The cashier said "hello" instead of "hi" 😳

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• BillyGruff82@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨7⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  An attractive girl talking to me for more than a few sentences is automatically sending mixed messages. Obviously they don’t like me, why are they talking to me? I’m confused.

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  • HertzDentalBar@lemmy.blahaj.zone ⁨5⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    And even if they out rightly say they like me they are probably just being nice and I should laugh and carry on with my day.

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    • pineapplelover@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨5⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      www.youtube.com/watch?v=xa-4IAR_9Yw

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• TheLeadenSea@sh.itjust.works ⁨12⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  I told a guy the other day at work that I liked his shirt and he totally lit up lol

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  • Aurenkin@sh.itjust.works ⁨12⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    You probably made his year

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    • Homo_Erectus@lemmy.zip ⁨11⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      *His life

      Never forget that lady calling me handsome in the supermarket

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• cally@piefed.blahaj.zone ⁨4⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  if someone says “hi” to me i will not be impressed.

  meanwhile, it someone grabs a skateboard, does a kickflip then does a backflip and lands on the skateboard, then i’ll be impressed.

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• gigastasio@sh.itjust.works ⁨8⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  Girl at work that I have a crush on smiled at me today and said hi. That will sustain me for the rest of the year.

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• DarrinBrunner@lemmy.world ⁨10⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  Me, 35 years ago, walking through a mall. Two girls cat-called (whistle) me from the second floor railing.

  I still think about that sometimes.

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• SirSamuel@lemmy.world ⁨11⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  I’ve chosen to adopt random acts of male positivity. I make a point of stopping random male presenting strangers (I’m cis het male, randomly stopping women to complement them is not a realistic option) and just saying something like “hey dude, that hair is magnificent, keep being awesome man” and promptly leaving.

  It’s not completely altruistic, I must admit. Watching a stranger’s face go from puzzled/suspicious through relieved, pleasantly surprised and ending in (usually) happy is an absolute joy.

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  • coolie4@lemmy.world ⁨8⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    I make a point of stopping random male presenting strangers (I’m cis het male, randomly stopping women to complement them is not a realistic option)

    I’m settled down now, but not too long ago I had a lot of great results that started with approaching women on the street. There’s definitely a specific way to do it, because I’ve seen a lot of wannabe pickup artists completely disrespecting women, and that’s not it.

    Women are people too. If you can talk to a random man, you can talk to a random woman. You literally start off exactly the same and only start escalating if they seem like they’re enjoying the interaction.

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    • SirSamuel@lemmy.world ⁨5⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      This particular style is kinda confrontational, generally starting with a firm “Excuse me, sir” or “Hey Chief”

      Also I’m an obese middle aged balding white guy. Once i get a little older and my beard gets whiter I’ll have a little more leeway. I’m aware of the inherent power differential that exists with some people because of my appearance alone. I don’t obsess over it, I’m just cognizant of it. My goal is to make people, especially people that may not always get a positive reaction from their outward appearance, feel a little better about themselves. But also just everyone, really. I want to be positive

      That being said, I was in a Home Depot the other day and passed a woman that had a sweet piece of art worked into her undercut. She had her braids pulled to the opposite side of her head to show it off. As I approached her on my way somewhere else we made eye contact. I took the opportunity to smile big with my eyes and a little with my mouth, tap the side of my head, and say “That’s freakin awesome. Love it!” The response was immediate, genuine, and super positive. In two seconds I was past her, moving on with my life. It was a good moment. A life made of these is a good life.

      So yeah, if the situation is right, I’m an equal opportunity complementer. I’m also happily married, so it’s not like it’s a ploy. But I have a skin condition that prevents me from wearing a ring most of the time, and, again, I’m aware of the dynamics of my appearance. Anyway, you’re right women are people too, just people that have a 1 in 4 chance of having been abused/assaulted in a way I never have been, by “people” the same gender as me. So I’m cautious of making them uncomfortable while just trying to live their lives

      You couldn’t know that from my comment tho, it’s all good. Love you and hope you have a great day 😊

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    • Feyr@lemmy.world ⁨8⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      Yeah but if you stop to talk to a random woman there’s a non zero chance that you end up in jail and accused of sexual assault

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• AllNewTypeFace@leminal.space ⁨8⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  the top part has big milady-fedora energy

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  • surewhynotlem@lemmy.world ⁨6⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    The top is just a relationship. I expect my wife to do all that for me too. And my kids. And my parents. And my friends.

    Except for “honor”. My understanding of honor is that it’s not something you do to a person. It’s how you act yourself. But I was raised by Klingons.

