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• Bottom_racer@aussie.zone ⁨2⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  Rant

  Bugger. Spoke to the p’s on their Japan boat last night. Bit of a worry. Turns out ol’ girl hasn’t been having supplements (she has all of them with her) and hasn’t had that much to eat for the first 7days. I told ol’ boy before they left he’s going to have to lean into the food sitch… and he hasn’t. So that’s 13 days after not being to eat much due to teeth extraction before going + now 7 on the boat. FUCK ME. If I did 20 days of eating bugger all I’d be ruined. He honestly thought he could delegate food to the boat and leave the supplements to her. FUCKED.
  Her last words on the call “I just can’t eat I don’t know what to do”. I will never forget that tone. She didn’t speak anything else about the trip.
  I feel worried, frustrated, angry and just sad. And they’ve got 10 days left not even half way through
  Fuck
  Sent off a detailed email to him about what he needs to do food/supplement-wise but I’m half a world away. If he can’t get on top the food/supps sort of… today… I really don’t know what will happen. ___

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  • Thornburywitch@aussie.zone ⁨43⁩ ⁨minutes⁩ ago

    First, there will be a doctor on board. The cabin crew/concierge can put them in touch. A feeding tube (maybe semi-permanent) is an option. Then liquid food can just go down the hatch and bypass the gag reflex and teeth problems.

    Re the dad situation - he may be genuinely unaware of HOW to do the feeding stuff - it’s previously been a nurse’s job in his professional life with all the status ambiguities involved.

    Imo the ship’s doctor and nursing staff are the best option rn. They’ll know what to do and probably have re-hydration supplies on hand anyway. Please tell us of any help we can give. We’re all here for you.

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    • melbaboutown@aussie.zone ⁨38⁩ ⁨minutes⁩ ago

      Parenteral nutrition is also an option if an extreme one

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  • SpinMeAround@aussie.zone ⁨1⁩ ⁨hour⁩ ago

    Is she unable or refusing? Have either of them spoken to ship staff about making some nice soft foods for her? You said it’s a pretty bougie ship, can she even have miso soup? This must be super stressful dude.

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    • Bottom_racer@aussie.zone ⁨10⁩ ⁨minutes⁩ ago

      Both unable and refusing and I suppose they interelate. They spoke to the head chef about requirements when they boarded so I’m confused why they can’t pull anything off. So we tried miso (i thought that’s the obvious choice too) before they left from a few different places here and that was refusal but able. Tried a whole bunch of sashimi, able for some, refusal for others.

      It’s a really bougie ship. 24/7 room service. So speaking to them yesterday I asked if she’d ordered an iced coffee w/ chocolate and icecream (her usual thing she does here daily) and dump some coffee resource in (which is what usually happens here too) and no, didn’t do that. Not refusal, very able, just didn’t do it. What on earth do you do about that. grr.

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  • StudChud@aussie.zone ⁨1⁩ ⁨hour⁩ ago

    I’m so sorry mate. Seriously. Farked up all ways to Sunday.

    You’re doing everything you can, and more, so take some time to try to do something for the mental health.

    If there’s anything we can do to help, please let us know. I may not have much but you got my listening ear and support.

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    • Bottom_racer@aussie.zone ⁨3⁩ ⁨minutes⁩ ago

      Thanks dude. Means a lot :)

      I guess here is the only place I can talk about this. And for that have to thank you all sincerely.

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  • Seagoon_@aussie.zone ⁨1⁩ ⁨hour⁩ ago

    If your mum survives the trip and survives the weeks after they need a new way to be handled

    they have to be assertively told what to do and when, even supervised

    they have shown they are incapable of making choices

    and your mum is asking to be told, asking to be looked after,

    I suggest a home visit nurse

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  • SaneMartigan@aussie.zone ⁨1⁩ ⁨hour⁩ ago

    That would be a stress for sure. Sounds like you well informed them of all this prior to the travel. I think it comes down to their right to risk aka independence. People are allowed to make foolish decisions then experience the consequences of that. It sucks for you having to watch it, but it’s their choice.

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    • Bottom_racer@aussie.zone ⁨1⁩ ⁨hour⁩ ago

      Can’t disagree. He basically dragged her along knowing full well the difficulties w/ food, but he never took the time or interest in it. He’s done a whole lot else for her health, but some reason, and it baffles me, not food. This is on him not her.

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  • SituationCake@aussie.zone ⁨1⁩ ⁨hour⁩ ago

    Rough situation. Did your mum say why she can’t eat the supplements? Does she not know how to prepare it, or doesn’t like flavour, or something else? She said she doesn’t know what to do. I think getting her to articulate specific reasons will help you all to find a solution. Sounds like your dad doesn’t really understand (or want to understand?) the seriousness of the issue. This must be a horrible feeling, knowing the one person that could help is not really engaged. I’m so sorry. I hope the call/email helps them.

