Today’s weather forecast (Melbourne CBD, 3000): min - 15°C, max - 29°C. 100% chance of no rain
Trying round 2 for ze comet tonight. C’mon little guy you can doo ittt show us ya tail!
Daily Discussion Thread: Saturday, 18 January, 2025
Submitted 3 days ago by Baku@aussie.zone to melbourne@aussie.zone
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Bottom_racer@aussie.zone 2 days ago
TheWitchofThornbury@aussie.zone 2 days ago
Come on, let me see you shake your tail feather…
imoldgreeeg@aussie.zone 2 days ago
Same. It’s a better night tonight. No clouds
CEOofmyhouse56@aussie.zone 3 days ago
I love this little community. 💜
SpinMeAround@aussie.zone 3 days ago
My favourite corner of the internet!
anotherspringchicken@aussie.zone 3 days ago
Ditto!
StudChud@aussie.zone 2 days ago
I'm tired boss
It’s up to me to fix my problems and I’m fucking tired of it. If I want a close relationship with dad, apparently I have to initiate that. He certainly isn’t going to. But why should I? Who’s the fucking parent here? I’ve already had to fucking parent my own damn mother, now I have to be the one to reach out to my dad!? Fucking fuck fuck! It fucking hurts when my partners parents call him, or his siblings, just to check in, because of course I’m fucking jealous. Dad can just be dad to my fucking cousins as always, as it’s always fucking been. I give up. I give up on this. They’re all so damn successful and supportive of each other, what the actual fuck have I done wrong!? I dream of just packing a backpack and fucking off by myself, throwing my phone away, deleting everything about me and starting elsewhere. But I can’t… Of course I can’t. I have my partner to support and Mickey to love and feed.
And resentful.
Seagoon_@aussie.zone 2 days ago
so many hugs, I’m so sorry
Your partner and Mickey are your found fam.
StudChud@aussie.zone 2 days ago
Thank you seagoon, I really appreciate this 😭💜
Eagle@aussie.zone 2 days ago
I know how you feel… My Dad has chosen to not be an active participant in my adult life. He’s met my son once in 11 years. He only lives 20 minutes away, in the same town as my mum (his ex wife). It’s taken alot for me to get over feeling like I’m not good enough for him. He has a great relationship with one of my brothers but not me and the other two. Many of my own therapy sessions have determined he is probably neuro diverse but that’s not an excuse. In the community people speak highly of him, but we haven’t had a conversation in 20 years. I’m a good person, who does good things and I’m worth his time and effort, but apparently I’m not. But I’ve got to be okay with that. We’ll survive this, and worse, because we know our worth, and we give love freely unlike our fathers.
StudChud@aussie.zone 2 days ago
I’m so sorry, it does hurt. A lot. In ways that are hard to describe with words.
You are good enough, you are so much more than enough! You are an amazing parent breaking the cycle! Your kid loves you, unconditionally and always. You are an amazing, kind, intelligent, beautiful human being!
The problem lies with your father, and while it is heavy to carry those feelings of unworthiness, it is he who threw it away. You haven’t done anything to deserve treatment like that, you are strong and awesome, and awe-inspiring 💜💜💜
Gibsonhasafluffybutt@aussie.zone 2 days ago
Hugs ❤️
Grackle@aussie.zone 2 days ago
Love walking near my window freaking out thinking that the heater underneath it has accidentally been turned on, only for me to realise it’s the heat coming through my blinds 🥵
Gibsonhasafluffybutt@aussie.zone 2 days ago
I’m feeling a zonk coming on real strong right now…
imoldgreeeg@aussie.zone 2 days ago
Just coming out of a zonkm highly recommend
Gibsonhasafluffybutt@aussie.zone 2 days ago
Mid zonk. Feels good.
PeelerSheila@aussie.zone 2 days ago
Did the usual laundry/dishes thing, then went out with the Minipeelers and got some essential supplies. Also got nonessential supplies such as cheesecake and brownies from a local cafe, because cheesecake and brownies. They had a pistachio cruffin left and gave me for free🤤 Got home and had a beef sausage in a fresh roll with German mustard (it comes in a mini stein. I love that kind of thing). Going to watch something with the kids and do more laundry. After I eat the cruffin!
