I got sober at 33 and thought too much of my life had passed by but after a couple weeks and meeting others aged 50-70 getting sober I quickly realized how lucky I was to get sober at my age and how much potential life I still might have…made it 5 years this July and looking forward to 10+
Age 30
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Entropywins@lemmy.world 3 months ago
TimewornTraveler@lemm.ee 3 months ago
grats buddy
Crikeste@lemm.ee 3 months ago
I’m the same age, with more relapses and detoxes than I can count on my hands. I had never thought about it that way, but it’s a great perspective. I’m at day 93 today, feeling sturdy as fuck.
Congrats on your sobriety! 5 years is a huge feat and I’m sure it feels amazing! ☺️✊🏼
el_abuelo@programming.dev 3 months ago
Congrats on 93 days, stay strong and when you’re feeling weak remember how strong you were to get this far and reach out for help!
BruceTwarzen@lemm.ee 3 months ago
The last time i was drinking was like 10 years ago. I was sitting in a bar with a friend and we were both almost 30. I started to realise that most people in there were younger than us. Sometimes by quite a bit. The exceptions were a bunch of guys who were 40 to 60 years old, hanging at the bar by themselves, talking to “young” people and they cringed out of their minds. I told my friend that i’d rather die than end up like that. I didn’t even realise back then that was the last time i’ll ever drink.
arefx@lemmy.ml 3 months ago
8.5 years here, it’s not something I spend a lot of time thinking about any more but I’m going to be really proud when I get that 10.
nulluser@programming.dev 3 months ago
That’s a rough 30 year old.
crazybrain@lemmy.spacestation14.com 3 months ago
chuckleslord@lemmy.world 3 months ago
That’s why they got sober
ceenote@lemmy.world 3 months ago
Pretty certain he has indeed been around for 30 years.
vividspecter@lemm.ee 3 months ago
His name is Hans and drinking has ruined his life
Z3k3@lemmy.world 3 months ago
Hell of a paper round
FoxyGrandpa@lemmy.world 3 months ago
You need a hobby when getting sober more than anything. When you get sober you are bored shitless. Seriously I didn’t know what bored meant until getting clean
Window_Error_Noises@lemmy.world 3 months ago
Out of curiosity, and if you don’t mind sharing, what hobbies have you picked up, or have been exploring?
FoxyGrandpa@lemmy.world 3 months ago
A lot actually. Boxing, motorcycling (riding and fixing) , mycology, oil painting, and lots and lots of books. But turns out that was more symptomatic of bipolar 2 lol
can@sh.itjust.works 3 months ago
Not a bad way to approach things when it comes to hobbies and interests.
henfredemars@infosec.pub 3 months ago
Today is the second best time to discover who you really are.
Mongostein@lemmy.ca 3 months ago
I didn’t need to get completely sober (I smoke pot still and have the occasional drink; I had issues with much harder drugs and as they say, “recovery looks different for everyone!”
Anyway, this is so true. It’s like… what did I used to like doing before I started getting fucked up all the time?
Well, I got back in to an online game I hadn’t played in 24 years (and didn’t know was still going!), I’m big in to riding my bicycle, reading comics, almost like being a kid again.
The grownup hobby I’m still doing is maintaining and riding my motorcycle around. However, I do it by myself now because all my old riding buddies were definitely not clean. Also, riding motorcycles is an excellent exercise in mindfulness.
I had to cut a lot of people out of my life. I’m still very lonely sometimes, but keeping busy with these things is so helpful.
I went back to school and am 5 years since I last did my problem-drug and 3 years in to a new career that is…. going. 😆
TheRealLinga@sh.itjust.works 3 months ago
I feel you!
I’m 6 years clean from the hard stuff and have had a similar experience. Like who am I? What do I like? I basically got to reinvent myself.
I learned many hard lessons during my dark years, and I decided to use that to my advantage now. I’ve been through hell, so I don’t get fazed by anything at this point!
I’m a 36 year old guitar-playing video-gaming family man! Live life and just enjoy being you whoever you are!
