Fuck.
Daily Discussion Thread: 🦇 Thurs 18 Apr 2024
Submitted 7 months ago by Seagoon_@aussie.zone to melbourne@aussie.zone
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Baku@aussie.zone 7 months ago
Catfish@aussie.zone 7 months ago
Assuming the phone is ok, on the upside you won’t need a car scent thing for months!
Baku@aussie.zone 7 months ago
The phone should be okay. Water resistant + the coffee wasn’t very hot. But it was sticky, so it’s a bit worrying it got into the charging port. It should be fine if given a quick rinse under the tap
MeanElevator@aussie.zone 7 months ago
Fuuuuuuuck
StudChud@aussie.zone 7 months ago
Omg this is NSFW; my coffee was absolutely traumatised when I showed it this picture 😭😭
Gibsonisafluffybutt@aussie.zone 7 months ago
I told my friend that I don’t have the emotional capacity to help with the issues he’s currently dealing with. More than happy to hang out and give him a space where he can decompress, but that’s the best I can do.
He understood, which is great.
imoldgreeeg@aussie.zone 7 months ago
Smart therapist. You should tip them extra treats
Seagoon_@aussie.zone 7 months ago
Reading of your friend’s issues I’m reminded yet again I’m from a different time.
30-40 years ago people didn’t rush into moving in together, they could easily afford to live on their own.
And because of that it was easier to move out too.
Wages were higher, debts were lower. So much less stress because there wasn’t the financial stress.
It just seems romance used to be easier then.
Now decisions are so fraught
underwatermagpies@aussie.zone 7 months ago
Gibsonisafluffybutt@aussie.zone 7 months ago
I have this friend. He is perpetual turmoil.
What he does is get into a relationship with the wrong type of person out of fear or being alone, then they move in together within a few months.
This inevitably goes sour. Every single time.
I’m doing my best to support him but I’m getting frustrated. Really frustrated. I have my own shit to deal with. He’s like a helpless child.
/Rant
Thornburywitch@aussie.zone 7 months ago
Operative word here is ‘fear’. And ‘helpless child’. You probably wouldn’t be surprised to know that a significant proportion of the problems dealt with by marriage counsellors and the like are about people thinking that once they are in a relationship, all their adulting problems are over. Cos partner will then be the adult and they can then remain as a child with all their physical and emotional needs taken care of by the other person. Without them having to ask. This rarely happens and is an unrealistic expectation at best. No bloody wonder the relationship sours.
I don’t know if this is what is happening with your friend, but the odds are heavily for it. Guy needs to grow up. This may require therapy if he is more than 15 years old. Maybe point him to a Men’s Shed or similar for a dose of adult relationshipping without tears or a major financial burden.
I am aware that some cultural expectations of what a relationship should be are different from mine, but surely growing up and behaving like an adult are fairly universal. For all participants.
StudChud@aussie.zone 7 months ago
Nah, men go to work and make money, maybe mow the lawn.
Women have to work and make money, and make babies and take care of them, and do all the chores, and budget and pay bills, and remember friends/family birthdays, and buy groceries and make breakfast, lunch and dinner.
Men love being big fat children, and making women carry the mental load of the household.
Not every man, but enough men.
CEOofmyhouse56@aussie.zone 7 months ago
Some people don’t want to be alone even if they know the relationship is not good. They’ll just wait for a new one to pop up. Don’t feel bad. Concentrate on you.
Catfish@aussie.zone 7 months ago
Moving in how? Him importing a Maid, or him sponging as a hobosexual. Madly clingy on either side? None are great, but some flavours are more ick.
Gibsonisafluffybutt@aussie.zone 7 months ago
Other way around. Her using him as a wallet and sex toy.
TinyBreak@aussie.zone 7 months ago
Might be time for a conversation with them? not now, but when things settle down a bit. They may not be aware of this cycle, but if they are it might be a good opportunity to point out you wont always be able to support them when they (find a nicer way to say shoot themselves in the foot for the 10th time in a row).
take care of yourself too. No harm in taking a step back from other folks drama. I had to do something similar when mates tried to involve me in their marital disputes. “nah guys, got enough drama myself without adding yours, thanks!”
Gibsonisafluffybutt@aussie.zone 7 months ago
Your last paragraph got me thinking so I rang him.
Was upfront and said “look mate, I don’t have the capacity to help you the way you want, but we can hang out and take your mind off it making music or playing a game”.
