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• mastertigurius@lemmy.world ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  Sorry I have to be the one to tell you this, but you need to have an exit strategy. I know being in the au pair program is a great opportunity for a lot of people, but this is not how it’s supposed to be. The moment someone starts trying to move the red line, it’s a clear warning sign. There have been far too many cases in the past - so many that some countries are stepping away from the au pair programme. At least make sure you have an exit in case things take a turn for the worse, and notify the au pair agency. Never surrender your passport, and if the comments persist or the husband tries to push the limit any further; get out immediately!

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  • morepoetrylessprose@lemmy.world ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

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    • xylol@leminal.space ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      Id already be uncomfortable

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    • Jiggle_Physics@quokk.au ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      no, no, no, quit being reasonable. We need you to do something risky, and dramatic. Something that may damage, or totally ruin your life, so that we may have a series of updates based on your drama to live through vicariously!

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• slothrop@lemmy.ca ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  Leave immediately.
  It’s downhill regardless, but you choose the slope.

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• ManfredMumpitz@feddit.org ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  How about telling his wife?

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  • Banana@sh.itjust.works ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    That will risk her job, and he will likely not be held accountable anyway.

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  • UnderpantsWeevil@lemmy.world ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    Wife most likely doesn’t want to hear about this shit and husband will deny it to his last breath.

    Like, you can. But you usually want to save it until you’re halfway out the door.

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• Assassassin@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  Yeah, you need to dip. Who knows what that dude is going to do if he makes a move and gets rejected.

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• gedaliyah@lemmy.world ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  Are you in a single party consent location for audio recording?

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  • FollyDolly@lemmy.world ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    This. Record him saying these things. Otherwise it’s he said she said. Keep a log of names and dates of when he spoke to you, what he said. This will not get better on it’s own.

    Also this protects your future jobs, you don’t want to get fired from ever doing this again because, she seduced my husband! That hussy will never work again!

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  • morepoetrylessprose@lemmy.world ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

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    • Sunforged@lemmy.ml ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      IANAL but a quick google showed a few sources that say one party consent recording is legal. It is illegal to publicly post recordings of single party consent though, so be aware of that.

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• Natanael@slrpnk.net ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  Find another job

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• smuuthbrane@sh.itjust.works ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  Big yikes, that’s more than enough red flags for me, you gotta get GONE, and I mean yesterday.

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• Diplomjodler3@lemmy.world ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  There’s no way this will not end up in a mess.

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• indomara@lemmy.world ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  Everyone is saying you’re doomed but I think it’s salvageable as long as you are very good at setting boundaries and keeping to them.

  Do not encourage his oversharing, do not offer too much advice as that will only draw you in. Do not allow anything that would overstep the line, this includes him saying things like “You’re his type”.

  If he says something like that again the simplest non-confrontational response is something humorous that clearly points out the line he’s trying to cross.

  Something like “Well that’s awkward…” Or “What a strange thing to say…” “Yeah that’s way over my pay grade…” Say it jokingly and laugh, so things stay friendly, but you have pointed out the line instead of your nervous laughter sounding like agreement.

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