Pilk@aussie.zone 2 days ago
nonessential supplies such as cheesecake and brownies
Joy is an essential supply
PeelerSheila@aussie.zone 2 days ago
It totally is!
just_kitten@aussie.zone 2 days ago
Picture of cruffin?! Sounds so delicious, even better when you get it for free!
PeelerSheila@aussie.zone 2 days ago
😔 cannot supply picture because cruffin was eaten with embarrassing speed… it looked almost exactly like this one and had pistachio cream inside degenerates into Homer Simpson gluttony noises
useless_modern_god@aussie.zone 2 days ago
Bottom_racer@aussie.zone 2 days ago
useless_modern_god@aussie.zone 2 days ago
Hopefully it stays up there. Cheers 🍻
Gibsonhasafluffybutt@aussie.zone 2 days ago
Cheeeeeeers!!!
useless_modern_god@aussie.zone 2 days ago
Cheers fluffy butt🍻
Llabyrinthine@aussie.zone 2 days ago
Scoffing a chocolate hot cross bun… Yummo.
Fanged down to Apollo Bay, again. Hot damn this weather has just been absolutely glorious.
I honestly think this is the best Summer season we have had in years.
Seagoon_@aussie.zone 2 days ago
another beautiful day without a single cloud in the sky
Alamutjones@aussie.zone 2 days ago
Good morning
TheWitchofThornbury@aussie.zone 2 days ago
Goooood morning. Such a lovely day. Mega shopping trip for household staples, and maybe a cheeky brunch on the way back planned.
Seagoon_@aussie.zone 2 days ago
I wonder if there is still an egg deficit here in the inner suburbs.
imoldgreeeg@aussie.zone 2 days ago
Morning. I will get up now. Eggs. Coffee. Saturday quiz.
Bottom_racer@aussie.zone 2 days ago
Seagoon_@aussie.zone 2 days ago
Melbourne thoughts.
I went to the Carlton Gardens yesterday evening to see if I could see the comet. There was a homeless person sleeping on a stone bench, they had a pillow and blankets, their belongs in a supermarket trolley. I wondered if I would be able to do anything if I were a member of local government.
This morning I give money to a crying beggar on Bourke st mall, He seemed ashamed and kept on apologising.
Walking through the gardens again on my way home from the cbd I see more homeless, this time sleeping under trees.
What could I do? As much as I would wish it if i had the power I wouldn’t be able to help instantaneously.
I reckon so many people in gov really do want to help, they have ideas but those ideas would get shot down.
My idea. As a temp stop gap until systems are in place use old warehouses as dorms , have them fitted out as well as possible, have many social services available.
But I can hear it now. There would be people who would object. They let the perfect be the enemy of the good.
Bottom_racer@aussie.zone 2 days ago
old warehouses as dorms
This is why I think covid was a wasted opportunity. Building / converting quarantine quarters near support services and re-purpose them for homeless and disaster (flood / fire) victims. Wouldn’t win too many votes though.
Seagoon_@aussie.zone 2 days ago
That is a good idea.
but can you imagine the outrage at dorm quarantine conditions?
TheWitchofThornbury@aussie.zone 2 days ago
Using old warehouses as dorms - you’ve just re-invented the flop-house of Victorian times! Or possibly the penny hangs. There’s damn good reason why this solution is just plain not good enough.
Seagoon_@aussie.zone 2 days ago
With services. More like military barracks than a flop house.
and AS A STOP GAP until we have something better in place.
because a dorm is better than stone bench or under a tree
ffs, how does Scandinavia do it? Let’s do that.
SituationCake@aussie.zone 2 days ago
I think there’s a huge difference between people who are homeless due to things like bad luck, domestic violence and economic circumstances; and people who have severe mental health issues, violent antisocial behaviours, debilitating drug dependence. If there was a way of separating them, then temporary basic accomodation might work for the nonviolent group? With fast track supports to get them back into housing and independence. And the remainder need to go to more specialised facilities for long term care, because it might be that they will never be well enough to live independently. But I’m sure that would be very controversial. I wish we could actually try solutions based on objective outcomes rather than political vote getter policies.
