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- Comment on So...I feel like there are a lot of elephants in the room, could i get some help? 20 hours ago:
So, are you wanting practical basics, esoterics, or both?
Practical:
- What that other person said about debt is and isn’t good advice. Without debt you can’t build credit and without credit you can’t get big things like houses, mortgages, etc. More and more of society seems to rely on credit scores to judge a person’s worth, too. Which is concerning, but this is the world we live in, not the world we wish it was, so…
On the other hand, with debt it’s easy to get into a ‘pay later’ or ‘rob Peter to pay Paul’ mentality and get yourself into a bad position. So, better advice would be: never take on large debts unless you absolutely have to. Get a credit card, buy one or two things with it a month, and pay it off every month. That way you can build credit safely.
(Obviously ignore this advice if you’re rich.)
- Learn basics. I was taught cooking, cleaning, how to properly do laundry, basic electrical wiring, basic home repairs (attach things to studs, how to patch drywall, etc), and sewing. All of this has come in handy once I got my own place.
Learning simple car stuff like changing oil, changing tires, and perhaps redoing spark plugs and belts can help you too, especially if you want to save money on car maintenance.
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On a related note to that, cars, houses, and boats are all basically giant pits you toss money into. (That’s why people often take on debt to get new cars; a lot of the expensive maintenance is covered under warranty.)
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Be careful with student debt. An education is important, but you can be stuck with that debt for a very long time, and owing that much in an uncertain economy like we have can be dangerous. So plan your education well.
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With the understanding that there are some things people call ‘hobbies’ that are just them being gross (ogling little anime girls because they’re ’really 700 years old so it’s fine!’ comes to mind), in general enjoy your hobbies and don’t be ashamed of them. If, say, you like doing drag, and one of your friends says nasty things about it, that person is not your friend and you don’t need to feel ashamed of your hobby to make them feel better. If it makes you happy and doesn’t harm anyone, then just have fun.
But, in counterpoint to that, don’t fall into your hobby so hard that you start gatekeeping and being an ass about it, or ruining your health about it. Remember, other people are in the hobby to have fun too, so who cares if so-and-so’s drag wig is a little basic or messy?
- I hope you know this already, but it’s astonishing how many people don’t: bathe every day. And wear at least moderately clean clothes. No-one likes stinky people and it’s easy to become inured to your own smell.
Esoteric:
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Like that other person said, read. Terry Pratchett, Mark Twain, Richard Feynman… plenty of people have put amazingly good thoughts down on paper. I especially like Pratchett’s definition of sin.
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Learn history, and not just the basic ‘approved’ things taught in schools. For example, our school ‘neglected’ to teach about the Tulsa Race Massacre, or the brutal Union fights in West Virginia.
I’ve found, for good summaries of more ancient history, Overly Sarcastic Productions does a pretty good job. It’s impossible to know where you are going until you know where we have been. And of course that old adage ‘those who don’t know history are doomed to repeat it’ is very true. See: the US right now.
- Learn what a cult looks like and avoid them like the plague. Doesn’t matter how lonely you are, how much ‘esoteric knowledge’ they offer, they will destroy your life and probably your family’s lives as well.
- Comment on mercy merci 6 days ago:
Spider steps on boxelder bug
’Eww eww eww get it off!’
- Comment on mercy merci 6 days ago:
The only spiders I’ve seen want to eat those are cellar spiders, and even that seems reluctant on their part lol. Guess they really taste horrible or something.
- Comment on Great Depression: Part Deux 1 week ago:
I mean, maybe, but in my case I’m sure a good part of it was neither of my parents were good cooks lol
If I didn’t watch them make it, it was pretty hard to tell if the veggies were canned or not; they boiled fresh veggies to the same consistency as the canned ones.
- Comment on Sad but true 1 week ago:
For women it’s a two-way street. Yes, it gets you more jobs and more friends, but it definitely also gets the creeps lined up around the block. Plus, some of those friends and jobs only happened because someone wanted to bang you, and that gets dangerous fast.
Source: one of my friends in high school had looks that I literally saw stop traffic. But hoooly shit did guys especially seem to think her looks were an open invitation, and most of them weren’t subtle about it either.
- Comment on I don't think so 1 week ago:
Short answer: NO. Because ‘white’ is not a culture, and because ‘white’ people were, and sometimes still are, racist assholes.
Long answer: So the reason black people (in the US especially) have an aggregate conglomerate group identity is because they were brought over as slaves, seperated from all their family, and basically had their own cultures beaten out of them. They had to rebuild their cultural identity from scratch.
‘Asians’ tend to not have a bloc group identity except when they get together as a bloc to stand up to white people being assholes (again, yay racism). Individual cultures did, in the past, have insular cultural communities (again speaking mostly US-centric) because ‘white’ people in the US didn’t want ‘those icky non-whites’ living near them (to the point of codifying it into law in many cases). They had to create their own communities in specific ‘permitted’ locations, based on nationality (hence the development of ‘Chinatowns’ and such).
