Roughly five years ago I was looking to contact a friend I knew from college. Long story short I didn’t go about it the right way and her parents got mad at me.
Fast forward five years and I feel incredibly remorseful about what I did. I’ve been told I should just forget about the whole ordeal, but the whole situation lives rent-free in my head no matter how hard I try not to think about it. I don’t want to risk disturbing her again, but I also don’t want to pull a Matthew Broderick and never apologize/admit responsibility for a grave mistake. Any thoughts?
scarabic@lemmy.world 2 hours ago
Just ask yourself one question. Are you doing this to soothe your own feelings? It sure sounds like that. So just out away the “I want to do the right thing” bit and recognize that sometimes the right thing to do is nothing.
UCIL19841202@lemmy.ca 22 minutes ago
So Matthew Broderick was right to not apologize for killing those two people? And National Day for Truth and Reconciliation is wrong? That’s what I seem to be getting at.
scarabic@lemmy.world 14 minutes ago
To answer the question of what Matthew Broderick should do, I would need to have some information about what the victims/family want. Do they want an apology and public statement? They should get one. Do they want to be left alone? They should be.
The thing is YOU DO already have this information. They want to be left alone. You want to violate that and contact them to apologize for… contacting them before?
This isn’t hard dude. You aren’t Matthew Broderick. You didn’t kill anyone. You have an unhealthy fascination with this person from the very beginning of your story and you are working VERY hard to convince yourself that exercising it is in fact a moral imperative for you.
It is not. The only thing you can do for these people is leave them alone and digest your own feelings about it. Get therapeutic help, please.
recklessengagement@lemmy.world 1 hour ago
Yep - are you apologizing for them, or for yourself?