Seagoon_@aussie.zone 2 days ago
Good point.
There should be medical care for the mentally ill.
melbaboutown@aussie.zone 2 days ago
This is a great idea however I would be too scared to stay there for all the reasons outlined.
I believe in the housing first model however at the same time there has to be really robust supports and plans in place around mental health and antisocial behaviour.
Some people have challenges in keeping accommodation or aggressive behaviours and sadly just having services available isn’t enough.
A lot of the time what happens is either the aggressive people get kicked out (sometimes continuing to hang around and cause further problems) or more vulnerable people sleep rough to avoid the abusive ones. Or both. Which equals a high rate of returning to rough sleeping.
Australia seriously needs to fix the mental health system and housing
Duenan@aussie.zone 2 days ago
Washing done, toasted cheese and ham linch done, aircon on! Stovetop coffee done!
I’m all ready for a Saturday!
just_kitten@aussie.zone 2 days ago
Very much enjoying the Saturday vibes myself too. What are you thinking for dinner?
Duenan@aussie.zone 2 days ago
I’m probably going to make stir fry noodles tonight with the massive amount of eggs and ham I have left here with hokkien noodles that I bought from aldi as a test.
I haven’t done stir fry in ages apart from yesterday when I got inspired.
How are you spending this Saturday afternoon and evening and are you doing a stir fry as well?
I’ve got the tennis on as Alex de Minaur is playing at 2pm.
Seagoon_@aussie.zone 2 days ago
It’s warm out there.
indisin@aussie.zone 2 days ago
This is such a first world problem, but any advice on dealing with next door’s tree? Its shed so many leaves and bark in the past 6 weeks that it would easily take 2 full green bins to fill and not only can I not be arsed doing the clean up it just feels a tad unfair. The owner of the tree is a nice old guy so I don’t want to put him out with this issue, but we’re at the point of needing to either pay someone or sweep it all ourselves on to a public road which feels wrong. Ideas other than what I already have?
SituationCake@aussie.zone 2 days ago
I think best first step is have a chat with him. If he is elderly maybe he has someone already helping him with gardening, maybe ask the leaves be swept from your side too? But you would need to give them access. But genuinely, why not just sweep and put it in the green bin? Why would you blow it into the street? I live in a leafy area. Sometimes neighbours trees leaves fall in my yard. Sometimes mine fall in theirs. Sometimes street tree leaves blow in everyone’s yards. Put it in the bin and enjoy having a nice tree around.
indisin@aussie.zone 2 days ago
I know that him and my rental provider do not get along so although he’d possibly do it for me, him doing it for this place might not go so well as a conversation topic. Probably worth trying but am a pom and so that kinda conversation never happens.
Green bin isn’t viable as in my council that’s the food bin, and lots of the bark is as big as or even longer than my arm. So that would be no food waste bin space for 4 weeks with then having a 2 week wait after that collection to get rid of things like uneaten bread. And I don’t have the ability to compost myself (also again, rental).
This is like 2 days work that’s only getting worse and I so can’t be arsed. So the chat is probably necessary, but please send help!
dumblederp@aussie.zone 2 days ago
At least discuss it with him. Could you get it cut back to the fence line?
indisin@aussie.zone 2 days ago
Definitely couldn’t get it cut back behind the line fence and it’s rough 15-20 meters tall so it wouldn’t help as the bark and leaves are primarily coming from their side as it’s shedding + wind. It’s a lovely tree too filled with birds so it’s not something I’d even want cutting back. I probably should discuss it with him and maybe I could fit some tall netting. I know my rental providers would be fine with it and he would be, but there’s gotta be a better way of dealing with this. Spitballing: even a leaf blower would just push the problem on to someone else which isn’t fair. Gahhh, my poor chillis covered in bark.
Seagoon_@aussie.zone 2 days ago
Went out to see comet. So many buildings and trees in the way, kept walking west , still no view, always a building or tree in the way. Went back home when I realised I’d have walk to melton to get a view.
