Heteropatriarchal system
Anon thinks there is a bicurious double standard
Submitted 3 weeks ago by Early_To_Risa@sh.itjust.works to greentext@sh.itjust.works
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peoflor@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
UltraGiGaGigantic@lemmy.ml 2 weeks ago
Bi guys are the best. Me too, thanks.
Rumo161@feddit.org 2 weeks ago
This post is bi-reasiure
python@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
This post is bi-racial
theacharnian@lemmy.ca 2 weeks ago
Recommended reading: “Bi: Notes for a Bisexual Revolution”, by Shiri Eisner
ryedaft@sh.itjust.works 3 weeks ago
Yes, that was an episode of Insecure.
RumorsOfLove@lemmy.dbzer0.com 3 weeks ago
Maybe being gay is a weakness. If a woman wants a strong husband, is that regressive?
Ilovethebomb@sh.itjust.works 3 weeks ago
If that’s how they view men, then yes.
GeriatricGambino@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
Maybe being gay is a weakness.
Lol at you trying to frame blatant homophobia as an “innocent” question. Do you also do birthdays you fucking clown.
If a woman wants a strong husband, is that regressive ?
“If someone doesn’t want to date outside their race, is that regressive?”
If your reasoning for not being attracted to someone, is because what they are makes them seen as “inferior” by bad people, you are a bad person yourself.
FuckFascism@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
Ancient Spartan warriors engaged in homosexual behavior does that make them weak?
jnod4@lemmy.ca 3 weeks ago
"I’m a progressive but I would never date a woman who’s not down to raise me three kids, clean, cook, shop, clean, never drinks, smokes, she hasn’t been ran through. Also she has to satisfy me every time I want, without having the expectations of she receiving it back, a human fuck puppet of sorts, also she has to keep pretty, sexy, lingerie, she has to keep fit, no tattoos. And also I want her to sign a prenup, she wasn’t there when I earned everything I have, she don’t get to keep half of nothing after we divorce. Also she has to be content with me fucking somebody younger on the side when her tits start to sag or gets crows feet. Also she has to fear god but first to fear me, also she can’t be black or brown, also… also… also… "
Also this is not a joke, this is how I’ve been raised and this is what my entourage of friends all push and strive for. I myself have broken from these traditional values inflicted by society and parents, but I will never forget how men sit down at the table and women are there only to serve.
They can fuck whoever they want, but don’t be homophobic about it
npdean@lemmy.today 3 weeks ago
Women having freedom is a weakness. If a man is wants a slave, is that regressive?
Trainguyrom@reddthat.com 3 weeks ago
Lol gym bros are some of the gayest fucking straight people you’ll ever meet, but gay = weak tooootally. You’re funny
SoftestSapphic@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
Attention addict says edgy things for attention.
Cocopanda@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
I always notice that the women that jump in and out of lesbian and straight relationships. Are usually slutty skanks. Just my personal experience.
Auth@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
You’re the exact person being referenced throughout this thread.
Cocopanda@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
It might be a connection with sexual abuse that cause these personalities. But I’ve seen friends go through their fazes. And agree that sometimes they feel like there are no more men at the time that interest them.
Gullible@sh.itjust.works 3 weeks ago
There are legitimate reasons for avoiding bi people in a straight relationship. Straight folks use contraceptives a fair bit more frequently than gay folks, for instance, leading to lower sti rates. Risk of infection is a legitimate concern and an awkward conversation in a fledgling relationship.
But, from what I’ve seen, it’s largely just not understanding how you’re meant to act in a relationship with a bi person and ingrained bigotry. Everyone is at least a little jealous, but you can’t remove your partner from the entire populace. Half is a big ask but doable. 100% is just abuse. Despite the world becoming safer and more accepting, we’re still dumb animals that ping ancient and irrelevant instruction sets, and ostracism is one of the oldest.
Honytawk@feddit.nl 3 weeks ago
You have to check that with EVERY sexual partner, not just gay or bi ones.
kkj@lemmy.dbzer0.com 3 weeks ago
MLM actually have higher condom use rates than MLW. It wasn’t the case before AIDS, because they didn’t have to worry about pregnancy and all of the STIs were pretty treatable, but they pivoted once they had a compelling reason.
TimewornTraveler@lemmy.dbzer0.com 3 weeks ago
Jesus christ, if you’re so insecure you can’t bear the thought of your partner being in proximity to ANYONE else, maybe you’re the abuser here
Gullible@sh.itjust.works 3 weeks ago
To be clear, this paragraph where I state that it’s largely bigotry and insecurity that drives potential partners away, it read as though it was written about me and my specific perspective on my dating bi people?
starchylemming@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
aaand thats why most of them just shut the fuck up and keep the past adventures to themselves
you usually don’t talk in detail about previous women either.
DrivebyHaiku@lemmy.ca 3 weeks ago
Dude… Bi people still do monogamy and a lot of them don’t want polyamory or cheating. If you have a problem keeping to a single person that’s a you thing, don’t project it onto others.
Calling it “abuse” is really fucking weird.
Gullible@sh.itjust.works 3 weeks ago
Apologies for copy pasting but,
To be clear, this paragraph where I state that it’s largely bigotry and insecurity that drives potential partners away, it read as though it was written about me and my specific perspective on my dating bi people?
davidagain@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
I suspect that men who have sex with men are more prone to STIs because they have a lot more sex with a much wider pool of partners, not because they’re less careful statistically.
SoftestSapphic@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
- literal propaganda from the Aids epidemic
DrivebyHaiku@lemmy.ca 2 weeks ago
Some people in a general sense are sluts. This is an old assumption that bi and gay folk are more sexually careless that hasn’t really been true since the aids crisis.
Fun fact, wherever there is stigma or barriers in seeking health care or populations that are discriminated against you see higher rates of STIs because people wait longer to check on things that go wrong and don’t catch them before they take hold. This includes immigrant populations, religious minorities in hostile cultures, queer people, racial minorities, homeless populations… They aren’t all rawdogging it, these groups often feel they can’t be honest with a doc or fear being rejected from healthcare situations. Some queer folk have trauma around medical care in the past. Where management and early testing drops off disease transmission becomes more common.
You will see old studies positing the multiple partners thing but the cutting edge data has seen this is a problem faced by multiple populations with the core of the problem sourced and traceable to the degree of stigma against the patients.
daggermoon@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
I’m straight and I couldn’t give a fuck less who a partner fucked before me so long as it was legal and ethical.
Feathercrown@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
Username checks out
Gullible@sh.itjust.works 3 weeks ago
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Could you list a point I made that you’d disagree with? Aside from contraception use, I take that one back.
SwingingTheLamp@midwest.social 2 weeks ago
??
I’ve never heard of gay people ever using contraceptives. That’d be silly.
ICastFist@programming.dev 2 weeks ago
Fun fact: back in Roman times, it was manly to fuck a twink. Being fucked by another man made you a woman (in their eyes, women were inferior in every aspect). I suppose something similar happened in Greece for a good while
CoffeeJunkie@lemmy.cafe 2 weeks ago
It was normal for men to take teenage boys, teach them up, and also use them for sexual gratification. Everyone was okay with it, but with 1 big stipulation: you get off by sliding your penis between the thighs to climax, and do not penetrate the young boy anally. That was considered “crossing the line” & perverting him as a man.
I think this was common Greek practice, not Roman.