should I go back to my old job now that several people, some of them more knowledgeable than me have told me they don't understand my decision to quit it?

Submitted ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago⁩ by ⁨eli04@linux.community⁩ to ⁨[deleted]⁩

several months ago I wrote about leaving floor nursing for moving patients in beds. I also posted it would mean a 20% financial hit.

Turns out the financial hit is 2%. I took the job.

Several of my former colleagues, after seeing me now that I switched jobs cannot hide their disbelief and shock. Some of the things I’ve heard: “what a waste, you can do more.” “You are a RN and you choose to move beds?”, “Haven’t you worked with us?”, “Oh no, don’t tell me you’re moving beds now.” and more.

I’ve always been very individualistic and never cared much about what others think about me. This new job means less stress and I can sleep better.

But it’s not only other RNs who tell me this: doctors as well, very knowledgeable ones.

Am I doing something wrong, when so many people, some of them much smarter than me tell me what I’m doing is stupid?

Going back to my old job doesn’t mean going back to my old department, just back to floor nursing.

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blimthepixie@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨1⁩ ⁨hour⁩ ago
To put it bluntly…

Fuck what they think and do what makes you happy

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TheReanuKeeves@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
If being an RN is stressing you out so much that you can’t sleep (completely understandable because that’s an extremely emotionally and mentally taxing position) then your only options really are to find a different job as you did, or perhaps have regular therapy sessions to help you through it. With your training, you can definitely find less stressful positions such as a nurse educator, consulting, public health sector. Maybe you could ask your former colleagues with a bit more experience if they know of any position that would be less stressful for you.

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zeca@lemmy.ml ⁨2⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
I dont know what these jobs are like. If you have less stress in your current job, thats an important point, but maybe not a decisive factor… Have you asked those “smarter” people why they think thats a bad decision?

It may be that people are bothered by seeing someone take decisions differently than they do, they might feel their own decisions being implicitly questioned, so they might be reacting in a way that reaffirms their own values.

If you ask them to express what is stupid about you decision you may get a better feeling for if they actually have a point or if theyre just reacting badly out of their personal insecurities or smthing.

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- confusedpuppy@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨50⁩ ⁨minutes⁩ ago
  
  It may be that people are bothered by seeing someone take decisions differently than they do, they might feel their own decisions being implicitly questioned, so they might be reacting in a way that reaffirms their own values.
  
  In my last job, I rarely worked overtime. My coworkers always gave me a hard time about leaving on time. Always claimed I was leaving early. They had absolutely no reason to treat me the way they did because none of them were in a management position.
  
  A lot of them gave me a hard time for doing a job differently. I was quicker, more organized and often my work quality was just as good or sometimes better than their work quality.
  
  Reflecting on their behavior now that I’ve left, it’s quite clear to me that me prioritizing my personal life over work made them insecure about themselves. Not listening to their forced, unasked and unwanted advice made them insecure about themselves. Working in a way that made sense to myself made them insecure about themselves.
  
  Guess what trend I started to piece together long after I left that awful place. When someone defies another person’s personal truth or reality, that has the potential to cause the other person to feel insecure about themselves. It seems like they can’t stand that someone else is able to do the things that they themselves are afraid of trying in the first place. Those people would rather drag you back into the same hole they are in. They don’t want your personal success or happiness to remind them of their own personal insecurities.
  
  I’ve spent the last few years learning to be comfortable in myself when dealing with other people’s insecurities. Nothing I do will ever satisfy insecure people so I try my best to not let their words bother me. Their insecurities and feelings are not my problem. With those people, I end up giving them short and vague responses until they leave me alone. They don’t deserve anything more.
  
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Chainweasel@lemmy.world ⁨3⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
They don’t need to understand your decision, it’s YOUR decision, not theirs. You don’t owe anyone an explanation.

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baggins@lemmy.ca ⁨3⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
I would be concerned that I’m locking myself out of potential future career advancement and the possibility that you’re going to be stuck on a bed mover salary for the rest of your career

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IWW4@lemmy.zip ⁨3⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
If I remember correctly you also had big issues with your co-workers in you old position. I tell you I have made myself do more more than few times I sure wish I had done less.

You are your own career manager. Make the decisions you feel are best.

If you are happy where you are and are making enough to see to your financial needs, why would you change that?

Is it possible that this position that you are in could cease to exist?

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reksas@sopuli.xyz ⁨2⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
Do you owe them something? If you are happier in your new job, isnt that the first priority? Also, more educated people arent necessarily smarter than you. And even if they are, the main thing is are those people worthy of your trust? I would rather trust an idiot that genuinely wishes me well than extremely smart person that has been mean to me. Have they treated you well and given you good advice before? Have they made your work experience better?

And finally, compare the payment your get now and you got on your old job. Is the difference worth the increased stress and bad sleep?

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