StudChud@aussie.zone 2 days ago
I feel this. I live on the fourth floor, but my apartment faces north. The windows in the shared hallway face south, but there is a new apartment building and the entire city in the way.
I hope someone here (bottom racer I’m looking at you) can get a sweet pic! Id love to see it!
Bottom_racer@aussie.zone 2 days ago
bottom racer I’m looking at you
This comet hates me I want my monies back.
Pilk@aussie.zone 2 days ago
I don’t think it’s gonna be great viewing until Monday but ideally Tuesday next week.
20/01/2025 Best View: 10:10 PM (Fair)
20/01/2025 Best View: 10:10 PM (Fair)
20/01/2025 Best View: 10:10 PM (Fair)imoldgreeeg@aussie.zone 2 days ago
Tonight I was looking SW over the bay. I could make it out with eyes a while after sunset but mainly because I had already found it with binoculars. Was clear and very cool but you need a clear horizon
melbaboutown@aussie.zone 2 days ago
I don’t have a clear view and don’t want to walk around this time of night to try and see. Fingers crossed someone else gets pics
Alamutjones@aussie.zone 2 days ago
Gonna sneak a sausage into the last of my curry
tone212_@aussie.zone 2 days ago
Motorcycle man strikes again. That’s two 5am wakeups in a row from the starting & revving. It sounds like a chainsaw is going off.
Feeling like crap from lack of sleep but trying to enjoy the day. About to go for banh mi / viet iced coffee and then a swim afterwards.
StudChud@aussie.zone 2 days ago
I also have a motorcycle man… Lives in my building and, from the timing of the noise, must work nightshift.
He’s lucky I don’t know which apartment he lives in 😂
A Vietnamese Iced Coffee is definitely classified as self-care after your morning! May it be delicious and everlasting!
just_kitten@aussie.zone 2 days ago
Pretty happy that I didn’t succumb to screens for too long this morning - woke up feeling better (probably less dehydrated…) and after about an hour of increasingly distracted scrolling I snapped out of it, changed clothes and hoisted myself to the Gleadell St markets. Proud of myself for walking 15 mins there, and then back with heavy bags rather than driving - saw not one but three! kitties, two were spooked by these scary dogs just behind me but I got to pet this friendly fluffball:
First time at this market.
:::spoiler ramblings and haul It’s ok, I don’t think I necessarily saved much relative to quality (except on the capsicums - Toscanos always has rapacious prices) and I’ve always wondered how much actually goes back to the farmers with these inner city markets. Don’t think I’d make it my primary source of veggies.
But, it’s a good supplement that’s close by and a nice change for when I want to be around people and enjoy the experience (incl futzing around with cash). The back streets are lovely too… fun and diverse architecture, lots of lovely shade trees, dense but not overwhelming, diverse people. Just have to not think too hard about how I could never afford any one of those places 😂
I did get a couple unusual things this time at least - a huge 2kg daikon radish longer than my forearm, and a bunch of fresh amaranth leaves! I’ve been yearning for stir fries these days so I’ll definitely do a big daikon stir fry and maybe wilted amaranth with garlic or ginger.
Today’s haul for $26.50:
- generous 1/4 pumpkin
- one big beetroot
- two medium capsicums (red & green)
- one huuge daikon radish
- one bunch amaranth
- one ear corn
- one bunch slightly holey Bok Choy
- one head garlic
- half cauliflower
- two punnets strawbs (500g total)
- one small head broccoli
- four rope bananas :::
Still craving snake beans and tempeh though… Maybe I’ll head to Laguna later today or tomoz. Thinking what to do with all that daikon. Stir fry a good chunk with carrot, pickle a small amount, and maybe do a Chinese style braise for the rest.
Gibsonhasafluffybutt@aussie.zone 3 days ago
Goodnight everyone. I hope you all have a great night ❤️
StudChud@aussie.zone 3 days ago
So funny how people lie, in life and on the internet. It’s not even hard to pick up on, they always get something wrong, be it their age or the timeline of events, symptoms of a disease or mental illness, their work or experience, even what they do day-to-day. Even how they talk or type.
