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- Comment on Female approached by man 6 days ago:
Nope. You did nothing wrong.
- Comment on Is being an "Incel" a new thing or new terminology? If so what were they in like the 70's or 80's? 2 weeks ago:
Fun fact the term Incel was invented by a woman and had little to do with the current definition.
- Comment on I have an opportunity to study abroad in Budapest, Hungary for a semester. Should I take it? 2 weeks ago:
Yes. Take any opportunity to travel you can. Same with any new adventure. Go for it
- Comment on Heard We're Ween Posting 1 month ago:
He’s angry at ICE
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- Comment on How about Dean and Gene Ween? 1 month ago:
Take a piece of tinsel And put it on the tree Cut a slab a melon And pretend that you still love me
- Comment on MRW people try posting things other than Dean 1 month ago:
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Dean Dean Dean Dean
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Fixed
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It’s a drive by deaning
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- Comment on Tim Curry Is Escaping to the One Place That Hasn't Been Corrupted by Capitalism 1 month ago:
Love this clip. I can’t get enough of it
- Comment on How come Pornstars don't teach Master Classes? So the average joe or joness can improve relationships and get better orgasms. Who would be better than pornstars? 1 month ago:
I’ve found them both interesting and helpful.
- Comment on How come Pornstars don't teach Master Classes? So the average joe or joness can improve relationships and get better orgasms. Who would be better than pornstars? 1 month ago:
Kink books? Loads of them. I recommend The New Bottoming and New Topping book are classics and not so new anymore. They are broad and expansive with good references to get more specific books if you want to.
- Comment on How come Pornstars don't teach Master Classes? So the average joe or joness can improve relationships and get better orgasms. Who would be better than pornstars? 1 month ago:
While I think you are on the right idea I think someone else in the sex industry are more qualified. Most sex workers do lots of teaching of their clients in their jobs. So they should be teaching a master class.
As it stands lots of them already do. Lots of kink books are written by sex workers / pro Dommes / educators. They are worth a read
- Comment on How do I turn fresh tomatoes into pasta sauce? 1 month ago:
When in doubt I look to serious eats for a recipe. Specifically Kenji Lopez-Alt. Here’s his red sauce recipe.
This used canned but you can just replace it with fresh. My wife and I make a pasta pomodoro where you just slightly cook fresh tomatoes with some garlic and basil. You cook the tomatoes in a pan with olive oil and garlic while your pasta cooks to al dente. Once cooked add some pasta water and cook to desired thickness (uncover to reduce liquid or covered to add). Throw in the pasta cook for 1 minute to cover and throw on basil. We do it with a burrata in the bowl as well. It’s amazing and so easy
- Comment on [deleted] 2 months ago:
I think everyone has their own personal code of conduct and morals that directs their lives. Some (most) people don’t explicitly have a set but will justify their own behaviour based on both their religious beliefs and moral code. Some people just retroactively justify their own actons. Its a sign of maturity to think about and be intensional about creating and adhering to your own moral code which may or may not be directed by your own religious believes.
- Comment on Why do some fruit produce human compatible hormones? 2 months ago:
Welcome to the wonderful world of herbalism. Plants make tons of beneficial (and to a lesser extent harmful) chemicals for animals like us. Plants can’t move so they use chemical to both deter and attract animals. Something like a fruit is supposed to be eaten which distributes the seeds so plants load them up on attractive chemicals (mostly sugars) so animals want to eat them. Since we all (plants and animals alike) share similar biochemistry it’s simple for plants to make hormones that we also use. Some of the presence is “intentional” and some is not.
To answer your question every fruit and vegetable has beneficial quantities similar to what you mentioned. The wider variety you eat the better.
- Comment on [deleted] 2 months ago:
I’m going to guess baby bonnet?
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This kind of bonnet? I think you can do it
- Comment on I'll watch any Muppets movie no questions asked 2 months ago:
I want more muppet movies, especially myths.
- Comment on [deleted] 2 months ago:
Yes. Women do enjoy sex and you should try to make sure you do to. It’s not uncommon for women to not enjoy sex right away for a number of reasons. First something like 75% of women can’t come from penetration alone so you need to get more from yourself or your partner. Second some women don’t reach their sexual peak to around 30 because they need to really understand themselves and unlearn the myths about sex not being pleasurable. So what do you need to do?
First, I would recommend reading / listening to the best / longest running sex and relationship podcast by Dan Savage. It’s a great way to both get comfortable about hearing / thinking about sex is a positive way as well as learn about consent, advocating for pleasure as well as ways to communicate this. It’s kink and sex positive so you might hear about things that are scary or off-putting that some people like around sex but that’s good learning. You might even hear about things you didn’t know you were interested in.
Second you need to become the expert on your own body and pleasure. Your partner shouldn’t have to read your mind because they are focused on their own pleasure and might be as inexperienced as you are. So you need to masterbate and see what you like. Touch everywhere and everything you see what you enjoy. See what thoughts turn you on. If porn seems to give you the ick try female made porn from Erika Lust or some audio erotica from Dipsea. Lots of women and men have problem with mainstream porn point of view and might enjoy a different take on it. Also there are numerous smutty books out that you might enjoy.
You are doing great and have fun.
- Comment on How often is normal to masturbate? 3 months ago:
We will bring them along kicking and screaming if we have to.
- Comment on How often is normal to masturbate? 3 months ago:
It might just be me. Lol.
- Comment on How often is normal to masturbate? 3 months ago:
The only “problem” with a high libido is if you have a mismatched libido compared to your partner. You and your partner seems perfectly matched. Also as a women you are theoretically insatiable because you don’t have a refectory period like men. Go crazy girl.
If you want some perverted strangers advice about this come join you discussion at Savage Love. You will find a lot of people (including women) who have a similar libido as you. Or at least interested in sex and sex positivity
- Comment on What is it like being drunk? How much control do you have? 3 months ago:
For sure. Lots of people use alcohol as an excuse to act in a way they actually want to. Especially for those who are ashamed of what that actually want.
- Comment on What is it like being drunk? How much control do you have? 3 months ago:
“A drunk man’s words are a sober man’s thoughts”
When drunk most people just do things that they wish they could when sober. That’s the real danger. Or as in Latin: In vino veritas
- Comment on [deleted] 3 months ago:
I’ve learned a lot from his column and podcast over the years. I think I started reading his column in the back of the physical copies of The Onion over a decade ago. Really changed by relationships and worldview for the better. Highly recommend for anyone and everyone
- Comment on [deleted] 3 months ago:
Thank you. I am channeling my inner Dan Savage
- Comment on [deleted] 3 months ago:
Now you got lots of important medical advice that I think you should listen to. Also, you should really try to masterbate to see what you like. Try to focus on your clitoris and what’s external that gets you turned on before trying internal again. Something like 70+% of women can’t come from penetration alone.
You need to become the expert on what you like. Maybe try some porn or audio erotica (Dipsea. Maybe get a vibrator (not an insertion toy yet) from a good sex toy shop. ( Smitten Kitten, Babeland or anything that uses the words feminist, queer friendly or women’s owned). If you want to learn more about sex, consent, pleasure, kink or relationships I love Dan Savage content. He’s been doing it for decades and has great advice about all of this. Don’t rely on your partner to know what to do. He is an expert on himself and you are learning either. Good luck
