especially if this is a very out-of-the-blue thing for her, you’re very likely to squick her out and nuke any chance of friendship, let alone anything more than that. Treat her as a human, and a friend, and then see where things go.
- Comment on We doing moths again? 2 weeks ago:
