I’m ignorant of your situation in every way and probably not as knowledgeable or insightful as the other people who have already offered ample advice, but it bothers me enough to drop a comment anyway on the off chance I might help.
“… tells me I’m his ideal type…” is, objectively, way into creepy territory.
I’m not saying it’s necessarily unmanageable, but managing it requires an honest assessment.
This profile is likely to delude himself into believing you enjoy being in on this secret at a minimum.
To me it’s more likely he’ll cultivate the fantasy that you outright desire him and are only holding back out of propriety.
Like other people have said, protect your agency and your exit options. Keep your passport safe. Don’t drink with him. Identify someone nearby you would be able to call if you suddenly find yourself unusually tired or dizzy or feel trapped.
Or don’t what do I know. Just my thoughts based on very little.
morepoetrylessprose@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
HeHoXa@lemmy.zip 3 weeks ago
I’m ignorant of your situation in every way and probably not as knowledgeable or insightful as the other people who have already offered ample advice, but it bothers me enough to drop a comment anyway on the off chance I might help.
“… tells me I’m his ideal type…” is, objectively, way into creepy territory.
I’m not saying it’s necessarily unmanageable, but managing it requires an honest assessment.
This profile is likely to delude himself into believing you enjoy being in on this secret at a minimum.
To me it’s more likely he’ll cultivate the fantasy that you outright desire him and are only holding back out of propriety.
Like other people have said, protect your agency and your exit options. Keep your passport safe. Don’t drink with him. Identify someone nearby you would be able to call if you suddenly find yourself unusually tired or dizzy or feel trapped.
Or don’t what do I know. Just my thoughts based on very little.