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    • Bottom_racer@aussie.zone ⁨30⁩ ⁨minutes⁩ ago

      For her it’s a fair few problems. Some of it is neurological. After her head strike 1.5yrs ago, a lot reasoning ability was lost. So asking her why she can’t is met with basically ‘i don’t want to’. Been happening ever since the strike. Point out that she needs to then the meltdowns begin. Ask why and yea, ‘stop hassling me’.

      Ol’ boy does understand, but for some reason avoids any interest in food/supps. He’s had her along to see so many specialists over the last however long… I really don’t get it. Is it a ‘that’ generation thing. In his line of work all of that stuff was delegated so I’m guessing that’s a reason too. But he can’t delegate out of this one. This is awful to watch. All the dude had to do was have a mild interest in it and this wouldn’t have happened or be less severe at least.

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  • melbaboutown@aussie.zone ⁨1⁩ ⁨hour⁩ ago

    Maybe this will highlight to him that she needs care. Maybe it will help them think about receiving some assistance with feeding. I have my fingers crossed for her.

    More food ideas if you want them

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    • Bottom_racer@aussie.zone ⁨1⁩ ⁨hour⁩ ago

      I think I’ll definitely need them for when she’s back.

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• Seagoon_@aussie.zone ⁨43⁩ ⁨minutes⁩ ago

  Amaze

  PHM is getting rave reviews

  it’s a family movie so I think they probably removed the sex references

  I am so stoked for tomorrow at imax

  😸😸😸

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  • SpinMeAround@aussie.zone ⁨40⁩ ⁨minutes⁩ ago

    I need to book tickets for this weekend! Trying not to get too excited though.

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• tombruzzo@aussie.zone ⁨2⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  I tell my kids “It’s unpog for breakfastmaxxing cerealchads to cortisol-bait milkcels by bowlmogging” and they just stare at me like they don’t know what I’m talking about

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• melbaboutown@aussie.zone ⁨1⁩ ⁨hour⁩ ago

  spoiler

  I’m feeling like shit. I’ve been working for years to improve my physical health but wish I hadn’t bothered. Wishing I could go back to when things were really dicey and just let it go, peacefully pass away at the same time as my cat.

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  • SituationCake@aussie.zone ⁨1⁩ ⁨hour⁩ ago

    Please don’t think this way. Hard times will pass. Grief can be so intense but it will lessen over time, I promise you.

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    • melbaboutown@aussie.zone ⁨1⁩ ⁨hour⁩ ago

      I dunno. I’m still pretty unwell and stuck in really shitty circumstances, just without my pet now :(

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  • StudChud@aussie.zone ⁨1⁩ ⁨hour⁩ ago

    I know and understand this feeling, and I’m so so terribly sorry.

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• CEOofmyhouse56@aussie.zone ⁨3⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  It’s our 21st wedding anniversary today. 30 years together. We’re still madly in love. Wow time goes fast.

  I think I deserve some dessert today.

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  • useless_modern_god@aussie.zone ⁨43⁩ ⁨minutes⁩ ago

    🍻

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  • Seagoon_@aussie.zone ⁨46⁩ ⁨minutes⁩ ago

    congrats 💖💖💖

    here’s some dessert and some champers 🍨🍨🍾🥂

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  • SpinMeAround@aussie.zone ⁨1⁩ ⁨hour⁩ ago

    Congrats!!! That’s awesome!!

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  • SituationCake@aussie.zone ⁨1⁩ ⁨hour⁩ ago

    Congratulations!

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  • Bottom_racer@aussie.zone ⁨2⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    Congrats!

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  • PeelerSheila@aussie.zone ⁨3⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    Congratulations 👏🏼

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  • Gibsonhasafluffybutt@aussie.zone ⁨3⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    Congrats!!!

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• RustyRaven@aussie.zone ⁨2⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  We are starting to get into soup weather again, so I’ve made a start on a big pot of chicken soup. I’ve made the base stock yesterday (lots of bones to go in the FOGO bin this week!) and today will skimming the fat and adding the vegies. Then it will be into the pressure canner to make it all shelf stable.

  The next soup on the list will be cauliflower.

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  • SituationCake@aussie.zone ⁨1⁩ ⁨hour⁩ ago

    Love soup season! Nothing beats homemade. So comforting.

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• bacon@aussie.zone ⁨6⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

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  • PeelerSheila@aussie.zone ⁨3⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    A very big coffee please

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    • bacon@aussie.zone ⁨2⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      ☕️

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  • Seagoon_@aussie.zone ⁨6⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    crumpets with honey please

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    • bacon@aussie.zone ⁨5⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      🥯🍯

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