Just back from dinner with the guy who organises the local Meetup dining group.
Iâd dropped into the conversation when he invited me to a cafe that I wasnât looking for a relationship right now, just to lay it on the table, then after some messaging that was pushing the boundaries and some blatantly flirtatious behaviour in front of others I had to have a stern talk of the Youâre Making Me Uncomfortable Back Off variety.
So he walked me home, came in briefly to meet the cats and then I drove him home making it plain that I was just going to drop him home and run.
So what does he do? Ask me to stay the night!
Firstly NO, secondly Iâve never left the cats alone overnight and Iâm not going to start now, thirdly I Told You Iâm Not Interested Several Times Jesus Christ.
Daily Discussion Thread: đ§ŠđââŹđ§Šđâ⏠Friday, October 4 , 2024
Submitted âšâš4â© âšweeksâ© agoâ© by âšSeagoon_@aussie.zoneâ© to âšmelbourne@aussie.zoneâ©
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oztrin@aussie.zone âš4â© âšweeksâ© ago
StudChud@aussie.zone âš4â© âšweeksâ© ago
He understands, he just doesnât want to accept it. Itâs not about swaying you itâs about making you so uncomfortable that youâll say yes just to get it âover withâ.
He doesnât care about your feelings or consent. And do not let him into your house again.
melbaboutown@aussie.zone âš4â© âšweeksâ© ago
This.
CEOofmyhouse56@aussie.zone âš4â© âšweeksâ© ago
Hun. Not after a relationship. Just a root. Urrrt no. Kick.
tone212_@aussie.zone âš4â© âšweeksâ© ago
No means yes or possibly yes to some people, no matter how clear you are. Glad you got out of that situation.
StudChud@aussie.zone âš4â© âšweeksâ© ago
No is yes because some men get off on non-consent as well. Ugh UGH
just_kitten@aussie.zone âš4â© âšweeksâ© ago
What is up with men who canât take a hint? Unfortunately not uncommon with some meetup groups :(
Gibsonhasafluffybutt@aussie.zone âš4â© âšweeksâ© ago
He thought youâd be swayed by his confidence.
Seagoon_@aussie.zone âš4â© âšweeksâ© ago
Maybe next time donât ask boundary challenged guys in to meet the cats
StudChud@aussie.zone âš4â© âšweeksâ© ago
Ugh I have no idea why you are downvoted - I agree wholeheartedly with this.
Do not allow men into your home who have already ignored your consent. Not victim blaming, but people perceived as women must be careful in todayâs world what with the utter disrespect and violence towards AFABs/women/femmes.
melbaboutown@aussie.zone âš4â© âšweeksâ© ago
Exactly why I stopped going to meetup groups. A lot of people go there explicitly to use it as a dating pool and it gets uncomfortable.
Not judging or anything but next time I wouldnât let someone drop you home or come in. Because
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Some people are serious boundary pushers and
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you donât know what theyâre capable of if they manage to find out where you live or enter your home.
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CEOofmyhouse56@aussie.zone âš4â© âšweeksâ© ago
just_kitten@aussie.zone âš4â© âšweeksâ© ago
Long day⊠cranky⊠not a drop of moisture all day, but I just managed to miss the rain and got to come home to silky kitty and a bit of silliness (=much-needed energy expenditure) with the feather toy. Thank god I have food in the fridge⊠rest my tired soul with the sound of rain and a nourishing meal. Iâm spent.
Gibsonhasafluffybutt@aussie.zone âš4â© âšweeksâ© ago
Tonight itâs singing practice. I cancelled my plans so I could have the evening to myself to get my voice back to a usable state.
I miss performing so much. I just love the vulnerability that you feel when youâre giving a part of yourself to strangers for a short while. Putting yourself out there.
Music had been such an important part of my life. Every step of the way music has kept me going when I felt I didnât want to. I could always rely on making music for catharsis.
And I think thatâs what makes it such an important part of my life. I feel like everything is bottled up unless Iâm playing regularly.
/end over sharing rant
Seagoon_@aussie.zone âš4â© âšweeksâ© ago
đ we love you fluffybutt
CEOofmyhouse56@aussie.zone âš4â© âšweeksâ© ago
Can I ask what your favourite song is to sing?
Gibsonhasafluffybutt@aussie.zone âš4â© âšweeksâ© ago
This one. I fucked up in the middle but it has the most meaning to me. on.soundcloud.com/hY4gZ
Gibsonhasafluffybutt@aussie.zone âš4â© âšweeksâ© ago
Just had a company meeting about raises. I donât quality because I just started, but they gave everyone:
2%. You should have seen everyoneâs face. The mood in the meeting plummeted instantly.
Iâm expecting some resignations in the next few weeks.
Pilk@aussie.zone âš4â© âšweeksâ© ago
We love an effective pay cut
Gibsonhasafluffybutt@aussie.zone âš4â© âšweeksâ© ago
Exactly. Iâm staying for 12 months and grabbing the certs I need then Iâm out.
