This is an old throwback now: Does anyone remember me complaining about some “Mates” Who had kids and made some really distasteful “Jokes” back when we were still struggling ourselves? Something about throwing their baby in the bin or something cause he was frustrating them? Well, got a bit of an update on them.
Drama
They are struggling. Hard. Her mental health is in the bin, and he is pushed for time having taken a job that seems him out of the house from 5am till 6 or 7 pm. Add another kid to the mix and its not going well. he made a joke about “Needing more support”. I laughed cause we also don’t have family around us. But I think it was kind of a hint and I just… fucking no chance. I didn’t say anything, but there is NO way we’re stepping into that mess. Almost everything that’s going wrong was visible from a mile away before they made the decision. Her mental health is crap cause her family fucking suck, but she does running back to them every time. They threw a dog and another baby on top of the first one who I think has some development issues. The whole thing is a mess and i know it sounds cruel, but there’s no way to help them without them trying to suck you into the vortex of their drama. I’ve made that mistake 2 or 3 times before, I’m not making it a 4th time. If you could just drop off a meal or babysit for a bit to help without hearing how horrible everything is and leaving feeling worse for having done a nice thing…
I feel sorry for them, but at what point do you go “You’ve kind of shot yourself in the foot there, can you please not bleed on my kitchen floor?”
Gibsonisafluffybutt@aussie.zone 10 months ago
Just can’t shake the blues. No idea what’s wrong specifically, just a grey cloud hanging over me.
I think the isolation might be getting to me. I don’t normally speak to a friend more than once or so a fortnight.
That’s a big part of work for me. I miss being around people. I feel alive when I’m around people. I’m getting by on the fumes of an oily rag so going out and doing stuff isn’t really possible.
Just gotta be patient.
/vent
PeelerSheila@aussie.zone 10 months ago
The intermittently grey weather doesn’t help. I know what you mean about work. I feel a bit disconnected from society without it. The people in this thread have been an essential part of me feeling more connected to people.
Force_majeure123@aussie.zone 10 months ago
I get it. Vast majority of my social interactions are through work. If it went away, I’d be lost, and I have been in the past. With the tenacity you appear to have, I’m sure it will be over soon and you’ll be looking forward to your solo evenings and weekends with Gibson. Hang in there 💪
Seagoon_@aussie.zone 10 months ago
we’re here , hugs
StudChud@aussie.zone 10 months ago
Just can’t shake the blues
Drowning in these melancholic hues
Shades of hope ride the rising tide
Adrift but I know it’s gonna be alright
underwatermagpies@aussie.zone 10 months ago
I really relate to this. While I’m off work I’ve somehow turned into someone who goes to the gym everyday (I am so not a natural exerciser), and part of that is just the benefit of being around people. I’m only doing group classes so there’s a bit of a community feel. And I’m throwing myself into some existing volunteer stuff.
The cold weather is not helping.
just_kitten@aussie.zone 10 months ago
I’m a card-carrying introvert, but prolonged isolation (and lack of purpose) will definitely bring round grey clouds that are hard to shift. Permanent WFH was really shit for me in that regard. I could feel myself sinking a bit before I got my current jobs too, the break was nice at the start but then I started getting a bit loopy…
Really crossing my fingers that something pans out for you very soon mate. It’s been a while 😔