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- Comment on I'll watch any Muppets movie no questions asked 3 days ago:
I want more muppet movies, especially myths.
- Comment on Do women actually enjoy sex? 4 days ago:
Yes. Women do enjoy sex and you should try to make sure you do to. It’s not uncommon for women to not enjoy sex right away for a number of reasons. First something like 75% of women can’t come from penetration alone so you need to get more from yourself or your partner. Second some women don’t reach their sexual peak to around 30 because they need to really understand themselves and unlearn the myths about sex not being pleasurable. So what do you need to do?
First, I would recommend reading / listening to the best / longest running sex and relationship podcast by Dan Savage. It’s a great way to both get comfortable about hearing / thinking about sex is a positive way as well as learn about consent, advocating for pleasure as well as ways to communicate this. It’s kink and sex positive so you might hear about things that are scary or off-putting that some people like around sex but that’s good learning. You might even hear about things you didn’t know you were interested in.
Second you need to become the expert on your own body and pleasure. Your partner shouldn’t have to read your mind because they are focused on their own pleasure and might be as inexperienced as you are. So you need to masterbate and see what you like. Touch everywhere and everything you see what you enjoy. See what thoughts turn you on. If porn seems to give you the ick try female made porn from Erika Lust or some audio erotica from Dipsea. Lots of women and men have problem with mainstream porn point of view and might enjoy a different take on it. Also there are numerous smutty books out that you might enjoy.
You are doing great and have fun.
- Comment on How often is normal to masturbate? 2 weeks ago:
We will bring them along kicking and screaming if we have to.
- Comment on How often is normal to masturbate? 2 weeks ago:
It might just be me. Lol.
- Comment on How often is normal to masturbate? 2 weeks ago:
The only “problem” with a high libido is if you have a mismatched libido compared to your partner. You and your partner seems perfectly matched. Also as a women you are theoretically insatiable because you don’t have a refectory period like men. Go crazy girl.
If you want some perverted strangers advice about this come join you discussion at Savage Love. You will find a lot of people (including women) who have a similar libido as you. Or at least interested in sex and sex positivity
- Comment on What is it like being drunk? How much control do you have? 3 weeks ago:
For sure. Lots of people use alcohol as an excuse to act in a way they actually want to. Especially for those who are ashamed of what that actually want.
- Comment on What is it like being drunk? How much control do you have? 3 weeks ago:
“A drunk man’s words are a sober man’s thoughts”
When drunk most people just do things that they wish they could when sober. That’s the real danger. Or as in Latin: In vino veritas
- Comment on [deleted] 5 weeks ago:
I’ve learned a lot from his column and podcast over the years. I think I started reading his column in the back of the physical copies of The Onion over a decade ago. Really changed by relationships and worldview for the better. Highly recommend for anyone and everyone
- Comment on [deleted] 5 weeks ago:
Thank you. I am channeling my inner Dan Savage
- Comment on [deleted] 5 weeks ago:
Now you got lots of important medical advice that I think you should listen to. Also, you should really try to masterbate to see what you like. Try to focus on your clitoris and what’s external that gets you turned on before trying internal again. Something like 70+% of women can’t come from penetration alone.
You need to become the expert on what you like. Maybe try some porn or audio erotica (Dipsea. Maybe get a vibrator (not an insertion toy yet) from a good sex toy shop. ( Smitten Kitten, Babeland or anything that uses the words feminist, queer friendly or women’s owned). If you want to learn more about sex, consent, pleasure, kink or relationships I love Dan Savage content. He’s been doing it for decades and has great advice about all of this. Don’t rely on your partner to know what to do. He is an expert on himself and you are learning either. Good luck
- Comment on I mean does anybody really know how to play Chess? 5 weeks ago:
- Comment on [deleted] 1 month ago:
There are herbal remedies to reduce anxiety. However I doubt you will have some on hand unless you specifically found them earlier. I would recommend skullcap, passionflower, St Johns Wort, Tulsi and poppy tinctures which are all nervines. I might when suggest some lemon balm or anise hyssop as well which taste better and can be commands consumed in larger quantities.
