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- Comment on Super Mario Galaxy + Super Mario Galaxy 2 - Official Nintendo Switch Trailer 6 days ago:
Yeah that’s gonna be 1.5 bezos
- Comment on Devolver boss calls GTA 6 an "AAAAA game" in latest attack on human dignity 1 week ago:
It’s always nice to have an indicator when you need to be sceptical about a game. Apparently the number A’s is a good one. Quintuple A game my ass.
- Comment on Roblox to roll out "facial age estimation technology" for everyone, after US prosecutor dubbed it "the perfect place for pedophiles" 2 weeks ago:
I guess the idea makes kinda sense (although this technology is really bad rn and will be bypassed in a heartbeat - mark my words) but holy shit is this bad for pr. More surveillance was never the right tool for anything and it won’t be this time. This a mess,and therefore perfectly resembles the state of the company.
- Comment on Captain's Log 2 weeks ago:
Maybe it is because they fucked up and put it there so you can reach it from a normal toilet. And now they have this instead.
- Comment on Stardew Valley will be getting another update after all 2 weeks ago:
Worst case, buy a second copy for your cat, she deserves it :)
- Comment on what are the grievances with the "male loneliness epidemic"? 3 weeks ago:
What you are raising is a very delicate subject but let’s call it what it is: dating sucks. No matter your gender, there’s hurdles, it’s just really hard to find someone who’s putting effort in. If you’re a woman, it’s because lots of people matching you will be absolute garbage. A friend showed me who was writing her and most of it was weird and creepy. If you’re a man, it’s hard to find someone who wants to write with you period. And any other genders deal with an equally limited dating pool.
It makes sense, it’s statistics, mathematically plausible, but damn it sucks. Unfortunately I think we are at the point where these conversation are bound to get eroded by inflammatory rhetoric. So these nuanced discussions are things for the future.
- Comment on what are the grievances with the "male loneliness epidemic"? 3 weeks ago:
Cis man here.
It’s an issue. It comes in lots of different colors and flavors but it all stems from social issues.
There’s lots of reasons, some men were never taught about social relationships, men tend to generally be less interested in social interaction thus giving them less experience, some men are ostracized when talking about their social struggles, and these are on top of preexisting environmental factors and preexisting mental conditions.
At this point it’s important to say: it’s not a contest for genders. Trans people have it hard, nb people have it hard women have it hard. It’s just that this is one of the rare times men’s struggles are not addressed properly.
I can tell you I probably have about 50 men in my life that I ko and wo are nice but if I had to talk to a man about my struggles socially, there are 2 men.
Now couple this with the fact 90% of men I had deeper conversations with told me they are struggling with depression and some of them having suicidal ideations, it is fair to assume we have a problem.
For me, the depression is always exacerbated by social isolation. It makes sense - not getting some feedback from other people can get you into crazy headspaces and there are thinking patterms that literally make you hurt yourself just to make it stop.
There’s another aspect: we are social creatures and as soon as you don’t get enough “social exposure” it’s harder to learn social cues and “get the vibe”, and other people notice. So the more you isolate, the harder preceding social interaction become and the harder it is, which in turn incentivizes isolating. A vicious cycle.
Now not everyone has these issues and I would never say that it’s the most important issue in our current society but every time I hear suicide statistics by gender it really puts into perspective that we should get to know those people who we have failed.
One thing I also wanna address is the idea that “men are never taught how to socialize”, because I think it implies a lot of things. First, I’m sure a lot of men are not, but a good number of men are. I was for example. It didn’t help, but that was never the issue for me. Second, it implies men want to be taught. I spoke to a group of 2 men and 2 women with mental disabilities about if they ever considered complete social isolation. The men said yes and the women said no. I think this is really significant and can give insight into why this is affecting men more than other genders. I would infer from this that women always see the benefit in social interaction, and men pursue social interactions rather as a means to an end. This might be a stretch but this supported by other observations of friends and family.
This topic is really important and I hope it gets talked about more - for the benefit of everyone who wants to see people become happier. The men affected by loneliness, as well as the people who deal with them.
- Comment on Milliamp-hours per hour 3 weeks ago:
So it would be
mAh / h => mA
Then?
- Comment on Milliamp-hours per hour 4 weeks ago:
mA / h / h = mAh / h^2
That’s one hell of a measurement unit.
- Comment on It might actually be less than 3 4 weeks ago:
Actually it’s 4, the voices say I am a useful asset.
- Comment on A lengthy discussion was had 4 weeks ago:
- Comment on [mod reminder] Please read the rules 4 weeks ago:
That’s one hell of a bad faith question. This is rules to a shitpost community, chill out and if you actually have a question ask it in a genuine way lol.
- Comment on AI art 4 weeks ago:
Wrong community.
- Comment on Steam had already shown its true face, GOG and itch.io are fighting censorship alone. 1 month ago:
Yeah unlike other big companies, Valve still has some trust to rely on. Let’s wait for what they’re saying and doing first.
Also, the quickest path to success will always be to reignin the payment processors. Which should be a no-brainer anyway; they should have no influence on content decisions.
