Sonder - the profound feeling of realizing that everyone, including strangers passing in the street, has a life as complex as one's own, which they are constantly living despite one's personal lack of awareness of it.
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Submitted 9 hours ago by orhtej2@eviltoast.org to [deleted]
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Rhaedas@fedia.io 9 hours ago
samus12345@sh.itjust.works 8 hours ago
Clent@lemmy.dbzer0.com 3 hours ago
Some days this idea feels less true than others.
Rhaedas@fedia.io 7 hours ago
Or Main Character Syndrome, which is the other side of things. The default is somewhere in the middle, varying with the individual. It's probably harder to not see yourself as central most of the time (but not necessarily Main Character), simply because of being trapped in that viewpoint.
TachyonTele@piefed.social 9 hours ago
Great band name
GargleBlaster@feddit.org 8 hours ago
It’s a bit long, don’t you think?
Xerxis@lemmy.ca 9 hours ago
What if you actually can distinctly remember other people’s embarassing moments
Ghyste@sh.itjust.works 9 hours ago
Does it help?
HeyThisIsntTheYMCA@lemmy.world 2 hours ago
Gives me the occasional giggle, also the occasional pang of sympathy as I recognize more of the shit they were going through day to day.
cobysev@lemmy.world 8 hours ago
I still clearly remember others’ embarrassing, cringey moments from my high school years, and I’m in my 40s now. I shudder thinking about who still remembers the embarrassing things I said/did way back in my childhood.
asteriskeverything@lemmy.world 5 hours ago
I definitely have some other people’s cringe moments living rent free in my mind for years
UnderpantsWeevil@lemmy.world 9 hours ago
This guy has me dead to rights.
If you need me, I’ll be in the closet crying.
lugal@lemmy.dbzer0.com 8 hours ago
I know what you did last summer
and it was pretty embarrassing
Kolanaki@pawb.social 8 hours ago
I feel 3rd party embarassement (I am embarassed seeing someone else do something cringey) more than 1st party (feeling embarassed by my own cringe) so I know this ain’t true.
shalafi@lemmy.world 6 hours ago
As a child, told my mom I’d didn’t like Laverne and Shirley because I was embarrassed for them, for their antics. Apparently I had loads of empathy, then and now. Doesn’t mean I haven’t done evil shit! The evil shit is what makes me feel awful. I can hadle being embarrassed. All I can do is try to put more good in the world than evil.
Lumidaub@feddit.org 2 hours ago
This but unironically.
Randomgal@lemmy.ca 7 hours ago
I fucking do. Now what?
dragonfucker@lemmy.nz 5 hours ago
Donald Trump pooped his pants on live TV and drag remembered
partial_accumen@lemmy.world 8 hours ago
As you get older, something else happens. The people that were present at that cringy moment of yours die off. You may find yourself the only living person witness to the event. It helps. Not as much as it should but it does help.
psx_crab@lemmy.zip 5 hours ago
I know it’s an embarrassing moment, but damn, you don’t have to kill them off 💀
faythofdragons@slrpnk.net 6 hours ago
Nah, we all still remember how Caligula tried to pick a fight with Poseidon and how cringe that was
shalafi@lemmy.world 6 hours ago
If you wait by the river long enough, the bodies of your enemies will float by.
About the only embarrassing moments I can recall of other people’s actions, they didn’t know, at the time, that they should have been embarrassed.
TachyonTele@piefed.social 9 hours ago
I like turtles.
I can accept that now.jawa22@lemmy.blahaj.zone 7 hours ago
Jonathan the zombie‽
Aquaphobi@lemmy.zip 2 hours ago
I knew a guy who got caught masturbating in his car in a public parking lot
HeyThisIsntTheYMCA@lemmy.world 2 hours ago
There was a kid in middle school same year as me. Can’t remember his real name. He got caught paddling the school canoe in the little boys room. Like three times. Everyone called him “Sticky” after that. He dropped out, tried to convince his family to move. His brother was cool tho.