trashcroissant

@trashcroissant@lemmy.blahaj.zone

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨[deleted]⁩ ⁨⁨6⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  A lot of the time autistic people will just tell you the truth and not hide it between the dumb bullshit “niceties” or whatever. I don’t think I’m autistic but I sure AF prefer direct communication to having to read minds or have a crystal clear understanding of all the intricasies of a culture.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨If your federal government cut internet access to your whole town then where in your town would you think that "the people" would get together to protest ?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  The streets

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨should I go back to my old job now that several people, some of them more knowledgeable than me have told me they don't understand my decision to quit it?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  Essentially what everyone else in this thread has said already but mental health > money/career prestige IMO.

  In my line of work I constantly get told I’m underutilized and people always tell me I should be x or y. The thing is x and y do not align with my morals and I know I would be miserable in those jobs. I know I’d be very good at them and I understand people think they’re giving me a compliment, but I have always just wanted to have a job where I could pay my bills (which I can right now) and not have my career consume my life (which I do right now). If I went into one of the other types of jobs, the likelihood that my work/life balance would be skewed is high, or I’d be put into a position in my work where I’m enacting things that I am not comfortable with. I made my decision for myself, and if I want to “waste” my skills, that’s my fucking choice and they need to leave me tf alone.

  Anyway, all that to say, fuck those guys and fuck the capitalistic hierarchial bullshit that states that your job defines your worth. You do you.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨What's going on with Quentin Tarantino?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  If it’s a sexual thing that would normally require consent (like any other fetish), and Tarantino is using his power as director to persuade women actors to show their feet (e.g. Margaret Qualley), then yes, absolutely it is hurting someone and he is using his power to appease his fetish, which is gross. The fetish itself is not gross, idgaf if someone’s into feet, but it’s not okay to force others into your fetish.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Whats a good and proper alternative google message thats clean but better with privacy? - for texting⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Im not sure about the ethics of this company, which is Australian based, but I’ve been using Textra for probably 10 years now. It does base off the base messenger app, so messages are still put through google but I’m not sure that any apps can avoid that.

  Otherwise though it’s clean and customizable. Pretty basic features like blocking, group messaging, reactions all work. The thing I like best is you can compose a message and reply directly from the notification bar. I think it’s something like $3 to remove ads forever, I paid forever ago and haven’t had any issues transferring through phones.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Is there a word for when someone is not capable of, or doesn't try to understand verbal communication in a language, they are fluent in similar to functionally illiterate but for speech?⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  I would still use illiterate in that case, and would argue that is the correct term at least according to Merriam Webster:

  a : violating approved patterns of speaking or writing b : showing or marked by a lack of familiarity with language and literature

  Or even just at its most basic:

  having little or no education

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Native Americans?⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  If I’m understanding what you’re trying to ask, yes, there are a lot of people with indigenous heritage especially in California/texas/etc (places that until the Mexican-American war belonged to mexico) and they’re now considered Latino (which I think is what you mean by “Hispanic”.

  It should be noted that not all Latin American people are Hispanic (e.g. portuguese), yet many share similar cultures and looks because they are all descendents of indigenous peoples that were colonized.

  It’s happening in the US to Native Americans that they’ll be confused for “illegal aliens”(I hate this term but it’s what they call them) and they’ll have their American identity questioned, simply because they look like Mexicans or other Latin American people because, like I said, we’ve all descended from the indigenous peoples of this continent.

  Just as an FYI, many Latin American folks don’t like to be referred to ask Hispanic because a) not all are, and b) that is the name of the people that conquered us.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨How bad is it really to listen to music with headphones? My mother told me if I keep doing that I'd go deaf... Is that fearmongering?⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Yeah it’s possible, but what I remember from the other post is about her calling him a loser or useless or something along those lines, so I think she’s just very controlling.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨How bad is it really to listen to music with headphones? My mother told me if I keep doing that I'd go deaf... Is that fearmongering?⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  I have you tagged from an older post and remember your mom saying some whack ass shit in another post you made. Headphones won’t make you deaf unless you’re absolutely blasting your music at full volume.

  I hope you’re feeling better soon and not letting her shit get you down. You got this.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨How to separate self-worth from Achievements and External Validation?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  I feel you 100%, I have the same voice. If you want to watch something truly depressing but extremely relatable, the episode called “stupid piece of shit” from bojack horseman covers the topic in a much more real way than any cartoon has the right to do so.

  We can get through it though, the voice is a liar.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨How to separate self-worth from Achievements and External Validation?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  I don’t… Hahaha this is one of the things I most often speak to my counsellor about though and I’m working hard on it.

  My issue is more around productivity (achievements), so what I work on is doing things for the sake of doing them, not for the final product, i.e. doing art for the process or even playing a game just to play and not for literal achievements. Learning to just enjoy things for the process or just doing ‘nothing’. They suggested I could just come home and sit and watch my cats and… Just do nothing. I’m still working on that one.

  We haven’t gotten that far into external validation, but I think learning to have compassion/love for yourself helps with that.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Did it really used to be common for guys to go to a bar every night like in Cheers or The Simpsons?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  I had the same experience and did feel badly for them as well. For a lot of them (especially middle aged men in my experience), they just seemed very lonely. I miss a lot of those regulars, they were generally good people.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨What are some good things to purchase to add a new distraction to my life?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  Cross stitch :)

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨What are some good things to purchase to add a new distraction to my life?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  And (at least for me) the most rewarding!

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Is there an anti- sleep-paralysis device?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  I cant see my demon but I can sense it, just out of sight. I’m not sure which is worse.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Is there an anti- sleep-paralysis device?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  I used to get sleep paralysis all the time. For me it was because I was sleeping on my back which (according to some shit I read online a very long time ago) makes sleep paralysis more likely to occur. Haven’t had any issues since I started forcing myself to sleep on my side only.