Catfish@aussie.zone âš4â© âšweeksâ© ago
The beatings will continue until ⊠every employee is 18 and doesnât know any better
tombruzzo@aussie.zone âš4â© âšweeksâ© ago
Thatâs barely covers inflation these days. It just make sure youâre taking home the same realised income as the year before
just_kitten@aussie.zone âš4â© âšweeksâ© ago
The only way to get a pay rise these days is jump ship, it seems. Unfortunately
Gibsonhasafluffybutt@aussie.zone âš4â© âšweeksâ© ago
Iâm here for 12 months to up skill. If I get a real promotion and itâs equivalent pay rise, cool. If not, other plans will come into play.
tone212_@aussie.zone âš4â© âšweeksâ© ago
Wow! And I used to get upset about my 5% yearly raise at my last job.
melbaboutown@aussie.zone âš4â© âšweeksâ© ago
Fed the kitty this morning and we went back to bed, cuddling sweetly⊠she stretched her arm, dropped it and punctured a single secretly sharp claw into my eyelid like a fishhook.
After some delay of refusing to get up itâs been washed with antibacterial hand soap and dabbed with Betadine so fingers crossed. I have a spare box of antibiotics ready to go.
But yeah, that was literally half a centimetre from my actual eye.
CEOofmyhouse56@aussie.zone âš4â© âšweeksâ© ago
Reaching out
Touching me, clawing youSweeeeet Mother of Jesus
Fuck fuck fuck đ¶melbaboutown@aussie.zone âš4â© âšweeksâ© ago
đ¶ Bedtimes never felt so sharp
Catfish@aussie.zone âš4â© âšweeksâ© ago
My WhiteBoy used to wake us up by delicately inserting a single claw into a nostril
melbaboutown@aussie.zone âš4â© âšweeksâ© ago
You can pick your nose but you canât pick your alarm clock
CEOofmyhouse56@aussie.zone âš4â© âšweeksâ© ago
My dog was having cuddlyboos on my chest and he reached out and touched my bottom teeth with his nails. đ€ź
useless_modern_god@aussie.zone âš4â© âšweeksâ© ago
That makes me feel sick because I canât have anything go near my eye ( like I canât wear contacts because I freak out about it )
My painful cat encounter story is, I was trying to save someoneâs cat in a tree so I climbed way up and grabbed it.
It got scared and wriggled and thrashed around so much that it fellâŠalmost. It managed to hook a single claw into my forearm and was just hanging thereâŠstretching my skin.
I could only freak out and scream and shake it off. Of course it landed on its feet and just sauntered away.
melbaboutown@aussie.zone âš4â© âšweeksâ© ago
Itâs ok, it was just the top eyelid near my eyelashes. Nothing actually went in my eye.
Taleya@aussie.zone âš4â© âšweeksâ© ago
Yup, theyâll do that. Cerys sliced my left nipple in half once.
Keep an eye on that shit. Uh. Pun unintended
melbaboutown@aussie.zone âš4â© âšweeksâ© ago
I do clip her nails but she always secretly sharpens just a single one so I donât notice. Itâs her stiletto.
Wondering about those colourful nail caps but they seem like theyâd cause distress
CEOofmyhouse56@aussie.zone âš4â© âšweeksâ© ago
Congratulations Mumma and Pappa Peregrine Falcon on the safe arrival of chicky no.3 only minutes ago. Cheers đș
However some of youse here have disappointed me greatly today. Lucky I donât hold a grudge. Cheers đș
Seagoon_@aussie.zone âš4â© âšweeksâ© ago
What have I done now đ„ș
CEOofmyhouse56@aussie.zone âš4â© âšweeksâ© ago
Nothing. Youâre lovely the way you are. â„
Catfish@aussie.zone âš4â© âšweeksâ© ago
Eagle@aussie.zone âš4â© âšweeksâ© ago
And the chickâs are a lovely fluffy grey. Much like the white tshirts of most of the dt.
CEOofmyhouse56@aussie.zone âš4â© âšweeksâ© ago
Oh bang! Spot on sista!
imoldgreeeg@aussie.zone âš4â© âšweeksâ© ago
Haha I came here to make sure you knew! So cute
CEOofmyhouse56@aussie.zone âš4â© âšweeksâ© ago
Yeah I watched it being hatched on the big screen. A bit of pre game entertainment.
Dad just came back with a food hamper.
RustyRaven@aussie.zone âš4â© âšweeksâ© ago
winds howling
Force_majeure123@aussie.zone âš4â© âšweeksâ© ago
Blowing pollens directly up my nostrils
Seagoon_@aussie.zone âš4â© âšweeksâ© ago
having trouble breathing here
just_kitten@aussie.zone âš4â© âšweeksâ© ago
Had to pick up a few bins that had ended up on the road. They were all terribly drunk.
