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• Maeve@kbin.earth ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

  It's your name. Do what you want with it.

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• hoshikarakitaridia@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

  Depends on the surname and the language but generally I don’t see this being cringe.

  Just don’t be snide / condescending with it.

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  • Planchette_Phantom@lemmy.zip ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

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    • adespoton@lemmy.ca ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

      Go with how you think it will be recognized that feels right to you; it belongs to you after all :)

      My surname has a different pronunciation just based on region within the same language; I go with the one my parents used, but I’ll answer to any of them.

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    • BassTurd@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

      Footballer Thierry Henry, super famous. In French it’s “on-ray” and in English it’s “hen-ree”. In my opinion, there’s one way to pronounce that last name.

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    • Hegar@fedia.io ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

      A musician i know with a french name often publishes under QTN so anglos pronunce it properly rather than say que-teen.

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• Witchfire@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

  No. I have a Spanish last name and pronounce it in Spanish when people ask. I’m tired of slurring the vowels to make it sound English.

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• cattywampas@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

  It’s impossible to say without knowing what it is.

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• Sergio@piefed.social ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

  I have a Latino surname, I say it in kind of a “half-Spanish” accent that’s easily achievable by non-Spanish-speakers.

  If I’m talking to someone official on the phone I say “Last name is (name), spelled (spelling)” so they get it right.

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• MutantTailThing@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

  Your surname wouldn’t happen to be ‘Bucket’, right?

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  • Hello_there@fedia.io ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

    "it's pronounced boo-cayyyy"

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    • starlinguk@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

      Lady of the house speakiiiing.

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• wraekscadu@vargar.org ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

  No.

  Also, I’d recommend caring about being cringe. True freedom is achieved when you stop caring.

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• AstralPath@lemmy.ca ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

  I pronounce my name based on who I’m talking to. With English speakers its one way, with speakers of my name’s native language, its the appropriate pronunciation.

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  • farmgineer@nord.pub ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

    I don’t know why you got downvoted. My name is completely unpronouncable in Japanese (I’m from the US and have been in Japan over a decade), so it depends upon whom I’m talking to and their language ability. Most of the time, it’s the close-enough Japanese approximation of my name.

    I’m pretty sure Chinese (at least HongKongers, but I think all) have an “English name” for going the other direction.

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  • ada@lemmy.blahaj.zone ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

    I do the same. My name is pronounced differently by hispanohablante folk, and I use that pronunciation when speaking Spanish.

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    • AstralPath@lemmy.ca ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

      Yeah, that’s basically it. I use the appropriate pronunciation when appropriate. 🤷

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• SharkWeek@lemmy.blahaj.zone ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

  My wife has a surname that English speakers don’t understand how to pronounce. If she’s checking in at a hotel, or talking to a company over the phone, she pronounces it wrong on purpose so they’ll read/write it correctly.

  It’s not very often she says her surname as it should be, lol

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  • JasonDJ@lemmy.zip ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

    Nguyen?

    Americans, ironically, can’t say it.

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    • SharkWeek@lemmy.blahaj.zone ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

      Ha!

      No, it’s in Hungarian. Nguyen was my ex’s surname though, and she literally gave me applause the first time I said it right (after some coaching).

      I’m British, but I can get most pronunciations right with a little practice :-)

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• naught101@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

  Do what you want. I think it’s only gonna be difficult if you expect everyone else to do it too. People close to you will likely pick it up and run with it though

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• _chris@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

  You should have your name pronounced the way you want it to be. Just don’t be a dick about it. People who don’t respect your choices don’t deserve to be given anything, so don’t worry about that.

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• klugerama@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

  Do what you want, as others have said, but also consider whether doing so would make life easier - for them or for you. The trade-off is how often it’s read and mispronounced by strangers vs. how often it’s written and misspelled by strangers.

  You said it’s French; for example, if it’s “Jean” then the “correct” pronunciation would sound like “zhawn”. This might cause many native English speakers to mishear it as “John”. “Michel” sounds like “Michelle”.

  On the other hand, they might read Jean and say “Gene” or see “Michel” and say “Michael”.

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• DagwoodIII@piefed.social ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

  Go for it.

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• bookmeat@fedinsfw.app ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

  Do what you want. Many people have an English name and their native name and just keep them separate. Up to you.

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• lordnikon@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

  Rule of thumb more people should follow you call people the name they want to be called period that includes pronunciation to the best of their ability.

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• ShawiniganHandshake@sh.itjust.works ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

  Do what makes you happy.

  It’s okay (and maybe preferable) to insist people pronounce your name the way you want.

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• Nibodhika@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

  Whatever you think its best. My name is pronounced differently in the original language and the language I grew up speaking, I quickly learned I had to purposefully mispronounce it so that people would write it correctly.

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• Tja@programming.dev ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

  You do you. I grew up in a foreign country so I almost never pronounce my last name “correctly”, it’s just easier that way.

  I don’t need to explain the special characters of my language, I just need to check in at the hotel, or doctor, or restaurant, or mechanic.

  But if you do want to, why not.

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• Phoenix3875@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

  and I don’t want to constantly get it mistaken

  From a certain point in life, I’ve stopped bothering with this. The name is just a communication tool, people can call me whatever they want as long as I know it’s me.

  It might be worth it if there are many chances to use it, but for hotel check-ins, they won’t even remember my name after ten seconds, let alone the correct pronunciation.

  That being said, I felt somewhat guilty for not being grateful to some people that actually made the effort to pronounce it correctly (or at least ask and then give up lol).

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  • Tja@programming.dev ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

    Nguyen?

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• Grimy@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

  No joke, see if you can somehow fit an accent on one of the letters in your name. Doesn’t even have to work, but people will ask you about it instead of mispronouncing it.

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• OriginEnergySux@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

  I know how ya feel. My last name is French and ya gotta make a throat clearing sound to pronouce it properly, otherwise people pronounce it “row-land”.

  Ive just accepted it and pronounce it the same, otherwise it starts the same old small talk of “oh where is that from” everytime i need to say it to someone new

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