Just back from dinner with the guy who organises the local Meetup dining group.
I’d dropped into the conversation when he invited me to a cafe that I wasn’t looking for a relationship right now, just to lay it on the table, then after some messaging that was pushing the boundaries and some blatantly flirtatious behaviour in front of others I had to have a stern talk of the You’re Making Me Uncomfortable Back Off variety.
So he walked me home, came in briefly to meet the cats and then I drove him home making it plain that I was just going to drop him home and run.
So what does he do? Ask me to stay the night!
Firstly NO, secondly I’ve never left the cats alone overnight and I’m not going to start now, thirdly I Told You I’m Not Interested Several Times Jesus Christ.
Daily Discussion Thread: 🧦🐈⬛🧦🐈⬛ Friday, October 4 , 2024
Submitted 1 month ago by Seagoon_@aussie.zone to melbourne@aussie.zone
Comments
oztrin@aussie.zone 1 month ago
StudChud@aussie.zone 1 month ago
He understands, he just doesn’t want to accept it. It’s not about swaying you it’s about making you so uncomfortable that you’ll say yes just to get it “over with”.
He doesn’t care about your feelings or consent. And do not let him into your house again.
melbaboutown@aussie.zone 1 month ago
This.
CEOofmyhouse56@aussie.zone 1 month ago
Hun. Not after a relationship. Just a root. Urrrt no. Kick.
tone212_@aussie.zone 1 month ago
No means yes or possibly yes to some people, no matter how clear you are. Glad you got out of that situation.
StudChud@aussie.zone 1 month ago
No is yes because some men get off on non-consent as well. Ugh UGH
just_kitten@aussie.zone 1 month ago
What is up with men who can’t take a hint? Unfortunately not uncommon with some meetup groups :(
Gibsonhasafluffybutt@aussie.zone 1 month ago
He thought you’d be swayed by his confidence.
Seagoon_@aussie.zone 1 month ago
Maybe next time don’t ask boundary challenged guys in to meet the cats
StudChud@aussie.zone 1 month ago
Ugh I have no idea why you are downvoted - I agree wholeheartedly with this.
Do not allow men into your home who have already ignored your consent. Not victim blaming, but people perceived as women must be careful in today’s world what with the utter disrespect and violence towards AFABs/women/femmes.
melbaboutown@aussie.zone 1 month ago
Exactly why I stopped going to meetup groups. A lot of people go there explicitly to use it as a dating pool and it gets uncomfortable.
Not judging or anything but next time I wouldn’t let someone drop you home or come in. Because
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Some people are serious boundary pushers and
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you don’t know what they’re capable of if they manage to find out where you live or enter your home.
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CEOofmyhouse56@aussie.zone 1 month ago
just_kitten@aussie.zone 1 month ago
Long day… cranky… not a drop of moisture all day, but I just managed to miss the rain and got to come home to silky kitty and a bit of silliness (=much-needed energy expenditure) with the feather toy. Thank god I have food in the fridge… rest my tired soul with the sound of rain and a nourishing meal. I’m spent.
Gibsonhasafluffybutt@aussie.zone 1 month ago
Tonight it’s singing practice. I cancelled my plans so I could have the evening to myself to get my voice back to a usable state.
I miss performing so much. I just love the vulnerability that you feel when you’re giving a part of yourself to strangers for a short while. Putting yourself out there.
Music had been such an important part of my life. Every step of the way music has kept me going when I felt I didn’t want to. I could always rely on making music for catharsis.
And I think that’s what makes it such an important part of my life. I feel like everything is bottled up unless I’m playing regularly.
/end over sharing rant
Seagoon_@aussie.zone 1 month ago
😭 we love you fluffybutt
CEOofmyhouse56@aussie.zone 1 month ago
Can I ask what your favourite song is to sing?
Gibsonhasafluffybutt@aussie.zone 1 month ago
This one. I fucked up in the middle but it has the most meaning to me. on.soundcloud.com/hY4gZ
Gibsonhasafluffybutt@aussie.zone 1 month ago
Just had a company meeting about raises. I don’t quality because I just started, but they gave everyone:
2%. You should have seen everyone’s face. The mood in the meeting plummeted instantly.
I’m expecting some resignations in the next few weeks.
Pilk@aussie.zone 1 month ago
We love an effective pay cut
Gibsonhasafluffybutt@aussie.zone 1 month ago
Exactly. I’m staying for 12 months and grabbing the certs I need then I’m out.