Catfish@aussie.zone âš4â© âšweeksâ© ago
Laundry rescued from several non ideal locations
oztrin@aussie.zone âš4â© âšweeksâ© ago
Gentle rain here
bacon@aussie.zone âš4â© âšweeksâ© ago
Looks like rained
bacon@aussie.zone âš4â© âšweeksâ© ago
Itâs ~mandatory~ Fun đđ» Family đFriday đ!!! Team Group Hug!
Gibsonhasafluffybutt@aussie.zone âš4â© âšweeksâ© ago
HR policy expressly forbids any shows of affection in any form. Now please, go back to your desks and continue to sob quietly.
Remember, thereâs no I in team!
Bottom_racer@aussie.zone âš4â© âšweeksâ© ago
Gibsonhasafluffybutt@aussie.zone âš4â© âšweeksâ© ago
Today is reports day. Excel and PowerBI can fuck right off lol
1 down, 4 to go!
Bottom_racer@aussie.zone âš4â© âšweeksâ© ago
Well thatâs a first. Found a stick insect on my subwoofer. I donât think Iâve actually seen one before in the wild:
It has been put back outside on a tree. But glad to see thereâs another real junglist saying wicked.
This most definitely calls for a rave choon:
Considering it was on the subby⊠Suicide bassline!
MeanElevator@aussie.zone âš4â© âšweeksâ© ago
Clothes are drying in record time!!!
TinyBreak@aussie.zone âš4â© âšweeksâ© ago
Speaking to my therapist last night. We were talking about my anxious mind craving distractions and the amount of screen time Iâm racking up on my phone. He was talking about just sitting, no noise or anything and just taking in whats going on around us. Iâve never been so proud of myself cause I stopped short of shouting âRAWDOGING! Gen Z call it rawdogging when you just sit on a flight and do nothing!â
Fuck iâm weird ey.
Bottom_racer@aussie.zone âš4â© âšweeksâ© ago
Taleya@aussie.zone âš4â© âšweeksâ© ago
My feet are fucked and i am mad about it
just_kitten@aussie.zone âš4â© âšweeksâ© ago
Whoop de doo⊠I knew I had it going well for a while, but just as Iâm looking at having to drop my overall hours because I am simply not coping with doing it all and trying to finish degree, I get an email from the landlord about upping the rent to 550/week (15% increase).
Pour one out for me, this has just ruined my weekend. Landlords do be collecting more and more for adding zero valueâŠ
Sheâs said sheâs open to negotiation but I really suck at working out a middle ground. Too many emotions. Iâll have to sleep on it. Why did she have to send this on a Friday night.
Alamutjones@aussie.zone âš4â© âšweeksâ© ago
Gâday
CEOofmyhouse56@aussie.zone âš4â© âšweeksâ© ago
Iâm not impressed with your heavy breathing, mother nature.
Mittens_meow@aussie.zone âš4â© âšweeksâ© ago
Was running a bit late this morning. Missed the train by 45 seconds. And had to wait 25 min for the next one. wtf. Itâs not the weekend
CEOofmyhouse56@aussie.zone âš4â© âšweeksâ© ago
Sometimes when I hoover a pill down my throat I wonder if I accidentally swallowed a bit of foil with it.
melbaboutown@aussie.zone âš4â© âšweeksâ© ago
Alamutjones@aussie.zone âš4â© âšweeksâ© ago
I have absolutely no idea what I want for dinner
SpinMeAround@aussie.zone âš4â© âšweeksâ© ago
Thatâs a good look radar blob happening down near the heads, wowee!
Seagoon_@aussie.zone âš4â© âšweeksâ© ago
my jeans have some white spots now. mm, looks like the acid got to it, the spots will be holes after the wash . oh well, thatâs what denim is for , better the jeans than my skin. ( I had thick gloves that went up to my elbows and wore my glasses )
TinyBreak@aussie.zone âš4â© âšweeksâ© ago
suns out quick do the stuff that requires power!
melbaboutown@aussie.zone âš4â© âšweeksâ© ago
Yeah Iâll order the light and see what I can do. Then if that doesnât work things are about to get stinky.
Ultimately though Iâd love to move somewhere less eventful and have a proper little garden. Maybe if I win the lottery
CEOofmyhouse56@aussie.zone âš4â© âšweeksâ© ago
Some nights are in perfect sync. Beer, soju, slash, smoko. On the hour. Then the rest of the hour singing.
CEOofmyhouse56@aussie.zone âš4â© âšweeksâ© ago
Who wants rain đ€?
Aradina@lemmy.ml âš4â© âšweeksâ© ago
I love my cat so much. I wish he could understand me just enough to hear me say it.
bacon@aussie.zone âš4â© âšweeksâ© ago
he absolutely does
StudChud@aussie.zone âš4â© âšweeksâ© ago
Cats can understand human speech, similarly to dogs. They know đ
Seagoon_@aussie.zone âš4â© âšweeksâ© ago
My boyz wiggle their tails when I say their respective names. They know. đșđș
melbaboutown@aussie.zone âš4â© âšweeksâ© ago
I say I love you to Melbcat or kiss her little head and she purrs, so they know. Also the cuddling lets them know.