- Comment on Itch.io Re-indexes free NSFW content, are in ongoing discussions with payment processors to re-introduce paid content 1 month ago:
Honestly I’m really happy with how itch.io is handling it. Making sure they still get their money, but quickly reintroducing the games, and telling us the exact reason why they had to disable those games in the first place. Great management.
- Comment on Hideo Kojima has "learned so many ways to kill people" 1 month ago:
He looks so proud as well in the picture. Iconic.
- Comment on Battlefield 6 won't cost $80, but EA aren't ruling out future price hikes "to capture the full spectrum of pricing" 1 month ago:
I enjoyed 3 and 4. After that it was just a very drawn out crescendo.
- Comment on [deleted] 1 month ago:
Digging under the racism, still searching for the funny.
- Comment on Does anyone else find it suspicious that there wasn't any criticism on here about Stop Killing Games until after it hit 1.4M signatures? 1 month ago:
There’s also a threshold where Industry Groups will start astroturfing. Especially when it comes to worker’s rights or consumer’s rights.
- Comment on Personal Responsibility 2 months ago:
The grades one pisses me off.
I’ve seen so many people become disillusioned with university because their professors were bad and the grading was absolutely inconsistent. To say it’s that simple is a gut punch to them and it drives me insane.
- Comment on Deserved honestly 2 months ago:
Yeah that is the weirdest way to flirt. If she touches you, that’s more clear but touching your food is not really understood as a display of affection.
- Comment on School legend 2 months ago:
But not as big as th-
I’m sorry
- Comment on How did Diddy get off with so much? 2 months ago:
Yes. As much as I hate Diddy, the big charges were very hard to prove and one could say this outcome speaks highly of the jury’s regard for a just outcome, and proves they put feelings aside.
Feelings are valid, but you are supposed to leave your feelings at the front of the courthouse, otherwise verdicts would be very volatile and trials would be an indictment on the person, and not what they did.
- Comment on [deleted] 2 months ago:
Depends on how long I think. If it was just 5min that’s fine, if it’s more than that it’s at least weird and at most a dick move.
- Comment on Dream on 2 months ago:
Nice
- Comment on Was my ex really sorry/guilty? 2 months ago:
Echoing the rest of the comments here: as soon as he knew you were 13, for him to continue dating you is fucked up.
Also for him to blame you for making him date you is absolutely bizarre and stupid. HE decides whom to date.
And now to answer your question: I can only assume he doesn’t feel sorry. I could believe he might feel guilty but that’s because he realizes how fucked up the whole thing is. I can’t say for sure, and I don’t think he really tries to reflect, otherwise he wouldn’t even have gone that far.
- Comment on Baldur’s Gate 4 may happen eventually, but not with Larian Studios 2 months ago:
That is so stupid it makes me mad.
WotC and Hasbro are truly the Dalton’s of tabletop gaming.
- Comment on [deleted] 2 months ago:
To me it sounds like something other than depression, however it doesn’t matter because you are clearly right, these are extremely unhealthy thinking patterns and it is a symptom of maybe bigger issues you need to address.
And it is true, everyone deserves love and there’s nothing about you that makes you categorically undesirable. Just some things specific people like or don’t like about you.
You should consider talking to a therapist, or at least someone who is not involved with you day-to-day but understands you. Having someone reality check your thoughts, especially those ones, can be extremely helpful to get a better frame of reference against those toxic thoughts, that are often times not rooted in reality.g
- Comment on How do you get over a breakup with someone who was (and is) also a very close friend? 3 months ago:
You too, it sounds like you got this on your own already even if it’s difficult, but if you need to talk you can hit me up anytime:)
- Comment on How do you get over a breakup with someone who was (and is) also a very close friend? 3 months ago:
Sounds like you’re going through a lot.
First off,what other have told you is the best basic advice. There’s nothing you can do and you have to assume she won’t change her mind. You also said you are 23 and you feel like you are being childish. That’s absolutely not true, if someone broke up at 30 or 40 or 50 or whatever with a long time friend it would be just as rough. This situation is hard, and there’s no learning unfortunately and no preparation, it just sucks.
And that is what I would say as well: it’s fucked up. It sucks. It’s fine to feel betrayed and sad and angry and lonely. It’s very fair to feel that way, because you lost something important. It’s ok to not feel ok and it’s normal to be so moved by something so hard.
Maybe there’s something to say for changing your routine a bit. Finding other friends circles that she is not involved in, trying new hobbies and everything. That way you have something new to think about and other people to talk to - this might help with her being around parties every now and again.
Also make sure you take care of yourself, start building up a new routine.
It could be beneficial to talk to her when your feelings towards her are not as strong anymore, but it will always be awkward and there’s nothing to expect from it. It will just be a conversation and who knows where it goes.
These are all steps that can help you move on, but of course there is no handbook for breakups so this could look very different for everyone.
Although I haven’t been in your situation it sounds really rough and I’m sorry you have to go through this. I’m sure you’ll find someone else who loves you and will stick around.