There are so many valid reasons to lie, I certainly do. I lie to my family about being okay because I fear trauma dumping, and I’d hate for them to blame themselves.
But to lie about illness or experience? I find that so weird. I have to imagine they feel lonely or unvalued, unworthy, unless their is something “special” or “unique” about them. A desire for validation.
I find it gross when “influencers” lie about having a mental illness I have. They always get something wrong about it, the details don’t make sense, the symptoms don’t match their behaviours. They dupe the naïve into giving them money and sympathy.
Tik Tok is the worst for that shit, Facebook, IG, Xhitter, reddit too, even lemmy. Any social media platform really. It’s a performance and it shows.
/Endrant
dumblederp@aussie.zone 3 days ago
I had the same issues with LiveJournal 25 years ago.
just_kitten@aussie.zone 2 days ago
Thank goodness someone said it. I was a kid/teen then but there were certain accounts that really rubbed me the wrong way, it was the nascent beginnings of the current culture linked to outrage/cancelling/extreme “sensitivity”/whatever you want to call it. So much narcissism and cult building around being “special”, duping vulnerable kids who feel misunderstood. Only later did I realise the lies.
Seagoon_@aussie.zone 2 days ago
can I just rant about the special/unique stuff. ( this makes me angry too )
behind that belief is a belief that everyday people are beneath them, that everyday people are inferior , not worthy
it’s not the same as recognising that individuals have personality and interests , these people who think in terms of status, in terms of superiority and inferiority, seem to lump all those they deem beneath them as the same.
I think we can all be different while still being equal in spirit.
Gibsonhasafluffybutt@aussie.zone 3 days ago
I agree. Using the emotions of innocent people to keep a bizarre fantasy alive is honestly sickening.
People are a strange bunch.
Baku@aussie.zone 2 days ago
I woke up feeling really sad and bad today. I don’t know where it came from, I was okayish last night
SpinMeAround@aussie.zone 2 days ago
A much needed and very lazy morning. Not even out of my PJs yet, but shopping to do and boyo’s family to visit soon. Meant to be having dinner with a friend tonight but struggling to bring myself to confirm it with them.
SituationCake@aussie.zone 2 days ago
So the tv show Severance season 2 is finally here. It’s being released weekly instead of all at once, so I was debating with myself whether I wait for it to be all available to binge it, or watch week by week. Have decided I can’t wait and just watched the first episode. Worth it. It’s masterful how they can put so many discombobulating elements into it.
bacon@aussie.zone 2 days ago
sky pretty
Taleya@aussie.zone 2 days ago
Force_majeure123@aussie.zone 2 days ago
If you like cooking shows/competitions, check out Culinary Class Wars on Netflix. It’s in Korean, amazing chefs, really high production value. I’m five episodes in and have been hooked from the start!
Gibsonhasafluffybutt@aussie.zone 2 days ago
Fuck yeah iPad is jailbroken. Woooohooooo
tombruzzo@aussie.zone 2 days ago
Bike service time. Get this sorted and I might do a few days to the new job on the bike. It will be a 30km round trip instead of each way
Alamutjones@aussie.zone 2 days ago
Minor market update - the QVM Donut Van has moved. It’s up the back of B shed for the moment as there’s some building happening
Also, that’s my shop done. I find myself in possession of
- spinach
- cucumber
- tomatoes
- capsicum, red
- pea shoots
- brussels sprouts
- broccolini
- raspberries
- blueberries
- cherries (free, Benny my fruit bro gave them to me)
- brown rice
- interesting breakfast cereal I’ve never heard of
- bread
- milk
- cheeeeee
- jollof rice, chicken
- Polish salami, mysterious
- rissoles, garlic + herb
- sausages, lamb, honey + rosemary
- asters, bunch of, purple
Gibsonhasafluffybutt@aussie.zone 2 days ago
I just made an amazing contact!!!
My uber driver is a semi retired senior project manager and he’s given me his number to catch up for coffee and he said he’ll keep an eye out for any account management roles!!!
HOLY FUCK!!!
indisin@aussie.zone 2 days ago
That’s awesome and I hope that it pans out for you, just remember that despite the excitement you don’t know this person and to stay safe.