Seagoon_@aussie.zone 7 months ago
oh dear
she should have been using her own savings
or working part time or doing absolutely everything around the house
Catfish@aussie.zone 7 months ago
[deleted]CEOofmyhouse56@aussie.zone 7 months ago
It’s a little early but sure, thanks. Congrats 🎉
bull@aussie.zone 7 months ago
Can’t make up my mind if I want to spend some money and head up to the border for a couple of nights this weekend for the live country music weekend the RSL are having or not.
It’d be expensive and not super healthy (booze, food) but…
It’s my birthday on Friday next week so maybe it’d be a present to myself? I’m guessing things will be more hectic next weekend with people taking long weekends. Also no country music festival thing.
I don’t knowwwwwwwwwww! Maybe I should just put off unhealthy expensive trips for a little while and try to be more responsible. Maybe I’ll make a song about my very first world problems.
TinyBreak@aussie.zone 7 months ago
Can’t make up my mind if I want to spend some money and head up to the border for a couple of nights this weekend for the live country music weekend the RSL are having.
If you die the following week will you be ashamed you spent the money going to the country music weekend? THAT is the question. Not if you’d regret not going cause duh, obvious. But you know in your heart of hearts if its a “waste of money” or not.
TinyBreak@aussie.zone 7 months ago
gross
progressed to the coughing up giant chunks of green shit part of the cold.
Hopefully it means I’m getting better.
Seagoon_@aussie.zone 7 months ago
make sure you get your whooping cough vaccine update
I had no idea I needed an update and caught it, so much slime and the cough sucked
it would be extra awful for kids to get it
Catfish@aussie.zone 7 months ago
Wot she said! Never knew a booster was even a thing. 6 months hacking my lungs up and broke my gag reflex.
TinyBreak@aussie.zone 7 months ago
yep, got it before kiddo was born.
melbaboutown@aussie.zone 7 months ago
That colour is the fallen bodies of a lot of bacteria/viruses. A good sign, your immune system is fighting back
TinyBreak@aussie.zone 7 months ago
my poor immune system. Every time the kid comes home from daycare it gets to fight for its life.
MeanElevator@aussie.zone 7 months ago
Once it turns yellow, you’re in the clear.
Catfish@aussie.zone 7 months ago
Ah, Slimer of the lung. Delicious.
Baku@aussie.zone 7 months ago
Also, I know this is random, but I just want to be positive for once. I really like how payid was actually implemented well. When it was announced and advertised I really thought it’d probably be yet another over complicated payment service nobody wants and nobody can figure out how to use, but it isn’t. It just does what it needs to do, and usually does it in less than 10 seconds
bacon@aussie.zone 7 months ago
When I first got here I was surprised I just need someone’s phone number to pay them.
Seagoon_@aussie.zone 7 months ago
It’s so quiet here at home, it seems i can go days with barely talking except to the cats
and that habit then extends to everything, I get quiet with loved ones and friends, don’t message, don’t chat.
not sure if that’s a good or bad thing
Nath@aussie.zone 7 months ago
I hear you. I’m so bad at initiating contact with friends. I worked on phones for too many years, to the point that I just don’t call anyone for a chat - ever. I also need to suppress my natural instinct to find out why someone is calling me, deal with whatever that is and get off the phone again like a good phone worker would.
I’m up for stuff, it just never occurs to me to arrange it.
Thornburywitch@aussie.zone 7 months ago
Might be a necessary thing while in recovery from, well, everything. The time to get social is AFTER you feel better, and better able to deal with the random shit associated with other people. Who mean well, but might not be sensitive.
tombruzzo@aussie.zone 7 months ago
I hate using salesforce and their other products but I’ll take a free breakfast from them if they’re offering
TinyBreak@aussie.zone 7 months ago
Also dislike salesforce.
Alamutjones@aussie.zone 7 months ago
Not wildly enamoured of them, this is true
StudChud@aussie.zone 7 months ago
I loathe them, my last job started outsourcing the call centre to them 😑
calhoon2005@aussie.zone 7 months ago
Hmm…my workplace is about to transition to salesforce. Does not bode well
tombruzzo@aussie.zone 7 months ago
Become one of the few people in the business that knows how to use it properly and they’ll have to give you a pay rise
Baku@aussie.zone 7 months ago
I finally got an electric blanket. It’s so fucking good
My feet will no longer freeze at night
imoldgreeeg@aussie.zone 7 months ago
No power on the train line between the loop and north Melbourne. Nothing moving out from north Melbourne … 😳
bacon@aussie.zone 7 months ago
imoldgreeeg@aussie.zone 7 months ago
Goodo. Might order another drink and wait then
oztrin@aussie.zone 7 months ago
Anyone driving around Cheltenham, seems there’s two prangs - one around the Southland area and one at Centre Dande Rd- saw some flashing lights around there as I pulled in.
