You’re not supposed to have a gut wrenching feeling 24/7 when in a relationship.
A relationship is just a friend you do extra things with.
Being single
Submitted 13 hours ago by rabber@lemmy.ca to [deleted]
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termaxima@programming.dev 11 hours ago
Demdaru@lemmy.world 10 hours ago
I dunno how I feel about this summing up. Like, yeah, but also so much more. For one they mostly remove gut wrenching feeling xD
CitizenKong@lemmy.world 9 hours ago
Yep, a good relationship should just be your favourite person to spend time with that you also find sexually attractive (and vice versa).
Lemminary@lemmy.world 1 hour ago
I have an anxious attachment style. My brain says no, fuck my feelings regardless. :(
problembasedperson@lemmy.dbzer0.com 9 hours ago
I’m gonna wrench her guts, alright?
ArtemisimetrA@lemm.ee 4 hours ago
Or, to bring Relationshil Anarchism to bear, a relationship is an ongoing infraction between people, sometimes even just with one’s own self. Then, having established that a relationship exists, the participants of said relationship may choose to define said relationship using whatever terms and conditions they feel are fitting. And here’s the clincher: nobody outside of the relationship gets to have any say in what ANY aspect of that relationship means. Friendship? That’s literally got “ship” in it, but parenthood? Also a relationship. Professional, personal, inter-personal, monogamous, non-monogamous, poly, aromantic, FWB… All valid terms to use, and not a single one of them can possibly define a relationship by itself.
termaxima@programming.dev 3 hours ago
I am a relational anarchist, but I was simplifying. No need for quantum physics where Newtonian physics do the trick !
Rin@lemm.ee 10 hours ago
“extra things” ;3
Monstrosity@lemm.ee 7 hours ago
That consistent light nausea is just how true love feels, bro!
mEEGal@lemmy.world 1 hour ago
yo Fenriz my man, wake up, you’re on Lemmy !
palebluethought@lemmy.world 12 hours ago
If your relationships involve a “gut wrenching feeling 24/7” you might have other problems
Pilon23@feddit.dk 4 hours ago
Clearly a euphemism for anal sex. Once or twice a day is fine, but 24/7 is far too much. I’d also be hiding in nature at that point
sundray@lemmus.org 11 hours ago
“It’s just a matter of time before she discovers I’m only an emergency hologram…”
grrgyle@slrpnk.net 12 hours ago
Problem, preference, or orientation. It’s impossible to tell.
rabber@lemmy.ca 9 hours ago
People just seem to use me and I have trust issues
steal_your_face@lemmy.ml 2 hours ago
TrickDacy@lemmy.world 10 hours ago
Op had a really bad relationship
rabber@lemmy.ca 10 hours ago
Never recovered at least thus far anyway
oppy1984@lemm.ee 5 hours ago
Honestly I get it, I’ve been single for 11 years now. I went through a series of toxic relationships and the last one broke me. After her I decided to take a break from dating a try to figure out why I kept attracting only toxic women.
It’s been 11 years and I still haven’t figured it out, and now I’m in my 40’s and don’t really want to date again. What I’m trying to say is, take some time, heal, get your head straight, but get back out there sooner than later. It’s easy to fall into the “I’m happier single” mindset, but difficult to get out of.
surewhynotlem@lemmy.world 8 hours ago
at least thus far
You can do it!
Or don’t. Whatever life you want to live is fine. I’m not here to kink shame.
grrgyle@slrpnk.net 8 hours ago
Damn I’m sorry to hear that.
MehBlah@lemmy.world 2 hours ago
Happily single is how I describe it. Still got my kids and they are grown. No one has to put up with me and I don’t have to take shit from anyone in my personal life.
Derpenheim@lemmy.zip 11 hours ago
Time to end that relationship. I spend my day waiting to go home and see my partner
MBech@feddit.dk 11 hours ago
That was the only thing that pushed me out of bed for a while, the fact that I’d get to come home to the perfect woman later.
recklessengagement@lemmy.world 9 hours ago
Dated a string of people who didn’t deserve my trust, so I know that gut-wrenching feeling all too well. Life is more peaceful without it.
Sillyglow@lemmy.ca 8 hours ago
They always talk about wading through a bunch of weeds or whatever but hey, I get it, no one has that kind of time anymore to wade through a bunch of assholes to find the fhe one decent person anymore. Life gets short. It can become the kind of noise and drama you just don’t want to mar up your life with.
Out of the plethora of coffee dates from the online apps I’d say there were approx 90% of the people on there that really shouldn’t be dating others and should be in some sort of counselling or just straight up scammers. Several hadn’t been in any relationship that lasted more than 6 months for a good reason.
Even in the last 10% maybe there was no chemistry but I did make some friends. One I’m still good friends with even today since Covid times.
It took about 3 yrs to find someone worth dating. Like seriously it’s like friggin career training these days.
eezeebee@lemmy.ca 11 hours ago
A wild Fenriz meme
Rin@lemm.ee 10 hours ago
I’ve had a lot of painful relationships so i understand. It takes time, especially if you get burnt. It’s still good to find someone nice who will eventually become your one.
5714@lemmy.dbzer0.com 12 hours ago
GYLVE
stebo02@sopuli.xyz 4 hours ago
jokes on you I have a gut wrenching feeling from being single