Catfish@aussie.zone 1 month ago
The beatings will continue until … every employee is 18 and doesn’t know any better
tombruzzo@aussie.zone 1 month ago
That’s barely covers inflation these days. It just make sure you’re taking home the same realised income as the year before
just_kitten@aussie.zone 1 month ago
The only way to get a pay rise these days is jump ship, it seems. Unfortunately
Gibsonhasafluffybutt@aussie.zone 1 month ago
I’m here for 12 months to up skill. If I get a real promotion and it’s equivalent pay rise, cool. If not, other plans will come into play.
tone212_@aussie.zone 1 month ago
Wow! And I used to get upset about my 5% yearly raise at my last job.
melbaboutown@aussie.zone 1 month ago
Fed the kitty this morning and we went back to bed, cuddling sweetly… she stretched her arm, dropped it and punctured a single secretly sharp claw into my eyelid like a fishhook.
After some delay of refusing to get up it’s been washed with antibacterial hand soap and dabbed with Betadine so fingers crossed. I have a spare box of antibiotics ready to go.
But yeah, that was literally half a centimetre from my actual eye.
CEOofmyhouse56@aussie.zone 1 month ago
Reaching out
Touching me, clawing youSweeeeet Mother of Jesus
Fuck fuck fuck 🎶melbaboutown@aussie.zone 1 month ago
🎶 Bedtimes never felt so sharp
Catfish@aussie.zone 1 month ago
My WhiteBoy used to wake us up by delicately inserting a single claw into a nostril
melbaboutown@aussie.zone 1 month ago
You can pick your nose but you can’t pick your alarm clock
CEOofmyhouse56@aussie.zone 1 month ago
My dog was having cuddlyboos on my chest and he reached out and touched my bottom teeth with his nails. 🤮
useless_modern_god@aussie.zone 1 month ago
That makes me feel sick because I can’t have anything go near my eye ( like I can’t wear contacts because I freak out about it )
My painful cat encounter story is, I was trying to save someone’s cat in a tree so I climbed way up and grabbed it.
It got scared and wriggled and thrashed around so much that it fell…almost. It managed to hook a single claw into my forearm and was just hanging there…stretching my skin.
I could only freak out and scream and shake it off. Of course it landed on its feet and just sauntered away.
melbaboutown@aussie.zone 1 month ago
It’s ok, it was just the top eyelid near my eyelashes. Nothing actually went in my eye.
Taleya@aussie.zone 1 month ago
Yup, they’ll do that. Cerys sliced my left nipple in half once.
Keep an eye on that shit. Uh. Pun unintended
melbaboutown@aussie.zone 1 month ago
I do clip her nails but she always secretly sharpens just a single one so I don’t notice. It’s her stiletto.
Wondering about those colourful nail caps but they seem like they’d cause distress
CEOofmyhouse56@aussie.zone 1 month ago
Congratulations Mumma and Pappa Peregrine Falcon on the safe arrival of chicky no.3 only minutes ago. Cheers 🍺
However some of youse here have disappointed me greatly today. Lucky I don’t hold a grudge. Cheers 🍺
Seagoon_@aussie.zone 1 month ago
What have I done now 🥺
CEOofmyhouse56@aussie.zone 1 month ago
Nothing. You’re lovely the way you are. ♥
Catfish@aussie.zone 1 month ago
Eagle@aussie.zone 1 month ago
And the chick’s are a lovely fluffy grey. Much like the white tshirts of most of the dt.
CEOofmyhouse56@aussie.zone 1 month ago
Oh bang! Spot on sista!
imoldgreeeg@aussie.zone 1 month ago
Haha I came here to make sure you knew! So cute
CEOofmyhouse56@aussie.zone 1 month ago
Yeah I watched it being hatched on the big screen. A bit of pre game entertainment.
Dad just came back with a food hamper.
RustyRaven@aussie.zone 1 month ago
winds howling
Force_majeure123@aussie.zone 1 month ago
Blowing pollens directly up my nostrils
Seagoon_@aussie.zone 1 month ago
having trouble breathing here
just_kitten@aussie.zone 1 month ago
Had to pick up a few bins that had ended up on the road. They were all terribly drunk.