Avoid if you can.melbaboutown@aussie.zone 7 months ago
I’ve been dealing with big stuff for so long that I’m starting to get really fractious about the little stuff. 😕 And I’ve been surrounded by shitty toxic people for so long that I’m becoming that way myself. Everything is exhausting.
Seagoon_@aussie.zone 7 months ago
so many hugs
just_kitten@aussie.zone 7 months ago
Not sure if it’s because of the shit turn of weather today but I seem to have developed a lovely sinus headache. I went out to catch up with a friend this evening for a short bit anyway, it was good but the headache’s now worse, given that I had to wait ages for a tram coming back. Guess it was the protests…
I have finally picked a car to get a pre purchase inspection done tomorrow, so that’s one thing close to resolution (if the seller doesn’t back out of negotiations). Can’t start my second job as soon as I’d like because of some bureaucracy at my current place, so that’s still stressful, but I hope I can start on Monday 🤞 I really would like the extra cash soon…
Waiting for lasagna to finish reheating in the oven, then it’s more panadol, hot herbal tea and another early night. Ugh maybe it’s good that I still have some time before starting the new gig.
Seagoon_@aussie.zone 7 months ago
hugs, 🤗
you’ve got a lot going on so of course you’re tired, good things but still tiring
( and it seems headaches are around today, I’ve just had some aspirin )
calhoon2005@aussie.zone 7 months ago
Has anyone here managed to replicate rice cooker rice in an instantpot?.. No matter which recipe/method I try it just doesn’t come out right. Last night’s was cooked, but not fluffy, sort of more chewy. I’ve used the “rice button” option and a few pressure cooker options.
MeanElevator@aussie.zone 7 months ago
Yes I have!!!
1:1 ratio of rice to water
Pressure cook on high for 3 minutes.
Works every time.
DO NOTE CHANGE THE WATER TO RICE RATION. EACH CUP OF RICE NEEDS A CUP OF WATER. BELIEVE ME
calhoon2005@aussie.zone 7 months ago
Nice, I’ll give this a go. Thanks
TinyBreak@aussie.zone 7 months ago
looks like free delivery for woolies on uber eats. So if you have a compulsion for dumplings like I do, get on it!
I had a crack at some aldi porterhouse steaks last night. Ended up a lot more Medium than Medium Rare, but still were pretty good for 5 bucks a pop.
Force_majeure123@aussie.zone 7 months ago
FML. Had to walk from melb central to arts precinct in the rain. Trams shut down due to Palestine protest at flinders st
StudChud@aussie.zone 7 months ago
So I have this inspection today, and the email said they’d be here between 12PM and 2PM.
If they arrive after this window, do I still have to let them in? 😅
Baku@aussie.zone 7 months ago
I noticed that the cat cafe near QV is marked as temporarily closed. Apparently due to some lease drama. Are they the only actual cat cafe we have/had here? The only other one I could find (cashmere) seems to not actually be a cat cafe anymore, more an abandoned cafe with cats and cans of coke
bacon@aussie.zone 7 months ago
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dumblederp@aussie.zone 7 months ago
“Don’t commit two crimes at once”. On the evening walk yesterday I spot a parked car with people throwing litter out the window onto the nature strip. I take a photo but don’t confront them. I later check the rego on vicroads, the rego doesn’t match the make/model. Fuck litterers. I submit a crimestoppers report of suspicious activity with the photo. On the morning walk a tow truck and cop car are taking the car away. If they didn’t litter, I wouldn’t have checked the rego or bothered to submit it to crimestoppers.
Thornburywitch@aussie.zone 7 months ago
Same advice for speeding when you’re carrying an illegal cargo. Obey ALL road rules without exception, and don’t get sprung using your phone.
dumblederp@aussie.zone 7 months ago
Be sober, don’t speed, have drug car in roadworthy condition.
MeanElevator@aussie.zone 7 months ago
Years ago I drove unlicensed (license expired, couldn’t book a test soon enough, but still had to drive…reasons not excuses…it was wrong) and it made be the best driver. No speeding. No stupid shit.
Catfish@aussie.zone 7 months ago
Make sure all that pain you just stole from work isn’t leaking and leaving a perfect drip trail to you house
MeanElevator@aussie.zone 7 months ago
Love your work.