ArcaneSlime@lemmy.dbzer0.com 3 months ago
reading comics
Join us brother!
c/comicbooks@lemmy.world
The_Picard_Maneuver@lemmy.world 3 months ago
Amazing! I love hearing people’s success stories like this.
intensely_human@lemm.ee 3 months ago
I’m newly sober at 41 and I am kicking ass in Overwatch 2
VelvetStorm@lemmy.world 3 months ago
Fuck, that game would drive me to use. Glad it’s helping you out though.
intensely_human@lemm.ee 3 months ago
Well Season 12 does suck. I swear they somehow nerfed 76, despite there being nothing in the patch notes about him.
arefx@lemmy.ml 3 months ago
Can I interest you in my lord and savior, valves Deadlock?
SassyRamen@lemmy.world 3 months ago
a thousand percent how it is. I was in the military for all of my 20’s… I got out at 32. It’s been years and I still don’t know who I am. TIme to go listen to Linkin Park while I play Skyrim 🤡
NecroParagon@lemm.ee 3 months ago
You’re someone who likes Linkin Park and playing Skyrim. Embrace that shit. Take everything as it comes.
Scratch that, you’re a military trained badass who likes Linkin Park and playing Skyrim. You’ll see what you want and get that shit.
SuspiciousCatThing@pawb.social 3 months ago
That makes you a clown? Well fuck…
ceenote@lemmy.world 3 months ago
Didn’t sober up, but last weekend at 34 I did just play Ultimate Frisbee for the first time since high school. On that day I learned stretching is much more important for us 30-somethings than it was back in high school. It’s been 6 days and I’m still limping a little bit.
VelvetStorm@lemmy.world 3 months ago
I don’t know if teens even know what stretching is lol. If I don’t stretch and use trail sticks before a light hike I’m fucked for a few days.
ceenote@lemmy.world 3 months ago
I figured I’d be fine, I work out regularly and am in better condition in pretty much every way compared to how I was in high school. But, all that darting around, jumping, and occasional sprinting is a whole different beast than jogging, hiking or lifting.
InquisitiveApathy@lemm.ee 3 months ago
Okay wow. This was really uncalled for. What did I ever do to you?
299792458ms@lemmy.zip 3 months ago
Pandemic, two bad relationships and partying can can make that happen at 27, definitely not speaking from experience…
historypresent@lemm.ee 3 months ago
Is this what happened to RFK jr?
wowwoweowza@lemmy.ml 3 months ago
mirl
fmstrat@lemmy.nowsci.com 3 months ago
While genetics certainly plays a role, never, ever, let age be an excuse. Plenty of people either start, or continue to be active, well into their later years. Heck there’s a pro mountain biker who consistently places top 5 nearing 40.
And if you can’t be active, there a tons of sedentary hobbies, too. Life is a series of experiences, enjoy them while, and whenever, you can.
teft@lemmy.world 3 months ago
I started downhill and enduro mountain biking when I was 40. 2 years later I’m pretty decent at it. I take some pretty large jumps and drops and go down crazy steep technical shit. You’re never to old to learn. Just make sure you wear the protective gear for the sport and you’ll do fine.
thanks_shakey_snake@lemmy.ca 3 months ago
When you turn 40 and people tell you “it’s all downhill from here,” I’m pretty sure this is what they’re talking about.
Dave@lemmy.nz 3 months ago
👴
fmstrat@lemmy.nowsci.com 3 months ago
That was an example of a pro. Watched an interview with a woman riding in her 70s yesterday
Rozz@lemmy.sdf.org 3 months ago
A lot of the top competitors in some of the more extreme / newer sports in the Olympics had older 30-40 year old competitors.
TheBrideWoreCrimson@sopuli.xyz 3 months ago
Hubert Schwarz famously cycled around the world… twice. IIRC, the first time at 40 and then again at 46. Previously, at age 35, he completed all - then five - of the world’s Ironman competitions in a single year.