Catfish@aussie.zone 1 month ago
Laundry rescued from several non ideal locations
oztrin@aussie.zone 1 month ago
Gentle rain here
bacon@aussie.zone 1 month ago
Looks like rained
bacon@aussie.zone 1 month ago
It’s ~mandatory~ Fun 👏🏻 Family 💕Friday 🎊!!! Team Group Hug!
Gibsonhasafluffybutt@aussie.zone 1 month ago
HR policy expressly forbids any shows of affection in any form. Now please, go back to your desks and continue to sob quietly.
Remember, there’s no I in team!
Bottom_racer@aussie.zone 1 month ago
Gibsonhasafluffybutt@aussie.zone 1 month ago
Today is reports day. Excel and PowerBI can fuck right off lol
1 down, 4 to go!
Bottom_racer@aussie.zone 1 month ago
Well that’s a first. Found a stick insect on my subwoofer. I don’t think I’ve actually seen one before in the wild:
It has been put back outside on a tree. But glad to see there’s another real junglist saying wicked.
This most definitely calls for a rave choon:
Considering it was on the subby… Suicide bassline!
MeanElevator@aussie.zone 1 month ago
Clothes are drying in record time!!!
TinyBreak@aussie.zone 1 month ago
Speaking to my therapist last night. We were talking about my anxious mind craving distractions and the amount of screen time I’m racking up on my phone. He was talking about just sitting, no noise or anything and just taking in whats going on around us. I’ve never been so proud of myself cause I stopped short of shouting “RAWDOGING! Gen Z call it rawdogging when you just sit on a flight and do nothing!”
Fuck i’m weird ey.
Bottom_racer@aussie.zone 1 month ago
Taleya@aussie.zone 1 month ago
My feet are fucked and i am mad about it
just_kitten@aussie.zone 1 month ago
Whoop de doo… I knew I had it going well for a while, but just as I’m looking at having to drop my overall hours because I am simply not coping with doing it all and trying to finish degree, I get an email from the landlord about upping the rent to 550/week (15% increase).
Pour one out for me, this has just ruined my weekend. Landlords do be collecting more and more for adding zero value…
She’s said she’s open to negotiation but I really suck at working out a middle ground. Too many emotions. I’ll have to sleep on it. Why did she have to send this on a Friday night.
Alamutjones@aussie.zone 1 month ago
G’day
CEOofmyhouse56@aussie.zone 1 month ago
I’m not impressed with your heavy breathing, mother nature.
Mittens_meow@aussie.zone 1 month ago
Was running a bit late this morning. Missed the train by 45 seconds. And had to wait 25 min for the next one. wtf. It’s not the weekend
CEOofmyhouse56@aussie.zone 1 month ago
Sometimes when I hoover a pill down my throat I wonder if I accidentally swallowed a bit of foil with it.
melbaboutown@aussie.zone 1 month ago
Alamutjones@aussie.zone 1 month ago
I have absolutely no idea what I want for dinner
SpinMeAround@aussie.zone 1 month ago
That’s a good look radar blob happening down near the heads, wowee!
Seagoon_@aussie.zone 1 month ago
my jeans have some white spots now. mm, looks like the acid got to it, the spots will be holes after the wash . oh well, that’s what denim is for , better the jeans than my skin. ( I had thick gloves that went up to my elbows and wore my glasses )
TinyBreak@aussie.zone 1 month ago
suns out quick do the stuff that requires power!
melbaboutown@aussie.zone 1 month ago
Yeah I’ll order the light and see what I can do. Then if that doesn’t work things are about to get stinky.
Ultimately though I’d love to move somewhere less eventful and have a proper little garden. Maybe if I win the lottery
CEOofmyhouse56@aussie.zone 1 month ago
Some nights are in perfect sync. Beer, soju, slash, smoko. On the hour. Then the rest of the hour singing.
CEOofmyhouse56@aussie.zone 1 month ago
Who wants rain 🎤?
Aradina@lemmy.ml 1 month ago
I love my cat so much. I wish he could understand me just enough to hear me say it.
bacon@aussie.zone 1 month ago
he absolutely does
StudChud@aussie.zone 1 month ago
Cats can understand human speech, similarly to dogs. They know 💜
Seagoon_@aussie.zone 1 month ago
My boyz wiggle their tails when I say their respective names. They know. 😺😺
melbaboutown@aussie.zone 1 month ago
I say I love you to Melbcat or kiss her little head and she purrs, so they know. Also the cuddling lets them know.