If this is something you are interested in learning more about I would recommend Rosemary Gladstar: Beginner Guide book. She’s amazing and has some great simple recipes
- Comment on Guerrilla plantfare 1 month ago:
It’s a great one
- Comment on Guerrilla plantfare 1 month ago:
All (most?) liqueurs we’re medicinal products at some point. We just stopped drinking them for health and now just for flavor. They also changed some formulas to make them cheaper / sweeter
- Comment on Guerrilla plantfare 1 month ago:
Not if you’re French apparently
- Comment on Guerrilla plantfare 1 month ago:
Elderberry is also a wonderful edible medicinal plant. Their berries are delicious and immune boosting
- Comment on How do I get one of those jobs where I send an email and then go to a meeting then draft an email then leave work and get paid $98,000/Year and have a badge on a little cord that says senior deputy analytics coordinator supervisor of marketing and sales? 2 months ago:
Job hopping is the best way to get better money and job title. It’s worth staying for a few years ever once in a while if you prefer the stability over the income bump. I am in my stable phase while my children are young before jumping again. I am thinking maybe 5 years or so. Unless the great job comes
- Comment on what’s your best “nitric acid acts upon trousers” moment? 2 months ago:
My first professional chemistry job had an older lab tech who used to always say when dealing with any acid.
“Do what you oughta, add acid to water”
It’s a fun saying especially because you need to mispronounce a few words to get it to rhyme correctly.
- Comment on We're not going to make it 2 months ago:
My local garden shop has it.
But if you are ordering online I use Flawn. They also do other bee lawns and other plants. I had used their English daisy and Self-heal with some success. It takes some time to flower so hard to tell if my sowing are slow bloomers or didn’t germinate.
- Comment on We're not going to make it 2 months ago:
I have a beautiful grass and clover lawn in MN. It hasn’t been much harder to get growing than typical grass. Xeriscaping isn’t typically what it’s called here the midwest
- Comment on How do you feel about a 25 year old dating a 46 year old? 3 months ago:
Both people in a relationship should be mature enough to make an informed decision which should be the case once you hit your mid twenties. However, if you have a larger age gap both of you should encourage greater scrutiny into your relationship and motives. People may question why and both of you should consider reasonable answers.
- Comment on How to stop a parent from jumping into the nearest religious rabbit-hole to cope with a divorce? 3 months ago:
Agreed. And try to frame it as an addition to their church support not a replacement.
- Comment on [deleted] 4 months ago:
If you haven’t tried Thistle and Spite they are amazing. High fashion Slutty for sure
- Comment on [deleted] 4 months ago:
I think it’s funny that dog DNA tests are more accurate than for humans. That is because someone defined a breed and then started tracking that for years. Since these breeders have almost complete control over the mating behaviour of their dogs we can define a breed. Humans are not like that. We move and mate everywhere we want
- Comment on Farming for self sustainance 4 months ago:
Anyone who says they are self sufficient is lying to themselves. Communities of people can be but we all need each other
- Comment on Farming for self sustainance 4 months ago:
If you are interested I would recommend reading some books on permaculture. My first book was Gaias Garden which I loved. It talks about how to piecemeal increase your own sustainability starting in your own yard. It’s a great first step if this is what you want to do. Overall no one person / family / farm can stand all alone we are all interconnected
- Comment on Without getting in a fight. Why is it called coming out of the closest? Where did it begin? I mean why not a garagde or a bedroom or something? How did it become a reference to homosexuals? 5 months ago:
Here is a Time article about it.
In my head the closet part involves someone jumping out of bed and hiding in the nearest place to hide. A closet.
- Comment on Just say the word 5 months ago:
I am on paternity leave now and I love it. If my wife was making 12 million I would never go back.
- Comment on Humans are part of the ecosystem. 6 months ago:
Altered doesn’t have to mean destruction. A human touched ecosystem can be different but doesn’t have to be a monoculture. There are a huge number of human specific plants, most of which we call weeds now, that only exist around people that can provide food and medicine to us. Looking at how modern permaculture farming works there’s a huge amount of diversity within their food forests which are directly human touched while leaving more wild sections. These wild sections are more native specific and their value is acknowledged instead of called wasted space. Humans are part of an ecosystem so we alter it but don’t have to destroy it
- Comment on Humans are part of the ecosystem. 6 months ago:
While I agree that people are fundamentally the same the cultural values can alter their behavior. A culture that says Human are separate and above nature who should submit to it’s will acts differently than one who thinks humans are the youngest sibling to plants and animals who have lots to teach us. So by understanding cultural values, mindsets and techniques we can alter how we interact with the rest of the world.
