For me, it’s autism.
How did a simple phone call become so problematic?
Submitted 1 day ago by Mickey7@lemmy.world to [deleted]
https://lemmy.world/pictrs/image/649b41e0-a7f7-4ba4-87b7-38c61b429706.jpeg
Comments
ZILtoid1991@lemmy.world 22 hours ago
Ilovethebomb@lemm.ee 1 day ago
Voicemail should be lower on that list, I’d rather take a call than check voicemail any day.
howrar@lemmy.ca 1 day ago
Not once have I had a usable voice mail UI. Forced to go through 10 seconds of menu between each message to delete and select the next one, and 90% of them are people just hanging up after realizing they hit voice mail. Then the few times I do get an important message, I have to replay the full message multiple times to transcribe the number I need to call. No seeking, no ending the playback after I’ve passed the bit I needed, often terrible audio. Why do you do this when you have my email?
knexcar@lemmy.world 1 day ago
Gradually_Adjusting@lemmy.world 20 hours ago
I have to use 3CX for work and it’s the least bad voicemail I’ve had any experience with. Literally emails me the .wav so I can listen with VLC.
Sometimes I play techno and pretend I’m getting missions in armored core. Almost doesn’t suck.
Ilovethebomb@lemm.ee 1 day ago
I just ring people back and ask what they wanted.
After a while they get the hint and stop leaving voicemails.
thermal_shock@lemmy.world 1 day ago
I’m glad ring central let’s you delete in mass and transcribes them. Not listening to that shit.
NightShot@lemmy.world 23 hours ago
Because I take no joy in small talk, waste of time. I type basically as fast or even faster than I talk. I can maintaine multiple conversations at once. And I can answer when I want instead of being locked up with one person that gets its way.
confusedbytheBasics@lemm.ee 21 hours ago
And I can answer when I want instead of being locked up with one person that gets its way. Was the “its” a typo or do you think of people on the phone like objects that need to be moved aside?
NightShot@lemmy.world 16 hours ago
Typo, but when you put it that way - yes ?
ngn@lemmy.ml 17 hours ago
why there are no dots after the last numbers
MutilationWave@lemmy.world 8 hours ago
Ran outta dots I imagine.
FinishingDutch@lemmy.world 16 hours ago
For me, calls interrupt my workflow with things that don’t need immediate attention anyway. So it draws focus away unnecessarily.
I also prefer to have a written record of things if they’re important. That way you can always refer back to it. A phone call just annoys me at best and divides my attention. So it’s in their interest as well that I can respond when I’ve got time.
Itdidnttrickledown@lemmy.world 15 hours ago
When I need to solve a problem I use the fastest method. Talking about the problem. Anyone who thinks they can do that as quickly through texts or emails is just not interested in quickly resolving it. No way anyone can solve a problem faster with anything less than a conversation.
LifeOfChance@lemmy.world 10 hours ago
Has anyone ever actually thought otherwise? I know plenty of people who even say “I know it’s faster to call” before sending a text or something. I feel like you created a scenario that really doesn’t exist. People don’t dispute what is quicker just that they don’t wanna do it that way.
Itdidnttrickledown@lemmy.world 3 hours ago
There are people in this thread trying to say its faster through text.
Paddzr@lemmy.world 15 hours ago
I’m really tired of this self imposed bullshit.
I’m sure the same people who post this are also top contributors in anti work. Just miserable people being miserable. Worst part, they’ll call on self identified autism or neurodivergence making it slap to the face for those actually affected by it.
I’ll forever fight for those on the spectrum and I’ve got no patience for pretend victims.
Itdidnttrickledown@lemmy.world 3 hours ago
Triggered.
lol_idk@lemmy.ml 1 day ago
Because we don’t have those nice thick hard plastic handles to rest on your shoulder
Mickey7@lemmy.world 1 day ago
Or how about those pink cute kool “princess” table top phones
lol_idk@lemmy.ml 1 day ago
You could fit a whole smartphone inside one of the later ones with the buttons that would leave marks on your face
LeonenTheDK@lemmy.ca 12 hours ago
My biggest reason for not liking calls is that I often very much struggle to actually hear what’s being said. I’ll take talking in person over a call. Text mediums also have the benefit of being able to be referred back to. Great to double check something, or to cover your ass. I’ll take a paper trail any day of the week.
kamen@lemmy.world 16 hours ago
Why do 98, 99 and 100 have no dots?
gandalf_der_12te@discuss.tchncs.de 15 hours ago
Because they aren’t items on the list
kamen@lemmy.world 13 hours ago
Then why list them?
superkret@feddit.org 1 day ago
101 UNSCHEDULED VIDEO CALL
ChaoticNeutralCzech@feddit.org 16 hours ago
How did voicemail (or voice message) make it above skywriting?
merari42@lemmy.world 1 day ago
How is skywriting so low on the list?
MaxHardwood@lemmy.ca 1 day ago
It’s not very good at night
rumba@lemmy.zip 1 day ago
FlyingSquid@lemmy.world 19 hours ago
I have never liked to talk on the phone. I hate talking to someone when I can’t see their face… which is weird because I did VO for years and often did it with someone directing me remotely, but somehow that was different.
shikitohno@lemm.ee 1 day ago
Basically, as soon as other reliable methods became widely adopted. No, I don’t have any phone call related anxiety or whatever, I’ll call someone if I really need to, I would just rather not. I’d much rather get a text that says, “Hey, we’re meeting up at 7pm to go out and do, XYZ, do you want to come?” than a phone call that starts with that and turns to “So anyway, did I tell you my mom blah, blah, blah… And I don’t know what to say, because I kind of want to go, but it would be a lot blah, blah, blah.”
Phone calls with friends and family have a way of spiraling off into tangents when I don’t necessarily have the time to entertain them, but don’t want to be a dick all the time telling people I don’t have time at the moment to listen to them. If there’s a self-service section to a company’s website or app, I can usually do whatever I need faster than it would take me to get through the automated menus and hold music to call and have them do it. Like my pharmacy, if I want to refill a prescription online, I log in, check a box and hit submit. Done. If I call them, I need to go through three menus to get patched through to the pharmacy, tell them what I want, hold for a moment while they help someone in the store, give them my info and wait for them to look it up, etc.
When I plan to meet up with people, I make plenty of time to talk to them and listen to whatever. When I get what I think is going to be a short phone call that devolves into tangents, I don’t necessarily have the time to entertain whether the fact that my friend’s cousin had his toe amputated due to gangrene means he should get the spot on his nipple tested for leprosy, or if he should just improve his personal hygiene and see if it washes off in the shower.
If something really is going to be a pain to communicate via text, schedule that conversation and we can have a call to discuss it, but I’m not answering phone calls whenever somebody calls out of the blue unless I’m interviewing for jobs or expecting a call about some sort of emergency.