Or, just maybe. The person remarking is an asshole. It gives off the same energy as correcting grammar when talking with someone.
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Duke_Nukem_1990@feddit.org 2 weeks ago
It’s not a problem until someone tells you to not refer to them as a dude or a guy. If you continue, you are just an asshole 🤷🏻
teslasaur@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
Corgana@startrek.website 2 weeks ago
Why does the other persons energy matter? If someone requests not to be called something and you continue to call them that then you are kinda being a jerk.
teslasaur@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
Cause it’s rude. Like correcting grammar in a conversation. Both would be equally rude.
Nobody wants to be told that what they’ve learned and have been taught to them their whole life is now an offense. Just like nobody wants to be misgendered on purpose.
Duke_Nukem_1990@feddit.org 2 weeks ago
“Learning new things is offensive”
Big yikes
LandedGentry@lemmy.zip 2 weeks ago
[deleted]kipo@lemm.ee 2 weeks ago
The fact that you’re getting downvoted for essentially saying “just be a respectful, reasonable, and decent human being” is pretty bizarre. Like, can we just have some empathy and patience for each other?
mnemonicmonkeys@sh.itjust.works 2 weeks ago
If someone asks you to stop something simple and of no consequence to you just do it out of respect. Why does everyone feel entitled to a concrete argument and being convinced before just respecting folks? It’s ridiculous.
What about half of the people in the comments seem to fail to understand is that the way the lady correcting OP’s language is the biggest factor.
Her saying “hey, could you please not refer to me as a guy?” is completely different from her getting angry and going off on a rant. The former situation is worth continuing the discussion, and the latter situation leads to people rightfully avoiding that lady.
Smoogs@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
It’s just as much not a problem for them to be offended by it as it is for you to choose your words better. Knowing that you made a choice to offend so yeah, you’re the jerk. You’re honestly making a lot more of it if you went all this distance to think you’re the one hard done by just cuz you refuse to memorize some words.
Only bad actors looking for the drama go for the path of most resistance.
If you’re thinking the world was supposed to be a safe place for bullies: this is what we call a snowflake.
Feathercrown@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
Changing the language you intuitively use is hard
Smoogs@lemmy.world 1 week ago
There are harder things in life that are actually worth whining about. Growing your brain isn’t one of them.
GrammarPolice@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
It gives off the same energy as correcting grammar when talking with someone.
Is this a personal attack?
Critical_Thinker@lemm.ee 2 weeks ago
Sir, you’re an officer of the law. You can’t help but be who you are. It’s ok to own it.
teslasaur@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
There is a time and a place for it. Just not when you want someone to agree with or like you. 🙂
pythonoob@programming.dev 2 weeks ago
I mean I’ll be nice about it and correct to girls or ladies or whatever, but that conversation is probably over
LandedGentry@lemmy.zip 2 weeks ago
[deleted]rektdeckard@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
Understanding is a meeting in the middle. It’s reasonable to correct the record on how you as an individual would like to be gendered. It’s not reasonable to expect all of society to drop the use of a word that is colloquially accepted as gender neutral. At a certain point, your outrage is the antisocial behavior.
pythonoob@programming.dev 2 weeks ago
I just told you I would respect it. But I don’t view “you guys” as something divisive. So yeah I don’t want to be around those people
redwattlebird@lemmings.world 2 weeks ago
I think it’s more that if you get annoyed at something like that, I would think you’re way too much of a hassle to be friends with long term. It’s just a matter of compatibility and the choice to filter out incompatible people in your social circle. It’s nothing personal.
Taleya@aussie.zone 2 weeks ago
Well, there’s a massive difference between “don’t call me a guy” and someone saying “hey guys” to a group to have one member fire back a response about gendered terms
One of these is clear stating of respectful boundaries, the other one is just offloading (and very likely speaking for/over others) to score imaginary purity points
MachineFab812@discuss.tchncs.de 2 weeks ago
Sure, but we’re talking plurals of strangers atm. “Please don’t call me a guy going forward” is a different conversation than “what you just said is stupid, mean, and wrong”.
dragonfucker@lemmy.nz 2 weeks ago
It’s the same picture?
weker01@sh.itjust.works 2 weeks ago
No it really isn’t. One clearly and directly communicates a need. The other response shies away from that and insults without explaining why.
dragonfucker@lemmy.nz 2 weeks ago
Drag… Supposes, that’s how it would look without applying much empathy. But if someone gets called something and says it’s bad, it must be clear they don’t like it. If they’re angry, that’s a kind of upset. It means they could be hurting. Drag would understand no matter how someone phrased it.
orcrist@lemm.ee 2 weeks ago
Your facts are not what OP wrote, though. And in this context the facts are relevant, which is the point.
Bad red herring.
echodot@feddit.uk 2 weeks ago
We don’t know what happened. What makes you think that what op wrote isn’t the facts. I can totally see something like that happening it’s not at all unbelievable.