This sounds true for men but I feel like being an attractive woman likely puts a target on you from a bunch of people you have no interest in
Sad but true
Submitted 1 day ago by Mickey7@lemmy.world to [deleted]
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miraclerandy@lemmy.world 1 day ago
Seleni@lemmy.world 1 day ago
For women it’s a two-way street. Yes, it gets you more jobs and more friends, but it definitely also gets the creeps lined up around the block. Plus, some of those friends and jobs only happened because someone wanted to bang you, and that gets dangerous fast.
Source: one of my friends in high school had looks that I literally saw stop traffic. But hoooly shit did guys especially seem to think her looks were an open invitation, and most of them weren’t subtle about it either.
Mickey7@lemmy.world 1 day ago
Interesting perspective on this men vs. women. Really attractive guys want the attention and are thrilled if it gains them more sex. Not the case for females
cmbabul@slrpnk.net 1 day ago
I’m gonna be generous and assume that you aren’t aware but calling women “females” is a blood red flag. Especially when discussing attractiveness or difference between men and women societally.
You ain’t a scientist studying the courting rituals of exotic bird species. These are people.
Word of friendly advice, break yourself of that habit and stop worrying about physical attractiveness.
BussyCat@lemmy.world 1 day ago
Women have much higher rates of being sexually assaulted than men. But unwanted sexual harassment can increase with both sexes which is an objective negative. More attractive women are also more likely to have their intelligence questioned compared to a more attractive male. There are also issues of not knowing if people like you for your character or just your appearance that negatively affects everyone. The point is life isn’t just better in every way if you are attractive there are some downsides as well
boboliosisjones@feddit.nu 1 day ago
I think this is at least partially true, in that if you had two identical people and one was more attractive, that one would have increased benefits over the other.
This is my (male) perspective: I think an important part is to feel attractive and emit that confidence. Attractiveness can also be material things like how you dress, carry and style yourself as well as managing your personal hygiene and all those things.
I think a moderately attractive person with a lot of charisma and humour would get a lot further than an attractive person. I think an attractive person without humour or charisma, maybe even a shy person, would possibly not go all that far based on their appearance.
pendel@feddit.org 23 hours ago
Some really ugly guy in my high school class was scoring with no limits. Absolute legend. Like he was really ugly, not particularly tall, maybe like 1,70m and not ripped or anything. Idk what his secret sauce was. It wasn’t limited to our school, it also worked with complete strangers. Women just loved him and until today I don’t understand. But it gave me hope, I know he’s out there somewhere, dating beautiful women for all of us.
bizzle@lemmy.world 19 hours ago
If you have a good personality people will like you even if you look like Quasimodo. If you always bitch about how hard it is for ugly people, or use the character thorne, or refer to women as females, or watch Jordan Peterson videos, or anything else that makes you an insufferable douchebag, then nobody will like you. Literally just have a good personality and make people laugh and they will flock to you.
Source: am very ugly, no problems with romance or friendships.
FridaySteve@lemmy.world 21 hours ago
Idk what his secret sauce was
Drugs
pendel@feddit.org 20 hours ago
Makes sense, everyone loves drugs
SuluBeddu@feddit.it 20 hours ago
Popularity is a curse, and the fix for a fair economic life is anti-capitalism
Capitalism will exploit people’s qualities, if that is looks, they will exploit that too
Mickey7@lemmy.world 15 hours ago
Socialism is better. Everyone equally treated like crap, except for those in control
commie@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 day ago
you can dress nicely and get a good haircut. you don’t need to commit to being unattractive.
Cypher@lemmy.world 1 day ago
Some people are genuinely so ugly that this doesn’t even begin to solve the problem.
Like it helps them not look homeless, and it helps if they don’t smell, but some people really do just lose out on looks.
Swedneck@discuss.tchncs.de 21 hours ago
also stop eating greasy fast food and get some fucking exercise, just walk a lap around the building every day.
zxqwas@lemmy.world 1 day ago
Probably, but being stupid is a worse curse than being ugly.
tankplanker@lemmy.world 1 day ago
Dumbest person I know also happens to be a super nice, always happy, and also very attractive. She’s never struggled to get work ever, even for her dream job as a teacher when she had to take her foundational English and Math exams three times.
