How do you feel about a 25 year old dating a 46 year old?

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• lemming741@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  We answered this question ten years ago

  xkcd.com/314/

  At 46, 30 is the limit

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• lightnsfw@reddthat.com ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  Mostly that it’s none of my business. Don’t see how that big of a gap really works out long term but if they’re happy I’m happy.

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• Jaegeras@piefed.social ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  You can fuck off with this question too, Stacy#2.

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• Heikki2@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  I can see it being difficult relating to one another but if they can get past that and any judgment society puts on them, it could work.

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• ikidd@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  None of my fucking business.

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• wizbiz@lemmy.blahaj.zone ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  Gross. It would take a lot to convince me there isn’t a power imbalance. Those are 2 significantly different life stages. I would never be able to trust the older person here.

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• uenticx@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  There are a mountain of realizations,experience and personal admiration choices in-between those ages. In my experience, I can’t look past that over a kinship with a younger individual.

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• swelter_spark@reddthat.com ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  When I was in my 20s, I viewed people in their 40s-50s as parental or even grandparently figures. As an older person, I would be open to dating someone in their 20s if we had a great connection, but I wouldn’t make a move unless they expressed an interest first because I wouldn’t want to be creepy or make them uncomfortable.

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• Cevilia@lemmy.blahaj.zone ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  None of my business, they’re consenting adults, they can do whatever the want, and it’s honestly a bit creepy that you’re asking our opinion about it.

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• Fredselfish@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  Turning 46 in May. My oldest son is 22, was 24 when he was born. I feel pretty fucking weird. But they both adults so technically not illegal and depending on gender won’t be seen as strange.

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• BlameTheAntifa@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  I think they are both stupid, but it’s also none of my business or anyone else’s.

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• EvilBit@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  Above the age of consent and I don’t care what age two people are. There may be some details that change that somewhat, e.g., 24-year-old marrying an oblivious rich 90-year-old, etc., but that’s not even about age as much as intention.

  Generally speaking, age gap stops mattering once both people are old enough to give valid and informed consent for the other person to do stuff to them.

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• Kolanaki@pawb.social ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  Except in cases of one party being an actual minor, age difference doesn’t mean shit to me. The heart wants what the heart wants. If there’s anything more than that going on, that’s what would be sus.

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• CultLeader4Hire@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  I’m going to go with bad, it makes me feel bad

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• jaemo@sh.itjust.works ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  With my hands.

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• socsa@piefed.social ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  I’m not your dad, do whatever you want.

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• webp@mander.xyz ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  I literally don’t care unless it’s me, and it probably wouldn’t be.

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• dumples@piefed.social ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  Both people in a relationship should be mature enough to make an informed decision which should be the case once you hit your mid twenties. However, if you have a larger age gap both of you should encourage greater scrutiny into your relationship and motives. People may question why and both of you should consider reasonable answers.

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• fizzle@quokk.au ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  People on reddit and lemmy have weird ideas about relationships ought to be.

  Provided that both people are adults then age in itself isn’t a problem.

  I mean, if a 25 year old has several 50 year old “boyfriends” who each give her a stack of pocket money each month and pay her rent and everything, more power to her right?

  The problems arise from a power imbalance. If an older guy has manipulated a younger woman into getting trapped in a shit relationship then that sucks but its not the age that’s the problem.

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  • FuglyDuck@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    I largely agree that it’s not the age that’s the problem.

    The thing is that the age is a useful proxy for all sorts of things that might lead to such power imbalances.

    Including:

    • emotional/mental maturity
    • life experiences to avoid such imbalanced
    • financial stability and well being

    It isn’t absolute, and context matters, but it is a useful proxy.

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    • fizzle@quokk.au ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      Forgive me but, describing age as “a useful proxy” just sounds like shitty behavior to me. I’m not trying to say you’re a shitty person, just that your comment seems to be sane-washing prejudism.

      FWIW I agree. A 50 year old guy “dating” a 25 year old woman has an increased likelihood that a power imbalance exists. However, it’s still profiling and prejudiced and a generalisation.

      For example, domestic violence may be more prevalent among indigenous communities, but suggesting that indigenous status is “a useful proxy” for a determination that domestic violence is more likely is obviously inappropriate.

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• Rhynoplaz@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  I’m not going to say anything or conspire against them, but it does give me the ick.

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• Beth@piefed.social ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  That 46 year old is in decline, and that 25 year old is in their prime. They will likely have baggage, medical issues, and assorted hangups they may want to impose on the younger partner. They are possibly seeking a younger individual for predatory reasons such as someone young to have biological offspring with, that will put up with a variety of neglects, and will take care of them in the looming decades as they become more frail. All in all, a good time as consenting adults is whatever. But as a relationship? Do not recommend. You’ll be a nurse sooner than you think.

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• timestatic@feddit.org ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  It might be fine for the moment but if the relationship stays long term it will be hard when one partner starts to like age and degrade a lot quicker than the other. In the end one might be ill and on the way to death while the other one has quite a bit of time ahead of them. I think that can strain a relationship in the long run

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• nixukty@lemmy.zip ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  there’s a rule of thumb: absolute MINIMUM age is half your age + 7. which would make the minimum 30

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• Aeao@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  I have had wider age gaps than that. It’s fine. Btw I date older women I’m not Jeffrey Epstein

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• RebekahWSD@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  It would be very hypocritical of me to care much about it. So I’d wish them luck and to know it won’t be easy.

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• Tollana1234567@lemmy.today ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  its pretty wierd, i knew a former co-worker in another job she was 29, dating a 45-46yo, of course the mom was pissed because hes almost as old as her. also because such a huge gap, and life experience too.

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• Lemminary@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  Meh, go have fun.

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• Melobol@lemmy.ml ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  As long as both of them getting a good deal out of it, sure. Honestly a 25yo is still pretty easy to take advantage of.

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