‘White’ people, on the other hand, moved to the US voluntarily and were able to keep their cultures intact and plop them wherever they felt like. So it’s disingenuous at best and outright racist and belittling at worst to claim a ‘white’ identity because ‘black people get to do it’, completely ignoring the fact that black people only do it because people labeling themselves ‘white’ forced them into it.
- Comment on Genshin Impact is introducing a Roblox-like games creation platform October 22nd | Massively Overpowered 2 weeks ago:
Don’t know if I’ll ever swap out my Traveler for the custom character in overworld, but this new gameplay looks interesting at least
- Comment on predatory giraffes 2 weeks ago:
A cassowary usually weighs around 59-85 kg and they can absolutely fuck you up, so a 200-250 kg one the size of a giraffe with a lance on its face is a huge no from me.
- Comment on Are Street Racers "bad people"? 4 weeks ago:
So that’s a completely different conversation. One that I think the US should have, mind you, since I agree that it’s wildly unsafe.
But my point is that if your car can’t pass inspection, it shouldn’t be on the road, and it definitely shouldn’t be racing, on-track or no.
- Comment on Are Street Racers "bad people"? 4 weeks ago:
The one held in my city is pretty reasonable. And if they’re not passing inspections to race on a track then they shouldn’t be racing on the street either.
- Comment on Are Street Racers "bad people"? 4 weeks ago:
Y’all are assholes who do asshole things.
Seriously why do y’all do this? You can rent time on tracks for cheap!
- Comment on From breadwinners to bystanders: The death spiral of the American working man 4 weeks ago:
They may be desperate for people, but how does your industry treat women? I was wanting to get into trade, but they all seem filled with sexist assholes, and good money and fun work or not, there’s only so much sexist bullshit I’m willing to put up with.
- Comment on Halloween is coming up, folks. So here's your first idea for a costume 4 weeks ago:
Arthur is a kid’s show that ran from 1996-2022. The meme is a classic to use when you want to show you found something frustrating or infuriating.
- Comment on Without fail 4 weeks ago:
These days people put out a lot of their personal information online. Often people blast their name and location without a care.
Even if you are more careful than that, you probably give away more than you think. And it is still possible to look up addresses once you get someone’s real name and general location. Someone with a grudge can spend a frightening amount of time looking though past posts and such to piece together where you are.
- Comment on Without fail 5 weeks ago:
- Comment on Fatherhood 5 weeks ago:
Not just that; look at it from a specific angle, and it’s about a white, straight, human male ‘saving’ the poor, savage alien species—when not beating up the evil, aggressive brown alien species, that is.
I mean, they are obviously missing a lot of the context, but they’re not pulling their beliefs out of thin air, either.
- Comment on Has Charlie Kirk ever changed his views on a subject during a debate? 1 month ago:
Is this satire? Please tell me this is satire
- Comment on Aged like milk 1 month ago:
Just sweet, all-lovin’ folks, yeah? /s
Someone with a Xitter account should be replying with these on all those ‘family man’ posts popping up
- Comment on Aged like milk 1 month ago:
Oooh do it
That one with Hitler and his dog is a good one
- Comment on Too soon? 1 month ago:
They’re trying to make him big again. So much for that, I guess
- Comment on Aged like milk 1 month ago:
They say you should only say good things about the dead.
Charlie Kirk is dead. Good.
- Comment on Aged like milk 1 month ago:
Now that’s an obituary I can read with great satisfaction.
- Comment on Ding ding ditch is punishable by death apparently 1 month ago:
Because those people weren’t armed.
- Comment on Ding ding ditch is punishable by death apparently 1 month ago:
Because in America things like the Tulsa Race Massacre happen a fair bit, and the cops either stand by or join in, so you have to be able to defend you and yours.
Remember folks, armed minorities are harder to oppress.
- Comment on [Update: Valve Responds] Mastercard Denies Pressuring Steam To Censor 'NSFW' Games 2 months ago:
A ‘removed’?
- Comment on Orb 3 months ago:
More like incredibly aggressive. They are a type of algae after all. If you don’t keep a firm leash on them they’ll reproduce enough to drain all the oxygen and nutrients from an enclosed system like an aquarium.
Plant tribbles, if you will.
- Comment on Spiritual Safety Tip! 3 months ago:
For most of them, it’s because they truly, deeply believe that if they don’t convert you, you’re going to burn in hell for eternity when you die.
For most of the leaders of those sorts of churches, it’s because more people means more money for that new private jet they’re saving up for.
- Comment on Pop it in your calendars 3 months ago:
Does it make sense to nitpick how much they’re getting though? The fact that they’re being denied any bonus is shady as fuck.
- Comment on [deleted] 3 months ago:
Nothing sinister at all. It has a long and proven track record. Which you can check out if you don’t want to be low-info anymore. Doctors and dentists support it.
But there’s a subset of people who want us to go back to disease-ridden serfs, because when your teeth are falling out and 3 out of your 5 kids died young from disease and you can barely make rent, you’re too distracted to care what other people are doing.
- Comment on [deleted] 3 months ago:
There’s only pros. It’s proven to prevent cavities in children and adults, much better than brushing alone.
There’s also the sad fact that not every kid is taught to—or sometimes allowed to—brush their teeth.