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  • nforminvasion@lemmy.world ⁨7⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    Absolutely. There is a nonzero overlap between FOSS/decentralized software nerds and white knights/nice guys.

    Thankfully it’s not too much here, as Lemmy has done a good job at not tolerating intolerance, so the incel white knights leave, but some of the more innocent ones stick around.

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  • Jankatarch@lemmy.world ⁨4⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    I am still confused on “honor her.” What the fuck does that mean?

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  • orioler25@lemmy.world ⁨5⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    Damn, hard to think that just over a decade ago, we had groups of incels who were at least convinced politeness was a viable coercion tactic. Now they think giving women any chance to feel good about themselves is losing ground.

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  • wezzzy@lemmy.blahaj.zone ⁨7⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    Agree weird ahh post most man have way high standerts too

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• RedGreenBlue@lemmy.zip ⁨11⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  The bas is usually a little lower:

  • Show respect
  • Be polite
  • Don’t assault her
  • Be good looking

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  • seblin@lemmy.world ⁨10⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    Don’t even need the good looking tbh

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    • qwertyasdf@feddit.uk ⁨8⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      Me fuck ugly:

      Image

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  • BartyDeCanter@piefed.social ⁨5⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    Also, and this is the cheat code to all relationships, regardless of gender:, be interested in them. Ask them questions about themselves and their interests instead of just trying to impress them with how great you are. Even, maybe especially, if you think you know something about what they’re taking about, play slightly dumb and ask questions.

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    • PrimeMinisterKeyes@leminal.space ⁨4⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      This lines up with what the ever-quotable Talleyrand once said:
      “If you wish to be popular in society consent to be taught many things you already know.”

      It didn’t prevent him to be called “shit in a silk stocking” by Napoléon on one occasion, though.

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    • WorldsDumbestMan@lemmy.today ⁨4⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      I tend to do that with people I like as friends.

      Who I really don’t want to rizz up 😭

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  • applebusch@lemmy.blahaj.zone ⁨7⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    for some of us the bar is a little higher than that

    • be a woman

    • be chill

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• blarghly@lemmy.world ⁨5⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  How to impress a girl: do something impressive.

  How to get compliments as a guy: do something that is compliment-worthy.

  How to get called hot as a guy: be hot

  It’s not complicated. It’s a shit ton of work, but it’s not complicated.

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  • WorldsDumbestMan@lemmy.today ⁨4⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    Climbing a mountain is hard but not complicated.

    Do something impressive is vague, subjective, and shifting goal.

    Anyway, looking for validation is the wrong approach.

    Other humans aren’t exactly fit to judge…

    Focus on being who you’d like to date instead!

    That’s why I got a dump truck back there /j

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    • blarghly@lemmy.world ⁨3⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      As someone who actually climbs mountains, I can tell you that it can actually be quite complicated depending on the mountain, lol.

      But anyway - climbing a mountain is impressive, if I do say so myself!

      On the whole, I agree and disagree. I think that in general you should focus on doing things that would impress you. Like, I like climbing mountains, and so I set climbing goals for myself that I find impressive. And then girls with similar values to myself - adventurous, athletic, pragmatic, open minded women - are attracted to me because I am doing things they also find impressive. On the other hand, women who, say, really like going to the club and working corporate office jobs and starting families in white picket fence homes tend to be less impressed. But this works out for me because I will enjoy my time with the former far more than the latter, while someone with different values from me may enjoy the latter more than the former.

      So I’m a big fan of being the best version of you that you can be.

      But on the other hand, I think we should be quite frank about the fact that there are some things that guys can do that are generally attractive. Trying to improve these things, especially in a place like Lemmy, is often construed as misguided or shallow or fake - but I think this is mostly because Lemmy is a crab bucket for lonely men, and even if you improve at these things solely for the purpose of getting more bjs, your life will be better for it in the long run

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• DupaCycki@lemmy.world ⁨9⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  The gay lobby strikes again with its propaganda. Don’t fall for it, kings.

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• Jankatarch@lemmy.world ⁨8⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  How to impress a nonbinary?

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  • felixwhynot@lemmy.world ⁨6⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    Give them a sword (trust me)

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  • bstix@feddit.dk ⁨4⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    Have you tried playing the guitar badly?

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  • Homo_Erectus@lemmy.zip ⁨6⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    Say “Hello World”

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  • BreadOven@lemmy.world ⁨7⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    Teach them binary (coding). Just kidding. Ummm… Just be nice?

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