I would say she has a better life than the majority of people, never had a day of stress ever as everything has always worked out for her.
rumschlumpel@feddit.org 1 day ago
There are literally some negatives to being extremely attractive. Attractive men get unwanted advances, too - they’re probably less likely to get outright raped than women, but very few people like to be sexually touched by people they aren’t interested in, and that’s definitely a thing that women do, too. And given the choice, I’d definitely prefer to be to be hired or promoted on merit, instead of because my boss wants to fuck me.
Katrisia@lemmy.today 1 day ago
Maybe I’m a gloomy person in a very unfortunate part of the world, but it’s wild to me that someone thinks like that and not think immediately in sexual violence, kidnapping, human trafficking, etc. The standard of beauty near me is whiteness, of course, and beautiful white girls disappear a lot more than they should given the percentage they are among the population. Yes, I’m close to a sexual trafficking hot spot.
And for men there’s less danger but it’s also not perfect. Nobody’s safe in the times being…
And it doesn’t have to be crime, regular people often get a grudge over those things! Envy and resentment are powerful emotions. Also, there will always be the assumption that life was indeed easier for you and that you don’t deserve the fruits of your efforts. These ones may seem like trivial social conflicts but, in a psychologically vulnerable person, they can be crushing. (Let’s say, a guy loses his friends because they’re all musicians and they think he got an offer unfairly by his looks and they think he’s some kind of “sell-out” or poser, but maybe our guy has been dealing with depression already and know he’s mega depressed).
It’s probably easier in average, but… yeah, the world is big and there are a lot of contexts.
I don’t like money nor I’m overly interested in it, but it’s probably the cheat-code this person is thinking about. People with money can fake their looks (surgeries are crazy these days), can buy popularity, can buy careers, can buy many many things. If you don’t care about authenticity and only care about the results or the appearance, money is the answer. Just be an aware narcissist and know your limits. For example, if you buy a position of power in the tech industry, but are not very smart, do not give a complicated conference or you’ll show the truth (e.g., Elon Musk and the dozen of times he’s been exposed as a pretender, even in games).
Yeah…
Devjavu@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 day ago
I’m physically attractive, but I don’t have a lot of friends. Never have. I was always the weird kid at school, not because of my looks, but because I thought differently.
I think in reality it’s a lot more about what you make out of your own existence. The young people you have doing so well that are attractive seem like they are so successful because of it, because we envy them. But I assure you, even they are missing something. No such thing as a complete person.
My sibling is also physically attractive (why they always gotta be our off-looking mirrors). He was bullied in school. As he hit around 17 though, he managed to pull himself out of it with the help of his friends (literally laid next to one of em in the hospital after birth) and is now one of the most charming people I know.
I’d much rather be socially more competent at my age and be ugly, I’ll tell you that much.
And before anyone says I’m one to talk, I haven’t actually thought of myself as attractive until like age 22. Took a good bit distancing from teenage years to realize it.
Dyskolos@lemmy.zip 1 day ago
True. But I’d argue having money is way worse. Doesn’t even matter if you’re ugly as shit, people will always try to rent an apt in your arse. At least when they know you’re loaded. Then it’s game over. Can’t trust anyone anymore. Ever.
Catalyst_A@lemmy.ml 1 day ago
Not true. I’m very unpopular. But yet known to be very attractive. shrug
1984@lemmy.today 1 day ago
Probably in the future, they will gene manipulate every kid so they all look like models.
SuluBeddu@feddit.it 20 hours ago
Imagine have your parents control your looks
Like, your parents growing up in the 80s deciding how you’ll look in the 10s
Angelevo@feddit.nl 1 day ago
Disagree. It is definitely one of the traits that make life much easier. Being wise is the biggest advantage.
Olhonestjim@lemmy.world 1 day ago
I ain’t terrible to look at these days, but I was quite attractive in my youth. But I’ll tell you what, being raised by right wing religious nutjobs can fuck up even that advantage. I’m better now, but I used to be much worse.
dual_sport_dork@lemmy.world 1 day ago
Why doɇs this pɇrson fɇel the neɇd to randomly decoratɇ the letter Ɇ?
Sonotsugipaa@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 day ago
At least þey aren’t writing like þis, which I’ve seen from at least one user on Lemmy
passepartout@feddit.org 1 day ago
I don’t understand the hate for that guy in particular. Not judging the content, but the stuff he writes is clearly readable. There are definitely worse lunatics around here.
Inaminate_Carbon_Rod@lemmy.world 1 day ago
I love that guy!
Lumidaub@feddit.org 1 day ago
To get you to comment on it.